Be Happy – You may Expect same treatment from your children as You treat Your Parents

Have you ever thought how you came in this beautiful world? If you believe in materialism, you may think that you are the result of bilateral relation consummated between your parents. It is very natural that at some stage of age, everyone of us feels some urge to meet our physical need, as it is destined by God while structuring our bodies and our endeavor in that direction brings about birth of the children unless we plan otherwise.

When you set foot in the world, your parents held you for the first time in their arms at the hospital, your tiny hands were twitching and your eyes were shut tight. Your clenched fist reminded them of a science lesson that said to get an idea abut the size of your heart, you should clench you fist. They could imagine the little heart throbbing inside you, the eternal miracle of birth. When that was their turn to witness it, they might have cried. That was not materialism – that was an emotional attachment.

Before your father married your mother, both of them might have used to debate one question endlessly with their respective friends, “Is it really worth bringing another life into this world?” Especially when terror has become an ugly scene in the canvas of our lives? After your birth, your parents might have two options to raise you. One was to wean you on cynicism. Where you would erect a sky-high wall in your mind and lived your life pouring scorn on everything you might see, one way of insulating yourself from fear… A kind of indifferent machismo. The other way was to prepare you to live in this world. They might have assured themselves certainly to show you the way to live in an uncertain world, make a pact with yourself and understand the following early on.

After birth in a family of the human beings, you needed physical security – the safety of body and life and the parents who were responsible to bring you into being provide physical safety: shelter, clothes, nourishment. They protected you from dangers. They cared for your health physical development and provided appropriate conditions for your healthy growth. They provided you with the means to develop physically. They arranged to train your body to undertake some exercises to enable you to stand on your own feet. In materialism, it was not required.

But they helped you to develop habits of health Intellectual security – the conditions in which your mind could develop. They had provided an atmosphere of peace and justice and respect to your dignity. They gave you an environment without fear, threat, and abuse. They ensured intellectual development by providing opportunities to learn. How you learnt reading, writing, calculating etc., they had extended the support and/or provide school related learning. When you were growing up, they taught you social skills and etiquette.

They felt themselves responsible for your moral and spiritual development and accordingly, tried to create an ethics and value systems with social norms that contributed to your beliefs, culture; and customs. They provided you emotional security – to help protect your psyche and provide a safe loving environment. Your parents were always there to give you a sense of being loved, being needed, welcomed. They always provided you emotional support, encouragement by expressing their attachment, caressing, hugging, touching etc. They developed your ability to love, care, help, etc. and show empathy, helping and compassion to younger and older, weaker and sicker and caring for others,, etc.

When you were in the womb of your mother, you might have been affected by many decisions your parents might have made, particularly choices linked to their lifestyle. The health and diet decisions of the mother might have either a positive or negative impact on you during prenatal parenting.

Many people believe that parenting begins with birth, but the mother had begun your raising and nurturing well before birth. Scientific evidence indicates that from the fifth month on, the unborn baby is able to hear sound, be aware of motion, and possibly exhibit short-term memory. Several studies show evidence that the unborn baby can become familiar with his or her parents' voices. Other research indicates that by the seventh month, external schedule cues influence the unborn baby's sleep habits. Based on this evidence, parenting actually begins well before birth. Depending on how many children the mother carries also determines the amount of care needed during prenatal and post-natal periods. It means that your care by your parents was started when you did not take even birth.

When you were newborn, the ground responsibilities of parenthood had begun. A newborn's basic needs are food, sleep, comfort and cleaning which your parent provided. An infant's only form of communication is crying, and your attentive parents used to recognize different types of your crying representing different needs such as hunger, discomfort, boredom, or loneliness. Newborns and young infants require feedings every few hours which is disruptive to adult sleep cycles. You too did all these disruptions to them.

The forming of attachments is considered to be the foundation of the infant/child's capacity to form and conduct relationships throughout life. Attachment is not the same as love and/or affection although they often go together. Attachment and attachment behaviors tend to develop between the age of 6 months and 3 years. A lack of attachment or a seriously disrupted capacity for attachment could potentially amount to serious disorders. Have you ever thought about their contribution when you were between the age of 6 months and 3 years.

Until infants learn to walk, between 10 and 14 months, they are carried in the arms, held in slings or baby carriers, or transported in baby carriages or strollers. Upon learning to walk the child is then known as a toddler. You might have forgotten how you were carried in the arms safely here and there to enable you to have fresh air and some exercise to your body to strengthen further. Have a look on your photographs taken at that time or go through the memories of your elders who might have seen your parents carrying you.

Toddlers are much more active than infants and are challenged with learning how to do simple tasks by themselves. At that stage, your parents were heavily involved in showing you how to do things rather than just doing things for them. You needed help to build your vocabulary, increase your communications skills, and manage your emotions. Being toddlers you had also begun to understand social etiquette such as being polite and taking turns. At that time, your parents were there to help you learn all these things.

When you were very curious about the world around them and eager to explore it, you sought greater independence and responsibility and might have become frustrated when things did not go the way you wanted or expected. Your parents were there to help guide and teach you, establish basic routines (such as washing hands before meals, brushing teeth before bed), and increase your responsibilities.

When you grew up, you became more independent and began to build friendships. You were able to reason and could make your own decisions given hypothetical situations. But you needed constant attention, to learn how to deal with boredom and be able to play independently. Your parents were there to supervise you directly and indirectly.
When you started to enjoy helping and feeling useful and able, your parents assisted you by encouraging social interactions and modeling proper social behaviors. A large part of learning in the early years comes from being involved in activities and household duties. Your parents observed you in play or joined with you to communicate more effectively with you and to offer gentle, nurturing guidance. They had been teaching you health, hygiene, and eating habits through instruction and by example.

Initially, your parents were there to make decisions about your education and provide you the environment to enable you to take decision about further education and your professional life when you got mature.

In course of time, you attained adolescence, you started to begin to form your identity and test and develop the interpersonal and occupational roles. Although adolescents look to peers and adults outside of the family for guidance and models for how to behave, parents had remained influential in your development. Sometime they often felt isolated and alone when you overacted but they made efforts to be aware of your adolescents activities, provided guidance, direction, and consultation. Adolescence can be a time of high risk for children, where newfound freedoms can result in decisions that drastically open up or close off life opportunities. Your parents had been there behind the screen to watch you closely and guide you whenever they found you on the wrong track.

After some time, a child becomes young adult. As children become young adults their personalities show the result of successful or unsuccessful parenting. Especially it is noticeable when young adults make their independent life decisions about their education, work and choosing mates for friendship or marriage. Sometime, parents take the results to their hearts but it is still you to take appropriate action to reply back to pay off the debts upon you due to your upbringing to the present stage when you are able to take some decision.

You must not forget that if your parents are still alive, their parenting will not stop even if you grow older or get married, have your own children. They would always remain to be parents for you. Their relationship will continue developing from their end, whether you care for or not.

Life is precious. And equally fragile. So every day is a gift. Get up early once in a while just to watch the sun rise. Stare at it intently and burn it in your memory. Be aware of every passing second. Look around you. There’s a thin stalk of plant finding its place under the sun in a crevice on the wall of your apartment.

You must appreciate mother’s cooking. Praise it to heavens… Make it a habit to eat to heavens… Make it a habit to ear together as a family. No, make it a rule. Fall in love with books. Words will transport you to worlds far away. It will also keep you informed and prepared. You must follow your heart. The mind can waver but the heart. The mind can waver but the heart seldom does. Respect your conscience.

Your parents have farsightedness and know your nature since you came into this world. They know the intricacies and your capabilities to handle your crises and therefore are always there to lend their hands to solve out. If you underestimate them, you may perhaps be wrong in due course of time. You can take your course of action but after convincing them heartedly.

Your parents would always ask you to get a job you love as you enter the world of careers and cocktails, you’ll get sucked into a vortex called rat race. Don’t be overwhelmed. They may suggest you always that we’re all human. But have the courage to step out of it. Nothing will be lost. Some illusions may shatter.

They may emphasise upon money a little bit because that is important. But it has its place. They would advise you not to make the mistake of putting it right on top. You must find your love and hold it dearly. Be a good husband. A patient father. Give your children space to make their mistakes. But hold them when they fall as they did in their lives. They may ask you to speak up when you have to.

They can suggest you to go and vote. It’s your chance to give shape to the kind of society you want to live in since we’re living in a democracy whether we like it or not, Sure it has its pitfalls. But don’t forget the positives too. The real fight in a democracy is between remembering and forgetting. They would advise you to be alert. But try not to live in a state of fear.

You need to live every day of your life as your parents are doing, so that there remain memories left for your children to remember you afterwards. You must remember that you too will get how you pay off your debts to your parents – you can not pay back for the services you got from them. But it is certain that if you tender yourself affectionately and respectfully to them, your children may also copy you while you grow old and they serve you accordingly.

