Sunday, August 21, 2011

Be Happy – We must Support Those Who fight against Corruption.

Why Should We Support Anna Hazare and Ram Dev in their crusade against Corruption?

All of sudden, Anna Hazare and Ram Dev have become so significant in the millions of Indian minds that all problems such as price-hike, unemployment etc. have gone out of their think-tank for the time being. Why so? They have taken up a noble cause for the revival of the society, they are exhorting the people to fight against the root of all the evils, that is CORRUPTION. Their purpose is pious notwithstanding the fact their working methods be different or same.

Corruption as we usually define is moral perversion; depravity or you can say it is perversion of integrity. You do some job or abstain from doing the same and take money or some other consideration, for this act beyond reasonable remuneration. Corruption is a misuse of power. It undermines political, social and economic stability and damages trust in institutions and authorities. It also fuels transnational crime. Terrorists and organized criminals are aided in their illegal activities by the complicity of corrupt public officials. Corruption is of particular concern for the world’s police and judicial systems, as corruption in one country can compromise an entire international investigation.

Corruption is authority plus monopoly minus transparency. Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. There is clear recognition by the international community that further work to enhance co-operation between law enforcement authorities is needed in order to co-ordinate global action against corruption.

Unfortunately, corruption has prevailed from time immemorial in one form or the other. It is a result of the connection between bureaucrats, politicians and criminals. Earlier, bribes were paid for getting wrong things done, but now bribe is paid for getting right things done at right time. Apart from financial corruption, social corruption like less weighing of products, adulteration in edible items, and bribery of various kind have incessantly prevailed in the society.

In today’s scenario, if a person wants a government job he has to pay handsome bribe to the higher officials irrespective of satisfying all the eligibility criteria. In every office one has either to give money to the employee concerned or arrange for some sources to get work done. There is adulteration and duplicate weighing of products in food and civil supplies department by unscrupulous workers who cheat the consumers by playing with the health and lives of the people. In the assessment of property tax the officers charge money even if the house is built properly according to the Government rules and regulations.

Political corruption is prevalent everywhere in some form. The major cause of concern is that corruption is weakening the political body and damaging the supreme importance of the law governing the society. Nowadays politics is only for criminals and criminals are meant to be in politics. Elections in many democracies have become associated with a host of criminal activities.

Tax evasion is one of the most popular forms of corruption. It is mostly practiced by Government officials and politicians who lead to the accumulation of black money which in turn spoils the moral of the people.

Major Factors Responsible For Corruption World wide:

1. Extreme price hike. Today, the People in general is terrified with the price hike misbalancing their family budgets. Though they too see some increase in their income through increased salaries etc., the price hike eats up all such increases. The unemployment has compounded the problem and the people fighting for minimum needs have to get involved in all unscrupulous activities that result in monetary or material benefits for meeting their basic needs.

2. Moral and spiritual values are not given utmost importance in educational system, which is highly responsible for the deterioration of the society.

3. The punishments imposed on the criminals are inadequate.

4. The political leaders have spoiled the society completely. They lead a luxurious life and do not even care about the society.

5. People of India are not awakened and enlightened. They fear to raise their voice against anti-social elements prevailing in the society.

Measures To Control Corruption:

There are some specific measures to control increasing corruption :

1. The Right to Information Act (RTI) gives one all the required information about the Government, such as what the Government is doing with our tax payments. Under this act, one has the right to ask the Government on any problem which one faces. There is a Public Information Officer (PIO) appointed in every Government department, who is responsible for collecting information wanted by the citizens and providing them with the relevant information on payment of a nominal fee to the PIO. If the PIO refuses to accept the application or if the applicant does not receive the required information on time then the applicant can make a complaint to the respective information commission, which has the power to impose a penalty up to Rs.25,000 on the errant PIO.

2. Another potent check on corruption is Central Vigilance Commission (CVC). It was setup by the Government to advise and guide Central Government agencies in the areas of vigilance. If there are any cases of corruption or any complaints thereof, then that can be reported to the CVC. CVC also shoulders the responsibility of creating more awareness among people regarding the consequences of giving and taking of bribes and corruption.

3. Establishment of special courts for speedy justice can be a huge positive aspect. Much time should not elapse between the registration of a case and the delivery of judgment.

4. Strong and stringent laws need to be enacted which gives no room for the guilty to escape.

5. In many cases, the employees opt for corrupt means out of compulsion and not by choice. Some people are of the opinion that the wages paid are insufficient to feed their families. If they are paid better, they would not be forced to accept bribe.

