खुश रहें - अपशब्दों का प्रयोग न करें।

प्रजापति दक्ष अपने दामाद शिव जी से इर्ष्या रखते थे और लगातार उनके अपमान का बहाना  की खोज करते रहते थे. एक बार उन्होंने शिव जी को नीचा दिखाने के लिए महायज्ञ का आयोजन किया और सर्व यज्ञो के पारंगत महर्षि दधीचि सहित देवर्षियों, महर्षियों और देवताओ को निमंत्रन भेजा, किन्तु अपनी पुत्री सती और दामाद शिव जी को आमंत्रित नहीं किया। महर्षि दधीचि ने शिव जी एवं पुत्री सती की अनुपस्थिति देखकर दक्ष को समझाया कि भगवान शंकर की कृपा के बिना कोई यज्ञ सफल नहीं हो सकता। जलन के साथ किया गया कोई भी कार्य विनाश का कारण बनता है, भले ही वोह सत्कर्म क्यों न हो. इसलिए अपनी इर्ष्या त्याग कर भगवान शंकर को सादर आमंत्रित किया जाये ताकि महायज्ञ सफल हो. यह सुनते ही प्रजापति दक्ष आग बबूला हो गए और अपने दामाद शिव जी के विरुद्ध अपशब्दों का इस्तमाल करते हुए यज्ञ आरम्भ करने के लिए कहा. उनके प्रताप के कारण वहां उपस्थित सभी देवर्षियों, महर्षियों और देवताओ ने विरोध नहीं किया मगर महर्षि दधीचि ने निर्भीकता से कह दिया कि शिव जी के प्रति उनके अपशब्द असहनीय हैं इसलिय वह उन्हे श्राप देते हैं कि यह महायज्ञ उनके कल्याण करने के स्थान पर उनके विनाश का कारण बनेगा। भगवान शंकर की क्रोधाग्नि में सब कुछ भस्म हो जायेगा, और यह कहकर महर्षि अपने आश्रम वापिस चले गए.इसी यज्ञ में भगवती सती ने आत्मदाह किया और यही यज्ञ राजा दक्ष के अपशब्दों के कारण उनके विनाश का कारण  बना। 

ऐसे ही महाभारत काल में जब जयदर्थ ने 1 0 0 बार भगवान कृष्ण के विरुद्ध अपशब्दों का प्रयोग किया था, भगवन ने क्षमा कर दिया मगर जब जयदर्थ ने फिर गाली दी तब भगवान कृष्ण ने अपने सुदर्शन चक्र से उसे सजा दी थी. आज भी इंसान अपशब्दों का प्रयोग करने  से  बेवजह क्रोध का कारण बन कर बहुत नुकसान कर बैठता है. इसलिय अपनी ख़ुशी के लिए अपशब्दों का प्रयोग नहीं करना चाहिए।

Be Happy – We Need To Change Our Attitude.

It is human psychology that we prefer pleasures. But it is a known fact that almost every pleasure seeks some sacrifice unless that is bestowed upon us by some divine power. When we find ourselves in chilling winter, we hear, “It's Freezing! When will it be summer?" To our children, we try to explain that winter is just one of our seasons, and soon enough summer will arrive. They may not get convinced easily and perhaps may add, “But it is freezing cold. There's snow and ice everywhere. We can't even go out to play it is so cold." Since we know their innocence and our duty to quench their curiosity, some time we have to say, "We just have to enjoy the cold and wait for summer. It will get better." They may not understand that they have to go through winter and spring before summer arrives. They just knew it was cold and thought it would be that way forever.

They don't realize that it will get better, it will get warmer and they will get to play in the park again. They just know today is cold, yesterday was cold and for a while they haven't been able to play on the monkey bars in the park. And they want to know why it isn't summer. We all want things to get better now. You want certain things to get better in your life right now and you can get what you want. If things aren't going the way you want think of it as your winter period. It will get better, it won't stay this way forever, but first you have to create the changes you want.

During winter, it seems like nothing is growing or improving. But deep underground, the roots of trees, plants and grass are all getting their nourishment, and storing what they need to sprout in spring. And just like nature is constantly at work, you're always feeding your subconscious mind. You're either giving it the nourishment and information it needs to make your life better, or you're giving it the wrong information, the kind that makes your life harder.