Be Happy – You may Expect same treatment from your children as You treat Your Parents

Be Happy – Don’t feel panic with Crises.

Crisis is an important part of our life. Some philosopher would definitely say to you that you have not enjoyed the life if you had never come across any crisis in your life. Why? Whenever it comes up, it tests your capability. It is that critical event or point of decision which, if not handled at all, or in an appropriate and timely manner), may turn into a disaster or catastrophe. It is a crucial or decisive point or situation; a turning point, an unstable condition, as in political, social, or economic affairs, involving an impending abrupt or decisive change, a sudden change in the course of a disease or fever, toward either improvement or deterioration, an emotionally stressful event or traumatic change in a person's life or a point in a story or drama when a conflict reaches its highest tension and must be resolved.

A crisis (plural: "crises") is any unstable and dangerous social situation regarding economic, military, personal, political, or social affairs, especially one involving an impending abrupt change. More loosely, it is a term meaning 'a testing time of your capabilities' or you can say it to be an 'emergency event'. The effect of our inability to attend to the likely results of our actions can result in crisis.

Crises can be specific, unexpected, and non-routine events or series of events that create high levels of uncertainty and threat or perceived threat to your high priority goals. Thus the first three characteristics are that the event is unexpected (i.e., a surprise), creates uncertainty, and is seen as a threat to important goals. Crisis is a process of transformation where the old system can no longer be maintained or it is a result of some shortcoming in your present system. It may ask you to make some urgent changes in your line of action. Therefore, the fourth defining quality is the need for change. If change is not needed, the event could more accurately be described as a failure.

Apart from natural crises that are inherently unpredictable (volcanic eruptions, tsunami etc.) most of the crises that we face are created by man. Hence the requirement of their being ‘unexpected’ depends upon man failing to note the onset of crisis conditions. Some of our inability to recognize crises before they become dangerous is due to denial and other psychological responses that provide succor and protection for our emotions.

A different set of reasons for failing to notice the onset of crises is that we allow ourselves to be 'tricked' into believing that we are doing something for reasons that are false. In other words, we are doing the wrong things for the right reasons. For example, we might believe that we are solving the threats of climate change by engaging in economic trading activity that has no real impact on the climate. You can call it inadvertent and deliberate errors.

Thus human deficiencies appear to be responsible for crises such as the Global Financial Crisis of 2008 (regulatory failures), the Iraq war (intelligence failures), the climate crisis (greed and cross subsidies), and many of our ecological crises. From this perspective we might usefully learn that failing to understand the real causes of our difficulties is likely to lead to repeated downstream 'blowback' that will eventually be our undoing.

Times of crises are both dangerous and important. They are dangerous for those who have no courage to explore new dimensions of life. They are bound to disintegrate into different kinds of madness, because their mind was made by society. Now with society disintegrating, the mind cannot remain; its roots are in society. It is constantly nourished by society – and now that nourishment is disappearing.

Because society is disintegrating, a great suspicion, a doubt that was never there before, is bound to arise in individuals. And if they were just obedient people who have never gone beyond any limit that society has decided, who have always been respected, honourable citizens, they will immediately go mad. They will start committing suicide; they will start jumping from high buildings.

In times of crises, the danger is for those who have enjoyed the times when society was settled, when there were no problems. These were the people who had enjoyed the obedience of the mind, and these are going to be the suffers. It is a simple arithmetic. They will go psychotic, they will go neurotic – and these words don’t make much difference.

Times of crises are of tremendous significance for those daring souls who have never bothered about society’s respectability or about what others think about them, but have done only that which they felt right to do; who have in a certain way been always rebellious, individualistic. For these people the times of crisis are just golden, because society is disintegrating. Now it cannot condemn anybody – it is itself condemned, cursed. It cannot say to others that they are wrong. It is proving itself wrong; its whole wisdom is proving just foolish, superstitious.

The daring individual can use this opportunity to go beyond mind; because now society cannot prevent him, he is free. There has never been so intense a search for spiritual growth, for meditation. But there has never been so much madness either. Both are happening because the status quo is no longer powerful; it has lost control.

Today, the old mind, the old society has lost credibility – and not in one place, but all over the world. There are different kinds of old traditions, but they all have come to a point where so many things are scientifically proved wrong.

The most intelligent people are rushing towards the east to find some way, some method. The people in east are trying to copy the west. A strange paradoxical scenario is there! Somewhere somebody must know how to get over this critical stage, how to go beyond the traditional mind and still remain centred, sane and intelligent.

Thousands of people are moving towards the East. It is funny because thousands of people are coming from the East to the West to study science, medicine, engineering, electronics, and the people who know all these are going to the East, just to learn how to sit silently and do nothing. But it is a beautiful time. The grip of society is lost. But the people who will go beyond mind will create the new man, the new mind. And the most special thing to be remembered about the new mind is that it will never become a tradition, that it will be constantly renewed.

Your mind may have to become continuously new, every day new, ready to accept any unexpected experience, any unexpected truth… just available, vulnerable. It will be a tremendous excitement, a great ecstasy, a great challenge. So I don’t think this crisis is bad; it is good. If the new mind can prevail then life can become an enlightening process. And enlightenment will not be something rare; it will become a very ordinary human experience.

For betterment, you may have to learn the management of your crisis. Crisis management, occasionally referred to as incident management, is the process by which you can deal with a major unpredictable event that threatens to harm you, your status or your beloved ones. You may find three elements common in all the crises: (a) it may be a threat to you, (b) it may have some element of surprise, and (c) it may compel you to take action with a short decision time.

Crisis management is different from risk management, which involves assessing potential threats and finding the best ways to avoid those threats, crisis management involves dealing with threats after they have occurred. It is a discipline within the broader context of management consisting of skills and techniques required to identify, assess, understand, and cope with a serious situation, especially from the moment it first occurs to the point that recovery procedures start.

Crisis management consists of:
• Methods used to respond to both the reality and perception of crises.
• Establishing metrics to define what scenarios constitute a crisis and should consequently trigger the necessary response mechanisms.
• Communication that occurs within the response phase of emergency management scenarios.

During the crisis management process, it is important to identify types of crises in that different crises necessitate the use of different crisis management strategies. Potential crises are enormous, but crises can be grouped as Natural disaster as acts of God for example earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, tornadoes and hurricanes, floods, landslides, tidal waves, storms, and droughts that threaten life and property, Technological crises as software failures, industrial accidents, and oil spills etc., Confrontation like boycotts, and other types are picketing, sit-ins, ultimatums to those in authority, blockade or occupation of buildings, and resisting or disobeying police, Malevolence as product tampering, kidnapping, malicious rumors, terrorism, and espionage, Crisis of skewed management value as short-term economic gain and neglect broader social values, Crisis of deception or Crisis of misconduct as deliberate amorality and illegality, concealing or misrepresenting information about itself and its products in its dealing with consumers and others.

Since it is well known that we can face crises at any time, they can come to us without prior notice. For that purpose, we must have contingency planning as the first step to ensuring ourselves to be appropriately prepared for a crisis. We can rehearse a crisis plan by developing a simulated scenario to use as a drill. If it is our family or our business organization or our department where we work, our plan should clearly stipulate that the only people to speak publicly about the crisis are the designated persons, such as the spokesperson or crisis team members. The first hours after a crisis breaks are the most crucial, so working with speed and efficiency is important, and the plan should indicate how quickly each function should be performed. When preparing to offer a statement externally as well as internally, information should be accurate. Providing incorrect or manipulated information has a tendency to backfire and will greatly exacerbate the situation. The contingency plan should contain information and guidance that will help decision makers to consider not only the short-term consequences, but the long-term effects of every decision.

When a crisis will undoubtedly cause a significant disruption to normal working, a continuity plan can help minimize the disruption. First, one must identify the critical functions and processes that are necessary to keep running. Then each critical function and or/process must have its own contingency plan in the event that one of the functions/processes ceases or fails. Testing these contingency plans by rehearsing the required actions in a simulation will allow for all involved to become more sensitive and aware of the possibility of a crisis. As a result, in the event of an actual crisis, you or your members will act more quickly and effectively.

Providing information to your family members or team members in a time of crisis is critical to effective crisis management. Structural-functional systems theory addresses the intricacies of information networks and levels of command making up communication system. The structural-functional theory identifies information flow as "networks" made up of members and "links".

Sometime, you may have to open up to tender apologies to the aggrieved persons if any harm has been caused due to some incident which has come up with some contribution from your side. It is required in crisis management. However some evidence indicates that compensation and sympathy, two less expensive strategies, are as effective as an apology in shaping people’s perceptions about you taking responsibility for the crisis because these strategies focus on the victims’ needs. The sympathy response expresses concern for victims while compensation offers victims something to offset the suffering.

