Thursday, February 28, 2013

Be Happy – Be Lucky.


Normally we consider luck as fortune occurring beyond our control, without regard to our will, intention or desired results. When we do not get our desired results in spite of our efforts which we may treat to have been made best out of our capacity, we feel that our luck is not working or we are unlucky.
There are two senses - a prescriptive sense and a descriptive sense. In the prescriptive sense, luck is a supernatural concept that there are divine forces prescribing certain events to occur very much the way we wish or according to the laws of physics which prescribe that certain events occur. It is the prescriptive sense that people mean when they say they "do not believe in luck". In the descriptive sense, luck is a word people give after the occurrence of events which they find to be fortuitous.
We can say that luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. I'm a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it. You too can create your own luck . Yes you do. I know you might think that luck is just something that happens randomly or by chance. But it's really not.
Luck happens when you believe that you're lucky or when you have thoughts that lead to being lucky. Luck is really something good that happens to you unexpectedly. If you want to be lucky then you have to think and believe that you are lucky.
You create Good luck when you focus on the positive, when you're optimistic and when you believe that things will work out (or that you're lucky). Bad luck happens when you focus on what is wrong, when you don't think that things will work out, when you don't trust your subconscious mind and higher powers, or when you continually complain about your state.  Bad luck comes from negative thinking that you've created and planted on your subconscious mind and this negative thinking leads to more and worse luck. Things don't go your way because you don't believe they will. So you need to end up creating bad luck. When things continue to get worse, you blame it on luck. But it's really not luck.
It's the negative thinking that you carry. It happens because you've trained your mind to look at what's wrong and you've directed your subconscious mind and to bring you more bad luck and you keep telling your subconscious that you don't want thing to work out.
But it is not what you want.  You want to be lucky. You want things to work out. You want a better life. Negative thinking keeps holding you back. It destroys any chance of success, happiness or a better life. You'll never be "lucky" if you always focus on what's wrong. Those negative thoughts, views and beliefs destroy your success. They create more and more bad luck.
You may want to make more money, lose weight, be healthy, get a new job, meet the right person and achieve your goals. But you won't because those limiting and negative thoughts block your success. You attract more misery and more failure. The cycle continues. It's not really about luck. It's all about what you think and believe. Your subconscious mind follows your thought patterns and beliefs. It simply responds and creates situations that mirror what you believe and think.
When you continue to look at the worst in a situation, think you're unlucky or have a pile of negative thoughts and beliefs you continue to create more and more misery, struggle and failure. Your subconscious thinks that's what you want. So that's what you get. You keep having more "bad luck."
Now you can turn things around. You can go from feeling (and believing) that you're unlucky to being lucky so that you get what you want. You simply have to direct your subconscious mind so that it's positive, optimistic, and open minded. So that you get your subconscious mind to bring you exactly what you want.  Scientists have proven that people who are optimistic and positive have better luck. They also did better in life. And those who are negative or pessimistic have more bad luck, and struggled in life. A group of researchers recently found the following:
Those who are optimistic and positive and  believed they were lucky... enjoyed life, earned more money, were in stable jobs and relationships, had things go their way more often, won contests and prizes and were generally lucky - things just worked out for them. Those who had a negative attitude, were pessimistic and did not think they were lucky struggled with money changed jobs more often had poor relationships.
Science has proven that you do create your own luck. When you're positive, optimistic and believe that good things happen - you'll enjoy life have more success, make more money and you'll be happier. The choice is yours. Get rid of the negative thoughts. Start being more optimistic. Believe in yourself. Believe that things will work out. Direct your subconscious mind and your inner powers to bring you exactly what you want. Put an end to the negative thinking that's destroying your life.
How to bring out yourself out of your pessimistic thinking that you are unlucky is very easy. First, you will have to give your pessimistic thinking by concentrating upon those past acts and results which had brought out positive effects upon you, your prosperity and happiness. You need to analyze why those good times got lost. You will have to motivate yourself. Please remember when you are in bad times as you feel, none other than yourself will motivate you.
What do you mean with motivation? It is a psychological feature that arouses an organism to act towards a desired goal and elicits, controls, and sustains certain goal directed behaviors. It can be considered a driving force; a psychological drive that compels or reinforces an action toward a desired goal. For example, hunger is a motivation that elicits a desire to eat. Motivation has been shown to have roots in physiological, behavioral, cognitive, and social areas.
Second, you need to distress yourself. If stress is over your mind, you can not bring any positive solution into your mind. This too makes you unlucky to your prospects. Julie is a manager in a high-volume call center, and her job is very stressful. She interacts every day with angry, upset customers, she needs to keep her team members calm and productive, and she has to meet tough customer satisfaction goals.
Despite these pressures, Julie is known for her professionalism and her composure. She's kind to everyone on her team, she stays cool in tense situations, and she makes good decisions, even when she's under pressure. Julie has mastered the art of surviving and thriving in a stressful role.
Many people experience stress in their jobs. You might feel stressed temporarily because of a project deadline, or because of seasonal fluctuations in your workload. Or you might experience long-term stress due to the type of work that you do, because of a difficult boss or co-worker, or because of office politics.
Job stress has a number of negative consequences that, if left unmanaged, can affect your health, productivity, well-being, and career. For example, a study has found that  professionals who work in high-stress environments are more likely to suffer from high blood pressure, insulin resistance, and high cholesterol - all of which increase the risk of heart disease and diabetes.
Long-term, unmanaged stress can weaken your immune system, it can cause chronic muscle pain or sleeplessness, and it can contribute to obesity. It can also lead to a number of psychological conditions, such as anxiety or depression, and it may cause relationship problems with others on your team. You may feel burnout which is a likely consequence of long-term job stress. Emotional exhaustion, lowered productivity, and higher absenteeism can all result from this.
Stress can cause severe health problems and, in extreme cases, even death. The strategies discussed here are for guidance only. You should take the advice of suitably qualified health professionals if you have any concerns over stress-related illnesses, or if stress is causing you significant or persistent unhappiness.
Why You Should Control Stress
There are many good reasons why you should control workplace stress. You'll be more productive and creative at work, you'll have better relationships with family and colleagues, and you'll produce higher-quality work. You'll also be healthier and more energetic as a result.
When your job is stressful most of the time, stress can have a negative impact on your health and productivity. There are many warning signs that you're experiencing high levels of workplace stress, including:

