नकारात्मक सोच Negative Thoughts

 

शीत ऋतु की संध्या में यह जलती हुई लकड़ियों पर हाथ तापना किसे अच्छा नहीं लगता! कितने पहर बीत जाते हैं इन लकड़ियों को चटकाते, घुमाते, पता ही नहीं चलता। यह लकड़ियां पहले जलती हैं और फिर हमें ताप देती हैं और अन्त में राख बन जाती हैं। जरा सोचिए, यह अग्नि उत्पन्न कहां सी होती है। उत्तर है इन लकड़ियों में से। फिर बताइये, यह राख कहां से उत्पन्न होती है। उत्तर वही है, उन्हीं लकड़ियों में से। अब अग्नि और राख - दोनों लकड़ियों से उत्पन्न होती है। जरा सोचिए कि अग्नि, जो इन लकड़ियों को जलाती है और राख वोह जो इस अग्नि को बुझा देती है तो कुछ समझिए कि आपकी ऊर्जा आपके शरीर से उत्पन्न होती है और नकारात्मकता रुपी राख भी आपके भीतर से ही उत्पन्न होती है। आप सोचिए, क्या आप अपने भीतर के प्रकाश को जगा कर इस संसार को प्रकाशित करना चाहते हैं या अपने भीतर की नकारत्मकता को जगा कर इस संसार में अन्धकार फैलाना चाहते हैं?

हर सपने को अपनी सांसों में रखो, हर मंजिल को अपनी बांहों में रखो

हर चीज़ आपकी ही है, बस अपने लक्ष्य को अपनी निगाहों में ही रखो।

Be Independent (आत्म निर्भर बनो। )

आर्य समाज के संस्थापक स्वामी दयानंद सरस्वती मुंबई में आर्य समाज मंदिर में प्रवचन कर रहे थे। प्रवचन के बाद एक व्यवसायी ने स्वामी जी को प्रणाम किया तथा अपने दस वर्षीय पुत्र को आर्शीवाद देने के लिए प्रार्थना की।

स्वामी जी ने उसके पुत्र से पूछा, ’’बेटा, अपना काम स्वयं करते हो या नौकर से करवाते हो?’’ उसने विनम्रतापूर्वक कहा, ’’माता-पिता मुझे कोई कार्य करने ही नहीं देते, नौकर से करवाते हैं।’’ स्वामी जी ने उसे समझाया, ’’ आज से अपना कार्य स्वयं करने का संकल्प लो। प्रातः काल सूर्योदय से पहले शैया त्यागकर मुंह-हाथ धोकर सबसे पहले अपने माता-पिता को प्रणाम करो। नौकर पर निर्भर रहने से तुम आलसी बन जाओगे। जो कार्य स्वयं न कर सको, उसके लिए दूसरों लोगों से सहायता लो।’’

स्वामी जी ने फिर उसके पिता की ओर देखकर कहा, ’’तुम धनिक लोग अपने बच्चों को आलसी बनाने के अपराधी हो। बच्चों को स्वयं कार्य करने दो। तभी वे आत्मनिर्भर बन सकेंगे। स्वामी जी के प्रेरणादायक, कल्याणकारी उपदेश सुनकर पिता-पुत्र उनके सामने नतमस्तक हो गये।

-दैनिक अमर उजाला से साभार संकलित

Love Your Job, You Will Get Success.

Love your job or love what you do. We must love our job like children love any job they undertake. When they play, they play with all the love at their command. Whatever we may do, if we do the same with love, we will get success definitely. We need to work hard and if we fix up our goals before embarking upon any task, success is bound to follow. Goals are our dreams with deadlines. If you choose a goal and stick to that, that would change everything and you will achieve the success you dream for. If you want to reach a distant goal, you must take small steps instead of sitting idle.

We all understand well that focus and determination play significant roles in success. If we look at any top athlete or businessman, painter, politician, any successful individual – a movie star, musician or any other celebrity, we will find that they succeed because they focus on their task, they love their job, they love what they do. For our success, we need to identify our goals and then let nothing distract us from achieving it. Any distraction can lead to dissipate our energy and attention.

Here, we must ignore “Luck” factor in our psychological manoeuvrability while working for our goals fixed. What is luck? It is only as relevant or irrelevant as we make it. Whenever a gamble plans to gamble, he swears by the same. But we are not gambler. We need to achieve our task, the task defined by our goals. Luck is nothing but a convenient excuse, an alibi or a crutch for those who fail or who do not love to work sincerely but await for the results without putting in the hard labour the task warrants for. What we make of our life is entirely in our own hands. Luck is what happens to others. It is just a consolation for the losers.

It is true that you can not win all the time. Somebody in your opposition may have put in better efforts. We can learn from our failures and try to do better next time. If we compete fairly, it shall be our greatest challenge and we need to accept it even if somebody criticises our efforts/steps. Criticism must be considered as a part and parcel of our success. We need to live with it and learn about our wrongs. It is also true that an average human being does not accept criticism of any kind very easily. We need to work above what an average human being does. We must take seriously every criticism and examine the same just to improve ourselves. Dealing with criticism in a mature way makes one a stronger person.