For proper management of crises in your life, you should practice to have appropriate sense making as it is considered a classical situation assessment step in decision making. Since crises do not give enough time to rehearse, decision making in those events is both the act of coming to a decision as the implementation of that decision. Whenever you face some crisis, you must handle the accountability question suitably. You must take the responsibility on your shoulders first if you are leader – actual responsibility process may take place afterwards. In crisis, the actual learning is limited. But it often opens a window of opportunity for reform for better or for worse.

Be Happy – Don’t feel panic with Crises.

Be Happy – Convert Your Sorrow To Joy

Sorrows are part of our life. They can come to you due to any reason at any stage of life, notwithstanding the fact how much you are alert and work with strict discipline. Perhaps sometime outside factors may go out of control for happening of some events. The sooner we learn to take responsibility for how we respond to events and turn them into joys, the less we will suffer.

How would you like to turn them into your joys?

It is very simple to do. Assume it that sorrows are there to examine your patience, your capabilities. When one chooses to walk upon the spiritual path, one often assumes that all people in the so-called spiritual community are going to act ethically and morally. It can come as a rude awakening when someone we respect as an expression of the divine, acts in ways that are hurtful, deceptive or, at the least, thoughtless.

When one has to wander out of the spiritual community into the mundane world, there are also tendencies for a spiritual individual to have a higher trust level, which can often leave one more vulnerable. In a world we are sometimes at greater risk to be taken advantage of or being hurt more easily.

How will we act in situations of betrayal or hurtful issues? We will act normally. We will feel violated, used, hurt, saddened, angry and so forth. Just because one is travelling a spiritual path, it does not mean that one does not have these natural reactions to something that is hurtful, Sometimes when we feel angry we will castigate ourselves because we are not being as good as we think we should. Even before we can get to the state of forgiving those who have wronged us, we need to first forgive ourselves for being normal or perhaps for not acting as spiritually as we expect of ourselves.

Guilt will not help in any situation when one is seeking to live a spiritual life. While many of us have been brought up in religious communities that promote the use of guilt and fear to maintain the status quo, a truly spiritual person will use negative events or thoughts to prompt positive growth and to evolve on the spiral of spiritual expression. A really wonderful teacher said to me: “To turn a negative event into a positive expression ask this question: What good can come from this?”

So, the fist step in forgiving self and forgiving others is to look at an issue from many different sides. Try to get into the mind of the person who perpetuated this issue and ask yourself: What prompted this person to act this way? What was their motivation and how did they see themselves receiving something that they needed by their needed by their actions? If you have trouble seeing the possibilities, discuss it with a confidant that you trust to hold your discussions confidentially. Look for feedback that is honest and not just someone telling you what you want to hear.

The most important thing that you needed to discover in the healing process of forgiveness is to learn intent. If the individual purposely tried to do what you consider wrong and you know they knew it was wrong or illegal, that is one issue. If they thought that what they were doing was not wrong and they were not trying purposely to hurt you, this is a totally different issue. Just a special note of warning, usually a person that you know has shown you patterns of small hurts or negative behaviors, you need to know if they were setting you up for the big one.

Also, reflect upon your response adding deep to find what buttons were being pushed by the event or issue that has caused you pain. You might find that why you were to learn a lesson, and I think in all strongly emotional events, both positive and negative, this is a constant factor. Remember, the spiritual individual will grow stronger by learning to think clearly and learn from the events over a lifetime. For me, choosing to allow myself to be vulnerable requires that I develop a greater sense of detachment and observation of my reactions to the world around me. Meditation is probably one’s most positive tool in seeking enlightenment. In fact, I think that one of the reasons that I might get angry with myself when I act with normal emotions is that it indicates to me that I have lost my spiritual detachment.

When you have worked your way around how you feel and the whys and so forth of a hurtful event, you are ready to begin the healing process. Sometimes you may think you have it clearly figured out, only to have something deeper pop up from your unconscious or the cosmic mind. Be gentle with you. And, be gentle with the other person.

Some people and counselors will suggest that one needs to confront the person who creates pain for self, but I do not necessarily think that is true. I think that we can do it on a spiritual or psychic level and have the same healing effect. Confrontation is usually just a vehicle to perpetuate more angry or hurtful behaviors. The person that you confront is not going to think he or she did anything wrong or if he or she does, it will be normal to become defensive. It will work just as well for you to write out a letter stating what happened, how it made you feel, and that you now release the negativity and transmute it to good. Then burn the letter and release it to the universal mind. You can use this technique to heal old hurts where the person is no longer available.

In forgiving yourself and in healing yourself, you can use visualization where you feel all of your energy returning to balance. Start at the top of your head and imagine wonderful healing energy entering the top of your head – like from the divine source. Let this energy slowly move through you body feeling it heal and empower you. Then imagine that it is going out through the soles of your feet into the ground and then through the center of the earth and then coming out the other side of the earth and creating a circle from whence it began from the universe.

All of us will have times of positive and negative events and issues through our lives. However, the sooner we learn to take responsibility for how we respond to events and turn them into positive us of energy, the less we will suffer and the more we will experience times of contentment and joy.

Be Happy – Convert Your Sorrow Into Your Joys.

Be Happy - Remain Motivated (Part 2)

On 6 March 2009, I had made some suggestions on motivation. Once again, that topic draws my attention when I saw some of my friends are still under depression. Actually, motivation starts with you! None else may come forward to motivate you. What is his interest if he does not have relation with you? My mother used to always tell me, knowledge is power; it should not just reside in closed books. Please ensure to help, give it to people. I endeavor to do so.

If you aspire to be more successful in life, your attitude towards yourself and others will play a huge role. Positive people learn how to handle life's challenges differently and use these opportunities to grow. So can you!

Everyone wants a better life and if you are constantly working on self improvement, you will develop more self-confidence, better self-esteem and greater internal motivation to be the best. When you learn the secrets of teamwork and leadership, interpersonal communication skills and service, you can apply them to all aspects of your daily life.

It’s common, that lot of people try to tell to their close friends/relatives about how miserable their life is. They repeat their endless stories of strained married relationship, relationship with colleagues and boss, not happy with academic progress, job or salaries, happiness in day today life affairs.

Once you express your sympathy, their prominent question would always be
When do the good things start in their life?

Whenever I got this question from any of my friends, I asked him/her to find the answers at his/her end. Because if it is explored what is the root cause of the dissatisfaction, it would be easy to treat the illness.

You may differ on my expressions. But it's always been my way to speak out the truth no matter what.

In my childhood, I used to play cricket. Cricket was one of my favourite sports. I observed that one of the bowlers called “Smith” from other school was always able to take my wicket in his first 3 balls.

Next time I decided, what come may, I will not get bowled on his bowling. To my despair, I was again bowled by him on the very first bowl. He started laughing.

"What's so funny?" I asked him.

"YOU ARE!" was the answer. "I just wanted to see how many times I could do the same thing and you would respond the same way."

Most of us are like that.

If you put a mouse in a maze with cheese at the end, the mouse will run the maze for the cheese. But if you take the cheese away, the behaviour will "extinguish" and eventually the mouse will stop running the maze.

They did an experiment in a local university. The psychology department built a maze in the bottom of the building for students to run. They put money at the end of the maze and since college students always want money, they would run the maze.

But here's the interesting part, when the experiment was over and they took the money away. Students never stopped running the maze.

In fact, they caught students breaking into the psychology building at night to run the maze hoping to find the money.

It was EASY to get a MOUSE to change behavior.

It was nearly IMPOSSIBLE to get a HUMAN to change behavior.And that's where I express myself.

I have been putting up the notes on many subjects to ensure that most of us will now focus with a different way to look at life, attitude, behaviour, anger, change, success, happiness, progress and many more. Because according to our subconscious mind, which is extremely powerful, we get what we focus on. Though I could not get sufficient replies, I am not tired and have determined to do it with the hope if someone may take some benefits out of my experience.

I remember “Pintoo”, who was selling good stuff along with tea near our railway station was doing roaring business. Many of us used to order from his hotel. Also many of his customers were happy.

But soon, new big hotels with good ambience having many waiters to ensure cleanliness and provide faster services for the variety of food items started near his small hotel. Slowly the customers went with the big guys who gave them a better deal. Pintoo realized the competition and less business. He just kept "running the maze" doing what he had always done. It didn't work. He never changed.

Very soon, Pintoo realized and closed his hotel permanently. He was right. He had programmed his subconscious mind to get less business and sooner to close the hotel.
So now, let us answer the question.

"When do the good things start?"

As soon as we are ready to change our mind.

It's not easy. And that's why people recommend reading success stories, inspirational, motivational material. Improve our positive attitude. Parents ask us to keep a company of good friends.

Tons of material is readily available for you in the market. However it is not a fast-food corner that you pay money and read the books, listen to audio CD’s, watch the programs or attend two day seminar or costly training programmes and get permanently change yourself and subsequently outlook towards your life and become happy.