6. None must be allowed to keep unaccounted for wealth for any reason and none must be granted any special privilege on the cost of others as all are equal in the eyes of law.

The one thing that needs to be ensured is proper, impartial, and unbiased use of various anti-social regulations to take strong, deterrent, and timely legal action against the offenders, irrespective of their political influences or money power. Firm and strong steps are needed to curb the menace and an atmosphere has to created where the good, patriotic, intellectuals come forward to serve the public with pride, virtue, and honesty for the welfare of all.

Anti-Corruption Movement launched by Shri Anna Hazare and Ram Dev is required to be successful because

1. In 2010 India was ranked 87th out of 178 countries in Transparency International's Corruption Perceptions Index.

2. A 2005 study conducted by Transparency International in India found that more than 45% of Indians had first-hand experience of paying bribes or influence peddling to get jobs done in public offices successfully.

3. Transparency International estimates that truckers pay US$5 billion in bribes annually.

4. In July 2008 The Washington Post reported that nearly a fourth of the 540 Indian Parliament members faced criminal charges, "including human trafficking, immigration rackets, embezzlement, rape and even murder.

5. India tops the list for black money in the entire world with almost US$1456 billion in Swiss banks (approximately USD 1.4 trillion) in the form of black money. To put things in perspective, Indian-owned Swiss bank account assets are worth 13 times the country’s national debt.

6. The political web of India does not permit serious action against the corrupt political leaders and officers/staff due to their own vested interests. They take eye-washing steps only as we see in the case of 2G spectrum scam, Hasan Ali Khan, Common Wealth Scam and many others.

7. There is no in-depth enquiry of the independent reports published through 1991 to 2011 which calculated the financial net worth of India's most powerful and traditionally ruling family (the Nehru-Gandhi political dynasty) to be anywhere between $9.41 billion (Rs 42,345 crore) to $18.66 billion (Rs 83,900 crore), most of it in the form of illegal monies. Harvard scholar Yevgenia Albats cited KGB correspondence about payments to Rajiv Gandhi and his family, which had been arranged by Viktor Chebrikov, which shows that KGB chief Viktor Chebrikov sought in writing an "authorization to make payments in US dollars to the family members of Rajiv Gandhi, namely Sonia Gandhi, Rahul Gandhi and Paola Maino, mother of Sonia Gandhi" from the CPSU in December 1985. To save themselves, they keep blind eyes over their supporters and whenever required, they protect them too.

8. Judicial corruption in India is attributable to factors such as "delays in the disposal of cases, shortage of judges and complex procedures, all of which are exacerbated by a preponderance of new laws. The clerks take bribe openly even in the presence of the judicial officers. A string operation if carried out can reveal the details.

9. Officials often steal state property. In cities and villages throughout India, Mafia Raj consisting of municipal and other government officials, elected politicians, judicial officers, real estate developers and law enforcement officials, acquire, develop and sell land in illegal ways.

10.Government officials having discretionary powers in awarding contracts engage in preferential treatment for selected bidders and display negligence in quality control processes. Many state-funded construction activities in India, such as road building, are dominated by construction mafias, which are groupings of corrupt public works officials, materials suppliers, politicians and construction contractors. Shoddy construction and material substitution (e.g. mixing sand in cement while submitting expenses for cement) result in roads and highways being dangerous, and sometimes simply washed away when India's heavy monsoon season arrives. Over-measurements and fake construction or development activities also account for major budget allocations.

11. In Government Hospitals, corruption is associated with non availability of medicines (or duplicate/fake medicines), getting admission, consultations with doctors and availing diagnostic services. There have been cases of diversion of medical supplies from government hospitals and clinics] as well as supply and distribution of medicines of inferior quality.]

12. A quality required by a candidate to get admission in a private Engineering college is either good marks or good money. Engineering college receives upto a million of Indian Rupees per seat in the name of donations, which varies based on the reputation of the college. Some of these colleges are owned by a politician or his/her relative/friends. A seat in private medical college ranges from 1.5 millions (For non reputed college)to 5 millions of Indian Rupees or even more. After admission there would be several other fees which have to be paid compulsory other than tuition fee. No other fees are regulated by the government other than the tuition fee. And government has not taken any action since most of the colleges are owned by politician.

13. There have been several cases of collusion of officials of the income tax department of India for a favorable tax treatment in return for bribes.

14. Land in areas with short supply is relatively common with government entities awarding public land to private concerns at negligible rates. Other examples include the award of mining leases to private companies without a levy of taxes that is proportionate to the market value of the ore.