Appreciation is the oxygen that nurtures the creative instinct. You must apply it with your team members as and when required but we must not take it as narcotic for ourselves as if we do not get appreciation, we may get nervous. Instead, we must remain attuned to our work and in course of time, we too will get appreciation. It is possible only when we love our job.

Be Happy - No Arrogance be there. खुश रहें - घमंड न करें।

जब द्रोणाचार्य अपने पुत्र अश्वथामा को दूध के लिए रोते देखकर द्रवित हो उठे, उन्हे महसूस हुआ कि गरीबी क्या होती है। उन्हे राजा द्रुपद की याद आई। राजा द्रुपद उनके सहपाठी रह चुके  थे। उन्होंने सोचा यदि राजा द्रुपद से मिला जाये और उन्हे अपनी स्थिति बताई जाये, शायद उनकी गरीबी किसी हद तक दूर हो जाये। वह राजा द्रुपद के पास गए, उन्हे अपनी स्थिति बताई और अपने समय की याद दिलाई कि दोनों सहपाठी रह चुके हैं। राजा द्रुपद पर घमण्ड सवार हो गया, बोले कि ब्राह्मण होने के नाते कुछ भिक्षा दी जा सकती है लेकिन मित्रता का बहाना मत लो। मित्रता बराबरी पर ही चल सकती है। राजा द्रुपद के शब्दों को सुनकर द्रोणाचार्य आहत होकर यह संकल्प किया कि राजा द्रुपद का घमण्ड तोड़ा जाये, इसलिए खाली हाथ वापिस चले गए। वहां से द्रोणाचार्य हस्तिनापुर गए। उन्हे कौरव और पांडवों  को शस्त्र विद्या सिखाने के लिए नियुक्त कर लिया गया। उन्होने  राजकुमारों को सभी शस्त्र चलाने की शिक्षा दी, जब गुरु दक्षिणा का समय आया तब द्रोणाचार्य ने उन्हे राजा द्रुपद के राज्य पर हमला करने की आज्ञा दे दी। राजकुमारों ने द्रोणाचार्य के सामने जब राजा द्रुपद को बंदी के रूप में प्रस्तुत किया, तब  द्रोणाचार्य ने राजा द्रुपद से पूछा, 'हे राजन! क्या अब तो मित्रता हो सकती है?'  राजा द्रुपद को पुरानी बात याद आ गयी और उन्होने अपनी गलती स्वीकार कर ली। इस लिए कभी घमंड नहीं करना चाहिए।

Be Happy – Give Up Your Worries

With our friends, our close relatives and many other persons, we mention very frequently that to ensure happy living, one must not have any worry. This is the most important value we do have amongst those multiple values we wish to lead our life with. But we do not tend to give up our worries very easily. We are helpless, perhaps ignorant too because we do not try to go beyond that point where our worries start. Once they take form, we start to concentrate all of our resources around them for finding solution but not making check-points that they should not come up ever.

Now, there is a solution within your reach for ensuring happy living, for ensuring worry-less living. How? Very easy. You may have a re-look upon your worries whether they have erupted from the matters you have concern. To be concerned is one thing and to worry about is something different. When you worry, your psychological worries start multiplying themselves making you inwardly tiring and exhausted soon. The sheen of your resources get weak and your problems become bigger than their actual dimensions. No fun, be serious. If you redefine your worry to be a matter of your concern, you will evoke your love energy to concentrate for the solution and make you more alive.

Whenever you make something a matter of your concern, you may have to make choice if that matter which needs some solution/settlement is within your power/approach or not, whether that can be solved/settled with a little push-up from other source if required and what are the limits you have. If that matter is beyond your all limits and resources, you may give up your worries because you did not create the worry yourself. Some bad element has created them and that will finish in course of time if you continue your smiles.

You will be surprised to know that here in our society, there are some persons who are not able to live a smooth life because their successes are so enormous that they do not have time to live their own life smoothly. Every time, they get an opportunity to run after just to keep their momentum on, they worry if they miss the bus, they may not reach to the destination and every time, their destination points get farther. Whatever they do, they attempt with full zeal and get success. Their successes are the sum of their worries. They do take on every opportunity to gain success and in this run, they get restless. Apparently, it is good that they take it a matter of concern but that is not good for their health too. They need to ensure a balance between their actual requirements and the opportunities available. The limit of their greed can settle it.

The series of their successes cheats them of their time required for their own life. They need to classify the matters of their worries – the matters upon which they can attempt upon and make change, and the matters beyond their reach. For example, aging factor. They can not do anything, with the time, they would get older and older and one day, their physical machine may break down. They can keep their efficiency tuned up for some time through extra energy doses and cosmetic treatment but that is not the permanent solution and that too would be against the nature’s decaying principle. Simply, we can not go beyond. Where they can attempt to change, they must act as and when there is an opportunity to do so, not worrying in advance. They may have a schedule to work on.

