Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Friday, March 17, 2023

Be Happy – Improve your personality to achieve your love

A youth may dream to have a companion in the ventures to take up, to live life lovingly and for many other aims. In process of accomplishing the dream, the personality of the aspiring person plays a great role.

The personality of an individual depends upon the traits pursued. Personality traits are enduring patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that characterize an individual and make them unique. Love affairs, on the other hand, refer to romantic relationships or passionate experiences between two people.

Personality traits can influence the way individuals approach and experience love affairs. For example, someone who is extroverted may be more likely to seek out new romantic partners and enjoy social activities with their partner, while someone introverted may prefer more quiet and intimate moments with their partner.

Other personality traits such as openness, agreeableness, conscientiousness, and neuroticism can also impact the way individuals approach love affairs. For example, someone who is highly open to new experiences may be more likely to experiment with different types of relationships, while someone who is highly conscientious may prioritize stability and commitment in their relationships.

It is important to note that personality traits are just one factor that can impact love affairs, and that individual experiences and circumstances can also play a significant role. Additionally, while personality traits can help understand how individuals approach love affairs, they should not be used to stereotype or judge others.

Personality traits refer to the distinguishing characteristics and qualities that make you a unique individual, and are often developed throughout your life and tend to remain consistent across various situations and circumstances.

Every self-conscious person places significant value on personality traits because they can provide insight into how you might interact with others. Personality traits can also serve as indicators of how you may respond to different situations and pressures that you might encounter throughout your life.

Personality is built upon traits, which are relatively stable patterns of thinking and behaviour that allow us to describe, compare, and contrast individuals. A trait can be broad, like someone's general disposition towards others, or more specific, like their level of trust in others, which are called "facets" of personality. It's important to note that personality traits are distinct from mental abilities, like intelligence, which are assessed through problem-solving and questioning.

Your personality traits can predict your romantic life, but some traits are more strongly linked to success than others. For instance, people who score high in neuroticism may find it difficult to maintain relationships and may take longer to recover after a breakup. On the other hand, people who score high in consciousness and agreeableness tend to have more success in relationships.

Psychologists have developed various methods for defining and organizing personality traits. Traits are often grouped based on broad personality factors. However, personality may have a preference for a certain trait. Some traits are examined by psychologists deeply. Their theory suggests that while individuals a combination of the following traits:

1.      Openness

It refers to your level of adventurousness, curiosity, and willingness to experience new things. Highly open-minded individuals tend to have a diverse range of interests. On the other hand, those who are less open may prefer consistency and familiarity.

2.      Conscientiousness

It measures your level of efficiency. People who score higher in conscientiousness are typically task-oriented and detail-oriented. Conversely, those who are less conscientious may be more prone to distraction and may attend better under pressure or in a more spontaneous environment. Your dressing sense also plays a greater role. How you keep yourself can be an important attraction point.

3.      Extroversion

It is a personality trait that pertains to one's level of outgoingness and energy. Individuals who score high on this trait are typically assertive, sociable, and enjoy being around others. On the other hand, individuals who score low on extroversion may prefer solitary activities and alone time and require fewer social interactions to feel fulfilled. Being a good listener is another prime way to attract women. You could say this is the most overlooked aspect of attracting women. Far too often, men will try to chatter their way to impress women.

4.      Agreeableness

In case you wish to strengthen your level of friendliness, compassion, and love, you should be cooperative and courteous, while those with lower agreeableness may prioritize critical thinking and rationality.

5.      Neuroticism

It refers to a personality trait that reflects a person's emotional sensitivity and tendency towards worry and mood swings. Often described in contrast to the trait of emotional stability, people high in neuroticism are more likely to experience negative emotions, while those lower on the spectrum tend to be less emotionally reactive and more self-assured.

6.      Integrity

In your love affairs, you need to be honest and committed to the words and promises you make. It contributes to building a positive reputation and trust. In addition, displaying integrity can establish you as a trustworthy individual who strives to lead a happy life in any given situation.

7.      Punctuality

It is the basic quality of building trust with one all to keep time whenever it is committed to being present or doing the task if entrusted.  It is a valued trait as all other operations and activities depend on punctuality.

8.      Flexibility

You must be flexible to adapt to changes according to the circumstances beyond your control. If you are rigid in your perception, it can hurt others.

Be Happy – Improve your personality to achieve your love.

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Love Your Job, You Will Get Success.