15. Recent sukhna land scandal involving four defence officers has shaken public faith in the country's growing military at a time when large sums are being spent on modernizing the armed forces. A string of eye-popping fraud cases has damaged the institution in recent years. The latest Adarsh land scam is another example of the nexus between the armed forces, bureaucracy and the politicians in the embezzlement of government property.

There are many examples which indicate that not only our politicians and bureaucrats are corrupt, in our general life, we too have been infected with this virus. For easy solution of our problems, we promote corruption. Since this illness has become cancerous to endanger our life, we need to give up our corrupt practices. First we must improve ourselves. Then, we can trust other one to do. We must oppose corruption. To oppose corruption is the highest obligation of patriotism.

Social welfare worker Anna Hazare and Yog Guru Ram Dev have led a movement against corruption. We must support them not only for the sake of our great India but for the world over as this illness is prevalent everywhere in some form.

We can be happy if we live in corruption-less society.

Be Happy – We must Support Those Who fight against Corruption.

Monday, August 15, 2011

Be Happy - Live for Humanity.

It is a matter of great pleasure for me, my fellow Indian brothers and sisters all over the world that we celebrate the 64th anniversary of independence of the country, one of the largest democracies.

We are proud of our country. We have so far achieved much, traveling rapidly on the path of development and have seen success in many areas. The economy of India is the tenth largest in the world by nominal GDP and the fourth largest by purchasing power parity However, a lot remains to be done as our progress impacts upon the global interests. We need to banish poverty and illiteracy from our country. Our common man is yet to have access to improved health services. We need to provide employment opportunities to each one of our youth.

The road ahead is long and arduous. Particularly, the prevailing situation is such that if we do not act with understanding and restraint, the and prosperity can get adversely affected. The world economy is slowing down. The developed countries especially America and countries of Western Europe are facing economic problems. There is unrest in many Arab countries of the Middle East. There are some people who want to create disturbances. All this can have a negative impact on global economy. We all will have to work together to face any challenge. For that we should we rise above personal or political interests and build consensus on issues of vital importance for the humanity.

Let us work together world over.

Be Happy - Live for Humanity.

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Be Happy – Let Your Laughter Restore Your Mental Peace (Part 2)

Paul E. McGhee, Ph.D. says, “Your sense of humor is one of the most powerful tools you have to make certain that your daily mood and emotional state support good health.”

Laughing serves as an emotional balancing mechanism to relax you from your mental tension. Traditionally, it is considered a visual expression of happiness, or an inward feeling of joy. It may ensue from hearing a joke, being tickled, or other stimuli. It is in most cases a very pleasant sensation.

Laughter is a mechanism everyone has; laughter is part of universal human vocabulary. There are thousands of languages, hundreds of thousands of dialects, but everyone speaks laughter in pretty much the same way.” Babies have the ability to laugh before they ever speak. Children who are born blind and deaf still retain the ability to laugh.

Laughter causes the dilatation of the inner lining of blood vessels, the endothelium, and increases blood flow. Beta-endorphin like compounds released by the hypothalamus activate receptors on the endothelial surface to release nitric oxide, thereby resulting in dilation of vessels. Other cardio-protective properties of nitric oxide include reduction of inflammation and decreased platelet aggregation. Common causes for laughter are sensations of joy and humor; however, other situations may cause laughter as well.

Laughter is called the relief theory. Laughter releases tension and "psychic energy". It is beneficial for your health. It can be used as a coping mechanism when one is upset, angry or sad.

Laughter may have its biological origins as a kind of shared expression of relief at the passing of danger. A joke, if it is able to communicate the message clearly, creates an inconsistency and the audience automatically tries to understand what the inconsistency means; if they are successful in solving this 'cognitive riddle' and they realize that the surprise was not dangerous, they laugh with relief. Otherwise, if the inconsistency is not resolved, there is no laugh. When the audience is confused, it doesn't laugh.

This is one of the basic laws of a comedian, referred to "exactness". It is important to note that sometimes the inconsistency may be resolved and there may still be no laugh. Because laughter is a social mechanism, an audience may not feel as if they are in danger, and the laugh may not occur. In addition, the extent of the inconsistency (and aspects of it timing and rhythm) has to do with the amount of danger the audience feels, and how hard or long they laugh. This explanation is confirmed by modern neurophysiology in the study of laughter and the brain.

Laughter can also be brought on by tickling. Although it is found unpleasant by most people, being tickled often causes heavy laughter which is thought to be a reflex of the body, and is often uncontrollable

Laughter Yoga is a form of yoga employing self-triggered laughter. The "laughter" is physical in nature, and does not necessarily involve humor or comedy.