On the other hand, some people do not have sufficient opportunities even to make for their minimal livelihood. Why so? It is a matter of concern for the society as a whole. For the individuals who do not count themselves successful need to rethink why they are not successful. A review of their resources vis their targets can open their eyes. Perhaps they may need a little push up from an outer source. If they feel that the little push-up from an outer source is not possible or that is beyond their reach, they may modify their target to bring within their reach instead of just worrying about.

Those who worry, whether they are successful or not successful, keep themselves in the state of feeling insecurity, anxiety, fear and many other psychological self-inquiries to put their inner being in disorder as reaction to their worries. Why so? You need to feel concern with the problem. If you have got children, you need to love them. It is their right to claim love and care from you. If you have got parents with you, you need to take care for them because when you were in your childhood, they had brought up you to the present stage. If you are parents, your children owe this duty naturally. If sometime they do not perform their duty perfectly, you do not need to worry because somewhere you had missed something which made them irresponsible to some extent. You may get another opportunity to make them repent.  But do not crush your present with the worry on such subject.

If you are engaged somewhere, you need to have concern with your engagement. You are going to your office, you need to go there with all the love, not the hate. If your boss is rude, you need to find out the reasons and assess what you will do if you are boss to some one else in the same circumstances. If you are at home, you need to make your home happier. It is your concern not the worry.

You need to have trust upon yourself. Trust that existence cares for you, loves you and is coaching you in different ways. Here again, success and failure both are not the features to be worried about. Success is not the end of your fulfillment. One success creates the need of another success. One failure requires you to turn around the table. You get involved in action and reaction process. That does not mean you should always worry. It is simply a process you need to continue. Your brain is always working to lead you to fulfillment. The day your brain finds your capacity exhausted and you got fulfillment, it stops to work and you are declared as expired. Therefore, you should not worry for your success and your failure – just go through the working of your brain and you will find the way out. If you worry yourself, it will create pressure upon your brain to put in energy diverted from the main subject. This way, you are suggested to give up your worries to ensure happy living.

Be Happy – Give Up Your Worries.

Be Happy – Be Lucky.

Normally we consider luck as fortune occurring beyond our control, without regard to our will, intention or desired results. When we do not get our desired results in spite of our efforts which we may treat to have been made best out of our capacity, we feel that our luck is not working or we are unlucky.

There are two senses - a prescriptive sense and a descriptive sense. In the prescriptive sense, luck is a supernatural concept that there are divine forces prescribing certain events to occur very much the way we wish or according to the laws of physics which prescribe that certain events occur. It is the prescriptive sense that people mean when they say they "do not believe in luck". In the descriptive sense, luck is a word people give after the occurrence of events which they find to be fortuitous.

We can say that luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. I'm a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it. You too can create your own luck . Yes you do. I know you might think that luck is just something that happens randomly or by chance. But it's really not.

Luck happens when you believe that you're lucky or when you have thoughts that lead to being lucky. Luck is really something good that happens to you unexpectedly. If you want to be lucky then you have to think and believe that you are lucky.

You create Good luck when you focus on the positive, when you're optimistic and when you believe that things will work out (or that you're lucky). Bad luck happens when you focus on what is wrong, when you don't think that things will work out, when you don't trust your subconscious mind and higher powers, or when you continually complain about your state.  Bad luck comes from negative thinking that you've created and planted on your subconscious mind and this negative thinking leads to more and worse luck. Things don't go your way because you don't believe they will. So you need to end up creating bad luck. When things continue to get worse, you blame it on luck. But it's really not luck.

It's the negative thinking that you carry. It happens because you've trained your mind to look at what's wrong and you've directed your subconscious mind and to bring you more bad luck and you keep telling your subconscious that you don't want thing to work out.

But it is not what you want.  You want to be lucky. You want things to work out. You want a better life. Negative thinking keeps holding you back. It destroys any chance of success, happiness or a better life. You'll never be "lucky" if you always focus on what's wrong. Those negative thoughts, views and beliefs destroy your success. They create more and more bad luck.

You may want to make more money, lose weight, be healthy, get a new job, meet the right person and achieve your goals. But you won't because those limiting and negative thoughts block your success. You attract more misery and more failure. The cycle continues. It's not really about luck. It's all about what you think and believe. Your subconscious mind follows your thought patterns and beliefs. It simply responds and creates situations that mirror what you believe and think.

When you continue to look at the worst in a situation, think you're unlucky or have a pile of negative thoughts and beliefs you continue to create more and more misery, struggle and failure. Your subconscious thinks that's what you want. So that's what you get. You keep having more "bad luck."