·         Frequent headaches/muscle tension.
·         Persistent sleeplessness.
·         Ongoing irritability.
·         An upset stomach.
·         Low morale/depression.
·         Prolonged difficulty concentrating.
·         Weight loss/gain.
·         Continued loss of interest in work or hobbies.
·         Social withdrawal.
Let's look at several ways that you can manage the stress in your role and bring about luck in your life.
Identify Causes
Before you can wish for luck, you first have to know what causes you to be unlucky. Perhaps it may be result of your over stressed working or stress due to no work at all or unsatisfactory working conditions. 59 percent of professionals report a heavy workload as their leading cause of stress. There are other common causes too which may bring about stress over your mind and finally, you may get depressed and feel unlucky. Some causes of stress include:

·         Workplace pace and unrealistic deadlines.
·         Persistent bullying and abuse.
·         A difficult boss or colleague.
·         Long work hours.
·         Poor management.
·         A lack of autonomy.
·         Poor work/life balance.
·         Meaningless work.
·         Career concerns (no upward mobility, or a lack of job security).
·         An unhealthy work environment.
·         A lack of resources.
Keep a diary to understand what causes you to feel stress or unlucky in your job. Once you've identified the factors that contribute to this status, you can then take appropriate steps to manage them.
Think Positively
Your attitude plays a major role in your level of luck, no matter what kind of work you do. You can choose to approach tasks, responsibilities, and people with a negative attitude or you can choose to approach your work and relationships with a positive mind-set. Although the amount of work is the same, the impact on your health and well-being is profound.
Positive thinking acts as a stress buffer. Whenever you catch yourself slipping into a negative frame of mind, make an effort to think positively instead. This might mean challenging your negative thoughts with rational, fact-based thinking, or using affirmations to boost your self-confidence. It will definitely bring luck to you.
Calm Down
Stress can often cause you to stop breathing for several seconds, even though you may not realize it. When you're feeling stressed, practice deep breathing exercises. Deep, slow breathing floods your body with oxygen, slowing your heart rate, relaxing your muscles, and helping you focuses. You might also want to practice yoga or meditation after work, both of which are effective methods of managing stress.
Frequent daily breaks and regular vacations are also important for reducing work stress. Even a long weekend can help you de-stress after a tough week. When you do take a break or go on vacation, leave work at work; taking a "working vacation" or constantly checking email while you're gone won't give you the time that you need to rest and recharge.
Manage Your Time
Your job might be stressful because of your workload or project deadlines. You can lower your stress levels and improve your productivity by learning to manage your time and priorities more effectively.
Distractions in the office can be a major source of stress. These distractions can come from well-meaning colleagues, from constant phone calls or emails, or from general office noise. Minimize distractions by closing your office door for short periods of time, by turning off your phone, or by listening to white noise to drown out people's conversations.
Exercise
Regular exercise is one of the best ways to manage a stressful job. Daily exercise helps you cope with stress; it also boosts your memory, creativity, IQ, and productivity.
You can fit exercise into your schedule in many ways. Wake up earlier and exercise before work, take a walk on your lunch break, or use a standing desk while you're at work. Remember, any additional movement will help you manage stress and live a healthier life. Take frequent breaks to move around and let your mind rest. Try taking several five- or 10-minute walks during the day; it might not sound like much, but this exercise and fresh air will give you time to rest and recharge.
Manage Priorities
Conflicting priorities can be a major source of workplace stress, especially when you have to push important work aside to focus on less important, but urgent, tasks. You also need to choose the right tasks to work on. Some tasks require a lot of time and energy, yet they have a low impact, while other tasks have a big impact, but require little effort.
If you're working on a project that seems overwhelming, break it into smaller steps. This allows you to accomplish one thing at a time, instead of trying to take everything on at once.
Increase Autonomy
Autonomy is the freedom to decide how to accomplish your work. Professionals who work in roles with low autonomy often experience more stress and dissatisfaction than those with greater autonomy.
Speak with your boss about your current goals or projects. Where appropriate, ask for the freedom to choose how you accomplish these goals. This could include working from home one day a week, or choosing who you want to work with on your next project.
Assess Resources
Look at the work that you do. What are your biggest frustrations? Where are your bottlenecks? Where are you most inefficient? These situations often point to a lack of training, tools, resources, or help - all of which can contribute to workplace stress.
Make a list of what you need. Let your boss know what you're lacking, and explain how these items will help improve your productivity and effectiveness. If your boss can't provide the resources that you need, think about how you might be able to negotiate for them with others, or acquire them on your own.
Find Meaning
What do you love most about your job? What gives your work meaning? These questions might sound simple, but they're important. If you know what gives your work meaning, it will help you manage the stress that goes along with it.
Everyone experiences the feeling of being lucky or unlucky from time to time when there is some result favorable or unfavorable  But that is the result of your efforts only. If due to wrong results, you get stressed, you need to shelf out that feeling first to bring about luck in your life. The opposite feelings that is you are unlucky may create stress in your mind and long-term stress can lead to a number of health problems, including high blood pressure and a weakened immune system. It can also contribute to heart disease, obesity, anxiety, and depression. To overcome, you need to recount yourself and feel lucky even in the beginning by mentioning to yourself that you are going to win in your efforts.
Be Happy – Be Lucky.