Love your job or love what you do. We must love our job like children love any job they undertake. When they play, they play with all the love at their command. Whatever we may do, if we do the same with love, we will get success definitely. We need to work hard and if we fix up our goals before embarking upon any task, success is bound to follow. Goals are our dreams with deadlines. If you choose a goal and stick to that, that would change everything and you will achieve the success you dream for. If you want to reach a distant goal, you must take small steps instead of sitting idle.
We all understand well that focus and determination play significant roles in success. If we look at any top athlete or businessman, painter, politician, any successful individual – a movie star, musician or any other celebrity, we will find that they succeed because they focus on their task, they love their job, they love what they do. For our success, we need to identify our goals and then let nothing distract us from achieving it. Any distraction can lead to dissipate our energy and attention.
Here, we must ignore “Luck” factor in our psychological manoeuvrability while working for our goals fixed. What is luck? It is only as relevant or irrelevant as we make it. Whenever a gamble plans to gamble, he swears by the same. But we are not gambler. We need to achieve our task, the task defined by our goals. Luck is nothing but a convenient excuse, an alibi or a crutch for those who fail or who do not love to work sincerely but await for the results without putting in the hard labour the task warrants for. What we make of our life is entirely in our own hands. Luck is what happens to others. It is just a consolation for the losers.
It is true that you can not win all the time. Somebody in your opposition may have put in better efforts. We can learn from our failures and try to do better next time. If we compete fairly, it shall be our greatest challenge and we need to accept it even if somebody criticises our efforts/steps. Criticism must be considered as a part and parcel of our success. We need to live with it and learn about our wrongs. It is also true that an average human being does not accept criticism of any kind very easily. We need to work above what an average human being does. We must take seriously every criticism and examine the same just to improve ourselves. Dealing with criticism in a mature way makes one a stronger person.
Appreciation is the oxygen that nurtures the creative instinct. You must apply it with your team members as and when required but we must not take it as narcotic for ourselves as if we do not get appreciation, we may get nervous. Instead, we must remain attuned to our work and in course of time, we too will get appreciation. It is possible only when we love our job.


Saturday, June 30, 2012

Be Happy – Love Yourself.

Love can be defined as an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment with someone. It is also a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —“the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. Love may describe actions towards others or oneself based on compassion or affection. If it gets some consideration, that is only sacrifice without expecting any return. 
We refer love to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from pleasure (“I loved that meal") to interpersonal attraction (“I love my partner”). "Love" may refer specifically to the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love, to the sexual love, to the emotional closeness of familial love, to the platonic love that defines friendship, or to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love, or to a concept of love that encompasses all of those feelings. Love may be understood as part of the survival instinct, a function to keep human beings together against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the species.

You Can Continue Your Love Affairs while Working.