Now you can turn things around. You can go from feeling (and believing) that you're unlucky to being lucky so that you get what you want. You simply have to direct your subconscious mind so that it's positive, optimistic, and open minded. So that you get your subconscious mind to bring you exactly what you want.  Scientists have proven that people who are optimistic and positive have better luck. They also did better in life. And those who are negative or pessimistic have more bad luck, and struggled in life. A group of researchers recently found the following:

Those who are optimistic and positive and  believed they were lucky... enjoyed life, earned more money, were in stable jobs and relationships, had things go their way more often, won contests and prizes and were generally lucky - things just worked out for them. Those who had a negative attitude, were pessimistic and did not think they were lucky struggled with money changed jobs more often had poor relationships.

Science has proven that you do create your own luck. When you're positive, optimistic and believe that good things happen - you'll enjoy life have more success, make more money and you'll be happier. The choice is yours. Get rid of the negative thoughts. Start being more optimistic. Believe in yourself. Believe that things will work out. Direct your subconscious mind and your inner powers to bring you exactly what you want. Put an end to the negative thinking that's destroying your life.

How to bring out yourself out of your pessimistic thinking that you are unlucky is very easy. First, you will have to give your pessimistic thinking by concentrating upon those past acts and results which had brought out positive effects upon you, your prosperity and happiness. You need to analyze why those good times got lost. You will have to motivate yourself. Please remember when you are in bad times as you feel, none other than yourself will motivate you.

What do you mean with motivation? It is a psychological feature that arouses an organism to act towards a desired goal and elicits, controls, and sustains certain goal directed behaviors. It can be considered a driving force; a psychological drive that compels or reinforces an action toward a desired goal. For example, hunger is a motivation that elicits a desire to eat. Motivation has been shown to have roots in physiological, behavioral, cognitive, and social areas.

Second, you need to distress yourself. If stress is over your mind, you can not bring any positive solution into your mind. This too makes you unlucky to your prospects. Julie is a manager in a high-volume call center, and her job is very stressful. She interacts every day with angry, upset customers, she needs to keep her team members calm and productive, and she has to meet tough customer satisfaction goals.

Despite these pressures, Julie is known for her professionalism and her composure. She's kind to everyone on her team, she stays cool in tense situations, and she makes good decisions, even when she's under pressure. Julie has mastered the art of surviving and thriving in a stressful role.

Many people experience stress in their jobs. You might feel stressed temporarily because of a project deadline, or because of seasonal fluctuations in your workload. Or you might experience long-term stress due to the type of work that you do, because of a difficult boss or co-worker, or because of office politics.

Job stress has a number of negative consequences that, if left unmanaged, can affect your health, productivity, well-being, and career. For example, a study has found that  professionals who work in high-stress environments are more likely to suffer from high blood pressure, insulin resistance, and high cholesterol - all of which increase the risk of heart disease and diabetes.

Long-term, unmanaged stress can weaken your immune system, it can cause chronic muscle pain or sleeplessness, and it can contribute to obesity. It can also lead to a number of psychological conditions, such as anxiety or depression, and it may cause relationship problems with others on your team. You may feel burnout which is a likely consequence of long-term job stress. Emotional exhaustion, lowered productivity, and higher absenteeism can all result from this.

Stress can cause severe health problems and, in extreme cases, even death. The strategies discussed here are for guidance only. You should take the advice of suitably qualified health professionals if you have any concerns over stress-related illnesses, or if stress is causing you significant or persistent unhappiness.

Why You Should Control Stress

There are many good reasons why you should control workplace stress. You'll be more productive and creative at work, you'll have better relationships with family and colleagues, and you'll produce higher-quality work. You'll also be healthier and more energetic as a result.

When your job is stressful most of the time, stress can have a negative impact on your health and productivity. There are many warning signs that you're experiencing high levels of workplace stress, including:

·         Frequent headaches/muscle tension.

·         Persistent sleeplessness.

·         Ongoing irritability.

·         An upset stomach.

·         Low morale/depression.

·         Prolonged difficulty concentrating.

·         Weight loss/gain.

·         Continued loss of interest in work or hobbies.

·         Social withdrawal.

Let's look at several ways that you can manage the stress in your role and bring about luck in your life.

Identify Causes

Before you can wish for luck, you first have to know what causes you to be unlucky. Perhaps it may be result of your over stressed working or stress due to no work at all or unsatisfactory working conditions. 59 percent of professionals report a heavy workload as their leading cause of stress. There are other common causes too which may bring about stress over your mind and finally, you may get depressed and feel unlucky. Some causes of stress include:

·         Workplace pace and unrealistic deadlines.

·         Persistent bullying and abuse.

·         A difficult boss or colleague.

·         Long work hours.

·         Poor management.

·         A lack of autonomy.

·         Poor work/life balance.

·         Meaningless work.

·         Career concerns (no upward mobility, or a lack of job security).

·         An unhealthy work environment.

·         A lack of resources.

Keep a diary to understand what causes you to feel stress or unlucky in your job. Once you've identified the factors that contribute to this status, you can then take appropriate steps to manage them.