Laughter Yoga combines Unconditional Laughter with Yogic Breathing (Pranayama). Anyone can laugh without any reason, without relying on humor, jokes or comedy. Under this yoga, laughter is simulated as a body exercise in a group; with eye contact and childlike playfulness, it soon turns into real and contagious laughter. The concept of Laughter Yoga is based on a scientific fact that the body cannot differentiate between fake and real laughter. One gets the same physiological and psychological benefits.

Laughter is easily stimulated in a group when combined with eye contact, childlike playfulness and laughter exercises. Fake laughter quickly becomes real. Laughter Yoga brings more oxygen to the body and brain by incorporating yogic breathing which results in deep diaphragmatic breathing. Laughter Yoga is based on the concept that the body cannot differentiate between fake and real laughter - physiologically and psychologically the benefits are identical.

Laughter is initially simulated as a physical exercise while maintaining eye contact with others in the group and promoting childlike playfulness. In most cases this soon leads to real and contagious laughter. Under Laughter Yoga, sessions start with gentle warm-up techniques which include stretching, chanting, clapping and body movement. These help break down inhibitions and develop feelings of childlike playfulness. Breathing exercises are used to prepare the lungs for laughter, followed by a series of ‘laughter exercises’ that combine the method of acting and visualization techniques with playfulness. These exercises, when combined with the strong social dynamics of group behavior, lead to prolonged and hearty unconditional laughter. Laughter exercises are interspersed with breathing exercises. Twenty minutes of laughter is sufficient to develop full physiological benefits.

A Laughter Yoga session may finish with "Laughter Meditation." This is a session of unstructured laughter whereby participants sit or lie down and allow natural laughter to flow from within like a fountain. This is a powerful experience that often leads to a healthy emotional catharsis and also a feeling of release and joyfulness that can last for days. This can be followed by guided relaxation exercises.

Laughter is good for your health.

Humor Therapy: It is also known as therapeutic humor. Using humorous materials such as books, shows, movies, or stories to encourage spontaneous discussion of the patients' own humorous experiences. This can be provided individually or in a group setting. The process is facilitated by a clinician. There can be a disadvantage to humor therapy in a group format, as it can be difficult to provide materials that all participants find humorous. It is important that the clinician is sensitive, laughing "with" clients rather than "at" the clients.

Laughter Therapy: Clients' laughter triggers are identified such as people in their lives, things from childhood, situations, movies, jokes, comedians, etc. that make them laugh. Based on the information provided by the client, the clinician creates a personal humor profile to aid in the laughter therapy. In this one on one setting, the client is taught basic exercises that can be practiced. The intent of the exercises is to remind the importance of relationships and social support. It is important the clinician is sensitive to what the client perceives as humorous.

Laughter Meditation: In laughter meditation there are some similarities to traditional meditation. However, it is the laughter that focuses the person to concentrate on the moment. Through a three stage process of stretching, laughing and/or crying, and a period of meditative silence. In the first stage, the person places all energy into stretching every muscle without laughter. In the second stage, the person starts with a gradual smile, and then slowly begins to purposely belly laugh or cry, whichever occurs. In the final stage, the person abruptly stops laughing or crying, then with their eyes now closed they breathe without a sound and focus their concentration on the moment. The process is approximately a 15 minute exercise. This may be awkward for some people as the laughter is not necessarily spontaneous. This is generally practiced on an individual basis.

Humor is infectious. The sound of roaring laughter is far more contagious than any cough, sniffle, or sneeze. When laughter is shared, it binds people together and increases happiness and intimacy. In addition to the domino effect of joy and amusement, laughter also triggers healthy physical changes in the body. Humor and laughter strengthen your immune system, boost your energy, diminish pain, and protect you from the damaging effects of stress. Best of all, this priceless medicine is fun, free, and easy to use.

Laughter is strong medicine for mind and body.

Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. Humor lightens your burdens, inspires hopes, connects you to others, and keeps you grounded, focused, and alert.

With so much power to heal and renew, the ability to laugh easily and frequently is a tremendous resource for surmounting problems, enhancing your relationships, and supporting both physical and emotional health.

Laughter relaxes the whole body. A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.

Laughter boosts the immune system. Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease.

Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.

Laughter protects the heart. Laughter improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect you against a heart attack and other cardiovascular problems.

