Be Happy – Improve your personality to achieve your love

A youth may dream to have a companion in the ventures to take up, to live life lovingly and for many other aims. In process of accomplishing the dream, the personality of the aspiring person plays a great role.

The personality of an individual depends upon the traits pursued. Personality traits are enduring patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that characterize an individual and make them unique. Love affairs, on the other hand, refer to romantic relationships or passionate experiences between two people.

Personality traits can influence the way individuals approach and experience love affairs. For example, someone who is extroverted may be more likely to seek out new romantic partners and enjoy social activities with their partner, while someone introverted may prefer more quiet and intimate moments with their partner.

Other personality traits such as openness, agreeableness, conscientiousness, and neuroticism can also impact the way individuals approach love affairs. For example, someone who is highly open to new experiences may be more likely to experiment with different types of relationships, while someone who is highly conscientious may prioritize stability and commitment in their relationships.

It is important to note that personality traits are just one factor that can impact love affairs, and that individual experiences and circumstances can also play a significant role. Additionally, while personality traits can help understand how individuals approach love affairs, they should not be used to stereotype or judge others.

Personality traits refer to the distinguishing characteristics and qualities that make you a unique individual, and are often developed throughout your life and tend to remain consistent across various situations and circumstances.

Every self-conscious person places significant value on personality traits because they can provide insight into how you might interact with others. Personality traits can also serve as indicators of how you may respond to different situations and pressures that you might encounter throughout your life.

Personality is built upon traits, which are relatively stable patterns of thinking and behaviour that allow us to describe, compare, and contrast individuals. A trait can be broad, like someone's general disposition towards others, or more specific, like their level of trust in others, which are called "facets" of personality. It's important to note that personality traits are distinct from mental abilities, like intelligence, which are assessed through problem-solving and questioning.

Your personality traits can predict your romantic life, but some traits are more strongly linked to success than others. For instance, people who score high in neuroticism may find it difficult to maintain relationships and may take longer to recover after a breakup. On the other hand, people who score high in consciousness and agreeableness tend to have more success in relationships.

Psychologists have developed various methods for defining and organizing personality traits. Traits are often grouped based on broad personality factors. However, personality may have a preference for a certain trait. Some traits are examined by psychologists deeply. Their theory suggests that while individuals a combination of the following traits:

1.      Openness

It refers to your level of adventurousness, curiosity, and willingness to experience new things. Highly open-minded individuals tend to have a diverse range of interests. On the other hand, those who are less open may prefer consistency and familiarity.

2.      Conscientiousness

It measures your level of efficiency. People who score higher in conscientiousness are typically task-oriented and detail-oriented. Conversely, those who are less conscientious may be more prone to distraction and may attend better under pressure or in a more spontaneous environment. Your dressing sense also plays a greater role. How you keep yourself can be an important attraction point.

3.      Extroversion

It is a personality trait that pertains to one's level of outgoingness and energy. Individuals who score high on this trait are typically assertive, sociable, and enjoy being around others. On the other hand, individuals who score low on extroversion may prefer solitary activities and alone time and require fewer social interactions to feel fulfilled. Being a good listener is another prime way to attract women. You could say this is the most overlooked aspect of attracting women. Far too often, men will try to chatter their way to impress women.

4.      Agreeableness

In case you wish to strengthen your level of friendliness, compassion, and love, you should be cooperative and courteous, while those with lower agreeableness may prioritize critical thinking and rationality.

5.      Neuroticism

It refers to a personality trait that reflects a person's emotional sensitivity and tendency towards worry and mood swings. Often described in contrast to the trait of emotional stability, people high in neuroticism are more likely to experience negative emotions, while those lower on the spectrum tend to be less emotionally reactive and more self-assured.

6.      Integrity

In your love affairs, you need to be honest and committed to the words and promises you make. It contributes to building a positive reputation and trust. In addition, displaying integrity can establish you as a trustworthy individual who strives to lead a happy life in any given situation.

7.      Punctuality

It is the basic quality of building trust with one all to keep time whenever it is committed to being present or doing the task if entrusted.  It is a valued trait as all other operations and activities depend on punctuality.

8.      Flexibility

You must be flexible to adapt to changes according to the circumstances beyond your control. If you are rigid in your perception, it can hurt others.

Be Happy – Improve your personality to achieve your love.

नकारात्मक सोच Negative Thoughts

 

शीत ऋतु की संध्या में यह जलती हुई लकड़ियों पर हाथ तापना किसे अच्छा नहीं लगता! कितने पहर बीत जाते हैं इन लकड़ियों को चटकाते, घुमाते, पता ही नहीं चलता। यह लकड़ियां पहले जलती हैं और फिर हमें ताप देती हैं और अन्त में राख बन जाती हैं। जरा सोचिए, यह अग्नि उत्पन्न कहां सी होती है। उत्तर है इन लकड़ियों में से। फिर बताइये, यह राख कहां से उत्पन्न होती है। उत्तर वही है, उन्हीं लकड़ियों में से। अब अग्नि और राख - दोनों लकड़ियों से उत्पन्न होती है। जरा सोचिए कि अग्नि, जो इन लकड़ियों को जलाती है और राख वोह जो इस अग्नि को बुझा देती है तो कुछ समझिए कि आपकी ऊर्जा आपके शरीर से उत्पन्न होती है और नकारात्मकता रुपी राख भी आपके भीतर से ही उत्पन्न होती है। आप सोचिए, क्या आप अपने भीतर के प्रकाश को जगा कर इस संसार को प्रकाशित करना चाहते हैं या अपने भीतर की नकारत्मकता को जगा कर इस संसार में अन्धकार फैलाना चाहते हैं?

हर सपने को अपनी सांसों में रखो, हर मंजिल को अपनी बांहों में रखो

हर चीज़ आपकी ही है, बस अपने लक्ष्य को अपनी निगाहों में ही रखो।

Love Your Job, You Will Get Success.