Love is an emotional offspring. You can not dictate someone to love you or you can not be done with so. Sometime, it happens that you see someone and find that he/she is so attractive that you wish to talk, see closer and do not get bore if meeting time goes on increasing. That person can be an outsider or one amongst your colleagues.
Luckily, if he/she is one amongst your colleagues having working post just nearby to you, you may find that understanding your mutual work lives can deepen your relationship. And instead of rushing home each evening, you may be willing to work late, especially if you can do it alongside your beloved. It can be beneficial even to your employer if you devote your time more sincerely, side-by-side enjoying the company of the person you love.
No doubt, having love affairs at the work place do have merits and demerits as well. Be careful if your love affairs go sour, there may no escape but a lot of disgust and loss of mental peace affecting your productivity and perhaps, risk of shunting you off the job as you may still have to see and interact with that person daily. A failed workplace romance can also hurt your career and reputation.
If your love affairs remain sweet, other people may view your well earned promotion or raise as favoritism. And even if the relationship works out, it can be tough to work with your lover. You may get sick of each other if due to work, your spouse is posted at some more distance than earlier.
Whether you should or should not invite someone at the office isn't always a clear-cut decision. It depends on your situation and personality. But if you decide to make the leap, tread carefully over these issues.
Before going ahead in love affairs within the office, you must make sure that you can afford the brunt of failure also.
If you decide to go ahead in love affairs by frequently meeting somebody in your office, you must not tell to any other one or act in such a way that some other one is able to guess as he/she would always be there to watch your proceeding ahead and make it news in the office. From then on, the two of you will be under the microscope. It's even dangerous if the two of you are peers. For example, if you're seen helping your sweetie out with work, someone else who also needs your help may go to the boss and complain you're playing favorites. Thereafter, the other people may start to keep watch and apprise your Boss of the developments. Your boss will start to see the productivity from your end and your beloved one’s end. If there is some reduction, he can comment to make the relationship sour. At your end, if it doesn't work out, you still have to face that person every day. You will have to make sure that you can tolerate all the unsolicited comments from the concerned and unconcerned persons.
You Need To Be Very Much Smart by not opening your book in any stage before finally positive working out the relationship.
You should not expose your entire life to become an open book. Before you ask the person you love for a drink, you must ascertain that he/she isn't the type to share your innermost secrets to any third person for any reason. Better, you should not disclose unless you mature your relationship.
Love Affairs with a junior must not come to limelight.
If due to some happening, you feel love for a junior, try to ensure that your emotions do not come to limelight. Your relationship can be misconstrued as a power play - "Attend me, or you won't get that promotion." If you do not find yourself able to control yourself, you must change the office/posting.
If some senior fellow is there, you must handle the affairs very carefully. If things go beyond your control or he/she misuses, you could get hit with a lawsuit for sexual harassment, even if the relationship was mutual. Some companies require managers to report workplace romances and both parties to sign an agreement stating they willingly entered the relationship.
You must prefer for the work over the display of your love within the corridors of office.
Good people keep workplace romances a secret. But secrets can cause issues among coworkers. The key is to be discreet. Don't hold closed-door meetings, don't make overt displays of affection in the office and stay focused on work. You must prefer for the work within the corridors of the office so that none can hit you for any fault.
It's important not to spend every waking hour with your lover and your work. That's not good for any relationship. You must make a separate line for both. Pursue other interests together and individually. And make sure you have more in common than your jobs.
You Must Be Honest with Your Prospective Partner.
Honesty is the best policy and even in your love affairs, you must be honest with your prospective partner. It is more important if your partner is working within your office. If you're only looking for a quick fling, you shouldn't make long-term-relationship noises in your efforts to seduce. That candor is always important, but especially so in the workplace.
You Must Think Twice Before Starting a Relationship with Your Boss.
In some workplaces, this is strictly forbidden, but even if it is permissible, you must be alert. If later on, you dump your boss, he/she may retaliate through every opportunity for torturing you.
In fairness, sometimes a relationship with a boss can yield special privileges, like a corner office. Even if the boss decides to end the relationship, he may give you a promotion or another perk to reduce the risk that you'll file a grievance. One study found that 64 percent of women who had a romantic relationship with their boss reported that, as a result, their work situation improved.