Friday, February 15, 2013

Be Happy – Transcend Your Poverty Consciousness Forever.


We know that everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence. After every night, there is a day. At the end of a tunnel, you usually find a ray of light. If for some reason, you find yourself to be in mid of many troubles, that does not mean that those troubles will remain always there. Sometime, troubles make you aware of the circumstances why they have come about, if they are there in result of your wrong decisions and/or you have mismatched your resources with your targets.
Similarly, poverty is a choice that we make everyday without our active knowledge.  It's the choice to be uncreative, feel limited in resources, thinking inside the box, smaller than life, deeply powerless, incapable of receiving love, and not believing that anything is possible.  Poverty thinking is a disease and an unconscious choice that is based in the ignorance of our true power.  This unawareness is the one deciding factor as to whether someone continues to remain broke and struggling for another year, or starts to shift their energy into receiving a new source of income next week.
The moment you choose to believe in any poverty based thought, you start thinking more small, limited and negative thoughts about life.  It has a snowball affect to it, where you begin to attract more limiting thoughts based in that misunderstanding.  When negative thinking becomes your habit, you begin to invent thoughts that support your old poverty minded thoughts.  The repetitive cycle of poverty thinking is a social disease that festers and feeds upon itself. 
Every time we identify with the poverty mindset in other person who thinks there is "not enough", we slowly inherit and mirror their disease.  By accepting the limiting beliefs of others, we forget our original abundant nature, and stop realizing who we really are, are all-powerful beings.  The moment we can understand the foundational lie that poverty is based upon, and take full responsibility for the suffering we are creating through our choices, then we can begin choosing a new path and acting from a new mindset to create a new world.
It's good to know that poverty thinking is not our original nature. Our real inherent nature has no boundaries or limitations on what is possible and what isn't. This original abundant mind is something we were born with, and is rooted in knowing that we are all absolutely loved, free and totally abundant.  Poverty consciousness is a limiting mindset that was inherited by your community in order to be accepted, fit in, and welcomed into the social norm. We often would rather be accepted by others than seen as an outcast who is believing they are bigger, better and richer.  If your friends, family and community never had any poverty thoughts on any level, you wouldn't have it either.  You would only know how to be creative in ways where you'd think anything is possible, and know deep down that abundance was your birthright.
When I connect with people who are struggling financially, I always find there is one thing they have in common. They all continuously choose to support their old limiting thoughts and negative beliefs around money.  Rather than actually doing something radically different and exciting to move through them, people live and hide underneath their excuses.  They become cowards to discovering their real power, hiding behind their pride, rather than revealing and healing their feelings of fear, self-judgment and financial intolerance. Each time their mind unconsciously creates this pattern of choosing a desperate needy response to life.  The habit becomes so natural that they have to something very radical to alleviate this perpetual addictive state of financial frustration.  They have to accept the fact that they are following their old excuses, and now choosing to live a life that is continuously moving through the fear.
Remember, the impoverished mindset is one that continuously resists fear, controlling the emotions and creating distractions so they do not have to feel their fear.  This type of controlling energy tends to say NO to life, denying new ideas, opportunities and people.  It abides in a feeling there is never enough to go around, and we must compete, suck it up, and live a life of compromise if we are to survive.  It thinks you must stick to doing your duty, live in obligations, always work hard, struggle to survive, and not think too big just so we don't upset others.  It's in this very uncreative approach to life that people escape from their true power and get to be irresponsible for their real life purpose which is to know themselves. 
Poverty thinking is the one disease that can completely destroy the great potential of love and joy your life contains.  People continue choosing to play small, helpless, lazy, abandoned, unloved and unwanted because there's nothing they can do about it and it is their "destiny".  It's actually a very selfish self absorbed way to live, never considering how to help out others, and thinking only of yourself and how your desires, wants and needs are not quite fully met.  Poverty consciousness is perhaps the most unconscious, self destructive and addictive pattern that people have which will ruin their chances at enjoying their life. 
The poverty mindset can be brilliant in the way that it will rationalize things, thinking that by consuming fewer resources we are thus helping the world out and saving our planet.  By spending less money we become wealthier and less dependant on money or the world for our survival.  Of course, there is a grain of truth in everything, and the best path is to create a world of total sustainability within a conscious loving lifestyle.  Yet the intention of holding back out of fear and not fully honoring your true power is the greatest loss of all.  If you're constantly holding tight onto money, you're creating struggle and strive within yourself and always feeling that you don't have enough.  This manifests in many forms, one will show up as your inability to contribute your full unlimited unbounded joy into your community. You cannot show up for a wild free abundant loving life purpose if you are holding tight onto anything and living in fear on any level. 