Think Positively

Your attitude plays a major role in your level of luck, no matter what kind of work you do. You can choose to approach tasks, responsibilities, and people with a negative attitude or you can choose to approach your work and relationships with a positive mind-set. Although the amount of work is the same, the impact on your health and well-being is profound.

Positive thinking acts as a stress buffer. Whenever you catch yourself slipping into a negative frame of mind, make an effort to think positively instead. This might mean challenging your negative thoughts with rational, fact-based thinking, or using affirmations to boost your self-confidence. It will definitely bring luck to you.

Calm Down

Stress can often cause you to stop breathing for several seconds, even though you may not realize it. When you're feeling stressed, practice deep breathing exercises. Deep, slow breathing floods your body with oxygen, slowing your heart rate, relaxing your muscles, and helping you focuses. You might also want to practice yoga or meditation after work, both of which are effective methods of managing stress.

Frequent daily breaks and regular vacations are also important for reducing work stress. Even a long weekend can help you de-stress after a tough week. When you do take a break or go on vacation, leave work at work; taking a "working vacation" or constantly checking email while you're gone won't give you the time that you need to rest and recharge.

Manage Your Time

Your job might be stressful because of your workload or project deadlines. You can lower your stress levels and improve your productivity by learning to manage your time and priorities more effectively.

Distractions in the office can be a major source of stress. These distractions can come from well-meaning colleagues, from constant phone calls or emails, or from general office noise. Minimize distractions by closing your office door for short periods of time, by turning off your phone, or by listening to white noise to drown out people's conversations.

Exercise

Regular exercise is one of the best ways to manage a stressful job. Daily exercise helps you cope with stress; it also boosts your memory, creativity, IQ, and productivity.

You can fit exercise into your schedule in many ways. Wake up earlier and exercise before work, take a walk on your lunch break, or use a standing desk while you're at work. Remember, any additional movement will help you manage stress and live a healthier life. Take frequent breaks to move around and let your mind rest. Try taking several five- or 10-minute walks during the day; it might not sound like much, but this exercise and fresh air will give you time to rest and recharge.

Manage Priorities

Conflicting priorities can be a major source of workplace stress, especially when you have to push important work aside to focus on less important, but urgent, tasks. You also need to choose the right tasks to work on. Some tasks require a lot of time and energy, yet they have a low impact, while other tasks have a big impact, but require little effort.

If you're working on a project that seems overwhelming, break it into smaller steps. This allows you to accomplish one thing at a time, instead of trying to take everything on at once.

Increase Autonomy

Autonomy is the freedom to decide how to accomplish your work. Professionals who work in roles with low autonomy often experience more stress and dissatisfaction than those with greater autonomy.

Speak with your boss about your current goals or projects. Where appropriate, ask for the freedom to choose how you accomplish these goals. This could include working from home one day a week, or choosing who you want to work with on your next project.

Assess Resources

Look at the work that you do. What are your biggest frustrations? Where are your bottlenecks? Where are you most inefficient? These situations often point to a lack of training, tools, resources, or help - all of which can contribute to workplace stress.

Make a list of what you need. Let your boss know what you're lacking, and explain how these items will help improve your productivity and effectiveness. If your boss can't provide the resources that you need, think about how you might be able to negotiate for them with others, or acquire them on your own.

Find Meaning

What do you love most about your job? What gives your work meaning? These questions might sound simple, but they're important. If you know what gives your work meaning, it will help you manage the stress that goes along with it.

Everyone experiences the feeling of being lucky or unlucky from time to time when there is some result favorable or unfavorable  But that is the result of your efforts only. If due to wrong results, you get stressed, you need to shelf out that feeling first to bring about luck in your life. The opposite feelings that is you are unlucky may create stress in your mind and long-term stress can lead to a number of health problems, including high blood pressure and a weakened immune system. It can also contribute to heart disease, obesity, anxiety, and depression. To overcome, you need to recount yourself and feel lucky even in the beginning by mentioning to yourself that you are going to win in your efforts.

Be Happy – Be Lucky.

Be Happy – We Need To Change Our Attitude.

It is human psychology that we prefer pleasures. But it is a known fact that almost every pleasure seeks some sacrifice unless that is bestowed upon us by some divine power. When we find ourselves in chilling winter, we hear, “It's Freezing! When will it be summer?" To our children, we try to explain that winter is just one of our seasons, and soon enough summer will arrive. They may not get convinced easily and perhaps may add, “But it is freezing cold. There's snow and ice everywhere. We can't even go out to play it is so cold." Since we know their innocence and our duty to quench their curiosity, some time we have to say, "We just have to enjoy the cold and wait for summer. It will get better." They may not understand that they have to go through winter and spring before summer arrives. They just knew it was cold and thought it would be that way forever.