Love affairs with your senior are also risky even if the relationship is working well. For example, your honey begs you for a plum assignment that, from a business perspective, you believe should go to someone else. But you feel forced to say yes to your special friend. And if you break off the relationship, you're really in danger: Your former beloved could claim you abused your power. You could end up losing your job.
If You Decide to Go for It, Be Professional.
If you do decide to pursue a work-related relationship, inform management, because chances are they already know. If you keep it a secret and they find out, it can lead to distrust.
But keep work on priority. Don't come in and set up camp at a table for six hours while your boyfriend is working his shift. We can't mirror two schedules all the time because you would like to work as a couple. Business needs must come first.
Love is as essential to the life as the bread is. If you are not able to serve your emotions well, what are you working for?
Prefer Love over Hatred.
God gave us two ears to hear, two eyes to see and two hands to hold. But why did God give us only one heart? Because he wants us to find the other one. You love someone not because you need that person, you need that person because you love that person. In love, the past is not important, but the present. Experience is more relevant than the pain you went through. The only thing that will make it stronger is forgiveness and not the retorting of sin. God is so good. He knows where a person will be happy, where they can love and be loved, where heaven on earth is.
No matter what words were used or what meaning about love was delivered, love quotes were said and written out of inspiration and to emphasize each person’s purpose for living…and that is to give love. There are times when one must love even to the detriment of one's "state" (so it would seem, anyway). There are times when one must work oneself to the point of exhaustion for the sake of love. And there are times when one must get involved in things that seem less than clean, less than spiritual, in order to help the humanity. One must jump into the mud in order to rescue those who are drowning in it. One must jump into the ocean of ignorance, attachment, strange ideas and views, spiritual falsities, in order to save people from these things.
Out of love God becomes man, and takes on the incredible burden of ego, of illusion, of ignorance, in order to save man from these. In the same way, it is important for man to hold the well-being of all ABOVE "spiritual elevation." The kind of spiritual elevation that seems to be in competition with true love and service and help is not true spiritual elevation. Love is the truest spiritual state of man. It is the closest to God, and the closest to Truth. This is not to say that one should not take the time necessary to be with Him, to rejuvenate in prayer and communion, this is essential -- just as food and friendship and air are essential -- to the human soul.
One must have a balanced and wide view of these things. Sometimes, when one is performing a task for the sake of love and one begins to feel weary, tired, one's mind may even feel less spiritualized and illuminated due to the tiredness that one feels. In that case, there are two ways that people might tend to choose. One person may heroically work on until falling over in need of rest. Another person may stop immediately in order to rejuvenate, reconnect to God, etc. Either of these choices may be appropriate, but most likely something more balanced is appropriate. People should not feel as if their spirituality is so frail that they are not able to persist in a task, or in the great task of world salvation, to the extent that is truly needed. And also, one must maintain one's connection to God, one's spiritual/emotional health. Therefore, it is wise to take a moment, an hour, a day, or even more, to rejuvenate in His arms when necessary.
There are times when it would be wise to work until you fall over, for if you fall He will catch you. And, truth be told, He is with you always. When you see the truth, you will know that He is always with you, even AS you are working yourself to the bone. So, He does not want to take away from the value of being willing to fall over in your efforts to serve, to save, etc.
At the same time, there are times when it is absolutely necessary and/or appropriate to take very regular breaks to be with God. There are times when the super-abundance that this would create is what is absolutely needed (for example, when a person needs a type of healing from you, which would take a super-abundance of energy). And also, there are times when a very HIGH refinement in one's way of thinking is also absolutely needed for the task. People of the absolute HIGHEST enlightenment may be able to maintain such a rarity and illumination of thought in any state, but most of His followers cannot. Therefore, there are times when it is appropriate to take regular breaks with God, long before you are anywhere near the point of falling down.
You must evaluate these things with this question: What does love require? What does this person, this world, this group require? You must feel through things with this question in your hearts, and turn to Him continually for guidance, for the answer to this question, and you will find the right way to go in each specific case.
There is nothing so untrue TO YOU as the lives that you are living. Your hearts are dissatisfied. You are so dissatisfied with the values that you and others around you have. You experience your relationships with others to be dis-satisfactory, because human beings everywhere are choosing to follow the values that this world has to offer, rather than loving wholeheartedly, passionately, with generosity and integrity.
It is true that ordinary" in the sense that you understand the word "ordinary." Love is greater than anything that this world has to offer. What this world calls love, for the most part, is not enough to keep any heart feeling alive and happy.