The Benefits of Laughter

Physical Health Benefits:

· Boosts immunity

· Lowers stress hormones

· Decreases pain

· Relaxes your muscles

· Prevents heart disease

Mental Health Benefits:

· Adds joy and zest to life

· Eases anxiety and fear

· Relieves stress

· Improves mood

· Enhances resilience

Social Benefits:

· Strengthens relationships

· Attracts others to us

· Enhances teamwork

· Helps defuse conflict

· Promotes group bonding

Laughter and humor help you stay emotionally healthy

Laughter makes you feel good. And the good feeling that you get when you laugh remains with you even after the laughter subsides. Humor helps you keep a positive, optimistic outlook through difficult situations, disappointments, and loss.

More than just a respite from sadness and pain, laughter gives you the courage and strength to find new sources of meaning and hope. Even in the most difficult of times, a laugh–or even simply a smile–can go a long way toward making you feel better. And laughter really is contagious—just hearing laughter primes your brain and readies you to smile and join in on the fun.

The link between laughter and mental health

Laughter dissolves distressing emotions. You can’t feel anxious, angry, or sad when you’re laughing.

Laughter helps you relax and recharge. It reduces stress and increases energy, enabling you to stay focused and accomplish more.

Humor shifts perspective, allowing you to see situations in a more realistic, less threatening light. A humorous perspective creates psychological distance, which can help you avoid feeling overwhelmed.

The social benefits of humor and laughter

Humor and playful communication strengthen our relationships by triggering positive feelings and fostering emotional connection. When we laugh with one another, a positive bond is created. This bond acts as a strong buffer against stress, disagreements, and disappointment.

Laughing with others is more powerful than laughing alone

Shared laughter is one of the most effective tools for keeping relationships fresh and exciting. All emotional sharing builds strong and lasting relationship bonds, but sharing laughter and play adds joy, vitality, and resilience. And humor is a powerful and effective way to heal resentments, disagreements, and hurts. Laughter unites people during difficult times.

Using humor and laughter in relationships allows you to:

Be more spontaneous. Humor gets you out of your head and away from your troubles.

Let go of defensiveness. Laughter helps you forget judgments, criticisms, and doubts.

Release inhibitions. Your fear of holding back and holding on are set aside.

Express your true feelings. Deeply felt emotions are allowed to rise to the surface.

Laughter and Relationships

Mutual laughter and play are an essential component of strong, healthy relationships. By making a conscious effort to incorporate more humor and play into your daily interactions, you can improve the quality of your love relationships— as well as your connections with co-workers, family members, and friends.

Bringing more humor and laughter into your life by Creating opportunities to laugh through the following methods:

· Watch a funny movie or TV show.

· Go to a comedy club.

· Read the funny pages.

· Seek out funny people.

· Share a good joke or a funny story.

· Check out your bookstore’s humor section.

· Host game night with friends.

· Play with a pet.

· Go to a “laughter yoga” class.

· Goof around with children.

· Do something silly.

· Make time for fun activities (e.g. bowling, miniature golfing, karaoke).

Be Happy – Let Your Laughter Restore Your Mental Peace.

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Your Laughter Restore Your Mental Peace (Part 1)

Laughter is your birthright, a natural part of life that is innate and inborn. Infants begin smiling during the first weeks of life and laugh out loud within months of being born. Even if you did not grow up in a household where laughter was a common sound, you can learn to laugh at any stage of life.

Begin by setting aside special times to seek out humor and laughter, as you might with working out, and build from there. Eventually, you’ll want to incorporate humor and laughter into the fabric of your life, finding it naturally in everything you do.

Here are some ways to start:

Smile -

Smiling is the beginning of laughter. Like laughter, it’s contagious. Pioneers in “laugh therapy,” find it’s possible to laugh without even experiencing a funny event. The same holds for smiling. When you look at someone or see something even mildly pleasing, practice smiling.

Count your blessings -

Literally make a list. The simple act of considering the good things in your life will distance you from negative thoughts that are a barrier to humor and laughter. When in a state of sadness, we have further to travel to get to humor and laughter.

When you hear laughter, move toward it. Sometimes humor and laughter are private, a shared joke among a small group, but usually not. More often, people are very happy to share something funny because it gives them an opportunity to laugh again and feed off the humor you find in it. When you hear laughter, seek it out and ask, “What’s funny?”

Spend time with fun, playful people -

These are people who laugh easily–both at themselves and at life’s absurdities–and who routinely find the humor in everyday events. Their playful point of view and laughter are contagious.