The feeling of being poor is so terrifying for some people that every thought and action becomes about avoiding that experience. Many people in this world choose to become insanely rich based out of their deepest fear of being broke.  This avoidance however morphs into another type of poverty consciousness, as it never allows the mind to relax and rest into its divine original nature.  Any type of non-relaxed fear based thinking is going to have a feeling of poverty connected to it on some level.  Be aware that poverty consciousness is a very sneaky beast and it can show up in your life in a large variety of forms.  It may be as obvious as feeling you don't have enough money to pay your rent each month, the paranoia that someone may rip you off, the idea that there is only one soul mate in the world for you, or the idea that you have to eat everything on your dinner plate, even if you are not hungry.  Just know that if any thought is formed out of fear, it is based in some level of poverty thinking.
The first step to transcending poverty consciousness is to find out exactly where it is showing up in your life and in your thinking.  It is only through the awareness of these negative thoughts that you can liberate your mind from repeating them.  The moment a limiting thought flows through the brain you must step back from it, see it from a distance, and don't emotionally buy into the story that accompanies it.  When you are able to identify exactly where, when and how you emotionally fall into your poverty stricken belief system, then you have a chance at moving beyond it.   Yet, you must keep a very close watchful eye on poverty thinking if you're ever going to get beyond it.  When you can see how you justify being stuck, poor, or happily struggling then you'll be able to find a way to invent a new story about how good it feels to no longer live in a world filled with excuses. 
People often tell themselves that its easier to remain stuck in just having enough to survive, than to own up to the fact that they are a super powerful manifesting being who can have anything they desire.  If they owned that empowering thought, it would either mean their whole life was some sort of failure or they were a completely stupid and ignorant person.  So people make up all sorts of wonderful "feel good" stories about their poverty, saying that it is more holy to be poor, or its not ok to take "too much" and this takes up their energy for remembering we have an infinite supply of creativity, love, energy and consciousness available.  These are the ingredients which actually create money! 
 Living in poverty consciousness is living a lie, based in deep denial to knowing the magical manifesting potential energy inside you.  The consequences for continuing to believe in such a deep misunderstanding are the experiences of struggle, pain, desperation, and lack.  The more money you feel you don't have the more busy you become to fulfill this need.  Poverty thinking creates an energetic distraction from knowing your intimate connection with the source. The mind is obsessed with being right, and for it to admit how its choosing each day to remain stuck manifesting more poverty stricken situations, would completely destroy it.
No matter how rich or poor you are (even if you're a gazillionaire) the ego/mind will be addicted to wanting more.  It will always tell you that you need more and no matter how hard you try, you can never completely satisfy the demanding desiring ego. Its purpose is wanting, wanting, wanting and wanting more wanting!  This incessant wanting creates the feeling of poverty.  So it is important to remember that our ego is not designed to know what true satisfaction is, this is the purpose of the soul and discovering your spiritual nature.  The mind doesn't have the time to be curious about this divinity inside you.  It wants you to believe it is a lie, and that you need more stuff if you ever want to be happy. This lie that more things equals a better life is very deep, and if accepted over time it may cause you to lose sight of your source of true happiness, which is in your life purpose and spiritual nature.
To completely break away from poverty consciousness you simply have to commit your life to a new way of being.  You have to totally retrain your brain to believe that anything is possible.   Perhaps the most hidden secret to transcending poverty consciousness is also the most powerful one which is this.  Ultimately, when we can truly relax into the core of our worst feelings of poverty, the peace found in that relaxation contains an unstoppable resource of abundance, love, healing and creativity inside it.  It is only through facing our fear that we can be released from it.  What happens this is we find a state of total emptiness inside that also contains our greatest fullness.  We do nothing and merge with everything. 
It comes down to dropping out of the head and into our heart, that we finally relax, and discover the natural state of abundance inside.  The heart contains the greatest freedom that is truly freeing and life enriching.  The feeling of great abundance naturally comes when you live from the heart and abide in feelings of gratitude that are already there. Check it out and see for yourself!  Imagine what would your week be like if you lived from your heart, and only practiced gratitude for the life you already have?  It is first through accepting the idea that you are enough that can later manifest into the experience of having enough.  If you're thinking for one minute about what you don't have, it means you've missed 60 seconds of feeling loved, rich, and abundant about what you do have.
Poverty thinking is a cheap way of getting scraps of love, which ultimately end up costing everyone in the end. It can be very enticing to stay in as other people around you don't want to leave their habits, and thus will give you tons of extra sympathy when you're broke and struggling in the dirt with them. It is all about believing in the lie that you are not an all powerful manifesting being that creates all suffering.  This lie is the greatest sin one can ever make.  It is the original missed mark of mankind, and is causing you to miss out on the deep source of joy that is at the core of your being. You need to revamp your attitude and mould it towards becoming a rich person as to how you would deal with yourself, others and judicious treatment of your resources without being jealous with other’s progress. You need to learn how the other one got success while you had the same set of circumstances around you. If you lack something, you must try to gain that and you will transcend your poverty consciousness soon.
Be Happy – Transcend Your  Poverty Consciousness Forever.  