Love your job or love what you do. We must love our job like children love any job they undertake. When they play, they play with all the love at their command. Whatever we may do, if we do the same with love, we will get success definitely. We need to work hard and if we fix up our goals before embarking upon any task, success is bound to follow. Goals are our dreams with deadlines. If you choose a goal and stick to that, that would change everything and you will achieve the success you dream for. If you want to reach a distant goal, you must take small steps instead of sitting idle.

We all understand well that focus and determination play significant roles in success. If we look at any top athlete or businessman, painter, politician, any successful individual – a movie star, musician or any other celebrity, we will find that they succeed because they focus on their task, they love their job, they love what they do. For our success, we need to identify our goals and then let nothing distract us from achieving it. Any distraction can lead to dissipate our energy and attention.

Here, we must ignore “Luck” factor in our psychological manoeuvrability while working for our goals fixed. What is luck? It is only as relevant or irrelevant as we make it. Whenever a gamble plans to gamble, he swears by the same. But we are not gambler. We need to achieve our task, the task defined by our goals. Luck is nothing but a convenient excuse, an alibi or a crutch for those who fail or who do not love to work sincerely but await for the results without putting in the hard labour the task warrants for. What we make of our life is entirely in our own hands. Luck is what happens to others. It is just a consolation for the losers.

It is true that you can not win all the time. Somebody in your opposition may have put in better efforts. We can learn from our failures and try to do better next time. If we compete fairly, it shall be our greatest challenge and we need to accept it even if somebody criticises our efforts/steps. Criticism must be considered as a part and parcel of our success. We need to live with it and learn about our wrongs. It is also true that an average human being does not accept criticism of any kind very easily. We need to work above what an average human being does. We must take seriously every criticism and examine the same just to improve ourselves. Dealing with criticism in a mature way makes one a stronger person.

Appreciation is the oxygen that nurtures the creative instinct. You must apply it with your team members as and when required but we must not take it as narcotic for ourselves as if we do not get appreciation, we may get nervous. Instead, we must remain attuned to our work and in course of time, we too will get appreciation. It is possible only when we love our job.

Be Happy – Transcend Your Poverty Consciousness Forever.

We know that everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence. After every night, there is a day. At the end of a tunnel, you usually find a ray of light. If for some reason, you find yourself to be in mid of many troubles, that does not mean that those troubles will remain always there. Sometime, troubles make you aware of the circumstances why they have come about, if they are there in result of your wrong decisions and/or you have mismatched your resources with your targets.

Similarly, poverty is a choice that we make everyday without our active knowledge.  It's the choice to be uncreative, feel limited in resources, thinking inside the box, smaller than life, deeply powerless, incapable of receiving love, and not believing that anything is possible.  Poverty thinking is a disease and an unconscious choice that is based in the ignorance of our true power.  This unawareness is the one deciding factor as to whether someone continues to remain broke and struggling for another year, or starts to shift their energy into receiving a new source of income next week.

The moment you choose to believe in any poverty based thought, you start thinking more small, limited and negative thoughts about life.  It has a snowball affect to it, where you begin to attract more limiting thoughts based in that misunderstanding.  When negative thinking becomes your habit, you begin to invent thoughts that support your old poverty minded thoughts.  The repetitive cycle of poverty thinking is a social disease that festers and feeds upon itself. 

Every time we identify with the poverty mindset in other person who thinks there is "not enough", we slowly inherit and mirror their disease.  By accepting the limiting beliefs of others, we forget our original abundant nature, and stop realizing who we really are, are all-powerful beings.  The moment we can understand the foundational lie that poverty is based upon, and take full responsibility for the suffering we are creating through our choices, then we can begin choosing a new path and acting from a new mindset to create a new world.

It's good to know that poverty thinking is not our original nature. Our real inherent nature has no boundaries or limitations on what is possible and what isn't. This original abundant mind is something we were born with, and is rooted in knowing that we are all absolutely loved, free and totally abundant.  Poverty consciousness is a limiting mindset that was inherited by your community in order to be accepted, fit in, and welcomed into the social norm. We often would rather be accepted by others than seen as an outcast who is believing they are bigger, better and richer.  If your friends, family and community never had any poverty thoughts on any level, you wouldn't have it either.  You would only know how to be creative in ways where you'd think anything is possible, and know deep down that abundance was your birthright.

When I connect with people who are struggling financially, I always find there is one thing they have in common. They all continuously choose to support their old limiting thoughts and negative beliefs around money.  Rather than actually doing something radically different and exciting to move through them, people live and hide underneath their excuses.  They become cowards to discovering their real power, hiding behind their pride, rather than revealing and healing their feelings of fear, self-judgment and financial intolerance. Each time their mind unconsciously creates this pattern of choosing a desperate needy response to life.  The habit becomes so natural that they have to something very radical to alleviate this perpetual addictive state of financial frustration.  They have to accept the fact that they are following their old excuses, and now choosing to live a life that is continuously moving through the fear.

Remember, the impoverished mindset is one that continuously resists fear, controlling the emotions and creating distractions so they do not have to feel their fear.  This type of controlling energy tends to say NO to life, denying new ideas, opportunities and people.  It abides in a feeling there is never enough to go around, and we must compete, suck it up, and live a life of compromise if we are to survive.  It thinks you must stick to doing your duty, live in obligations, always work hard, struggle to survive, and not think too big just so we don't upset others.  It's in this very uncreative approach to life that people escape from their true power and get to be irresponsible for their real life purpose which is to know themselves. 