If you want to enjoy greater success, if you want to make more money, meet the right person, get a better job, make the right choices, then you have to give your subconscious the right information. You have to feed your subconscious mind and inner powers the nourishment they need to bring you what you want. Just like mother nature is always at work, always giving us what we need at the right time, your subconscious and inner power are also constantly at work. Your subconscious and inner powers are always creating and shaping your life. You don't see them actively doing this. They just work quietly in the background. They create and shape your life based on what you feed them and how you direct them.

If you wanted to have a beautiful looking lawn, flower or vegetable garden you would have to take care of them. You'd have to give them the right combination of  food, seeds, water, and nourishment. You'd also have to spend plenty of time removing the weeds, and getting rid of any unwanted plants that could destroy your garden. This all takes time and requires patience. But with the right techniques and by doing the right combination of things you'll see the payoff within a few short months. You may not be a gardener, you may not even have a garden, and you may never want one. But you do have a mind, a subconscious mind and you  have your inner powers. You need to feed them the right information (food), nourish them and constantly give them the right direction (like water to a garden). Then you have to be patient, continue working, continue applying the right techniques and continue doing the right combination of things.

When you will continue to hammer upon something, one day you'll see the payoff. It all requires practice and discipline. So today think about what you want in a few short months. Now begin directing your subconscious mind and your inner powers by giving them the right information and the right directions so that you get what you want in those few short months You know, Nature is very powerful.  It can be very kind or it can be very destructive. Your subconscious is also very powerful. It can be very kind or it can make your life very difficult. While you can't control nature, you can control and direct your subconscious mind. This gives you tremendous power. Your subconscious and inner powers create your life based on your thoughts, beliefs and attitudes. When you have a garden filled with weeds you have to remove those weeds or they'll choke off all the wonderful plants, flowers and grass in your beautiful garden. If you take too long to remove them, they get stronger and they get harder to remove.

Negative thoughts, negative beliefs and a negative attitude are the weeds of the mind. If you don't remove them they'll choke off and destroy all that is good in your life. The longer they stay in place the harder they are to remove. But you can get rid of them. You can remove them. No matter how long those negative thoughts, negative beliefs, and negative attitudes have been on your subconscious mind you can get rid of them. The sooner you start the better. And you get rid of them by thinking about what you want and giving your subconscious mind new instructions, new thoughts, and new beliefs all of which lead to a new attitude.

Once those new thoughts and beliefs are planted on your subconscious you'll begin to see dramatic changes. Like spring, it will be a new beginning and a new awakening. You have the power to create and change your life. You have the power to get exactly what you want in life.That power is your subconscious mind. If you're not getting what you want, If you're not making enough money, If you're not in the right relationship, If you can't meet the right people, If things just aren't going the way you want. It means that you're not giving your subconscious mind 

the right information and you're not giving it  the right nourishment. You also have too many weeds on your subconscious and you need to get rid of those weeds today. 

You need to start using your power, begin creating exactly what you want, get your subconscious and your inner powers working for you today and get rid of the weeds that are destroying your life. How? It is quite simple. This can be done by you very easily.

You may ascertain your targets, identify your resources, chalk out your time-bound programme to achieve it, start working on it and continue till you achieve your targets without relaxing even for a minute.

Today in the era of global economical liberation, we find that at one hand, we are seeing growing needs and fatty pockets and on the other hand, we see recession and deaths due to unemployment etc. A great imbalance! Some countries have sufficient resources of raw materials but they do not have skills to exploit them to their benefits. Some other countries good market but lack infrastructure to move further.

All this is due to lack of proper management. Some time it happens due to the attitude of those who are supposed to manage them. Somewhere it is due to the working of the politicians who make and/or modify the laws to suit their specific needs. Somewhere, the bureaucrats are there to interpret the laws to meet their corrupt working. Sometime, some judicial officers work with a prior mind set-up. Not only these pillars of the democracy, sometime media, generally in private sector, also create hype in respect of a particular story as they might be doing in form of paid agents. The government media persons tell what the Government needs to be highlighted and sometime, the truth gets hidden.