Bring humor into conversations -

Ask people, “What’s the funniest thing that happened to you today? This week? In your life?”
Want to bring the fun? Get a pet…

Most of us have experienced the joy of playing with a furry friend, and pets are a rewarding way to bring more laughter and joy into your life. But did you know that having a pet is also good for your mental and physical health? Studies show that pets can protect you depression, stress, and even heart disease.

Developing your sense of humor:

Take yourself less seriously-

One essential characteristic that helps us laugh is not taking ourselves too seriously. We’ve all known the classic tight-jawed sourpuss who takes everything with deathly seriousness and never laughs at anything. No fun there!

Some events are clearly sad and not occasions for laughter. But most events in life don’t carry an overwhelming sense of either sadness or delight. They fall into the gray zone of ordinary life–giving you the choice to laugh or not.

Ways to help yourself see the lighter side of life:

Laugh at yourself. Share your embarrassing moments. The best way to take ourselves less seriously is talk about times when we took ourselves too seriously. Attempt to laugh at situations rather than bemoan them. Look for the humor in a bad situation, the irony and absurdity of life. This will help improve your mood and the mood of those around you.

Surround yourself with reminders to lighten up. Keep a toy on your desk or in your car. Put up a funny poster in your office. Choose a computer screensaver that makes you laugh. Frame photos of you and your family or friends having fun.

Keep things in perspective. Many things in life are beyond our control—particularly the behavior of other people. While you might think taking the weight of the world on your shoulders is admirable, in the long run it’s unrealistic, unproductive, unhealthy, and even egotistical.

Deal with your stress.

Stress is a major impediment to humor and laughter.Pay attention to children and emulate them. They are the experts on playing, taking life lightly, and laughing.

Checklist for lightening up

When you find yourself taken over by what seems to be a horrible problem, ask these questions:
· Is it really worth getting upset over?
· Is it worth upsetting others?
· Is it that important?
· Is it that bad?
· Is the situation irreparable?
· Is it really your problem?

Using humor and play to overcome challenges and enhance your life.

The ability to laugh, play, and have fun with others not only makes life more enjoyable–it also helps you solve problems, connect with others, and be more creative. People who incorporate humor and play into their daily lives find that it renews them and all of their relationships.

Life brings challenges that can either get the best of you or become playthings for your imagination. When you “become the problem” and take yourself too seriously, it can be hard to think outside the box and find new solutions. But when you play with the problem, you can often transform it into an opportunity for creative learning.

Playing with problems seems to come naturally to children. When they are confused or afraid, they make their problems into a game, giving them a sense of control and an opportunity to experiment with new solutions. Interacting with others in playful ways helps you retain this creative ability.

Here are two examples of people who took everyday problems and turned them around through laughter and play:

Roy, a semi-retired businessman, was excited to finally have time to devote to golf, his favorite sport. But the more he played, the less he enjoyed himself. Although his game had improved dramatically, he got angry with himself over every mistake. Roy wisely realized that his golfing buddies affected his attitude, so he stopped playing with people who took the game too seriously. When he played with friends who focused more on having fun than on their scores, he was less critical of himself. Now golfing was as enjoyable as Roy hoped it would be. He scored better without working harder. And the brighter outlook he was getting from his companions and the game spread to other parts of his life, including his work.

Jane worked at home in her apartment complex designing greeting cards, a job she used to love but now felt routine. Two little girls who loved to draw and paint lived next door. Eventually, Jane invited the girls in to play with all the art supplies she had. At first, she just watched, but in time she joined in. Laughing, coloring, and playing pretend with the little girls transformed Jane’s life. Not only did playing with them end her loneliness and mild boredom, it sparked her imagination and helped her artwork flourish. Best of all, it rekindled the playfulness and spark in Jane’s relationship with her husband.

As laughter, humor, and play become an integrated part of your life, your creativity will flourish and new discoveries for playing with friends, coworkers, acquaintances, and loved ones will occur to you daily. Humor takes you to a higher place where you can view the world from a more relaxed, positive, creative, joyful, and balanced perspective.

A dose of daily laughter is the key to manifesting an amazing life that you love. Laughing is a key ingredient in learning how to let go. It is one of the most positive releases one can experience without having an actual orgasm! Laughter frees you up in such a unique way that there is no "mind" there analyzing, criticizing, and constantly making effort to remain in control. A good long authentic belly laugh is one of the best medicines you could ever take on a daily basis. If you can truly do this everyday, it's a good chance you're a highly liberated human being who is far along the journey on your spiritual path.