Poverty thinking is the one disease that can completely destroy the great potential of love and joy your life contains.  People continue choosing to play small, helpless, lazy, abandoned, unloved and unwanted because there's nothing they can do about it and it is their "destiny".  It's actually a very selfish self absorbed way to live, never considering how to help out others, and thinking only of yourself and how your desires, wants and needs are not quite fully met.  Poverty consciousness is perhaps the most unconscious, self destructive and addictive pattern that people have which will ruin their chances at enjoying their life. 

The poverty mindset can be brilliant in the way that it will rationalize things, thinking that by consuming fewer resources we are thus helping the world out and saving our planet.  By spending less money we become wealthier and less dependant on money or the world for our survival.  Of course, there is a grain of truth in everything, and the best path is to create a world of total sustainability within a conscious loving lifestyle.  Yet the intention of holding back out of fear and not fully honoring your true power is the greatest loss of all.  If you're constantly holding tight onto money, you're creating struggle and strive within yourself and always feeling that you don't have enough.  This manifests in many forms, one will show up as your inability to contribute your full unlimited unbounded joy into your community. You cannot show up for a wild free abundant loving life purpose if you are holding tight onto anything and living in fear on any level. 

The feeling of being poor is so terrifying for some people that every thought and action becomes about avoiding that experience. Many people in this world choose to become insanely rich based out of their deepest fear of being broke.  This avoidance however morphs into another type of poverty consciousness, as it never allows the mind to relax and rest into its divine original nature.  Any type of non-relaxed fear based thinking is going to have a feeling of poverty connected to it on some level.  Be aware that poverty consciousness is a very sneaky beast and it can show up in your life in a large variety of forms.  It may be as obvious as feeling you don't have enough money to pay your rent each month, the paranoia that someone may rip you off, the idea that there is only one soul mate in the world for you, or the idea that you have to eat everything on your dinner plate, even if you are not hungry.  Just know that if any thought is formed out of fear, it is based in some level of poverty thinking.

The first step to transcending poverty consciousness is to find out exactly where it is showing up in your life and in your thinking.  It is only through the awareness of these negative thoughts that you can liberate your mind from repeating them.  The moment a limiting thought flows through the brain you must step back from it, see it from a distance, and don't emotionally buy into the story that accompanies it.  When you are able to identify exactly where, when and how you emotionally fall into your poverty stricken belief system, then you have a chance at moving beyond it.   Yet, you must keep a very close watchful eye on poverty thinking if you're ever going to get beyond it.  When you can see how you justify being stuck, poor, or happily struggling then you'll be able to find a way to invent a new story about how good it feels to no longer live in a world filled with excuses. 

People often tell themselves that its easier to remain stuck in just having enough to survive, than to own up to the fact that they are a super powerful manifesting being who can have anything they desire.  If they owned that empowering thought, it would either mean their whole life was some sort of failure or they were a completely stupid and ignorant person.  So people make up all sorts of wonderful "feel good" stories about their poverty, saying that it is more holy to be poor, or its not ok to take "too much" and this takes up their energy for remembering we have an infinite supply of creativity, love, energy and consciousness available.  These are the ingredients which actually create money! 

 Living in poverty consciousness is living a lie, based in deep denial to knowing the magical manifesting potential energy inside you.  The consequences for continuing to believe in such a deep misunderstanding are the experiences of struggle, pain, desperation, and lack.  The more money you feel you don't have the more busy you become to fulfill this need.  Poverty thinking creates an energetic distraction from knowing your intimate connection with the source. The mind is obsessed with being right, and for it to admit how its choosing each day to remain stuck manifesting more poverty stricken situations, would completely destroy it.

No matter how rich or poor you are (even if you're a gazillionaire) the ego/mind will be addicted to wanting more.  It will always tell you that you need more and no matter how hard you try, you can never completely satisfy the demanding desiring ego. Its purpose is wanting, wanting, wanting and wanting more wanting!  This incessant wanting creates the feeling of poverty.  So it is important to remember that our ego is not designed to know what true satisfaction is, this is the purpose of the soul and discovering your spiritual nature.  The mind doesn't have the time to be curious about this divinity inside you.  It wants you to believe it is a lie, and that you need more stuff if you ever want to be happy. This lie that more things equals a better life is very deep, and if accepted over time it may cause you to lose sight of your source of true happiness, which is in your life purpose and spiritual nature.

To completely break away from poverty consciousness you simply have to commit your life to a new way of being.  You have to totally retrain your brain to believe that anything is possible.   Perhaps the most hidden secret to transcending poverty consciousness is also the most powerful one which is this.  Ultimately, when we can truly relax into the core of our worst feelings of poverty, the peace found in that relaxation contains an unstoppable resource of abundance, love, healing and creativity inside it.  It is only through facing our fear that we can be released from it.  What happens this is we find a state of total emptiness inside that also contains our greatest fullness.  We do nothing and merge with everything. 

It comes down to dropping out of the head and into our heart, that we finally relax, and discover the natural state of abundance inside.  The heart contains the greatest freedom that is truly freeing and life enriching.  The feeling of great abundance naturally comes when you live from the heart and abide in feelings of gratitude that are already there. Check it out and see for yourself!  Imagine what would your week be like if you lived from your heart, and only practiced gratitude for the life you already have?  It is first through accepting the idea that you are enough that can later manifest into the experience of having enough.  If you're thinking for one minute about what you don't have, it means you've missed 60 seconds of feeling loved, rich, and abundant about what you do have.

Poverty thinking is a cheap way of getting scraps of love, which ultimately end up costing everyone in the end. It can be very enticing to stay in as other people around you don't want to leave their habits, and thus will give you tons of extra sympathy when you're broke and struggling in the dirt with them. It is all about believing in the lie that you are not an all powerful manifesting being that creates all suffering.  This lie is the greatest sin one can ever make.  It is the original missed mark of mankind, and is causing you to miss out on the deep source of joy that is at the core of your being. You need to revamp your attitude and mould it towards becoming a rich person as to how you would deal with yourself, others and judicious treatment of your resources without being jealous with other’s progress. You need to learn how the other one got success while you had the same set of circumstances around you. If you lack something, you must try to gain that and you will transcend your poverty consciousness soon.