Moreover, it is extremely difficult to carryout above activities in our day to day fast, hectic lifestyle. We are out of our house for good 12 hours or busy in our work. What we read in news paper or Idiot box Television is nothing but politics, rape, murder, theft, blasts, serials on extra marital affairs or pre planned comedy show. I mean “None of the IMPORTANT things’’ those will be useful for our progress and betterment of our dear family.

"Then who will help an individual and support on above activities?"
There is a simple answer. You are there to help yourself. God helps those who help themselves.

Once again, I may mention that my late mother used to always tell me, knowledge is power; it should not just reside in closed books. Please ensure to help, give it to people. Most of them will be in need and one must fulfill the need of others. In doing so, you may too find solution of your problems, if any.

You need to remain happy by keeping yourselves motivated, whatever be your capacity otherwise depression may harm you more than other factors.

Be happy and remain motivated.

Be Happy – Celebrate Environment Day Sincerely For Being Happier Tomorrow

It is 5th June. It is World Environment Day, a day to create awareness of the better environment on the earth for its inhabitants, enhance political attention and public action for the purpose. It was the day when United Nations Conference on the Human Environment began in 1972 under the aegis of the United Nations. The first World Environment Day was on 5th June 1973.

A variety of environmental problems now affect our entire world. As globalization continues and the earth's natural processes transform local problems into international issues. Some of the largest problems now affecting the world can be enumerated like:

• Anoxic waters — Anoxic event, Hypoxia, Ocean deoxygenation, Dead zone
• Climate change — Global warming, Global dimming, Fossil fuels, Sea level rise, Greenhouse gas, Ocean acidification, Shutdown of thermohaline circulation
• Conservation — Species extinction, Pollinator decline, Coral bleaching, Holocene extinction, Invasive species, Poaching, Endangered species
• Dams — Environmental impacts of dams
• Energy — Energy commercialization
• Environmental degradation — Habitat destruction, Invasive species
• Environmental health — Air quality, Asthma, Electromagnetic fields, Electromagnetic radiation and health, Indoor air quality, Lead poisoning, Sick Building Syndrome
• Genetic engineering — Genetic pollution, Genetically modified food controversies
• Intensive farming — Overgrazing, Irrigation, Monoculture, Environmental effects of meat production, Slash and burn, Pesticide drift
• Land degradation — Land pollution, Desertification
• Soil — Soil conservation, Soil erosion, Soil contamination, Soil salination
• Land use — Urban sprawl, Habitat fragmentation
• Nanotechnology — Nano-toxicology, Nano-pollution
• Nuclear issues — Nuclear fallout, Nuclear meltdown, Nuclear power, Radioactive waste .
• Overpopulation — Burial, Water crisis, Overpopulation in companion animals, Tragedy of the commons
• Ozone depletion — CFC
• Pollution — Light pollution, Noise pollution, Visual pollution
• Water pollution — Acid rain, Marine pollution, Ocean dumping, Oil spills, Thermal pollution, Urban runoff, Water crisis, Marine debris, Ocean acidification, Ship pollution, Waste water, Fish kill, Algal bloom, Mercury in fish
• Air pollution — Smog, Troposphere ozone, Indoor air quality, Volatile organic compound, Particulate matter, Sulphur oxide
• Resource depletion — Exploitation of natural resources, Over drafting
• Consumerism — Consumer capitalism, Planned obsolescence, Over-consumption
• Fishing — Blast fishing, Bottom trawling, Cyanide fishing, Ghost nets, Illegal, unreported and unregulated fishing, Over fishing, Whaling
• Logging — Clear cutting, Deforestation, Illegal logging
• Mining — Acid mine drainage, Mountaintop removal mining, Slurry impoundments
• Toxins — Chlorofluorocarbons, DDT, Endocrine disruptors, Dioxin, Toxic heavy metals, Herbicides, Pesticides, Toxic waste, PCB, Bio accumulation, Bio magnification
• Waste — E-waste, Litter, Waste disposal incidents, Marine debris, Medical waste, Landfill, Leach ate, Recycling, Incineration, Great Pacific Garbage Patch

Apart from the above, there may be some more reasons responsible for causing environmental hazards. If we, as responsible inhabitant of this beautiful earth, go through our own working sincerely, we may find ourselves responsible to some extent for enhancing pollution.

We too can take a few steps. For example, we use glass in our day-to-day life. After the use, we throw away. You know! A glass bottle that is sent to a landfill can take up to a million years to break down. By contrast, it takes as little as 30 days for a recycled glass bottle to leave your kitchen recycling bin and appear on a store shelf as a new glass container.

• Glass recycling is both simple and beneficial. It is good for the environment...it is sustainable. Glass containers are 100-percent recyclable, which means they can be recycled repeatedly, again and again, with no loss of purity or quality in the glass.
• Glass recycling is efficient.. Recovered glass from glass recycling is the primary ingredient in all new glass containers. A typical glass container is made of as much as 70 percent recycled glass. According to industry estimates, 80 percent of all recycled glass eventually ends up as new glass containers.
• It conserves natural resources. Every ton of glass that is recycled saves more than a ton of the raw materials needed to create new glass, including: 1,300 pounds of sand; 410 pounds of soda ash; and 380 pounds of limestone.
• It saves energy. Making new glass means heating sand and other substances to a temperature of 2,600 degrees Fahrenheit, which requires a lot of energy and creates a lot of industrial pollution. One of the first steps in glass recycling is to crush the glass and create a product called “cullet.” Making recycled glass products from cullet consumes 40 percent less energy than making new glass from raw materials, because cullet melts at a much lower temperature.
• Recycled glass is useful. Because glass is made from natural materials such as sand and limestone, it glass containers have a low rate of chemical interaction with their contents. As a result, glass can be safely reused. Besides serving as the primary ingredient in new glass containers, recycled glass also has many other commercial uses—from creating decorative tiles and landscaping material to rebuilding eroded beaches.
• Glass recycling is also simple. It’s simple because glass is one of the easiest materials to recycle. For one thing, glass is accepted by almost all curbside recycling programs and municipal recycling centers. About all most people have to do to recycle glass bottles and jars. Or, they may carry their recycling bin to the curb, or maybe drop off their empty glass containers at a nearby collection point.
  

Fireworks too contribute a lot to increase the pollution. Fireworks use is increasing in popularity around the world, including in countries without strict air pollution standards. Their use includes a variety of toxic pollution that rain down on neighborhoods from coast to coast, often in violation of environmental laws. Fireworks Can Be Toxic to Humans. Depending on the effect sought, fireworks produce smoke and dust that contain various heavy metals, sulfur-coal compounds and other noxious chemicals. Barium, for instance, is used to produce brilliant green colors in fireworks displays, despite being poisonous and radioactive. Copper compounds are used to produce blue colors, even though they contain dioxin, which has been linked to cancer. Cadmium, lithium, antimony, rubidium, strontium, lead and potassium nitrate are also commonly used to produce different effects, even though they can cause a host of respiratory and other health problems. The chemicals and heavy metals used in fireworks also take their toll on the environment, sometimes contributing to water supply contamination and even acid rain. Their use also deposits physical litter on the ground and into water bodies for miles around. Keeping in view the hazards of fireworks, we must think if we really need fireworks.

To make our environment better, we can think about the pattern of our commuting. Should we go in our cars, we should keep flying or we should prefer cycling? The simple answer is that driving in a relatively fuel-efficient car (25-30 miles per gallon) usually generates fewer greenhouse-gas emissions than flying. In assessing the global warming impact of a trip from Philadelphia to Boston (about 300 miles), driving would generate about 104 kilograms of carbon dioxide (CO2)—a leading greenhouse gas—per typical medium-sized car, regardless of the number of passengers, while flying on a commercial jet would produce some 184 kilograms of CO2 per passenger.

While even driving alone would be slightly better from the standpoint of greenhouse-gas emissions, carpooling really makes environmental sense. Four people sharing a car would collectively be responsible for emitting only 104 kilograms of CO2, while the same four people taking up four seats on a plane would generate some 736 kilograms of carbon dioxide. Flying from San Francisco to Boston, for example, would generate some 1,300 kilograms of greenhouse gases per passenger each way, while driving would account for only 930 kilograms per vehicle. So, again, sharing the drive with one or more people would lower each individual’s carbon footprint from the experience accordingly. In terms of saving for finance and time, air travel can be cheaper if you go for long distances.

If you talk about the emissions, an individual’s emissions from riding a bus (the ultimate carpool) or a train would be significantly lower. A cross-country train trip would generate about half the greenhouse-gas emissions of driving a car. The only way to travel greener might be to bicycle or walk—but the trip is long enough as it is. It depends upon you as to what you prefer – your own conveniences or the benefits for your present and future generations.