In the global liberation created by fast moving communication and transport systems, we need to change our attitude to adjust with the new equations and try to reduce the opportunities of corruption in our practice. Once we do, we can ask other one to follow the same practice. If that one does not change, we can take the shelter of law to enforce our rights. But we need to perform our duties first. We need to change our attitude first, then to seek happiness for ourselves and others too.

Be Happy – We Need To Change Our Attitude.

Be Happy – Manage Your Time.

Those who become Great in their life know the value of their time. For achieving their targets, they use their time best. If you wish to become great, you need some discipline, regularity in your working style and discipline means to use your time best.

How? Have you ever had the experience of looking back on your performance during the last week with the sinking feeling that you didn't get as much done as you'd hoped? When building a successful career or a business of your own, your time is perhaps your most valuable asset, and your income is a direct result of how you spend your time. You cannot buy any more time than you're given, and the clock is always ticking.

You Must Keep a Detailed Time Log.

The first step to better managing your time is to find out how you're currently spending your time. Keeping a time log is a very effective way to do this, and after trying it for just one day, you'll immediately gain tremendous insight into where your time is actually going. The very act of measuring is often enough to raise your unconscious habits into your consciousness, where you then have a chance to scrutinize and change them.

Here's how to keep a time log. Throughout your day record the time whenever you start or stop any activity. Consider using a stopwatch to just record time intervals for each activity. You can do this during only your working time or throughout your entire day. At the end of the day, sort all the time chunks into general categories, and find out what percentage of your time is being spent on each type of activity. If you want to be thorough, do this for a week, and calculate the percentage of your total time that you spent on each type of activity. Be as detailed as possible. Note how much time you spend on email, reading newsgroups, web surfing, phone calls, eating, going to the bathroom, etc. If you get up out of your chair, it probably means you need to make an entry in your time log.

You may be surprised to discover you're spending only a small fraction of your working time doing what you'd consider to be actual work. Studies have shown that the average office worker does only 1.5 hours of actual work per day. The rest of the time is spent socializing, taking coffee breaks, eating, engaging in non-business communication, shuffling papers, and doing lots of other non-work tasks. The average full-time office worker doesn't even start doing real work until 11:00am and begins to wind down around 3:30pm.

You Must Analyze Your Results.

The first time I kept a time log, I only finished 15 hours worth of real work in a week where I spent about 60 hours in my office. Even though I was technically about twice as productive as the average office worker, I was still disturbed by the results. Where did those other 45 hours go? My time log laid it all out for me, showing me all the time drains I wasn't consciously aware of -- checking email too often, excessive perfectionism doing tasks that didn't need to be done, over-reading the news, taking too much time for meals, succumbing to preventable interruptions, etc.

You Must Calculate Your Personal Efficiency Ratio.

When I realized that I spent 60 hours at the office but only completed 15 hours of actual work within that time, I started asking myself some interesting questions. My income and my sense of accomplishment depended only on those 15 hours, not on the total amount of time I spent at the office. So I decided to begin recording my daily efficiency ratio as the amount of time I spent on actual work divided by the total amount of time I spent in my office. While it certainly bothered me that I was only working 25% of the time initially, I also realized it would be extremely foolish to simply work longer hours.

Efficiency Ratio = (Time Doing "Real Work") / (Time Spent "At Work")

You Must Cut Back On Total Hours To Force An Increase In Efficiency.

If you've ever tried to discipline yourself to do something you weren't really motivated to do, you most likely failed. That was naturally the result I experienced when I tried to discipline myself to work harder. In fact, trying harder actually de-motivated me and drove my efficiency ratio even lower. So I reluctantly decided to try the opposite approach. The next day I would only allow myself to put in five hours total at the office, and the rest of the day I wouldn't allow myself to work at all.