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Be Happy – We Need To Change Our Attitude.


It is human psychology that we prefer pleasures. But it is a known fact that almost every pleasure seeks some sacrifice unless that is bestowed upon us by some divine power. When we find ourselves in chilling winter, we hear, “It's Freezing! When will it be summer?" To our children, we try to explain that winter is just one of our seasons, and soon enough summer will arrive. They may not get convinced easily and perhaps may add, “But it is freezing cold. There's snow and ice everywhere. We can't even go out to play it is so cold." Since we know their innocence and our duty to quench their curiosity, some time we have to say, "We just have to enjoy the cold and wait for summer. It will get better." They may not understand that they have to go through winter and spring before summer arrives. They just knew it was cold and thought it would be that way forever.
They don't realize that it will get better, it will get warmer and they will get to play in the park again. They just know today is cold, yesterday was cold and for a while they haven't been able to play on the monkey bars in the park. And they want to know why it isn't summer. We all want things to get better now. You want certain things to get better in your life right now and you can get what you want. If things aren't going the way you want think of it as your winter period. It will get better, it won't stay this way forever, but first you have to create the changes you want.

During winter, it seems like nothing is growing or improving. But deep underground, the roots of trees, plants and grass are all getting their nourishment, and storing what they need to sprout in spring. And just like nature is constantly at work, you're always feeding your subconscious mind. You're either giving it the nourishment and information it needs to make your life better, or you're giving it the wrong information, the kind that makes your life harder.
If you want to enjoy greater success, if you want to make more money, meet the right person, get a better job, make the right choices, then you have to give your subconscious the right information. You have to feed your subconscious mind and inner powers the nourishment they need to bring you what you want. Just like mother nature is always at work, always giving us what we need at the right time, your subconscious and inner power are also constantly at work. Your subconscious and inner powers are always creating and shaping your life. You don't see them actively doing this. They just work quietly in the background. They create and shape your life based on what you feed them and how you direct them.

If you wanted to have a beautiful looking lawn, flower or vegetable garden you would have to take care of them. You'd have to give them the right combination of  food, seeds, water, and nourishment. You'd also have to spend plenty of time removing the weeds, and getting rid of any unwanted plants that could destroy your garden. This all takes time and requires patience. But with the right techniques and by doing the right combination of things you'll see the payoff within a few short months. You may not be a gardener, you may not even have a garden, and you may never want one. But you do have a mind, a subconscious mind and you  have your inner powers. You need to feed them the right information (food), nourish them and constantly give them the right direction (like water to a garden). Then you have to be patient, continue working, continue applying the right techniques and continue doing the right combination of things.

When you will continue to hammer upon something, one day you'll see the payoff. It all requires practice and discipline. So today think about what you want in a few short months. Now begin directing your subconscious mind and your inner powers by giving them the right information and the right directions so that you get what you want in those few short months You know, Nature is very powerful.  It can be very kind or it can be very destructive. Your subconscious is also very powerful. It can be very kind or it can make your life very difficult. While you can't control nature, you can control and direct your subconscious mind. This gives you tremendous power. Your subconscious and inner powers create your life based on your thoughts, beliefs and attitudes. When you have a garden filled with weeds you have to remove those weeds or they'll choke off all the wonderful plants, flowers and grass in your beautiful garden. If you take too long to remove them, they get stronger and they get harder to remove.

Negative thoughts, negative beliefs and a negative attitude are the weeds of the mind. If you don't remove them they'll choke off and destroy all that is good in your life. The longer they stay in place the harder they are to remove. But you can get rid of them. You can remove them. No matter how long those negative thoughts, negative beliefs, and negative attitudes have been on your subconscious mind you can get rid of them. The sooner you start the better. And you get rid of them by thinking about what you want and giving your subconscious mind new instructions, new thoughts, and new beliefs all of which lead to a new attitude.
Once those new thoughts and beliefs are planted on your subconscious you'll begin to see dramatic changes. Like spring, it will be a new beginning and a new awakening. You have the power to create and change your life. You have the power to get exactly what you want in life.That power is your subconscious mind. If you're not getting what you want, If you're not making enough money, If you're not in the right relationship, If you can't meet the right people, If things just aren't going the way you want. It means that you're not giving your subconscious mind 
the right information and you're not giving it  the right nourishment. You also have too many weeds on your subconscious and you need to get rid of those weeds today. 