Though overall, aviation accounts for only about 2 percent of carbon dioxide emissions globally, at high altitudes jet exhaust may cause a warming effect that is two or three times greater than that of carbon dioxide. To reduce the affect, we can cut Night Flights especially in winter. It can help slow global warming by lowering greenhouse gas emissions caused by air traffic. At night, the warming effect is magnified, because there is no reflective cooling effect to help counter it. And the problem becomes worse in winter, when cold, moist air is more likely to exist at all elevations. According to the researchers, contrails are almost twice as likely to form in winter than in summer.

The research study, which was reported in the journal Nature, found that night flights accounted for only 25 percent of the daily air traffic but contributed 60 percent to 80 percent of the warming caused by commercial aviation. At the same time, winter flights accounted for only 22 percent of the annual number of commercial flights, but they contributed half of the annual warming effect.

What Causes Global Warming?

Scientists have determined that a number of human activities are contributing to global warming by adding excessive amounts of greenhouse gases to the atmosphere. Greenhouse gases such as carbon dioxide accumulate in the atmosphere and trap heat that normally would exit into outer space.

Greenhouse Gases and Global Warming

While many greenhouse gases occur naturally and are needed to create the greenhouse effect that keeps the Earth warm enough to support life, human use of fossil fuels is the main source of excess greenhouse gases. By driving cars, using electricity from coal-fired power plants, or heating our homes with oil or natural gas, we release carbon dioxide and other heat-trapping gases into the atmosphere. Deforestation is another significant source of greenhouse gases, because fewer trees means less carbon dioxide conversion to oxygen.

During the 150 years of the industrial age, the atmospheric concentration of carbon dioxide has increased by 31 percent. Over the same period, the level of atmospheric methane has risen by 151 percent, mostly from agricultural activities such as raising cattle and growing rice.

The Consequences of Global Warming

As the concentration of greenhouse gases grows, more heat is trapped in the atmosphere and less escapes back into space. This increase in trapped heat changes the climate and alters weather patterns, which may hasten species extinction, influence the length of seasons, cause coastal flooding, and lead to more frequent and severe storms.

What are Greenhouse Gases?

Many greenhouse gases occur naturally, such as water vapor, carbon dioxide, methane, nitrous oxide, and ozone. Others such as hydrofluorocarbons (HFCs), perfluorocarbons (PFCs), and sulfur hexafluoride (SF6) result exclusively from human industrial processes.

Human Activities and Greenhouse Gases

Human activities also add significantly to the level of naturally occurring greenhouse gases:
• Carbon dioxide is released into the atmosphere by the burning of solid waste, wood and wood products, and fossil fuels (oil, natural gas, and coal).
• Nitrous oxide emissions occur during various agricultural and industrial processes, and when solid waste or fossil fuels are burned.
• Methane is emitted when organic waste decomposes, whether in landfills or in connection with livestock farming. Methane emissions also occur during the production and transport of fossil fuels.

The Properties of Greenhouse Gases

Greenhouse gases vary in their ability to absorb and hold heat in the atmosphere, a phenomenon known as the "greenhouse effect." HFCs and PFCs are the most heat-absorbent, but there are also wide differences between naturally occurring gases. For example, nitrous oxide absorbs 270 times more heat per molecule than carbon dioxide, and methane absorbs 21 times more heat per molecule than carbon dioxide

How Do Humans Contribute to Greenhouse Gas Emissions and Global Warming?

Throughout most of human history, and certainly before human beings emerged as a dominant species throughout the world, all climate changes were the direct result of natural forces.

Industrial Age Accelerates Global Warming

That changed with the start of the Industrial Revolution, when new agricultural and industrial practices began to alter the global climate and environment. Before that time, human activity didn’t release many greenhouse gases, but population growth, deforestation, factory farming, and the widespread use of fossil fuels are creating an excess of greenhouse gases in the atmosphere and contributing to global warming.

Invest half an hour to protect the environment by changing how you live each day

This we know that burning fossil fuels such as natural gas, coal, oil and gasoline raises the level of carbon dioxide in the atmosphere, and carbon dioxide is a major contributor to the greenhouse effect and global warming. You may not be able to reduce global warming, end pollution and save endangered species single-handedly, but by choosing to live an earth-friendly lifestyle you can do a lot every day to help achieve those goals. And by making wise choices about how you live, and the amount of energy and natural resources you consume, you send a clear message to businesses, politicians and government agencies that value you as a customer, constituent and citizen.

You can help to reduce the demand for fossil fuels, which in turn reduces global warming, by using energy more wisely. You can consider to take the following steps, apart from others what you think appropriate, to help reduce global warming.

1. Reduce, Reuse, Recycle

Do your part to reduce waste by choosing reusable products instead of disposables. Buying products with minimal packaging (including the economy size when that makes sense for you) will help to reduce waste. And whenever you can, recycle paper, plastic, newspaper, glass and aluminum cans. If there isn't a recycling program at your workplace, school, or in your community, ask about starting one. By recycling half of your household waste, you can save 2,400 pounds of carbon dioxide annually.

2. Use Less Heat and Air Conditioning

Adding insulation to your walls and attic, and installing weather stripping or caulking around doors and windows can lower your heating costs more than 25 percent, by reducing the amount of energy you need to heat and cool your home.

Turn down the heat while you're sleeping at night or away during the day, and keep temperatures moderate at all times. Setting your thermostat just 2 degrees lower in winter and higher in summer could save about 2,000 pounds of carbon dioxide each year.

3. Change a Light Bulb

Wherever practical, replace regular light bulbs with compact fluorescent light (CFL) bulbs. Replacing just one 60-watt incandescent light bulb with a CFL will save you $30 over the life of the bulb. CFLs also last 10 times longer than incandescent bulbs, use two-thirds less energy, and give off 70 percent less heat.

4. Drive Less and Drive Smart

Less driving means fewer emissions. Besides saving gasoline, walking and biking are great forms of exercise. Explore your community mass transit system, and check out options for carpooling to work or school.

When you do drive, make sure your car is running efficiently. For example, keeping your tires properly inflated can improve your gas mileage by more than 3 percent. Every gallon of gas you save not only helps your budget, it also keeps 20 pounds of carbon dioxide out of the atmosphere.

5. Buy Energy-Efficient Products

When it's time to buy a new car, choose one that offers good gas mileage. Home appliances now come in a range of energy-efficient models, and compact florescent bulbs are designed to provide more natural-looking light while using far less energy than standard light bulbs.

Avoid products that come with excess packaging, especially molded plastic and other packaging that can't be recycled. If you reduce your household garbage by 10 percent, you can save 1,200 pounds of carbon dioxide annually.

6. Use Less Hot Water

Set your water heater at 120 degrees to save energy, and wrap it in an insulating blanket if it is more than 5 years old. Buy low-flow showerheads to save hot water and about 350 pounds of carbon dioxide yearly. Wash your clothes in warm or cold water to reduce your use of hot water and the energy required to produce it. That change alone can save at least 500 pounds of carbon dioxide annually in most households. Use the energy-saving settings on your dishwasher and let the dishes air-dry.

7. Use the "Off" Switch

Save electricity and reduce global warming by turning off lights when you leave a room, and using only as much light as you need. And remember to turn off your television, video player, stereo and computer when you're not using them.

It's also a good idea to turn off the water when you're not using it. While brushing your teeth, shampooing the dog or washing your car, turn off the water until you actually need it for rinsing. You'll reduce your water bill and help to conserve a vital resource.

8. Plant a Tree

If you have the means to plant a tree, start digging. During photosynthesis, trees and other plants absorb carbon dioxide and give off oxygen. They are an integral part of the natural atmospheric exchange cycle here on Earth, but there are too few of them to fully counter the increases in carbon dioxide caused by automobile traffic, manufacturing and other human activities. A single tree will absorb approximately one ton of carbon dioxide during its lifetime.

9. Get a Report Card from Your Utility Company

Many utility companies provide free home energy audits to help consumers identify areas in their homes that may not be energy efficient. In addition, many utility companies offer rebate programs to help pay for the cost of energy-efficient upgrades.

10. Encourage Others to Conserve

Share information about recycling and energy conservation with your friends, neighbors and co-workers, and take opportunities to encourage public officials to establish programs and policies that are good for the environment.

11. Eat Vegetables

Eating less meat and more fruits, grains and vegetables can help the environment more than you may realize. Eating meat, eggs and dairy products contributes heavily to global warming, because raising animals for food produces many more greenhouse gas emissions than growing plants. A 2006 report by the University of Chicago found that adopting a vegan diet does more to reduce global warming than switching to a hybrid car.

Raising animals for food also uses enormous amounts of land, water, grain and fuel. Every year in the United States alone, 80 percent of all agricultural land, half of all water resources, 70 percent of all grain, and one-third of all fossil fuels are used to raise animals for food.