Be Happy – Transcend Your  Poverty Consciousness Forever.  

Be Happy – We Need To Change Our Attitude.

It is human psychology that we prefer pleasures. But it is a known fact that almost every pleasure seeks some sacrifice unless that is bestowed upon us by some divine power. When we find ourselves in chilling winter, we hear, “It's Freezing! When will it be summer?" To our children, we try to explain that winter is just one of our seasons, and soon enough summer will arrive. They may not get convinced easily and perhaps may add, “But it is freezing cold. There's snow and ice everywhere. We can't even go out to play it is so cold." Since we know their innocence and our duty to quench their curiosity, some time we have to say, "We just have to enjoy the cold and wait for summer. It will get better." They may not understand that they have to go through winter and spring before summer arrives. They just knew it was cold and thought it would be that way forever.

They don't realize that it will get better, it will get warmer and they will get to play in the park again. They just know today is cold, yesterday was cold and for a while they haven't been able to play on the monkey bars in the park. And they want to know why it isn't summer. We all want things to get better now. You want certain things to get better in your life right now and you can get what you want. If things aren't going the way you want think of it as your winter period. It will get better, it won't stay this way forever, but first you have to create the changes you want.

During winter, it seems like nothing is growing or improving. But deep underground, the roots of trees, plants and grass are all getting their nourishment, and storing what they need to sprout in spring. And just like nature is constantly at work, you're always feeding your subconscious mind. You're either giving it the nourishment and information it needs to make your life better, or you're giving it the wrong information, the kind that makes your life harder.

If you want to enjoy greater success, if you want to make more money, meet the right person, get a better job, make the right choices, then you have to give your subconscious the right information. You have to feed your subconscious mind and inner powers the nourishment they need to bring you what you want. Just like mother nature is always at work, always giving us what we need at the right time, your subconscious and inner power are also constantly at work. Your subconscious and inner powers are always creating and shaping your life. You don't see them actively doing this. They just work quietly in the background. They create and shape your life based on what you feed them and how you direct them.

If you wanted to have a beautiful looking lawn, flower or vegetable garden you would have to take care of them. You'd have to give them the right combination of  food, seeds, water, and nourishment. You'd also have to spend plenty of time removing the weeds, and getting rid of any unwanted plants that could destroy your garden. This all takes time and requires patience. But with the right techniques and by doing the right combination of things you'll see the payoff within a few short months. You may not be a gardener, you may not even have a garden, and you may never want one. But you do have a mind, a subconscious mind and you  have your inner powers. You need to feed them the right information (food), nourish them and constantly give them the right direction (like water to a garden). Then you have to be patient, continue working, continue applying the right techniques and continue doing the right combination of things.

When you will continue to hammer upon something, one day you'll see the payoff. It all requires practice and discipline. So today think about what you want in a few short months. Now begin directing your subconscious mind and your inner powers by giving them the right information and the right directions so that you get what you want in those few short months You know, Nature is very powerful.  It can be very kind or it can be very destructive. Your subconscious is also very powerful. It can be very kind or it can make your life very difficult. While you can't control nature, you can control and direct your subconscious mind. This gives you tremendous power. Your subconscious and inner powers create your life based on your thoughts, beliefs and attitudes. When you have a garden filled with weeds you have to remove those weeds or they'll choke off all the wonderful plants, flowers and grass in your beautiful garden. If you take too long to remove them, they get stronger and they get harder to remove.

Negative thoughts, negative beliefs and a negative attitude are the weeds of the mind. If you don't remove them they'll choke off and destroy all that is good in your life. The longer they stay in place the harder they are to remove. But you can get rid of them. You can remove them. No matter how long those negative thoughts, negative beliefs, and negative attitudes have been on your subconscious mind you can get rid of them. The sooner you start the better. And you get rid of them by thinking about what you want and giving your subconscious mind new instructions, new thoughts, and new beliefs all of which lead to a new attitude.

Once those new thoughts and beliefs are planted on your subconscious you'll begin to see dramatic changes. Like spring, it will be a new beginning and a new awakening. You have the power to create and change your life. You have the power to get exactly what you want in life.That power is your subconscious mind. If you're not getting what you want, If you're not making enough money, If you're not in the right relationship, If you can't meet the right people, If things just aren't going the way you want. It means that you're not giving your subconscious mind 

the right information and you're not giving it  the right nourishment. You also have too many weeds on your subconscious and you need to get rid of those weeds today. 

You need to start using your power, begin creating exactly what you want, get your subconscious and your inner powers working for you today and get rid of the weeds that are destroying your life. How? It is quite simple. This can be done by you very easily.

You may ascertain your targets, identify your resources, chalk out your time-bound programme to achieve it, start working on it and continue till you achieve your targets without relaxing even for a minute.

Today in the era of global economical liberation, we find that at one hand, we are seeing growing needs and fatty pockets and on the other hand, we see recession and deaths due to unemployment etc. A great imbalance! Some countries have sufficient resources of raw materials but they do not have skills to exploit them to their benefits. Some other countries good market but lack infrastructure to move further.

All this is due to lack of proper management. Some time it happens due to the attitude of those who are supposed to manage them. Somewhere it is due to the working of the politicians who make and/or modify the laws to suit their specific needs. Somewhere, the bureaucrats are there to interpret the laws to meet their corrupt working. Sometime, some judicial officers work with a prior mind set-up. Not only these pillars of the democracy, sometime media, generally in private sector, also create hype in respect of a particular story as they might be doing in form of paid agents. The government media persons tell what the Government needs to be highlighted and sometime, the truth gets hidden.