They don't realize that it will get better, it will get warmer and they will get to play in the park again. They just know today is cold, yesterday was cold and for a while they haven't been able to play on the monkey bars in the park. And they want to know why it isn't summer. We all want things to get better now. You want certain things to get better in your life right now and you can get what you want. If things aren't going the way you want think of it as your winter period. It will get better, it won't stay this way forever, but first you have to create the changes you want.

During winter, it seems like nothing is growing or improving. But deep underground, the roots of trees, plants and grass are all getting their nourishment, and storing what they need to sprout in spring. And just like nature is constantly at work, you're always feeding your subconscious mind. You're either giving it the nourishment and information it needs to make your life better, or you're giving it the wrong information, the kind that makes your life harder.

If you want to enjoy greater success, if you want to make more money, meet the right person, get a better job, make the right choices, then you have to give your subconscious the right information. You have to feed your subconscious mind and inner powers the nourishment they need to bring you what you want. Just like mother nature is always at work, always giving us what we need at the right time, your subconscious and inner power are also constantly at work. Your subconscious and inner powers are always creating and shaping your life. You don't see them actively doing this. They just work quietly in the background. They create and shape your life based on what you feed them and how you direct them.

If you wanted to have a beautiful looking lawn, flower or vegetable garden you would have to take care of them. You'd have to give them the right combination of  food, seeds, water, and nourishment. You'd also have to spend plenty of time removing the weeds, and getting rid of any unwanted plants that could destroy your garden. This all takes time and requires patience. But with the right techniques and by doing the right combination of things you'll see the payoff within a few short months. You may not be a gardener, you may not even have a garden, and you may never want one. But you do have a mind, a subconscious mind and you  have your inner powers. You need to feed them the right information (food), nourish them and constantly give them the right direction (like water to a garden). Then you have to be patient, continue working, continue applying the right techniques and continue doing the right combination of things.

When you will continue to hammer upon something, one day you'll see the payoff. It all requires practice and discipline. So today think about what you want in a few short months. Now begin directing your subconscious mind and your inner powers by giving them the right information and the right directions so that you get what you want in those few short months You know, Nature is very powerful.  It can be very kind or it can be very destructive. Your subconscious is also very powerful. It can be very kind or it can make your life very difficult. While you can't control nature, you can control and direct your subconscious mind. This gives you tremendous power. Your subconscious and inner powers create your life based on your thoughts, beliefs and attitudes. When you have a garden filled with weeds you have to remove those weeds or they'll choke off all the wonderful plants, flowers and grass in your beautiful garden. If you take too long to remove them, they get stronger and they get harder to remove.

Negative thoughts, negative beliefs and a negative attitude are the weeds of the mind. If you don't remove them they'll choke off and destroy all that is good in your life. The longer they stay in place the harder they are to remove. But you can get rid of them. You can remove them. No matter how long those negative thoughts, negative beliefs, and negative attitudes have been on your subconscious mind you can get rid of them. The sooner you start the better. And you get rid of them by thinking about what you want and giving your subconscious mind new instructions, new thoughts, and new beliefs all of which lead to a new attitude.

Once those new thoughts and beliefs are planted on your subconscious you'll begin to see dramatic changes. Like spring, it will be a new beginning and a new awakening. You have the power to create and change your life. You have the power to get exactly what you want in life.That power is your subconscious mind. If you're not getting what you want, If you're not making enough money, If you're not in the right relationship, If you can't meet the right people, If things just aren't going the way you want. It means that you're not giving your subconscious mind 

the right information and you're not giving it  the right nourishment. You also have too many weeds on your subconscious and you need to get rid of those weeds today. 

You need to start using your power, begin creating exactly what you want, get your subconscious and your inner powers working for you today and get rid of the weeds that are destroying your life. How? It is quite simple. This can be done by you very easily.

You may ascertain your targets, identify your resources, chalk out your time-bound programme to achieve it, start working on it and continue till you achieve your targets without relaxing even for a minute.

Today in the era of global economical liberation, we find that at one hand, we are seeing growing needs and fatty pockets and on the other hand, we see recession and deaths due to unemployment etc. A great imbalance! Some countries have sufficient resources of raw materials but they do not have skills to exploit them to their benefits. Some other countries good market but lack infrastructure to move further.

All this is due to lack of proper management. Some time it happens due to the attitude of those who are supposed to manage them. Somewhere it is due to the working of the politicians who make and/or modify the laws to suit their specific needs. Somewhere, the bureaucrats are there to interpret the laws to meet their corrupt working. Sometime, some judicial officers work with a prior mind set-up. Not only these pillars of the democracy, sometime media, generally in private sector, also create hype in respect of a particular story as they might be doing in form of paid agents. The government media persons tell what the Government needs to be highlighted and sometime, the truth gets hidden.

In the global liberation created by fast moving communication and transport systems, we need to change our attitude to adjust with the new equations and try to reduce the opportunities of corruption in our practice. Once we do, we can ask other one to follow the same practice. If that one does not change, we can take the shelter of law to enforce our rights. But we need to perform our duties first. We need to change our attitude first, then to seek happiness for ourselves and others too.