The point of your entire existence is to love. Learn to love, transcend yourselves for the sake of love, for the sake of others. That is the whole reason that you are here, to love. Many people go through their whole lives pursuing other things. When they die they are unfulfilled. No person can be fulfilled until they learn to truly love; to love from the heart, without self-protection, without fear.
Love means that you are aware of others around you, that you care about them from the depths of your heart, with all the emotion and attention that you feel for yourself and your own life. Love means that the spiritual and emotional well-being of others means everything to you, and you will commit your being and your life to enriching the lives of others; to uplifting their spirits; to reminding them of who they are; to helping them let go of false ideas and fears, and to love.
This may seem out of reach, you may be thinking, "That's far ahead of where I am. I'm just a beginner in the spiritual path; I'm not a saint." You may then think that you are invalid. You need to understand that you learn to love by loving. And since there is no other purpose to being here, on this planet, you may as well start now.
It is true that love requires learning to love. It is true, that you will have to go through many cycles of learning what you are doing that is unloving, and adjusting to be more loving. But you see, this is all part of the love itself: to learn; to adjust, to transcend your limitations.
There may be many things that you do now that you call love, but you will come to find out that they are not done out of love, but out of fear, or self-protection, or self-interest. Love requires that when you see that truth, you face it with courage, and adjust. The ego requires that when you see that fact, you collapse, feel terribly ashamed, and fail to make the adjustment; and fail to love, because you are too busy feeling bad about yourself. Or else, ego will require you to deny the errors you make, or become defensive. Either way, love will not be fulfilled.
Love will be fulfilled when you are willing to be honest. Yes, this is one of the first requirements for love: self-honesty. When you are self-honest it is because you hold something, or someone, as being more important than defending your bad habits or negative beliefs. When people are willing to look honestly at themselves it is almost always for love's sake.
So, you must look around you, at your beloved ones -- your friends, your family, whoever is most near to you -- and love them. Learn from them what you are doing that is unloving, either by asking them, or by paying attention to their responses to what you are doing. Learn to love them better. Commit yourselves to this task of loving, truly loving.
And also, look at those whom you do not consider your friends, and love them too, despite everything that causes you to feel distant from them, or angry or unhappy with them. Love them despite these things. See past their negative attributes and bad habits to the soul that they are, and love that soul, and pray for their release from the bad habits that have bothered you and hurt you for so long; for those bad habits have hurt them, too. Your love must prevail upon your hate. Prefer love over hatred.
Love is to see who people are, and who God is -- who God REALLY is, and who people REALLY are -- and to love them. Love is to see what everything really is, and to love everything, as it really is. And also, love is to see what people are going through, and to care, and to respond honestly, without letting self-protective or fearful feelings get in the way.
This is love: to transcend oneself for others. Love is to adjust for others. Love is to see others, and love them. And by means of true love, others feel less and less like others. You come to feel that every man and woman, and God, and the whole earth, is your own -- your own child, brother, sister. And then, further, you come to feel that these ARE you; part of your own body, your own soul. Your desires are not separate from those of God, or from the true heart's desires of others. When this comes to be, you will have found inner peace, and there will no longer be any need for struggle.
Sincere Love Can Accomplish Your Dreams.
Love is that type of emotion which is related to a sense of strong affection and attachment with someone or self. The word love can refer to different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure, as getting attracted to some specific meal due to taste or aroma, to intense interpersonal attraction as happens between wife and husband. This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states. Its definition changes from time to time in the different contexts.
We usually refer love to a deep, ineffable feeling of tenderly caring for another person. Even this limited conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and platonic love to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.
Love is an essential matter for the success of your emotional life. If you develop and nurture it properly, be sure you can add up more than 16 years to your life span. That is why it needs special consideration and for that you need to create conducive atmosphere to develop. How to build up and nurture love in your life, there is a simple story for those who mostly work on computers and forget the importance of this factor in their life which I am putting up as I read somewhere. One computer-savy wishes to install love in his life and asks for the guidance from technical support expert. What they discuss is for your information and kind consideration.
Customer: Do you give technical guidance?
Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?