In the global liberation created by fast moving communication and transport systems, we need to change our attitude to adjust with the new equations and try to reduce the opportunities of corruption in our practice. Once we do, we can ask other one to follow the same practice. If that one does not change, we can take the shelter of law to enforce our rights. But we need to perform our duties first. We need to change our attitude first, then to seek happiness for ourselves and others too.

Be Happy – We Need To Change Our Attitude.

Be Happy – Your Proper Body Language Can Do Wonders.

Sometimes unspoken actions that you do can tell a lot about you. Even, if you are doing them consciously or not. During your internship interview, you will have a face-to-face encounter with people who are already professionals in doing what they do best: assessing, criticizing and observing want to be interns like you.

If the situation is set to be like this, then you should now be aware that your body language plays quite an important role during your internship interview. This is because it can give away a lot regarding your personality. It is one way how most employers assess their interviewees. That is why you should be aware of your body language during an interview.

Body language can truly speak louder than words. Different body parts – eyes, hands, arms, legs – can be used in different gestures, with each one having several meanings. Body language is indeed a very powerful method to communicate with other people.

If you develop the art of studying and learning how to read and understand body language appropriately, it may give you three advantages: (1) ability to control the situation, (2) know what others are thinking and intend to say, and lastly, (3) know how to express without the use of words.

Through body language, you can impress other people, detect lying, and even know if somebody is flirting with you. I may place here, what gestures are usually used in certain situation and body gestures and movements that you must avoid. Even without the use of words, you can effectively send your message to another person, and that person to you. The capability to understand body language can help you identify one's moods, emotions, feelings, and desires.

The use of direct eye contact indicates interest, positive thinking, and sincerity. However, it could mean otherwise: mistrust, doubt, and suspicion. Lateral eye movements may mean the person is lying, or inspecting his surroundings making sure no one or everyone is listening. If one would try to recall or imagine something, he would tend to look upward. Looking down may indicate as a submission to an authority, guilt, or domination.

Your hand and arm gestures can also display different meanings. If you talk while facing your palm upwards, you show sincerity. You may detect anger or fury from a person with a clenched fist. And if you encounter somebody who taps or drums his fingers on a surface, he is showing feelings of nervousness or anxiety. Arms crossed across the chest is a display of defense and protection from an outer source, or simply indicate a disagreement.

There are basically two types of body language: positive and negative. Obviously, the positive types are the ones that reflect some good qualities about you. These are also the ones most employers are looking out for to give merit on your profile. However, the negative types are those movements or positions that generally reflects a poor personality.

Be Conscious, Be Positive!

Being conscious and concentrating on positive body movements can be your cutting edge during your interview. So here are some of the positive body languages that you should have when being interviewed.

The best positive body language you have is eye contact. This is vital if you are trying to express confidence and trust. However, you shouldn’t over do it, since it can sometimes construct an uncomfortable ambiance and propose over-familiarity.

Giving a firm and friendly handshake too is one of the easiest observed. When you grip too hard, you can be thought of as arrogant. But if your handshake is too limp, this usually suggests of weakness in your personality.

Another good body language would be keeping your chin up. This can be done literally and metaphorically. Try smiling with open lips along with tilting your head slightly, as to show attentiveness.

Making your palms visible is also another of the positive type. Doing this suggests to your employer your sincerity and openness. Touching your fingertips together can also convey a sense of authority.

How To Be Impressive

You can impress you boss, an interviewer, co-worker, and other people by simply showing that you are confident through your actions, such as handshakes, posture, proper use of eye contact, and hand movements.

1. When shaking hands, make sure it is firm and your palm will come in contact with the palm of the other person.
2. Make an eye contact for about two to three seconds and smile slightly.
3. Maintain a good posture. When standing up, refrain from putting your hands in your pocket or crossing your arms.
4. When you are sitting down, sit down near the edge with your back tensely straight. This indicates that you are very nervous. Do not slouch as well. Simply relax into the chair without tightening your back muscles.
5. When conversing, maintain eye contact to make an impression that you are indeed interested and attentive to what the person is saying.
6. If you are hesitant to prolong eye contact, the trick is to simply look on the bridge of the nose of the person.
7. You may use hand movements when talking. The person you are talking to will think that you really know what you are talking about.

How You Can Detect Lying

A person lying is easy to determine through his eyes. When he cannot look straight into your eyes or is frequently removing his eyes from you, it means that he is being dishonest and may be hiding something. He would also tend to touch himself unconsciously. He would scratch his forehead, cover the mouth, or rub the nose. These are signs of discomfort due to the situation of lying.

Other signs indicative of lying are sweating, fidgeting, trembling, speech errors, body stiffness, and the like. However, people nowadays are already oriented that they will be caught lying when they cannot prolong eye contact; thus they try to maintain calm and prolong eye contact to cover up their lies.

Is She or He Flirting?

The eyes can always send a signal of attraction. Intense, prolonged eye contact is one flirting signal, as well as the three-step eye contact. When one caught the eye of the other, he looks away, and then back again, it is a sure sign of attraction. Another common flirting signal that both men and women observe is smiling and preening.

Men flirt by showing their masculinity by standing tall and squaring their shoulders. Meanwhile, women love to tease by tossing their hair, licking their lips, and showing some bare skin.

You can show someone that you like him or her, and likewise, you can determine if somebody is attracted to you. The most basic and first sign of attraction is the smile; the wider the smile, the more he or she is into you. But you can also prove one's attraction by the eyes. If you are in opposite corners of a room, you could send a sign of romantic invitation by giving a lingering, soft look.

Giving a quick look and suddenly looking away, and then back to eye contact is a form of flirting and sign of interest. Looking from the eyes down to the lips and back to the eyes again also indicates romance. Other gestures can also be signs of attraction, such as if the person is facing you directly or leaning towards you.