Be Happy – We Need To Change Our Attitude.

Be Happy – Gain Knowledge From Every Source.

Every one of us may need sufficient resources of earning to meet the basic needs like food, clothing and house to live in. After meeting basic needs, we take one step further and try to meet our social needs like maintaining our social network including contacts with our relatives, friends, clients etc through regular communications and exchanges. Thereafter, we come back to ourselves and organize for leading some luxurious life. In all these stages, finance works a lot. For that, we need expertise and resources. Nothing else, we just need to restore the memory of what we already know and how we can organize them in appropriate way.

We know that money cannot buy happiness, but we forget it easily in a consumer society when we see an attractive advertisement of a car, a computer and something else on our television screen or somewhere else exciting us for more spending and getting new and newer things for our enjoyments. As soon as it happens, we take up every step to gather affluence whether it is genuine or not.

We know that satisfaction simply is not for sale. The people, for whom money is a priority in life, tend to experience an unusual degree of anxiety and depression as well as a lower overall level of well-being. Why so? With good accumulation of money, we can ensure better medical treatment, better nutrients to keep ourselves healthy.

The demand of designer clothes, cell phones, SUVs, mutual funds-modern materialism seems the enemy of all. Advertising screams out insatiable consumption. Movies and television blast us with images of runaway wealth, instilling the notion that too much is never enough. The cycle of work and spend is sapping away all that matters in life. And prosperity continues to increase: we have more stuff each passing year.

People today find that the things they're buying and turning to are not fulfilling. Each person needs to be materially secure, of course. The cycle of consumption leaves us with an unlaced craving for transcendence. For some, consumerism is the new opiate. We are becoming so frantically time-stressed as to be close to losing our minds, while cell phones and laptops and similar devices are cited to represent the assumption that today there is never a moment away from the demands of job, kids, and stuff.

To the extent people are stressed for time, often it is the pursuit of the material that causes the condition. Wanting a 4,000-square-foot house with a three-car garage and two SUVs forces you to take on a huge mortgage and accept long commutes.

Then you find that you're rarely in the house because you are working to pay off the monthly note, or stuck on the freeway trying to get home. It would not be difficult to trade back some of this material superfluity for time and a less stressful day. In pursuit of materialism, some people still value "extrinsic goals" like money, fame and beauty.

Such people are not only more depressed, but also indicate more behavioral problems and physical discomfort, as well as scoring lower on measures of vitality and self-actualization. While not every study has investigated the full list of effects, the pattern that emerges from the research project as a whole is remarkably consistent. They encourage to try to strike it rich, but the more we seek satisfactions in material goods, the less we find them there.The satisfaction has a short half-life; it's very fleeting.

Moreover, the detrimental effect of extrinsic goals seems to hold regardless of age or even level of income: A preoccupation with money bodes ill regardless of how much money one already has. The effects also appear not to be limited to any one culture. The fact that pursuing wealth is psychologically unhelpful and often destructive comes through very strongly in every culture.

Money or affluence, per se, does not necessarily result in an unsatisfying life. Problems are primarily associated with living a life where that's your focus. Nevertheless, the negative psychological picture does seem to be associated with the extent to which people believe they are already on the way to attaining extrinsic goals. A study surveyed about 300 youths, some in the United States and some in Russia. In both countries, lower levels of mental health were found not only in people who wanted to make a lot of money but also in those who thought they were likely to succeed at it.

Another study found that college students who were already relatively high in the attainment of appearance, financial success and popularity were nevertheless lower in well-being and self-esteem. Those who aspired to affluence also had more transient relationships, watched more television and were more likely to use cigarettes, alcohol and other drugs than were those who placed less emphasis on extrinsic goals. They do not have self confidence to accomplish any target. They wish to achieve success through unethical means.

Apart from its obvious implications for a culture that thrives on material gain, this whole line of research raises questions about the proclivity of some psychologists to analyze the dynamics of what is often called goal-directed behavior while, in effect, ignoring the nature of the goal. It reiterates homespun advice to follow one's dream, whatever it may be.

It is also known that neither income nor attraction is strongly correlated with a sense of well-being.  The sense of well-being correlates with our mental status. But what about our mental status? If that does not stand well, the physical health may not go on intact. A good emotional life maintains better health overall. For upkeep of your emotional health, pursuing goals that reflect genuine human needs, like wanting to feel connected to others, turns out to be more psychologically beneficial than spending one's life trying to impress others or to accumulate trendy clothes, fancy gizmos and the money to keep buying them.

Some parents provide excessive money to their children as a token of their love but do not attend them psychologically because of lack of time due to their professional/commercial/social and/or other engagements. When parents are cold and controlling, their children apparently focus on attaining security and a sense of worth through external sources.