You need to start using your power, begin creating exactly what you want, get your subconscious and your inner powers working for you today and get rid of the weeds that are destroying your life. How? It is quite simple. This can be done by you very easily.
You may ascertain your targets, identify your resources, chalk out your time-bound programme to achieve it, start working on it and continue till you achieve your targets without relaxing even for a minute.
Today in the era of global economical liberation, we find that at one hand, we are seeing growing needs and fatty pockets and on the other hand, we see recession and deaths due to unemployment etc. A great imbalance! Some countries have sufficient resources of raw materials but they do not have skills to exploit them to their benefits. Some other countries good market but lack infrastructure to move further.
All this is due to lack of proper management. Some time it happens due to the attitude of those who are supposed to manage them. Somewhere it is due to the working of the politicians who make and/or modify the laws to suit their specific needs. Somewhere, the bureaucrats are there to interpret the laws to meet their corrupt working. Sometime, some judicial officers work with a prior mind set-up. Not only these pillars of the democracy, sometime media, generally in private sector, also create hype in respect of a particular story as they might be doing in form of paid agents. The government media persons tell what the Government needs to be highlighted and sometime, the truth gets hidden.
In the global liberation created by fast moving communication and transport systems, we need to change our attitude to adjust with the new equations and try to reduce the opportunities of corruption in our practice. Once we do, we can ask other one to follow the same practice. If that one does not change, we can take the shelter of law to enforce our rights. But we need to perform our duties first. We need to change our attitude first, then to seek happiness for ourselves and others too.
Be Happy – We Need To Change Our Attitude.


Sunday, January 27, 2013

Be Happy – We May Make Our Nation Happier.


Yesterday, it was 64th Republic Day of our Great Bharat that is called as India.
With a lot of struggle almost by all the sections of our society, we achieved the freedom and the reins of governance came in the hands of the persons elected by the people. Our dreams were there and the zeal too for implementation. For long, our forefathers struggled in their simplicity and after getting freedom, in majority of the principles of governance the same attitude prevailed. But human psychology in the changing times did not permit and in result, we found that the simplicity was encroached upon by the greed of power and those who wished to have power used all kinds of methods to achieve and retain it anyhow. We forgot the ideals of Ram Rajya and those conceived by our freedom fighters.
Today, we find that in course of time, the public life has become a matter of formal obligations only; we face lack of our emotions with others and became more self-centric. The family values are diminishing. Generally, we assign this depreciation to growing effect of the western culture on the eastern culture. But it is not so, both cultures have their own merits. It is we who select what to adopt.
Presently, Bharat in all its aspects is plunging ever deeper into a multiplicity of crises that needs attention and questioning its governing principles, practices and institutions. Our democratic system is said to have four main pillars to stand on – Law Makers, Law Implementation Agency, Judiciary and Media. All the four pillars have got their roles well defined to maintain balance. If anyone(s) of them is found not performing the duties properly, that would definitely create problems.
Today, we find that in the law making bodies, there are a number of persons who have got criminal allegations against them. The politics has become so dirty that its practitioners, called politicians do not get into power by merit alone. They exercise and use money and muscle power. The law implementation body which we may call as the group of bureaucrats has lowered their goodwill to such extent that a simple person does not think simply that he would get his due rightfully unless he spends something extra either in shape of money, kinds or some other way. The majority of the bureaucrats have got such a gruesome system developed with the law making persons that does not provide relief to a common man easily. Judiciary is there where a common man was expecting some solace but that too has entangled itself in the methods and intricacies of the law so bitterly that a common person does not feel easy to afford an opportunity to get some relief from the web knitted by the politicians and the bureaucrats. Media has for some time been found active to disclose the wrongs being committed by the politicians and the bureaucrats but in course of time, some of them are enjoying gifts for the paid news and many times the truth comes in front only when the deal does not mature. In total, the present state of affairs does not speak well about the future in case we do not take corrective action immediately.