You can also read from another person's actions if he or she is neither attracted nor interested. A hard look or glare could state “back off” louder than mouthing the words. Never taking a peek, looking away, keeping the mouth shut the entire time, turning the body away, shuffling of feet, fiddling with things, staring at people other than you, a neutral or passive expression, unfocused attention, crossing the arms, and moving away are just some of the clues that he or she is not interested to have a romantic encounter with you.

Detect Lies

You do not need to investigate to determine if somebody is being dishonest to you. All you need is knowledge in understanding body language to spot lies. The simplest way to detect lies is to simply look for signs of discomfort, anxiety, and nervousness. Inability to look directly to the eyes, fidgeting with the fingers, shuffling of the feet, sudden crossing of the arms or legs, glancing around the room, and forced smiles are the most common clues of lying.

Be Careful And Observant

To give a proper impression to a lover, boss, co-worker, friend, or even a stranger, you must know how and when to use your own body language. Be careful in making gestures; other people may misinterpret them. And likewise, observe other people's actions as well to know how to correctly react to them.

Acts of Body Language You Must Avoid

These are negative signs that you should start avoiding when interacting with somebody: looking at the watch or clock and fingernails, crossing the arms, putting the hands in the pocket, holding objects in front of you, stroking the chin, squinting, forcing a smile, placing hands on the waist, rubbing the nape, slouching, tapping the foot, and the like.

Body language can truly send signals of emotions and state of mind. One needs only to learn how to understand how one person acts in order to determine what is really going on in the mind of that person. That is the art of learning the secrets behind body language.

If you have to concentrate on your positive body languages, then you should also be aware of certain negative body language that you should avoid during an interview.

1. You should avoid crossing your arms, since this can convey defensiveness.
2. Looking down, feet tapping, head resting on your hands, and slouching are four big no-no’s, which all expresses boredom.
3. Do not let your interviewer see that you are nervous by locking your ankles, playing with your hair, fidgeting or even biting your nails.
4. You shouldn’t also show arrogance or over confidence during an interview. Being confident is good but going over board is bad. To avoid showing this, you should refrain from walking too erectly and briskly while your hands are clasped behind your head. Remember, you are in a job interview, and not at home where you can act such way.
5. Putting your hands on your hips and doing angry gestures like placing your fists on the table and pointing can show aggression, which is a really bad thing when applying for a job.
6. Lastly, avoid rubbing your nose or eyes; doing this can express doubt, which can make your interviewer feel that you are not quite sure if you really want the position or not.

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Be Happy – Offer Better Gestures for Better Results.

You can easily read another person through his body language. One's actions definitely have more honesty compared to the words coming out from his mouth. Body language is a form of communication wherein one would use the areas or parts of the body to convey a message. It involves gestures, facial expressions, and other body movements. It is an essential part of communication since words alone is not enough to show one's meaning, ideas, or emotions.

Various body parts are used in the body language – the hands, arms, legs, head, and body posture. Hands can make several gestures, each with a difference in meaning; and you can express well through them. If you want to let another person know you are interested in him or in the conversation, the hands can emphasize it for you. Do not try to hide your hands from him, like putting them into your pockets. This gesture means that you are hiding something from him or you are already getting bored. Showing your palm upward or outward shows that you are comfortable and interested in your situation. Leaning your body or directing it towards that person is also a signal that you are indeed listening to him.

You can still give a good impression even in the most tense situations, like in a job interview. You simply have to avoid gestures that are giving signals that you are nervous, uncomfortable, or anxious. Never slouch, fidget, drum your fingers, shuffle your feet, or tremble. These actions take the word “confidence” away from you.

You can also speak through handshakes. A firm one with the palm pointing downwards and arm slightly extended indicates confidence or power. Meanwhile, a weak handshake pointing upward is an indication of tension or shyness. You must also be aware of the message you are trying to convey whenever you cross your arms. This is one of the actions that you must avoid. This will tell another person that you might be hiding something, lying, or being impatient.

In conversing with another person, it is a great advantage that you know their culture. Prolonged eye contact, act of raising voice volume, and touching may be rude to other countries, especially in Asia. Also, there are a number of gestures that mean differently in other cultures.

You should learn how to speak using your body. Body language is indeed much more convincing than words and is very useful in giving impressions in certain situations. But the only trick in learning how to speak and understand body language is that what books or research say may not necessarily be the intentions or real message of one person.

Consciously or unconsciously, humans can send and receive messages through body language. It is a form of nonverbal communication, which mainly involves gestures using the different parts of the body. It would truly be an advantage if you know how to read and interpret another person's body language for the very reason that you can determine his or her mood, expressions, and desires.

There are several gestures that a person uses in different specific situations – at work, in a job interview, dinner date, or even in a casual conversation. The eyes, arms, and hands are the body parts frequently used to communicate, even unconsciously.

Through Eye Language

Your eyes can clearly express what you feel or desire. Eye contact is the most important eye body language since it could mean interest, confidence, eagerness to listen, and sincerity. The inability to hold long eye contact indicates dishonesty or discomfort.

Eye contact is the most powerful language using the eyes. It have different meanings. It can indicate mistrust from another person when he cannot take his eyes off the speaker, or it may mean that the person has a positive outlook or interest on what the speaker is saying. In instances that a person would look from one eye to another then another area, there are different interpretations as well.

Movement from one eye to another then to the forehead indicates that the person is looking at authoritative figure. Another instance is when the person would look from one eye to the other then to the nose, this means that there are no level of superiority in either party. The last case indicates a sign of romance or attraction when the person would look from one eye to another then down to the lips.