Well, an interesting thing happened, as I'm sure you can imagine. My brain got an idea that working time was a scarce commodity because I worked almost the entire five hours straight and got an efficiency ratio of over 90%. I continued this experiment for the rest of the week and ended up getting about 25 hours of work done with only 30 hours total spent in my office, for an efficiency ratio of over 80%. So I was able to reduce my weekly working time by 30 hours while also getting 10 more hours of real work done. If your time log shows your efficiency ratio to be on the low side, try severely limiting your total amount of working time for a day, and see what happens. Once your brain realizes that working time is scarce, you suddenly become a lot more efficient because you have to be. When you have tight time constraints, you will usually find a way to get your work done. But when you have all the time in the world, it's too easy to be inefficient. You Must Gradually Increase Total Hours While Maintaining Peak Efficiency.

Over a period of a few weeks, I was able to keep my efficiency ratio above 80% while gradually increasing my total weekly office time. I've been able to maintain this for many years now, and I commonly get about 40 hours of real work done every week, while only spending about 45 total hours in my office. I've learned that this is ideal for me. If I try to put in more time at the office, then my productivity drops off rapidly. The interesting thing is that the system that allowed me to optimize my effectiveness at work also created a tremendous amount of balance in all other areas of my life. Even though I was able to use this approach to triple my business productivity, I still gained plenty of time to pursue personal interests.

Time logging is the intelligent choice to ensure optimal productivity without increasing your hours. But time logging need only be done periodically to provide these benefits. I do it for one week every 3-6 months, and over the years it has made a huge difference for me, always providing me with new distinctions. If I go too many months without time logging, my productivity gradually drops as I fall back into unconscious time-wasting habits. You'll probably find as I do that your gut feelings about your productivity are closely related to how much real work you actually get done. When you feel your productivity is lower than you'd like, raise your awareness via time logging, measure your efficiency ratio, and then optimize your efficiency to boost your productivity back up where it belongs. Time logging is a high leverage activity that takes very little time and effort to implement, but the long-term payoff is tremendous.

When you pursue the path of developing your personal productivity, it may cause you some days of hair-pulling and teeth-gnashing, but it does eventually pay off. I think many people are attracted to the idea of becoming more productive out of basic common sense. It doesn’t take much brainpower to figure out that if you use your time more efficiently, you’ll complete more tasks, and therefore you’ll accumulate results faster. Personal productivity allows you to create enough space in your life to do all the things you feel you should be doing: eat healthy, exercise, work hard, deepen relationships, have a wonderful social life, and make a difference. Otherwise, something has to give. Without a high level of personal productivity, you’ll likely have to give up something that’s important to you. You have conflicts between health and work, work and family, family and friends. Industry can give you the ability to enjoy all of these things, so you don’t have to choose work over family or vice versa. You can have both.

One thing more, you may go in some industry because it is only one tool among many. It will allow you to complete your work efficiently, but it won’t tell you what work to do in the first place. Industry is a low level tool. Working hard doesn’t necessarily mean working smart. But this weakness of industry doesn’t remove its powerful place in your personal development toolbox. Once you’ve decided on a course of action and see your plans laid out in front of you, nothing can do the job as well as industry. In the long run your results will come from your actions, and industry is all about action.

Be Happy - Manage Your Time.

Be Happy – You Can Eliminate Your Workplace Stress Too.

It is true that for a working person, workplace takes a major share of the active time of that person. Active time means that time which is dedicated to earning the livelihood. If that is calm, comfortable and giving no disturbance to the normal life, it is okay. But it does not happen with every person.

Today, the source of all stress for a person’s life is the workplace. The deadlines, paper works, irate clients and bosses, the details, and so on will all add up to give you the worst problems that you can possibly experience in your entire life. These problems will all add up and will affect the productivity of your work – your emotional, mental and physical factor will be put to the test.

Stress management in your workplace involves a lot of factors, particularly in dealing with these minute problems that tends to blow your mind off when put all together. Here are some tips that will help you out to keep your work from ruining your health, and your sanity.

Start small.

The key to keeping a balanced career is not let anthill of a problem into a mountain. If you keep attention to details, you can solve these problems one-by-one before they pile up. Try to get rid of the habit of postponing your problems for later since you won’t know what will arrive on your desk tomorrow.

Irate and demanding clients can give you more problems than anything put together. Since your life and career revolves around them, you need to thread carefully on handling their problems. One tip in dealing with these people is to keep your cool while listening to their rants and raves. Don’t let their anger affect you.

Take a break once in a while.