Making a salad doesn’t take any more time than cooking a hamburger and it’s better for you—and for the environment.

12. Pay Your Bills Online

Many banks, utilities and other businesses now offer their customers the option of paying bills online, eliminating the need to write and mail paper checks or to keep paper records. By paying your bills online you can save time and money, lower the administrative costs of companies with which you do business, and reduce global warming by helping to prevent deforestation.

Signing up for online bill paying is easy and doesn’t take much time. You can either choose to have certain bills paid automatically each month or elect to review and pay each bill yourself. Either way, you will receive outstanding returns on your small investment of time.

As we celebrate World Environment Day today, we understand that every environmental problem has causes, numerous effects, and most importantly, a solution. Let’s take a step towards a clean and green environment. Plant a sapling, travel by public transport, use water and electricity wisely or just recycle & reuse! Every little we do in our own field, apart from what I could mention here, can help make a difference and pave way for a brighter tomorrow. Come, help conserve the environment for us and our loved ones.

Be Happy – Celebrate Environment Day Sincerely For Being Happier Tomorrow.
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Be Happy - Ageing is Not a Problem.

We undergo change in many ways that affect the function of both individual cells and organ systems of our body as we age. These changes occur little by little and progress inevitably over time. However, the rate of this progression can be very different from person to person. It is aging or ageing.

Ageing is the accumulation of changes in an organism or object over time. Ageing in humans refers to a multidimensional process of physical, psychological, and social change. Some dimensions of ageing grow and expand over time, while others decline. Reaction time, for example, may slow with age, while knowledge of world events and wisdom may expand. Research shows that even late in life potential exists for physical, mental, and social growth and development. Ageing is an important part of all human societies reflecting the biological changes that occur, but also reflecting cultural and societal conventions. Age is usually measured in full years — and months for young children. A person's birthday is often an important event. Roughly 100,000 people worldwide die each day due to age-related causes.

The term "ageing" is somewhat ambiguous. Distinctions may be made between "universal ageing" (age changes that all people share) and "probabilistic ageing" (age changes that may happen to some, but not all people as they grow older, such as the onset of type two diabetes. Chronological ageing, referring to how old a person is, is arguably the most straightforward definition of ageing and may be distinguished from "social ageing" (society's expectations of how people should act as they grow older) and "biological ageing" (an organism's physical state as it ages). There is also a distinction between "proximal ageing" (age-based effects that come about because of factors in the recent past) and "distal ageing" (age-based differences that can be traced back to a cause early in person's life, such as childhood poliomyelitis)

Genetic and Environmental Factors

The Ageing process depends on a combination of both genetic and environmental factors. Recognizing that every individual has his or her own unique genetic makeup and environment, which interact with each other, helps us understand why the Ageing process can occur at such different rates in different people. Overall, genetic factors seem to be more powerful than environmental factors in determining the large differences among people in Ageing and lifespan. There are even some specific genetic disorders that speed up the Ageing process, such as Hutchinson-Gilford, Werner’s, and Down syndromes. However, many environmental conditions, such as the quality of health care that you receive, have a substantial effect on Ageing. A healthy lifestyle is an especially important factor in healthy Ageing and longevity. These environmental factors can significantly extend lifespan.

Behaviors of a Healthy Lifestyle
o Not smoking
o Drinking alcohol in moderation
o Exercising
o Getting adequate rest
o Eating a diet high in fruits and vegetables
o Coping with stress
o Having a positive outlook

Cellular Changes Associated with Ageing
Ageing causes functional changes in cells. For example, the rate at which cells multiply tends to slow down as we age. Certain cells which are important for our immune system to work properly (called T-cell lymphocytes) also decrease with age. In addition, age causes changes in our responses to environmental stresses or exposures, such as ultraviolet light, heat, insufficient oxygen, poor nutrition, and toxins (poisons) among others.

Age also interferes with an important process called apoptosis, which programs cells to self-destruct or die at appropriate times. This process is necessary for tissues to remain healthy, and it is especially important in slowing down immune responses once an infection has been cleared from the body.

Different diseases that are common in elderly people can affect this process in different ways. For example, cancer results in a loss of apoptosis. The cancer cells continue to multiply and invade or take over surrounding tissue, instead of dying as originally programmed. Other diseases may cause cells to die too early. In Alzheimer’s disease, a substance called amyloid builds up and causes the early death of brain cells, which results in a progressive loss of memory and other brain functions. Toxins produced as byproducts of nerve-cell transmissions are also thought to be involved in the death of nerve cells in Parkinson’s disease.

Bodily Changes Associated with Ageing
Our bodies normally change in appearance as we age.

Changes in Height
We all lose height as we age, although when the height loss begins and how quickly it progresses vary quite a bit among different people. Generally, our height increases until our late forties and then decreases about two inches by age 80. The reasons for height loss include the following:
• changes in posture
• changes in the growth of vertebrae (the bones that make up the spine)
• a forward bending of the spine
• compression of the discs between the vertebrae
• increased curvature of the hips and knees
• decreased joint space in the trunk and extremities
• joint changes in the feet
• flattening of the arches
The length of the bones in our legs does not change much.
Changes in Weight
In men, body weight generally increases until their mid-fifties; then it decreases, with weight being lost faster in their late sixties and seventies. In women, body weight increases until the late sixties and then decreases at a rate slower than that of men.

People that live in less technologically developed societies do not show this pattern of weight change. This suggests that reduced physical activity and changes in eating habits may be causes of the change in body weight rather than the Ageing process.

Changes in Body Composition
The proportion of the body that is made up of fat doubles between age 25 and age 75. Exercise programs may prevent or reverse much of the proportional decrease in muscle mass and increase in total body fat. This change in body composition is important to consider in nutritional planning and level of activity. The change in body composition also has an important effect on how the body handles various drugs. For example, when our body fat increases, drugs that are dissolved in fatty tissues remain in the body much longer than when our body was younger and more muscular.

Other Changes with Ageing
Normal Ageing in the absence of disease is a remarkably benign process. In other words, our body can remain healthy as we age. Although our organs may gradually lose some function, we may not even notice these changes except during periods of great exertion or stress. We may also experience slower reaction times.

Normal Ageing and Disease
Ageing and disease are related in subtle and complex ways. Several conditions that were once thought to be part of normal Ageing have now been shown to be due to disease processes that can be influenced by lifestyle. For example, heart and blood vessel diseases are more common in people who eat a lot of meat and fat. Similarly, cataract formation in the eye largely depends on the amount of exposure to direct sunlight.

We should remember that there is a range of individual response to Ageing. Biologic and chronologic ages are not the same. In addition, body systems do not age at the same rate within any individual. For example, you might have severe arthritis or loss of vision while the function of your heart or kidneys is excellent. Even those Ageing changes that are considered "usual" or "normal" are not inevitable consequences of Ageing.

Changes in the Regulation of Body Systems
The way our body regulates certain systems changes with age. Some examples are listed below.
o Progressive changes in the heart and blood vessels interfere with your body’s ability to control blood pressure.
o Your body cannot regulate its temperature as it could when you were younger. This can result in dangerously low body temperature from prolonged exposure to the cold or in heat stroke if the outside temperature is too high.
o There may be Ageing -related changes in your body’s ability to develop a fever in response to an infection.
o The regulation of the amount and makeup of body fluids is slowed down in healthy older persons. Usual (resting) levels of the hormones that control the amount of body fluids are unchanged, but problems in fluid regulation commonly develop during illness or other stress. Also, elderly people don’t feel as thirsty after water deprivation as they did when younger.
What do these age-related changes in our body systems mean?
o First, with advancing age, we become less like each other biologically, so our health care needs to be more individualized.
o Body systems that can be minimally affected by age are often profoundly influenced by lifestyle behaviors such as cigarette smoking, physical activity, and nutritional intake, and by circumstances such as financial means.
o Finally, it’s helpful to consider ahead of time our possible choices in case certain situations arise. For example, if you become less physically able to take part in an athletic activity you did before, is there a different activity you might enjoy? Are there things you might like to do to keep your mind active? More serious situations to consider might include death of a spouse, or if you find your abilities becoming more and more limited. Have you discussed how you would like to handle such situations and your wishes with your family?

It is important to remember that the ability to learn and adjust continues throughout life and is strongly influenced by interests, activities, and motivation. With years of rich experience and reflection, we can rise above our own circumstances. Old age, despite the physical limitations, can be a time of variety, creativity, and fulfillment.

Protect an Ageing Body
Start to protect your body and prepare for the Ageing process today, no matter what age you are. Developing good eating and exercise habits early in life will carry you through your twilight years with energy and vitality to spare. Important habits include regular exercise, eating a healthy diet and developing an active mind. Limit your consumption of alcohol and refined carbohydrates in favor of whole grain, nutritious choices that provide your body and brain with the fuel they need to thrive. Avoid saturated fat and processed sugars as they increase your risk for heart disease and diabetes. Stay hydrated and avoids soda as it saps calcium from your body and leaves you prone to broken bones later in life.