Customer:
Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?
Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready, as long as you walk me through the steps. Tell me now, what do I do first?
Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?
Tech Support: Er… what programs are running, can you list them for me?

Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.
Tech Support: No problem, you can go right ahead. Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-esteem with a module of its own called High Self-esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Tell me, can you turn those off?

Customer: Umm… let me see. Actually, I don’t know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how? Please help.
Tech Support: With pleasure. It’s really quite simple. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, done! Wow, Love has started i9nstalling itself. Is that normal?
Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. It’s quite basic. You need to begin connecting to other Hears in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, ‘Error – Program not run on external components.’ What should I do now?
Tech Support: Don’t worry, relax. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer: So, what should I do?
Tech Support: Pull down Self-acceptance; then click in the following files: Forgive Self; Realize Your Worth; and acknowledge Your Limitations.

Customer: Okay, done. That wasn’t too difficult.
Tech Support: Now, copy them to the ‘My Heart’ directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also you need to delete Verbose Self-criticism from all directories and empty you Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.
This way, I would like to emphasize over the need of making love with yourself. I use the word “making” because for others, we forget ourselves. That is why we may have to make extra efforts to love ourselves. Our true nature is love itself. This is the only kind of love that is real and everlasting. This love cannot be damaged, altered, threatened or changed in any way. It pours out of us naturally when our mind is calm and at ease, and it opens our heart to the God, flooding our body with absolute elation. 
Every day that we choose to do those gentle and kind things to ourself, those things that bring deep peace into our heart (such as watching a beautiful sunset, walking slowly in nature, or holding a sleeping baby) we can feel this sweet divine love so easily. This love wants to move through us. It yearns to course through our veins like an eternal fountain of life.  Rejuvenating every cell and molecule throughout our system, this love brings pure healing into us on the deepest levels.
We can invoke this love right now by turning inside and asking ourself, "where is the source of love"?  Look with gentle eyes, a childlike innocence and a permeating curiosity.  Very soon we will experience a warm feeling opening from inside.  It is amazing how this secret love is always permanently inside us, yet is often hidden behind the ego walls and the busy ambitious mind.  To break down these walls and reveal the true source of love we must engage in a process of peeling back the layers of limiting beliefs within us.  It’s those beliefs that say this type of crazy wild ecstatic love is impossible to have and is something we have to do something to experience right now.  The truth is we need to do nothing but relax deeply inside and it will spring forth.  This love is always here now, forever inside us, and no matter what inhibitions and insecurities pass through our mind. No matter how depressed, suicidal or down in the dumpsters we feel, this sacred feeling is available and will bless us by instantly wiping all our worried problems away.
Here's a simple exercise that will invoke this divine love to come forth.  We may gently bring our attention to the area of our heart and imagine the most beautiful flower is there, and its opening its petals to the warm sunshine above.  The feeling we receive is what opens the door to accessing the infinite source of love.  Just how it sounds, this eternal source of love is no small matter, it is the most amazing thing in this Universe so we must respect it as that.  It is what brings purpose to our life and healing to all those wounds we carry inside.  It’s like a constantly pulsing Sun inside us, radiating warmth and gratitude in every direction.  It shines upon everything we see, touch and sense, and does not discriminate at all what it shines upon.  It radiates unconditional acceptance, giving compassion and understanding to the darkest most demonic energies we know of, which are in the deepest need of finding this infinite source of light inside.
One of the most sacred secrets I've found to remaining in the source of love is learning how to consistently reside in the soul of our heart.  What this means in living from a heart centered life that is timeless, formless, always expansive, positive, and spacious.  To find it takes something very real and radical.  We must continuously abandon all concepts, judgments and ideas of ourself.  We must drop who we are and who we are not, and give all these ideas back to God.  In the absence of these ideas we are left with an emptiness that is so pure and fertile that only the most sacred experience in the Universe can be born.  Letting go of our identity seems like a huge scary sacrifice at first, yet the reward we may receive is so enormous that it will take our life far beyond anything we once believed was possible. For it is at the very core of this empty vacuum of identity that we will find the purest source of love, the eternal being who we truly are. 
No matter what is happening in our life we can detach, retreat and discover this divine home inside us. This sacred spiritual nest is more easily found when we commit yourself to places and people that make we feel quiet, calm and peaceful inside. The people who hold this vibration will take us there naturally, just by hanging out with them.  Their commitment to abiding in this healing vibration is contagious.  As they talk, walk and breathe in this healing source themselves, we can feel their connection and naturally mimic this love alignment within ourselves.  The more surrendered, peaceful and still a person is, the more love they will be naturally radiating.  We are all here to help each other ascend to higher levels of consciousness through love.  In this process you'll find the depth of your trust and surrender is equal to your level of devotion to yourself. 
In practical terms looking at our own life, how willing are we to let go of our old patterns and excuses and give these up to experience real love?  How are we hiding our bright light from the world?  What excuses do we have for not fully living our life purpose and doing what we really want to be doing with our time here?  All this hiding is a form of lying and is completely dis-empowering.  Even the little white lies that we may tell others and ourselves, these keep us small, stuck and feeling stale.  We have to acknowledge what lies we are telling (ask our friends for feedback) and then summon the courage to let them go. We may replace any lie we find with the truth, the real and most radical truth we can find.  From this place we become free and can truly ride with reckless abandon on this wild eternal journey into the heart of love. 
No matter what happens in our life, we may remember this one thing.  This sacred source of love is always here, inside us right now and this will never ever change.  This love inside us can never die, and it won't even change with the different situations, careers, or relationships that come and go through our life.  If our heart still hurts from losses in our past, we may bring these feelings and memories of loss into the heart of love.  This infinite source of love will readily accept them and transform them with its bright unconditional light.  Yes, the Sun is always there shining its love on us even when it’s a dark cloudy day. We may remember this, and look inside our very heart for the source of love.  It is always here now, ready for us to experience it all the time.
Be Happy – Love Yourself.

Sunday, June 17, 2012

Be Happy – Celebrate Father’s Day.