When we talk of the nation, we talk of the society as well. How we are maintaining our family, how we are dealing with other families or members thereof depends very much upon our innate behavior with them. We know that innate behavior is the inherent inclination of a living organism toward a particular complex behavior. Any behavior is instinctive if it is performed without being based upon prior experience (that is, in the absence of learning), and is therefore an expression of innate biological factors. Sea turtles, newly hatched on a beach, will automatically move toward the ocean. Honeybees communicate by dancing in the direction of a food source without formal instruction. Other examples include animal fighting, animal courtship behavior, internal escape functions, and the building of nests.
It appears that due to long period of slavery, our innate behavior did not change and even after getting freedom, we did not attach importance to our rights and duties as much they were warranted for being a responsible citizen of a free nation. The freedom was granted to us with a plethora of the problems like illiteracy, poverty, unemployment, social imbalances, gender differences etc.
It is a matter of some satisfaction that now, with the passage of more than six decades, a larger section of the people has started to understand the value of the rights granted under the Constitution. We have just seen the movements created by Anna Hazare, Ram Deo, Arvind Kejriwal and thereafter, the spontaneous reaction of the youth against the Dec 16 gang-rape. It indicates a beginning of the change when the youth appeared to have taught the older generation. But the Police including their top brass like DGPs, ministries and the governing class could not deliver what they were expected.
Today, we need total cleansing of our system. We need stiffer provision for banning entrance of the criminals into law making bodies, use of the money and muscle power into election process and ensuring better representation of the public instead of hair-thin majority, right of calling back, limited tenures, minimum education level, retirement age and other reforms for the persons aspiring to enter into law making bodies. Politicization of crime must stop. At present politicians are disqualified for elections if there is conviction; they should be disqualified once cognizance of offence is taken by the court, you don't have to wait for the trial to end. Police reforms a must for preservation of rule of law. Law enforcement agencies must not become tools in the hands of political masters.
For law implementation bodies, we need the persons’ answerability for the duties assigned for implementation of the policy by corruption free and time-bound working. For judiciary, I feel that this pillar, the judiciary has the primary responsibility of ensuring fundamental rights through constitutional remedies. The CJI can take suo motu cognizance and social activists should assist the court. The Chief Justice of the high court of every state should device appropriate machinery for quicker and cheaper delivery of the justice by setting up benches in divisional headquarters all over the States. The Judiciary must change its attitude of following the system as such. It should keep care that natural justice should come up in front of the cumbersome procedures and the victims should not continue to suffer.  The FIR of each crime must be registered online to avoid delay and corruption. The Government can designate cyber cafes and set up retail outlets for registering the FIR online anytime. The fee of the advocates must be decided reasonably and every member of the judiciary must declare the assets acquired from time to time.
The Government should ensure that academic and vocational education be made compulsory for every child irrespective of the caste, color and creed. Health facilities are provided free of cost to all those who are living below poverty line. All marriages in the country, should be solemnized after ascertaining financial soundness and medical perfection of the both and mandatorily be registered in the presence of a magistrate and the magistrate will ensure that the marriage has been solemnized without any demand for dowry having been made and that the marriage has taken place with the full and free consent of both partners. Inter caste marriages must be promoted.
Juvenile homes should be run in the spirit envisaged in the Juvenile Justice Act so that juvenile homes should not become breeding grounds of all sorts of sex crimes. Trafficking of minor children must be made a serious offence, to be punished with rigorous imprisonment for a term which shall not be less than seven years, but which may also extend to 10 years. If any police officer, public servant is found trafficking a child there should be a stricter sentence against him.
The girls should be given training in Krav Maga (a non-competitive eclectic self-defence system developed in Israel that involves boxing, muay Thai, jiu-jitsu and wrestling) and the boys upto 18 years must join NCC. Public places must be kept under constant vigil to avoid the bad elements’ working there. The people must be encouraged to use public conveyance. Cultural exchanges and sports must be promoted more. The government/NGOs must ensure that every city must have a well equipped library. Girls’ hostels, working women’s hostels, old age shelter houses and orphanages must be maintained well.
We can enumerate a number of steps more but we need sincere efforts for their implementation in national interests. Once we are able to introduce sincerity in our character for a noble and national cause, we would really be able to celebrate our national festivals more truly.