However, the eyes can be misleading, especially if there are other gestures accompanying it. Despite direct eye contact, when the person you are speaking to is still fiddling something with his hands, it means that is mind is elsewhere but you. If he is looking at you but with the arms crossed, it indicates signs of bother or defense from you. Another case is when there is eye contact but the head is slightly tilted. This indicates boredom. Lies can be spotted as well when there is excessive blinking and no eye contact.

The eyes, small as they are, have big meanings and indications behind them. Eye contact is one of the strongest eye language that one can use to say that they are interested, sincere, and attentive. Lack of eye contact and inability to prolong it may mean that the person is lying, hiding something, or is becoming bored or uninterested.

Cliché as it is, the eyes are indeed the windows of the soul. The eye body language is one of the most powerful mediums of nonverbal communication. It can either support or betray whatever you are saying. Even the slightest movement of the eye can indicate the biggest meaning.

During a conversation, it is normal to have eye contact. It means differently in specific situations. Looking at a person directly to the eye means that you are interested in what he is saying. But the inability to take the eyes of another person when he or she is talking may also indicate doubt, suspicion, or lack of trust.

Appropriate use of eye contact also includes when to break eye contact. A long eye contact has many interpretations. It may mean a focused attention or sign of attraction. But this can sometimes be uncomfortable, thus the trick is to just look at the bridge of the nose. Long eye contact may also indicate a sign of authority or domination if one can do it without much blinking. However, prolonged eye contact may also pose as a threat, so breaking it from now and then is essential. But breaking it may indicate other meanings as well, such as situations wherein one wants to end the conversation, has been insulted or found out, or is being threatened.

The eyes looking at different directions also have different meanings. When one looks up to the right, it means that he is imagining visual images. Meanwhile, when he looks up to the left direction, it means that he is trying to recall a memory. However, there are still instances where it is in a reversed order, depending on the person. Try to test him first by asking him to recall a known memory and to picture out an event.

On the other hand, looking down may mean that one is talking to himself, but this is more evident if there is also movement of the lips. It is also a signal of guilt or submission. Looking down on another person means that he is control of the situation or is talking to someone who is under his superiority.

Lateral eye movements can also indicate signs of dishonesty, distraction, or simply checking out the surroundings. When looking from one eye to the other then going up to the forehead, it means that you are looking at somebody with superiority. When going down to the nose, you are talking to someone within the level of your status. And when looking from one eye to the other and down to the lips, it indicates a sign of attraction or romance.

Different emotions and mood can be expressed through gazing, glancing, winking, squinting, closing, and staring. Gazing indicates interest or concentration. Glancing indicates desire. For example, one glances at food. It means that has a desire to eat. Winking indicates an agreement, and it could also be a means of flirtation. A person would squint his eyes if he is uncertain or trying to evaluate or verify truthfulness. Closing the eyes means that the person wants a moment to be away from the world, or simply trying to remember. And lastly, staring indicates a state of shock, surprise or disbelief.

You can use your eyes to show affection to another person. Winking is one way to flirt. The process of looking at someone, quickly looking away, and then staring back is an obvious indication of attraction. A lingering, warm gaze is also an indicator of romance or desire.

If you know how to read and understand the eye body language, you will know what the person you are conversing with would want to tell you. And, if you know how to properly use it, you can take control of any situation or know when is the proper timing to use different eye movements or expressions.

The eyes can also perform vertical and lateral scans or movements. Vertical scan is wherein the person may be checking out the whole appearance of another, from head to toe. This is typical in meeting other people to gain the first impression. The latter, lateral or horizontal scan, may mean looking from one eye to the other or checking out the surroundings.

Looking form one eye to another may mean discomfort and can be straining; thus if you want to make an impression that you are holding eye contact, you may opt looking at the bridge of the nose of the other person. When doing this type of lateral scan then to the forehead, it indicates that you are talking to someone with superiority. When looking from one eye to another then to the nose, you are talking to someone in the same level of status.

You're eyes can also express different feelings or state of mind. The act of winking is a signal of agreement or flirtation. Glancing means a moment of desire for the specific object. When one squints at what you are saying, it means that he is analyzing if you are telling the truth. When one wants to get away from the world even for a moment and think deeply, he would tend to close his eyes. And if the eyes would widen, it is a signal of shock, surprise, or disbelief.

Crossed Arms

Arms crossed across the chest is one of the most powerful and basic gestures used by anyone. One can form a barrier between himself and another person by crossing his arms, or it may simply mean that he feels cold. It can also indicate as a protection or defense in nervous or anxious situations.

When you are talking to someone and he would cross his arms, it means that he opposes, suspects, or doubts what you are saying. But if he is talking with his arms crossed, it means that he may be nervous, lying, or hiding something from you.

The pockets are never the right place to put your hands into. A person with his hands in the pocket may indicate that he is nervous, uncomfortable, bored, or uninterested. This gesture indicates also that he may be hiding something from you or he doesn't want to engage in a specific activity or task.

An open palm means sincerity or honesty. A clenched fist is a very clear indication of frustration, anger, resistance, and defense. But there are times wherein it indicates confidence in one's idea or opinion. Nervousness or anxiousness is seen in someone who is tapping or twitching his fingers. Rubbing of hands, meanwhile, may indicate extreme excitement or cold feeling.

There are many gestures that our complex body could make, and each one have different interpretations. However, there are times when a gesture does not necessarily reflect or show what you intend to say or feel inside.

Handshakes have many meanings and is used in different situations. It is used when greeting others, meeting new people, or closing a deal or agreement. You can use handshakes to make good impressions. You can show that you are confident by giving firm handshakes, with your hand pointing downwards and your arm extended. On the other hand, a weak handshake with the hand pointing upwards would indicate that you are shy, uncomfortable or nervous.

Crossing the arms would mean differently depending on who is talking. If you are the one talking and the other person crosses his arms, it means he does not believe you or was insulted by something you said and uses it as a barrier of defense. Meanwhile, if he is talking with his arms crossed, it may mean that he is hiding something from you or simply feels cold.