It is important to know your limits while working. Human aren’t built to work 24 hours a day so its best if you keep a close eye on your body before it gets out of hand. If you think that the work is starting to affect your thinking or when you start to get irritable, try to take some time off and listen to music or get a cup of coffee to help you relax.

If you have your own cubicle at work then it’s advisable to customize it to make your workplace as comfortable as possible. A cushion on your chair to prop your back, a foot stool to help your legs relax, or even some pictures that will remind you of fun times to take your mind off your problems for a short period of time.

Some techniques like breathing exercises will help you relax by keeping your body rhythm at normal. If you start to feel some aches and pains, then you better walk around or do a little stretching… loosen all those muscles first before proceeding with your workload.

Pamper, pamper, pamper.

Sometimes work can be so demanding that it’s almost impossible to get a vacation; or if you do, you get turned down flat. You need to find ways to take some time off and pamper yourself before you continue with your work. If you have some free time, try to hook up with some health clinics around the area and get a massage.

Some massage techniques can help you relax and will leave you energize for work afterwards; while some can relieve you of your aches and pains so that you can proceed with your work without worries of annoying muscle cramps.

Stress management at your workplace will not only help your body cope with the problems at work, but will also help you in maintaining the productivity that your career needs.

Workplace Stress Management.

Stress is a regular part of life and any job. Without stress, workers cannot meet deadlines, strive to achieve required sells required for the job, or meet satisfaction of the clients. Meeting the demands of a job makes the work interesting and satisfying and often allows people to develop their skills and achieve promotion. People regularly experience stress-causing situations in the workplace. They react to these events with tension and then come back to a more relaxed condition when it is over.

Stressors In The Workplace.

In the workplace, stress can usually cross from normal to excessive. Excessive stress can activate physical and emotional reactions that can be detrimental to employees and business alike.

Some jobs especially those that include physical strength like firefighting or those involve in maintaining justice are very stressful. Other jobs like teaching or social work that are physiologically demanding can also be stressful and even people who crunch numbers or stamp metal can experience stress.

Workplace stress can be caused by several factors, some of which may include: unsupportive working environment, high demands of the job, or poor organizational communication.

Sudden change in the workplace can cause employees develop a fear of being fired. Frequent personnel turnover, poor chances of promotion, lack of preparation for technological changes can also become the stress factor for the employees.

Some work stress factors may include: too much workload, dull or worthless tasks, lengthy hours of work and small pay, unreasonable performance demands and rare rest breaks. However the physical environment of the workplace like noise and overcrowding, poor air quality, health and safety risks can also cause stress to the workers.

Supervisors that are distant and uncommunicative are walking stressors. Meager performance from subordinates can also cause stress to supervisors. Staff members also create their own stress by developing office politics, competition, bullying or harassment.

Health Risks Of Stress In The Workplace.

A link between workplace stress and physical or emotional problems exist. Early signs of job stress include: sleep disturbances, stomach problems, trouble in concentration, irritability, headache, low morale, and poor affairs with family members and friends. These signs are simple to distinguish, but without proper management, they can develop into severe health risks like cardiovascular disease, musculoskeletal conditions and psychological disorders.

Work Stress Reduction.

Managers and employers can reduce stress at work by providing stress management programs and training for workers and improvement in the working conditions.

There are programs that are intended to aid employees with personal problems that may be disturbing their job performance. Also, they may consist of counseling, mental health assessments, workshops on managing their time, ways of relaxing and assistance both legally and financially. The relief provided by these programs may be shallow and brief if the roots of stress in the work setting are not tackled.

Creating a healthy working environment can create a lasting stress relief of the workers. Encouraging employee participation, implementation of policies that includes the needs of the workers are some of the ways to provide a better working environment.

Employees can also reduce their job stress by getting a job description. A specific job description provided by the employer provides the basic guidelines and expectations for the performance of the employee. If the is becoming too stressful, maybe it is time for the employee to look for a more suitable job or ask if the company could modify the job to suit the employee’s skill.

Getting support from the local, state or federal agencies can lessen work stress by providing the employees the backing they need to keep them from hazardous situations in the workplace.

Be Happy – You Can Eliminate Your Workplace Stress Too.