Monday, January 14, 2013

Be Happy – Gain Knowledge From Every Source.


Every one of us may need sufficient resources of earning to meet the basic needs like food, clothing and house to live in. After meeting basic needs, we take one step further and try to meet our social needs like maintaining our social network including contacts with our relatives, friends, clients etc through regular communications and exchanges. Thereafter, we come back to ourselves and organize for leading some luxurious life. In all these stages, finance works a lot. For that, we need expertise and resources. Nothing else, we just need to restore the memory of what we already know and how we can organize them in appropriate way.
We know that money cannot buy happiness, but we forget it easily in a consumer society when we see an attractive advertisement of a car, a computer and something else on our television screen or somewhere else exciting us for more spending and getting new and newer things for our enjoyments. As soon as it happens, we take up every step to gather affluence whether it is genuine or not.
We know that satisfaction simply is not for sale. The people, for whom money is a priority in life, tend to experience an unusual degree of anxiety and depression as well as a lower overall level of well-being. Why so? With good accumulation of money, we can ensure better medical treatment, better nutrients to keep ourselves healthy.
The demand of designer clothes, cell phones, SUVs, mutual funds-modern materialism seems the enemy of all. Advertising screams out insatiable consumption. Movies and television blast us with images of runaway wealth, instilling the notion that too much is never enough. The cycle of work and spend is sapping away all that matters in life. And prosperity continues to increase: we have more stuff each passing year.
People today find that the things they're buying and turning to are not fulfilling. Each person needs to be materially secure, of course. The cycle of consumption leaves us with an unlaced craving for transcendence. For some, consumerism is the new opiate. We are becoming so frantically time-stressed as to be close to losing our minds, while cell phones and laptops and similar devices are cited to represent the assumption that today there is never a moment away from the demands of job, kids, and stuff.
To the extent people are stressed for time, often it is the pursuit of the material that causes the condition. Wanting a 4,000-square-foot house with a three-car garage and two SUVs forces you to take on a huge mortgage and accept long commutes.
Then you find that you're rarely in the house because you are working to pay off the monthly note, or stuck on the freeway trying to get home. It would not be difficult to trade back some of this material superfluity for time and a less stressful day. In pursuit of materialism, some people still value "extrinsic goals" like money, fame and beauty.
Such people are not only more depressed, but also indicate more behavioral problems and physical discomfort, as well as scoring lower on measures of vitality and self-actualization. While not every study has investigated the full list of effects, the pattern that emerges from the research project as a whole is remarkably consistent. They encourage to try to strike it rich, but the more we seek satisfactions in material goods, the less we find them there.The satisfaction has a short half-life; it's very fleeting.
Moreover, the detrimental effect of extrinsic goals seems to hold regardless of age or even level of income: A preoccupation with money bodes ill regardless of how much money one already has. The effects also appear not to be limited to any one culture. The fact that pursuing wealth is psychologically unhelpful and often destructive comes through very strongly in every culture.
Money or affluence, per se, does not necessarily result in an unsatisfying life. Problems are primarily associated with living a life where that's your focus. Nevertheless, the negative psychological picture does seem to be associated with the extent to which people believe they are already on the way to attaining extrinsic goals. A study surveyed about 300 youths, some in the United States and some in Russia. In both countries, lower levels of mental health were found not only in people who wanted to make a lot of money but also in those who thought they were likely to succeed at it.
Another study found that college students who were already relatively high in the attainment of appearance, financial success and popularity were nevertheless lower in well-being and self-esteem. Those who aspired to affluence also had more transient relationships, watched more television and were more likely to use cigarettes, alcohol and other drugs than were those who placed less emphasis on extrinsic goals. They do not have self confidence to accomplish any target. They wish to achieve success through unethical means.
Apart from its obvious implications for a culture that thrives on material gain, this whole line of research raises questions about the proclivity of some psychologists to analyze the dynamics of what is often called goal-directed behavior while, in effect, ignoring the nature of the goal. It reiterates homespun advice to follow one's dream, whatever it may be.
It is also known that neither income nor attraction is strongly correlated with a sense of well-being.  The sense of well-being correlates with our mental status. But what about our mental status? If that does not stand well, the physical health may not go on intact. A good emotional life maintains better health overall. For upkeep of your emotional health, pursuing goals that reflect genuine human needs, like wanting to feel connected to others, turns out to be more psychologically beneficial than spending one's life trying to impress others or to accumulate trendy clothes, fancy gizmos and the money to keep buying them.
Some parents provide excessive money to their children as a token of their love but do not attend them psychologically because of lack of time due to their professional/commercial/social and/or other engagements. When parents are cold and controlling, their children apparently focus on attaining security and a sense of worth through external sources.
This seems consistent with anecdotal accounts of very wealthy men who grew up in troubled homes. Such stories are sometimes cited as evidence that they made the best of a bad thing, turning out well despite or because of their unhappy childhoods. The problem with this interpretation is that they may not have turned out so well after all. They just turned out wealthy.
It is not entirely clear why a poor psychological profile would go hand-in-hand with a quest for extrinsic goals. It may be that unhappy people are more likely than others to chase after money and fame. Conversely, the very act of chasing after money and fame may reduce one's sense of well-being, perhaps because it makes you ignore the goals that could lead you to have more satisfying experiences. Yet another possibility is that extrinsic goals and poorer psychological health are symptoms of something else that is amiss.
We may need more thoughts tease apart cause and effect between mental peace and affluence. Young adults whose parents were divorced or separated demonstrated higher levels of both material values and compulsive buying. This suggests that such people use material objects as surrogates for absent parents. But it has also been experienced that the people who are more materialistic tend to be unhappy with their lives. This effect may be moderated or even eliminated for those who have close caring relationships.
Now, we may see how we can gain a balance between our emotional life and materialism. Undoubtedly, money, or we say affluence, plays an important role in organizing ourselves to meet our basic, social and other needs, including our emotional attainments too. But it is required to be handled carefully. There is one story narrated by Mr.Deepak Chopra, which tells us the importance of knowledge. I quote it in his words to spread his message.
Once upon a time in a faraway land, a young man went to the forest and said to his spiritual master, “I want to have unlimited wealth, and with that unlimited wealth, I want to help and heal the world. Will you please tell me the secret to creating affluence?”
And the spiritual master replied, “There are two Goddesses that reside in the heart of every human being. Everybody is deeply in love with these supreme beings. But there is a certain secret that you need to know, and I will tell you what it is.
“Although you love both Goddesses, you must pay more attention to one of them. She is the Goddess of Knowledge, and her name is Sarasvati. Pursue her, love her, and give her your attention. The other Goddess, whose name is Lakshmi, is the Goddess of Wealth. When you pay more attention to Sarasvati, Lakshmi will become extremely jealous and pay more attention to you. The more you seek the Goddess of Knowledge, the more the Goddess of Wealth will seek you. She will follow you wherever you go and never leave you. And the wealth you desire will be yours forever”.
There is power in knowledge, thinking, desire and spirit. And this power is within you and that is the key to creating affluence to make happy
Be Happy – Gain Knowledge From Every Source.