Every father toils hard to provide for his family. He makes sure that all the expenses and requirements of each member of his family are met satisfactorily. You know! In the course of his struggle to put smiles on your face, he makes sacrifices in his own inimitable ways.
Although all the love and care which a father showers upon his children is difficult to be reciprocated, some recognition was required and that is why we celebrate every third Sunday of June as Father’s day. Surely, when kids grow into adulthood, they realize how many sacrifices their fathers had made to raise them. Some persons learn it when they become fathers of their progeny, themselves.
How would you celebrate? You may gift him anything which may be of his personal use and he is not getting perhaps due to some other pressing needs of the family. You can accomplish some task which might have been assigned by him to you some time ago and you could not complete it then. You can express your thankfulness for the affection you have been getting since your birth. One thing, you can do very easily if you are living in joint family. Instead of gifting him something, you can keep care of his health by providing him nutrients.
You can Give 900 milligrams of DHA omega-3s a day to your father.
Our brain is 60% fat -- and half of that is DHA, which keeps the brain cells flexible, fluid, and communicating well. DHA also fights memory loss. Our body can't make DHA, so we have to get it from food and supplements. We get our DHA from algae-based capsules - not fish oil - to limit concerns about toxins in fish. You may opt for fresh or canned salmon, canned tuna, trout, sardines, walnuts, avocadoes, canola oil, and flaxseeds. Along with olive oil, these memory protectors are the only fats you should even think about providing him for eating.
You Can give him oodles of fruits and vegetables. Their nutrients are vital brain food. Provide him with 1,000 international units (IU) of vitamin D3 a day and 1,200 IU after age 60. Vitamin D3 helps blood flow to his brain, among many other benefits.
You Can Provide Season foods with turmeric. Most yellow mustard has turmeric. A daily teaspoon may help clear cellular waste from his brain. Why are we beating this drum again? Impressive new research just reinforced their importance -- especially of fruits, vegetables, and DHA -- as a secret sauce against the brain shrinkage seen in Alzheimer's disease.
Simply, you may ask your mom or wife to care that his meals are supplemented with some of the following items.
1.      Apples:
An apple a day keeps the doctor away: a very clichéd saying but very true. Phytochemicals, present in apples, act as an anti-inflammatory and also prevent the blood from clotting. It is also high on fibers and vitamins. An apple also makes the perfect snack for someone who is always on the go. Plus it is available in different varieties, so your father might not get bored of it soon. Add a few chopped pieces of apple in his Greek salad making it healthier.
2.      Almonds:
You might have been avoiding giving nuts to your father for the oil they contain. If yes, then bring it back to his plate because this oil is actually healthy for his heart. The Vitamin E that almonds contain helps in keeping his cholesterol level under control. Like apples, almonds are also high on fiber and Vitamin content. Again a perfect 5 PM snack. Add to his heart's health by serving him 4–5 soaked almonds each morning with his breakfast.
3.      Soy:
Soy is not a very tasty option but it's really good for his heart. Soy protein can prevent him from having a stroke. It is also a great replacement for the red meat that you've been trying to cut on for him. This will help in reducing the intake of saturated fats. Add a few chunks of soy to his rice or stir fry it with the veggies. You can also use soy milk as a substitute for regular milk, for making milk shakes and with his morning cereal.
4.      Berries:
Strawberries, cranberries, blueberries, mulberry, huckleberry, gooseberry and all the other berries are a pack load of vitamin C. With so many flavors your father can possibly never get bored of eating berries. Apart from vitamin C they also contain calcium and beta-carotene. These fibrous fruits are perfect with breakfast oats or with yogurt. Out of all these berries blueberry has the most nutrients that will keep his heart healthy.
5.      Salmon:
His heart will love him for the fresh salmon. Fish contains omega-3 fatty acids. This will help his blood from clotting. It is suggested that he should be given fish (sea food) at least twice a week for a healthy heart. Opt for grilled fish and avoid spicy seasoning. You can also add a dash of lime to it for an excellent flavor and add it to his green salad.
6.      Tomatoes:
Tomatoes contain lycopene (a phytochemical) that is known to lower cholesterol, cut risk of colorectal cancer and heart disease. Studies show that men who regularly eat food rich in lycopene have lesser chances of developing prostate cancer and heart disease. He might want to start enjoying tomato sauce as it has more lycopene. Cooked tomato works much better on his body that raw ones. So start adding it to his vegetables and salads. Tomato is also known to improve memory and other signs of aging.
Green leafy vegetables and olive oil are vital for maintaining a healthy heart. One serving of leafy greens a day can be key to preventing heart disease. So add them in plenty to his daily diet!
7.      Whole Grain:
Starting the day with whole-grain cereal may lower the risk of heart failure in the long run, as whole grains protect against coronary heart disease.
8.      Oats:
Start his day with a bowl of oats! Oats are full of fiber, omega-3 fatty acids, foliate, and potassium, and can help lower cholesterol levels and keep arteries clear.
9.      Brown rice:
It may be a better choice over white because it has an ingredient that protects against high blood pressure and atherosclerosis. It is also a good source of fiber and helps lower cholesterol levels in the body.
10. Red Wine:
You may ditch his beer and whiskey and serve wine to him. Antioxidants in red wine called polyphenols may help protect the lining of blood vessels in your heart.
The above suggestions are made just to keep in mind that if your father keeps his health well, you will continue to have his blessings which are necessary for your happiness.

Be Happy – Celebrate Father’s Day.

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Be Happy – The Body Language Can Express Your Love.

It is the body language through which a person shows the affection to another person without telling him or her and one can know that he or she is indeed attracted. One's body language is an obvious way of telling someone how he feels and what he wants to say. Your eyes, facial expressions, and body movements can truly express that you want to engage in a romantic or intimate relationship with another person.