Other Gestures And Movements in Body Language

Nervousness, anxiety, and lack of confidence can be shown when you put your hands in your pocket, slouch, fidget, drum your fingers on the table, rock or shuffle your feet, and the like. Thus if you want to give a good impression, try to avoid these gestures; although most of the times they are subconscious actions.

Understanding and knowing how to read body language of other people can give you the ability of interpreting another person's thoughts, and you will be able know how to react appropriately.

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Be Happy – With Proper Body Language You Can Succeed During A Job Interview.

A job interview is very essential for both the employer and applicant for the very reason that it will be the basis of rejecting or accepting the applicant for the vacant job. Thus, as an applicant, it is relevant that he or she must be fully prepared for the job interview. You must remember that your employer or interviewer does not only consider the way you dress, your credentials, or even your answers to his questions. Your body language is also being well-observed.

Your body language can tell another person what kind of person you are, your emotions, and state of mind. An employer would be looking for a confident and competent employee. Thus, you should know and learn the posture to maintain, movements to impress, and gestures to avoid during the interview.

Postures You Must Maintain

Never slouch! Either in sitting or standing, slouching would give the impression of laziness or lack of confidence. Do not sit at the edge of the chair, this would mean that you are too nervous or tense. Simply relax into your chair, and place your hands on your lap. Crossing the legs is not really advisable, but nonetheless it is fine, as long as the direction of your body is towards the interviewer.

Movements To Impress

You can show your interest and confidence through handshakes, and you can give a good first impression as well. However, there are times wherein initiating the handshake would make you appear overconfident. When you shake hands, make sure you make eye contact, but not longer than three seconds. Your palm should be able to touch the palm of your interviewer. Extend your arm and point your hand downwards.

Eye contact is important in a job interview. This shows that you are honest, sincere, and confident. The lack of eye contact may mean that you are lying or being uncomfortable.

When responding, make use of your hands. Showing your palm when explaining something indicates that you are being relaxed, honest, and confident. The interviewer will think that you know what you are talking about. If you want to emphasize something, you can do it with a clenched fist; but this is not an advisable gesture during an interview.

You can show interest and that you are listening attentively to your interviewer through head movements. Nodding is a reinforcement that you understood or agreed to what he or she said. Even though there are ideas that you would like to oppose to, nodding is still preferable rather than arguing. The latter might be the reason why you cannot get the job.

Gestures You Must Avoid

Avoid putting your hands into your pockets. This can emphasize your nervousness, or can give your interviewer that you may be hiding something from him, or you are uninterested to get the job. You can use hand movements when talking, however do not use them frequently. Excess movements can distract your interviewer from listening to your responses.

Another gesture you must avoid is frequent eye movement. Avoiding the interviewer's eyes will make him think that you are not listening or getting bored and uninterested. This may also give the impression that you are the type of person who is easily distracted, a weakness that could make you unqualified for the job.

Better Safe Than Sorry

Body language does not necessarily show what you intend to convey or really feel. But it is an advantage that you know the gestures you must use or avoid during a job interview to give a good impression for the words that you long to hear: “Congratulations. You are hired!”

Read People By Their Body Language

The art of body language is that you can read other people by determining their feelings, emotions, and subconscious state of mind. Each body gesture and movement have a particular meaning depending on the event, place, and the people involved. Therefore, even without words spoken, the body can thoroughly deliver a message to another person.

Look Into Their Eyes

The eyes can truly speak volumes. When you are lying, your eyes can betray you by sending a signal of dishonesty. The eyes will reflect one's honesty and sincerity if there is maintenance of eye contact. You can tell if someone is lying through the eyes if he cannot keep his eye on you and his blinking rate is increasing.

You can also tell if the person you are talking to is interested in what you are saying or not. When he maintains eye contact with you, it means that he has his focus of attention to your conversation. But, sometimes the case is different. Some people has practiced eye contact, but deep inside they lack interest. Dull and passive eyes also indicates boredom.

Romance and flirtation can also be delivered through the eyes. When somebody would catch your eye, he would look away. But if he looks back at you, it may mean that he is into you. If he doesn't look back, it means he found no chemistry from you.

Watch Their Hand Movements

One common hand gesture is the crossing of the arms over the chest. This may signify one's anger, doubt or suspicion, or defensiveness from a verbal attack from another person. It is also one of the signs of lying and arrogance.

Another hand gesture is the hands-in-the-pocket gesture. This may have different interpretations. The person may lack confidence or interest, or simply refusing to do a task given to him. Another meaning if this gesture is that he may be nervous or anxious in the current situation. He may also be hiding something from you.

Observe Their Posture

When a person slouches while sitting down or standing up, it may indicate laziness. But this is not necessarily true, since he may have gotten used to that posture, but is not indeed lazy.

However, the most preferred posture is where one would keep his back straight with chin slightly up. This posture must be done without excessive tightening of the back muscles; otherwise he would look definitely stiff and awkward.

Obvious Signs Of Emotions

You can detect if a person is nervous if he finds it impossible to stay still. His body gestures would include fidgeting, tapping the hand or foot, drumming his fingers, pacing around the room back and forth, and trembling. Meanwhile frustration can be signified by a clenched fist, arms crossed over the chest, and the hands on the waist.

Confidence and comfort is reflected from one's good posture, maintenance of eye contact, relaxed use of hand gestures and body movements. The opposite of these gestures means otherwise – lack of confidence.

These signals from one's body language does not necessarily reflect what the person truly feels inside. His gestures may have been his mannerisms or simply actions that he has gotten used to. Thus, it is relevant as well not to be very judgmental in interpreting one's body language.

Be Happy – With Proper Body Language You Can Succeed During A Job Interview.