This seems consistent with anecdotal accounts of very wealthy men who grew up in troubled homes. Such stories are sometimes cited as evidence that they made the best of a bad thing, turning out well despite or because of their unhappy childhoods. The problem with this interpretation is that they may not have turned out so well after all. They just turned out wealthy.

It is not entirely clear why a poor psychological profile would go hand-in-hand with a quest for extrinsic goals. It may be that unhappy people are more likely than others to chase after money and fame. Conversely, the very act of chasing after money and fame may reduce one's sense of well-being, perhaps because it makes you ignore the goals that could lead you to have more satisfying experiences. Yet another possibility is that extrinsic goals and poorer psychological health are symptoms of something else that is amiss.

We may need more thoughts tease apart cause and effect between mental peace and affluence. Young adults whose parents were divorced or separated demonstrated higher levels of both material values and compulsive buying. This suggests that such people use material objects as surrogates for absent parents. But it has also been experienced that the people who are more materialistic tend to be unhappy with their lives. This effect may be moderated or even eliminated for those who have close caring relationships.

Now, we may see how we can gain a balance between our emotional life and materialism. Undoubtedly, money, or we say affluence, plays an important role in organizing ourselves to meet our basic, social and other needs, including our emotional attainments too. But it is required to be handled carefully. There is one story narrated by Mr.Deepak Chopra, which tells us the importance of knowledge. I quote it in his words to spread his message.

Once upon a time in a faraway land, a young man went to the forest and said to his spiritual master, “I want to have unlimited wealth, and with that unlimited wealth, I want to help and heal the world. Will you please tell me the secret to creating affluence?”

And the spiritual master replied, “There are two Goddesses that reside in the heart of every human being. Everybody is deeply in love with these supreme beings. But there is a certain secret that you need to know, and I will tell you what it is.

“Although you love both Goddesses, you must pay more attention to one of them. She is the Goddess of Knowledge, and her name is Sarasvati. Pursue her, love her, and give her your attention. The other Goddess, whose name is Lakshmi, is the Goddess of Wealth. When you pay more attention to Sarasvati, Lakshmi will become extremely jealous and pay more attention to you. The more you seek the Goddess of Knowledge, the more the Goddess of Wealth will seek you. She will follow you wherever you go and never leave you. And the wealth you desire will be yours forever”.

There is power in knowledge, thinking, desire and spirit. And this power is within you and that is the key to creating affluence to make happy

Be Happy – Gain Knowledge From Every Source.

Be Happy – Attempt on every Opportunity.

An opportunity means a favorable situation, a good chance to proceed ahead or you can call it a combination of the circumstances which may deem suitable for you to attempt upon for a positive result. If you fail in your process to bring about a positive result by attempting upon some opportunity, your failure may give you experience to attempt upon another opportunity, if available, more intelligently.

Opportunities abound, but in order to see more of them appear in your daily lives you must first be willing to accept this to be the case. Further, you must be willing to go after those opportunities with all you have. Make no mistake, they're called "opportunities", and not guarantees for a reason.

How would you use a set of the circumstances prevailing before you as a set of opportunities? It depends upon you how to proceed on. That said, while it will require effort, and persistence on your part to succeed, take heart, for if it were not so, success would be far more common, and as a result, most likely, far less valued.

Friend, from this moment on, You need to commit to yourself, that to the best of your ability, in all you do you will give your best, fully knowing that someone, often those who hold the keys to greater opportunities are taking notice of how you handle the seemingly "small things" which life asks of you. Even when we think no one is paying attention, there's always someone that notices. Always.

Take it granted that you are working for yourself – whether it is a social activity or you are operating an industrial or trading unit. Sometime to feed the physical demands of yourself and/or your dependants, the mental need or sometime, that may be towards your attempt to upgrade your social status too.

But if we can give our dead-level best to even the "small" things, then inevitably we will have the opportunity to show how we can handle the bigger challenges, which by the way bring with them far greater payoffs & rewards for delivering solutions.

Consider the following example. Let's say you want to teach someone to drive a vehicle. Furthermore, let's say you have two vehicles yourself, an older one, which drives fine, but has some age on it. And another, a new sports car. It's your pride and joy. Which vehicle are you going to take the first time driver out in? That's a no-brainer. The older of the two vehicles. Then, if you're feeling generous, after they've got driving all figured out you may let them drive your new sports car.

The same is true with life's opportunities, the ones which yield the bigger payoffs. We can't expect to just start off -- without someone entrusting us with the "keys to the kingdom" when we are just beginning. They have to get to know us, we have to prove to them, through our actions that we're capable of accomplishing whatever they ask of us. As we do, we build trust, and build a track record that we can in fact accomplish whatever we are tasked with.

We need to study each and every opportunity to ensure success towards our goal, if that opportunity is attempted upon. If we do, we can save a lot of time, energy and money in the process. Hit and Try is a good method if you do not have any previous experience or a guide to do so. When you do it by this process, you must attempt on the smaller risks, then go to the higher ones.

Be Happy – Attempt on every Opportunity.