What The Eyes Could Say

The eyes are strong indicators of romance and attraction. They can express, flirt, and even seduce much better than words. Eye contact may not mean anything if it only happens briefly. But once it lasts longer and with an intense look, he or she is definitely into you. Winking will also work, but it does require right timing. Another strong evidence of attraction is when one would catch your eye, then look away, then back at you again. But, if he or she would look away and never look back again, it is a clear sign that he or she is not interested.

Smile And Facial Expressions

The smile is one of the greatest sign that he or she likes you. It means that he is truly interested, comfortable, and enjoying. But make sure you know how to determine a forced smile from a sincere one. Raising the eyebrows, although unconsciously done, has also been observed to be done by people flirting with each other.

Magic Of Touch

Sometimes, leaning towards another is just not enough. Closing the distance is much better. A light tap or stroking of the arm could send electric signals to another person. Most of people would pretend that there is a smudge on the face or lint on the clothes just to have a reason to touch.

Difference Of Men And Women

Compared to men, women can send signals of attraction five times stronger. They have more flirting habits than men and most of them are done intentionally. They love to preen, play with their hair, tossing the hair over the shoulder, and play something with their hands such as a wine glass. Most women are also quite good in seduction and teasing men, especially when they involve their lips. Biting and licking their lips, putting on lipstick, eating or drinking slowly are the usual moves of an interested woman.

Meanwhile, men usually try to appear masculine to show their prowess to the women they like by giving them a look at their full length. They would try to stand taller, square their shoulders, and sometimes hook their thumbs into the belt for that macho aura. They also unconsciously touch their ties or collar, and this means they find you irresistible.

Signals Of An Invitation

You would determine if a person likes you if he or she would give the following signs: prolonged aye contact, raising of eyebrows, smiling back, laughing with you, leaning, closing the distance, imitation of actions of the partner, touching, preening, and the like. If you received these signs, it means there is a big possibility that you could take your interaction to a higher level.

Signs Indicating “No!”

A person is most likely not interested when he or she never glances back at you. You can also determine that person is starting to get bored or uninterested in you when his or her eyes start to wander, sigh, yawn, have a passive or neutral facial expression, and the like.

The signals of body language in terms of romance and attraction are easy to detect if you know how to interpret one's actions. Understanding gestures and body movements of another person can definitely help you know in advance if you can be intimate together or be rejected.

Body Language: Signs Of Falling In Love

How can you tell that a person is already falling in love with you? A person's body language can spell out his or her true feelings and intentions for you. A person in love has that certain glow every time he or she is with that special person, but what are the other signs?

You will notice that a person is already falling for you if he can't stand being far from you, gives more smiles and laughter, mirror your actions, cannot keep his eyes off you, and have that certain glow.

Personal Space And Distance

A person in love with you would look for several ways just to be closer to you. You will know that a person's personal space has gotten smaller when he or she gets comfortable with you even in the slightest distance. And notice if in a room full of people, he will always try to stay close to you.

That person would also tend to lean his body towards you, whether when sitting down or standing up. The direction of his or her body would be always turned towards you. If not, then the direction of her eyes will show who is in her mind.

More Touch, Smiles, And Laughter

A person who is starting to fall for you would listen to you more, thus would give more reactions than he or she did during your first dates. There would be more laughter even for the cheesiest jokes. While talking, one will find in inevitable from smiling, especially during silence. This is because that person is truly enjoying his or her time with you.

He or she would also touch you from time to time. A tap on the shoulder, placing the hand on the small of the back, hugging, and holding the hands are some of the most common touching body language in falling in love.

The Mirroring Actions

This is a funny yet very sweet signal of attraction since it is done unconsciously most of the time. This is where a person would imitate the actions of that special person. For example, you will prop your chin onto your hand, the person in love with you will follow that specific action.

The Longer Stare

A person in love with you simply cannot take his eyes off you. Most especially when the feeling has just begun to develop, he or she would find difficulty in concentrating on other things. The stare is usually intimate or intense, and it is accompanied with a slight smile.

That Certain Glow

Somehow unexplainable, a person has a certain aura around him or her when he or she is in love and happy. It is due to the extreme happiness and joy coming from the inside, and this is well-reflected with a sparkle in the eyes and a smile that is hard to remove from the face.

When a person falls in love, it changes him entirely and this is reflected in his or her body language. Some people fail to notice this, but these signs are definitely there. The person himself is even unaware that he is already providing hints and clues about his true feelings for that special someone. Most people find them hard to miss, and would love these signals of deep attraction sent through the silence but delivered by simple romantic actions and gestures.

Be Happy – The Body Language Can Express Your Love.