Compound the benefits of a healthy diet with at least 4 hours of exercise each week. Recent studies have suggested that some types of exercise are more beneficial than others for cognitive ability, but all exercise is certain to lower your risk for heart disease and obesity. Exercise increases your blood circulation, which increases blood flow to your brain, nourishing the organ and promoting healthy functioning. With exercise, researchers have generally found that more is better and scientists and doctors alike encourage people to get as much exercise as possible without putting yourself at risk for injury.

An active mind can be a difficult thing to quantify but generally means that you are always challenging yourself and learning new things. Reading, engaging in a diversity of conversations and continually exposing yourself to new experiences are all helpful in cultivating an active mind. Learn a new sport, listen to a new genre of music, take a continuing education class at your local community college or start a book club with your friends. The most important part may be continually switching it up so that your mind stays engaged, which can stimulate new neuron firing patterns and extend your mental prowess.

The following steps may also help you in this regard.

1. Exercise.
Several sets of clinical trials and research compilations recently published in the Archives of Internal Medicine reinforce the belief that exercise is an important element in warding off dementia and promoting cognitive abilities. Researchers in British Columbia found that resistance training is most helpful in promoting cognitive skills such as memory, decision-making and conflict resolution skills.

In a separate study conducted in Germany, researchers found that after two years of regular cardiovascular exercise elderly study participants were half as likely to have developed dementia than their less active counterparts. It is believed that regular exercise promotes blood flow to the brain and may stimulate nerve-ending growth.

2. Eat well.
Include lots of fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds and omega 3 acids in your diet. Concentrate on antioxidant-packed produce like spinach, garlic and blueberries. The antioxidants fight free radicals in your system and slow down the Ageing process. Generally the more colorful a fruit or vegetable the higher its concentration of antioxidants, so try to include five colors in your diet each day.

In addition to fruits and vegetables, make fish or flax seeds a regular part of your diet. Both foods supply omega 3, a fatty acid that has been linked to healthy brain function. Digest fats in the form of seeds, olive oil, avocados and nuts. Regular absorption of unsaturated fat is essential to healthy brain function and in addition, nuts, seeds and certain oils are a good source of vitamin E, thought to ward off Alzheimer's. Eat every three to four hours to provide steady fuel for your brain and body functions.
3. Drink well.
Fill up on water, coffee, tea and fresh squeezed juices. Leave sugar-packed soda, pre-prepared juice and most kinds of alcohol at the store. Water aids in food digestion and helps flush toxins out of your system. Coffee and caffeinated tea have antioxidant powers that increase cognitive functioning. Herbal teas contain compounds that ease digestion, calm frazzled nerves and boost the immune system. Fresh squeezed juice, in moderate amounts, contains a supercharge of antioxidants, vitamins and minerals.
In contrast sugar-laden juice, soda and alcohol induce high blood pressure, weight gain and diabetes. Indulge in these beverage choices only occasionally to promote a healthy lifestyle.

4. Never stop learning.
While there has been no direct link between activities like crossword puzzles, jigsaw puzzles or Sudoku and cognitive improvement, it is widely accepted that continuously challenging your mind leads to stronger cognitive function.

Robin Nixon, writing for Live Science, attributed this relationship to the "use it or lose it" theory, stating that the same way that exercise keeps our bodies fit and nimble, new thought processes keep our minds flexible. She points out that there are many ways to exercise and engage your mind and suggests individuals focus on the activities that they enjoy most.

5. Don't stress.
Stress is toxic. It makes you sick, it's bad for your heart and it may even impair your brain function. In December 2007, the journal for the Association for Psychological Science reported that "stress hormones inhibit neuron growth in parts of the hippocampus" which results in memory impairments. They also reported that stress appears to be cumulative, meaning that the effects on your health will worsen over time.

Learn to manage the stress in your life today through activities such as deep breathing (the fight-or-flight response triggered by stress speeds respiration), journal writing, effective problem management and light reading.

6. Record your health.
Stay on top of all recommended health testing so that you can handle problems in a proactive manner. Schedule regular bone density tests, cholesterol tests and eye exams. Monitor your blood pressure. Men should have prostate exams and women should have mammograms and regular pap smears to detect cancerous cells in these potential problem areas early. Keep a health journal so that you can be clear about symptoms and concerns at doctor's visits.

Be Happy - Ageing is Not a Problem.

Be Happy - Family Makes You Happy.

As we understand, man is a social animal and likes to live in family. A family is considered to be an exclusive group of people sharing a close relationship —a unit traditionally composed of a mated couple and their dependent children by procreation or adoption having co-residence. Not only humans, many other species form groups that have similarities to human "family" which we often call as packs.

One of the primary functions of a couple mating is to meet their biological need and procreate. After getting children, they look after till they attain maturity. From the perspective of children, the family is a family of orientation: the family serves to locate children socially and plays a major role in their enculturation and socialization. From the point of view of the parent(s), the family is a family of procreation, the goal of which is to produce, enculturate and socialize children. A conjugal family includes only the husband, the wife, and unmarried children who are not of age. The most common form of this family is regularly referred to in sociology as a nuclear family.

At an early stage of development, a group of humans, say 30 to 100 people, had been formed to live in Open, elliptical camps with Simplistic technology. They practiced hunting and gathering most of the time. Women used to gather 80% of food supply, plant, manage distribution of food, care for children and build/repair shelters. Men were supposed to hunt, prepare the fields, care for children and build structures and children were there to help to gather food. Discipline was passive and they were cared for by siblings, parents, and other adults. At that time, the general ideology of these groups was typically egalitarian (no hierarchy of power; men, women, children cooperate) and monogamous. There were trial marriages, divorce not common, nor traumatic with no wealth to divide.

The rapid Industrialization dramatically changed the role of the family as an institution and unit of socialization. With the development of capitalism, the "nuclear family" concept arose. In physical context, we see solid permanent structures; doors close off families from one another, organized agriculture and flocks, private property with wider political and social contact. We see division of labor women and girls doing preservation and preparation of foods and remaining as domestic. Men and boys are there to care for flocks with broader social knowledge and ties. Some of them have groomed up themselves as public leaders. Marriage and divorce became more formalized (parents take control).

However, in the western society the single parent family has been growing more accepted and has begun to truly make an impact on culture. The majority of single parent families are more commonly single mother families than single father. These families face many difficult issues besides the fact that they have to rear their children on their own, but also have to deal with issues related to low income. Many single parents struggle with low incomes and must cope with other issues, including rent, child care, and other necessities required in maintaining a healthy and safe home.

A family in a traditional society forms the primary economic unit. This economic role has gradually diminished in modern times, and in societies like the United States it has become much smaller, except in certain sectors such as agriculture and in a few upper class families. In China the family as an economic unit still plays a strong role in the countryside. However, the relations between the economic role of the family, its socio-economic mode of production and cultural values remain highly complex.

The different types of families occur in a wide variety of settings, and their specific functions and meanings depend largely on their relationship to other social institutions. Sociologists have a special interest in the function and status of these forms in stratified (especially capitalist) societies.

The term "nuclear family" is commonly used, especially in the United States and Europe, to refer to conjugal families. Sociologists distinguish between conjugal families (relatively independent of the kindred of the parents and of other families in general) and nuclear families (which maintain relatively close ties with their kindred).

The term "extended family" is also common, especially in the United States and Europe. This term has two distinct meanings. First, it serves as a synonym of "consanguinal family". Second, in societies dominated by the conjugal family, it refers to kindred (an egocentric network of relatives that extends beyond the domestic group) who do not belong to the conjugal family.

In contemporary Europe and the United States, people in academic, political and civil sectors have called attention to single-father-headed households, and families headed by same-sex couples, although academics point out that these forms exist in other societies. Also the term blended family or stepfamily describes families with mixed parents: one or both parents remarried, bringing children of the former family into the new family.

Contemporary society generally views family as a haven from the world, supplying absolute fulfillment. The family is considered to encourage "intimacy, love and trust where individuals may escape the competition of dehumanizing forces in modern society." During industrialization, the family as a repository of warmth and tenderness (embodied by the mother) stands in opposition to the competitive and aggressive world of commerce (embodied by the father). The family's task was to protect against the outside world." But the protective image of the family has waned in recent years as the ideals of family fulfillment have taken shape. Today, the family is more compensatory than protective. It supplies what is vitally needed but missing in other social arrangements".

As a potter molds clay to form a beautiful creation, so does the strong bond of family and good values. Family bonds are a link to our beginning and a guide to our future. Early influences are fundamental to our individual development.