If you can just have one big long deep belly laugh every day about something, anything that is remotely humorous, you will start opening yourself up like a flower to receive a major healing in your life. There are thousands of reported clinical cases where people have been healed of major life threatening diseases just through laughing. The endorphins released in your brain naturally create a "happy cocktail" which over time induces me a massive healing reaction throughout the body. So really life basically comes down to... you laugh or you die. If you cannot laugh about yourself, your life or whatever you're taking too seriously, you're doing the opposite of healing yourself. So give yourself permission to have the biggest belly laugh of your life in the next 24 hours, and don't hold back! You'll start having a much lighter experience of life that will impact your inner perception of "reality" more than you know.

It's common that people believe that some silly event needs to happen in order to really have a good laugh. The truth is that if you can start looking for the humor in life, you can laugh at just about anything. There is a perspective which is less dramatic, serious, and worried than any other. It just sees this human experience as if it was one big long comedy. Just try to take a humorous view about something you're taking very seriously in your life. Is your seriousness really helping? Laughing about it feels much better than being angry, depressed, ashamed, blamed or playing some old victim game inside. No matter what it is, you can always choose to see the divine order and comedy behind it all. You can let your life become a big orgasmic ball of laughter that fills the space with joy everywhere you are.

The more you laugh, the more you are free. You release that all mighty grip on those all too important thoughts, beliefs, expectations and desires. The freedom leads you directly into the enlightened state. When you realize that you're in charge of which thoughts you choose to entertain, you fall directly into the cosmic joke of it all. The joke is that you are whatever you decide to put your attention on, you become that! Reality is like silly putty. It bends and molds to wherever you focus your mind. You can make it be whatever you want it to be. In one second, everything can change and your entire perspective can shift a millimeter to the left, and you suddenly have a brand new expansive understanding about your entire life.

The funniest thing about laughter is that it's not something you can do, it's something that happens to you. An authentic outrageous laughing attack can only fall upon you when you have learned how to totally let go. If you want to enjoy your life to the max, you must be able to let go of it. It's ironic, yet the idea that we are "in control" of our lives forces us to eventually swing over into the sense of feeling "out of control". When you can embrace both sides of the equation and consciously allow the ego to imagine its "in control" or "out of control", then you can transcend them both. This is when the great cosmic joke sets in and you realize there is no need try to control anything. You awaken to the fact that one of the greatest goals in life is to let it become one deep long "let go". This is when enlightenment sneaks in.

It's this overly serious mind who has blinded you from knowing how to fully enjoy life. It has gotten lost in the world of trying to achieve, resist and become something. Laughter is not about achieving anything, it is a releasing and a cleansing of your past. It liberates you from the mind and delivers you to a place of deep peace inside where enlightenment can be found. The serious mind doesn't have time or reason to laugh. It sees no purpose in laughing because it's so caught up in it's own web of illusions. The serious mind has forgotten that the Universe is a giant cosmic karmic playground where you are the actor, director and producer of the play, as well as the watcher, witness and audience who's seeing it all happening on stage. This massive playground exists in all directions and is within everything around you now. Just feel the vastness of its infinite presence. Connecting with the infinite Universe provides the space to relax, let go of everything, and laugh at it all.

There really is just one simple rule for creating massive joy in your life this week. If you want to have an amazing life that you love, don't ever let seriousness into your body....ever! No matter what anyone tells you, if what you're doing is not enjoyable, fun, or at least educational, then don't do it! You can find something better! Seriousness is a disease to your soul and only cripples your life. It's never too late to change directions and have a sense of humor about it all. Just choose to let a little more lightness into your heart right now. How does that feel? If you can bring this lighter heart feeling into your mornings, your entire week will become lighter and more clear. The cloudy skies go away and you can see how beautiful and FUN life is again! Did you remember that life is supposed to be fun? It just feels good to see how ridiculous the serious mind is, and how overly contracted it can become about anything.

Happiness is always a choice. What appears to be serious now will only change with time, so why not let go of this tension earlier? You can afford to follow a lighter path now, and others will appreciate it. They will soon catch on. Even if people are devout grumpsters, your simple light heartedness may be the secret to helping them bust a smile when no one is watching. Having access to this light playful spirit is the key to creating a tremendous healing in your life. It's the great golden secret to turning everyone's life around...including yours! Simply say to yourself everyday, "I can let go and laugh about it all!" Yes! It's time you started to have more fun in this awesome game called Life. It all starts by taking a tiny step back from the mind, and not taking anything (especially your mind) too seriously.

Be Happy – Let Laughter Restore Your Mental Peace.

Monday, August 8, 2011

Be Happy - Give Up Isolation

There was a farmer who grew superior quality and award-winning corn. Each year he entered his corn in the state fair where it won honor and prizes.