We all want to "belong" and feel accepted. A sense of belonging is derived from the strong bond of family. Family is where our roots take hold and from there we grow. We are molded within a unit, which prepares us for what we will experience in the world and how we react to those experiences. Values are taught at an early age and are carried with us throughout our life.

A close family bond is like a safe harbor where we find refuge. From trusting that someone will pick us up when we fall, as a toddler, to someone being there for us as we experience the storms in life - family bonds help to instill trust and hope in the world around us and belief in ourselves. Rituals of bedtime stories, hugs, holidays and daily meals shared together, provide a sense of warmth, structure and safety. These rituals and traditions, not only create memories and leave a family legacy, but create our first path in life - one that is positive.

Our very spirit can either blossom or wither within the family unit. When we don't have the security and influence of strong family bonds early in life, the ground work is laid for an emptiness, that is often sought to be filled, through destructive venues. If one isn't loved as a child, they may later seek love and acceptance in a way that brings them harm. There is a deep yearning to fill that hollowness, residing in the heart and soul, from never knowing what it's like to be loved, accepted and appreciated for "being".

There can be long-term effects from living in a detached or dysfunctional family. The cycle is often repeated through generations. Children often grow up believing this dysfunctional unit is normal and they may gravitate toward people and situations that mimic the dysfunction they were accustomed to. A healthy relationship won't be easily recognized because it's foreign to someone who hasn't lived within a close and loving family. Often drug and alcohol abuse or domestic violence is repeated, whether by a learned behavior or an escape from behavior that was poured upon an innocent child.

A child may have poor self-image, isolating themselves from peers at school or holding anger and pain inside. This not only affects the emotional well-being, but also physical well-being. The poor self-image may be with them throughout life, causing an inability to make positive choices or be close to others. It's hard to succeed in life when the core of your being has never been nurtured. Healthy development begins before we are born by the choice parents make for the path their children will follow.

Strong family bonds help us to thrive in all aspects of life. Lack of these bonds can lead to forever seeking that something which is missing. Don't take the value of family bonds for granted. You can mold a beautiful creation for today and the generations that follow!

Life can be difficult at times and it at those times we may need a support system. The best support you can get is an unconditional bond from your family.

Family is defined as any group of people closely related by blood. It can also be a group of people who are generally not blood relations, but who share common attitudes, interests or goals and, frequently, live together. A bond is defined as something that binds, fastens, confines or holds together. It is also to establish a close emotional relationship to or with another.

Family bonds have to be constantly worked at and renewed, but can grow stronger every day. Once in place you are held together no matter what is thrown at you. You know you are never alone. You work together day by day as a unit which can make life seem easier when times get tough.

A strong family bond can help you grow into a well rounded adult. Knowing there is a unit of support available whenever you need it can give you a confidence that nothing else can.

Family bonds are very important with the uncertainty in the world today. Loss of jobs, tight finances, divorce, serious illnesses and even gang related crime are some of the things that if you faced alone you may not be able to cope with. Standing united in your family unit is like a wall protecting you from a mighty force. It prevents you from being knocked down to the point where you cannot get back up again. There are people there behind you to pick you straight back up again.

To build a family bond it is vital to spend time together doing many different activities. Everyday things to build bonds with children make them feel special. Whether it's putting washing in the dryer or cooking dinner, they love to be involved. Spending time with a partner if you have one will keep a bond tight so that you can work together to strengthen the family unit. Even if you can only manage an hour after the children have gone to bed to just sit together and forget any problems for a while. Then there is the most important part. Spending time as a family. A walk or a bike ride together can be fun and inexpensive. All of these things make sure that as a unit you are as strong as you can be.

Whatever size your family is, whether you are a single parent and one child, or a couple raising twelve children, the family bond is essential. Why is it essential? Because it helps shape our futures and make us who we are. This is important for the next generation and those generations still to come.

Family bonds have taken a beating in recent decades with the majority of marriages ending in divorces and children born to parents who choose to remain single. It seems that the days when families sat together for meals or spent any quality time together are long gone, but this is very untrue.

The nuclear family is almost extinct, replaced with single parent headed households, multigenerational homes and homes when families are blended together. All types of families can have the same strong values of long ago if the family unit chooses to work together and continue to be strong.

How can you find the time to have quality time when every one is so busy to keep the strong bond there, that answer is simply that you must take the time when someone has a need.

Family holds meetings as needed to discuss important events, so that everyone feels as if they are involved and their opinion matters. All the children know that they can discuss whatever is on their mind, they will be heard, and their suggestions if valid will be incorporated into action.

The parents can have the time to discuss issues on a personal level with the children, as needed. They must know that no subject is too hard to discuss. Occasionally you can discuss school or son's job. They can have private discussions and treating them as though their opinions mattered since they were small has helped to strengthen the family bonds you may have with my children.

In a family, a daughter knows she can count on her brothers and me if she needs help with her two children. The boys learn about infants and toddlers on a first hand level and helping their sister, which is strengthening the family bonds between the children.
Family bonds are very important to every family, it is an essential part of the big picture. It is a life long series of events, and this is what is helping them to become strong productive members of society.

The family takes care of its older members. You can find in a family that at the age of 93, their dad may be slowing down. Although he may remain sharp in conversation about things that interest him, his short-term memory can diminish. He may not be as strong as he could be three years ago, when he thought nothing of climbing a ladder while carrying a bucket of reflective roofing material and then spreading it evenly over the surface of the roof-in 114 heat! He is not quite as adventurous as he was two years ago when he and a friend went on a tour of Europe.

In a family, no matter how angry any of the members may get, none should stop talking to each other. The parents have the right to be angry with you on some issue. But your progress does not authorize to back talk or show any disrespect to them as your parents will always talk in your interest. It can make your family as a strong unit. When you grow up, you must learn to make a choice between proving a point and remaining members of the same family. The latter choice will always win out. Family teaches you how to sacrifice for others, how to support the weak and enable them to stand on their feet.

Be Happy - Family Makes You Happy.

Be Happy - Carry On Exercise

If you want to improve your life in every way, the best place to start is with exercise. Our bodies need regular exercise; it's our natural state to be energetic and lively. When we don't include it in our lives, we cannot function properly and we cannot feel as good as we should. Regular vigorous exercise will make us happier and healthier.

Physical exercise is any bodily activity that enhances or maintains physical fitness and overall health or wellness. It is performed for various reasons. These include strengthening muscles and the cardiovascular system, honing athletic skills, weight loss or maintenance and for enjoyment. Frequent and regular physical exercise boosts the immune system, and helps prevent the "diseases of affluence" such as heart disease, cardiovascular disease, Type 2 diabetes and obesity.

It also improves mental health, helps prevent depression, helps to promote or maintain positive self-esteem, and can even augment an individual's sex appeal or body image Childhood obesity is a growing global concern and physical exercise may help decrease the effects of childhood obesity in developed countries.

You have probably read about the long-term benefits of exercise: increased energy, disease risk reduction, longevity, weight management, improved quality of life etc. Most of us are well aware that regular exercise is a vital and critical part of looking, feeling and staying younger and healthier over the course of our lifetime.

How is your exercise attitude?

A lot of us wonder exactly how we can motivate ourselves to exercise, just what is this special thing that is needed to get yourself out of bed or out the door and straight to your workouts? The reason that no one can answer this question is because it is different for all of us. But one thing that is known is that part of what determines whether you get to your exercise session or not is your attitude. How you look at your planned workout has a major influence on the importance and priority of it.

Making exercise enjoyable begins in your mind - If you have a positive attitude and can find ways to make your exercise program enjoyable, you will be much more likely to stick with it. It is easy to find motivation to do something you enjoy rather than making excuses why you shouldn't do it. Exercise will never seem like a chore if you are passionate about it. If you have a bad attitude about this are you willing to change it?

Let exercise help you to meet your other needs - it can help satisfy your desires for social interaction, self discipline, relaxation, self-discovery, or just give you a break from the stresses of the day. Think about your non physical needs that are important in your life, and try to figure out how activity can help you to achieve them. This can make your exercise program a much more powerful experience and keep you going back for more.

Exercise - your strength and fitness - needs to be in the "first things first" category, because everything else in your life rests upon your good health. Time for fitness is always available when you put first things first in your life.

If you have you forgotten how good it is for your sense of well-being or have never stuck with an exercise program long enough to experience it, you will soon have more energy, a better attitude and a gentler disposition. It's easier to be the kind of person you have always wanted to be.

Your strength and fitness are essential to your good health, like eating right, sleeping enough; loving your family and friends and working. Exercise needs to be at the top of your list of priorities and be put first when you understand and accept just how it important it is. It is so much easier when you don't have to force yourself to exercise - you actually want to do it. Over a period of time, little by little - health and fitness can become a passion. Make it under the supervision of some qualified physiotherapist.

Be Happy – Carry On Exercise to make yourself healthier and happier.