One year a newspaper reporter interviewed him and learnt something interesting about how he grew it. The reporter discovered that the farmer shared his seed corn with his neighbors'.

"How can you afford to share your best seed corn with your neighbors when they are entering corn in competition with yours each year?" the reporter asked.

"Why sir, "said the farmer, "didn't you know? The wind picks up pollen from the ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my neighbors grow inferior, sub-standard and poor quality corn, cross-pollination will steadily degrade the quality of my corn. If I am to grow good corn, I must help my neighbors grow good corn."

The farmer gave a superb insight into the connectedness of life. His corn cannot improve unless his neighbor's corn also improves. So it is in the other dimensions! Those who choose to be at harmony must help their neighbors and colleagues to be at peace... Those who choose to live well must help others to live well. The value of a life is measured by the lives it touches.


So share the good practices, ideas, new leanings with your family, team members, neighbors. All the Successes is a Team Work of a family, group, enterprise, corporation... Infact TEAM as an acronym of letters T,E,A,M

T Together
E Everyone
A Achieves
M More

Be Happy - Give Isolation.

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Be Happy – Feel Happy.

Whenever we attend some meeting – be it a formal or informal one, we come across many people who are already known to us or some of them may be stranger. We get opportunity to meet them and get a brief introduction of their attitudes and antecedents etc. The old people use such opportunities to narrate their experiences and the new ones for their achievements and/or ambitions.

In one of such meetings with my friends, I got one story, so influencing in the content that I feel the same to be important for inclusion in this blog for those friends who wish to feel happy inspite of all the odds and evens they face in their life. With due permission from her, I quote the same here as I could remember out of her narration in that informal meeting.

On a certain occasion, during an elegant welcoming reception for the new Director of Marketing of a Multi-national Company, some of the wives of the other directors who wanted to get acquainted with the new spouse, asked her with some hesitation, “Does your spouse make you happy, truly happy?”

The husband who at the meeting was not at her side, but was sufficiently near to hear the question, paid attention to the conversation, sitting up slightly, feeling secure, even filling his chest lightly in pride, knowing that his spouse would answer affirmatively, since she had always been there for him during their marriage.

Nevertheless, to both his and the others’ surprise, she replied simply, “No, no he doesn’t make me happy.” The venue became uncomfortably silent as if everyone were listening to the spouse’s response.

The husband was petrified. He couldn’t believe what his wife was saying, especially at such an important occasion for him. To the amazement of her husband and of everyone, she simply placed enigmatically on her head an elegant black silk scarf and continued, “No, he does not make me happy. BUT I AM HAPPY. The fact, that I am happy or not, does not depend on him, but on me.”

“I am the only person upon whom my happiness depends. I make the choice to be happy in each situation and in each moment of my life. If my happiness were to depend on the other people, on the other things or circumstances beyond my control, I know that I can not be a happy person in this world. Everyone has some intention to make me happy – that means, some vested interest. Why I should remain happy is none of their matter – they would attach utmost importance to their own happiness, why to mine. None of your relations is greater than that with yourself.”

She added, “Everything that exists in this life changes continually – humans, wealth, body, climatic and physical pleasures etc. I could enumerate an infinite list. Over my life I have learned a couple of things. It is not the responsibility of my spouse to make me happy. He also has his own experiences or circumstances. Why should he be responsible for my happiness? I am also responsible to make him, to keep him happy as I wish from him.”

If the two of us love and forgive each other, the changes will only be our joint experiences or circumstances to enrich us and give us strength, Otherwise we would be living together only.
If someone gets disappointed with the spouse, the divorce is the only solution (in some cases it is the easiest to get offload the depression being created by an unsuccessful marriage). To truly love is difficult. It is to forgive unconditionally, to adjust with the circumstances to make them happy for you as they are being faced by both of you together and being happy is your conviction to the relationship you build up.

There are those who say, “I can not be happy because I am sick, because I have no money, because it is too cold, because they insulted me, because someone stopped loving me, because some one does not appreciate me!” There are so many reasons – so general and so specific to each individual that you may not be able to compile. Out of them, some can be real or some can be emotional ones.

But what we don’t know that we can be happy even though we are sick, whether it is too hot whether we have sufficient money or not, whether some one has insulted us or someone loves me or has some value for me or not. It is our attitude how we take the circumstances and how we adjust to our own wishes, our own intention. It is our attitude about life and each of us must decide how we should feel happy in the given set of the circumstances.

Being happy depends on you, not on your spouse.

Be Happy – Feel Happy.