Friday, April 30, 2010

Be Happy - Ensure Equitable Distribution of the Resources amongst All

In the early stages of mankind, there were lesser number of people with abundant resources for survival. Slowly, slowly with the increase of population world over, exploitation of the resources grew up. New technologies are coming into process and we are ensuring maximum output.

A rough estimate is there which says that 15% of the total population has occupied 85% of the world resources and the other 85% of the total population is compelled to meet their requirements out of the rest 15% resources. There is no equitable distribution of the resources amongst all and this inequality is the bone of contention creating various groups of people trying to snatching from other group.

Today, India has the 2nd largest urban system in the world. 310 million people live in 5161 cities and towns. That is like cramming the entire population of America into a third of the space. Most Indian cities are probably operating at their peak levels of occupancy. Perhaps in some cases it is a miracle that they still work. To make matters worse in the next 30 years almost 400 million people will migrate to these cities. That is about 20 Australia's for you. And by 2030 India’s urban population is estimated to reach a staggering 575 million. It is about time somebody asked the question: In the years to come, where will India live? How will India live? Similarly, it applies, almost, to all the developing and developed countries.


Today, I found one message very much appealing. That message was addressed to the terrorists asking them to rethink over their strategy of getting solution to their problems of unemployment and poverty. The message supposed long time unemployment, responsible for the poverty amongst the masses creates the need of using violence to solve the problems of getting essentials for the survival. The terrorists never think that by adopting violent means, they get only immediate solution of their problem of food for their family and themselves. But in long term, they are not able to face or merge into society, once they are in criminal world. They would again be unemployed and at that time, they won’t be able to live with their family, nor are they able to provide proper feed and schooling to their children. To avoid unemployment and resultant poverty, they must equip themselves with proper education and technical qualification.

This message is, however, one sided. What about those who create unemployment? An industrialist deserves welcome when he starts an industry to provide employment to some man-hands. But after commissioning his industry, he concentrates over getting recovery of his investments only – he never thinks about his contribution to the society when he acquires a lot of land on cheap rates, when he pollutes the surrounding areas by emitting harmful gases and letting out the polluted water untreated, when the set up of his industry puts an end to the greenery and many trees there, when he charges more than the fair margin of profit by holding up the essentials in his warehouses for the sake of increasing the prices by creating artificial shortage in the market, by using substandard materials in the production, by using corrupt methods to earn more and more, by evading taxes and so many wrong practices. When they are wrong, they should not expect right from the other end.

Bureaucrats and political leaders are also responsible for the chaos. When a bureaucrat does not perform well, he affects the interests of the people at large. Those bureaucrats not performing well must be removed immediately so that sincere persons are employed for smooth working. When a political leader uses politics for his invested interests only, he creates imbalance in the society creating dissatisfaction and frustration. Such political leaders must be boycotted and voted out at the earliest opportunity. If they are found wrong with the nation’s interests, they must be hanged unto death so that none other could repeat their practices.

When the courts of law do not deliver the judgments in time, the affected persons loose confidence in the law machinery. Improper delivery of judgments is also responsible for the social turbulence. We waste a lot of funds in wasteful activities for organizing proper infrastructure for judiciary; we make the plea of short of finance. We can have proper priorities and think that timely delivery of judgments and implementation thereof can solve majority of the problems.

There would not be any viable solution of the problem if we just punish Madhuri Gupta who is alleged to have been spying for the other country, we must take into account why she got involved in such heinous activities and who were the responsible persons creating such circumstances compelling or luring her to do such activities. If after deep and impartial investigation it is found that Madhuri Gupta did it all at her own sweet will, she must be hanged in public to show that none other may repeat her activities as she put the security of millions at stake. A fast track investigating agency and court must decide it. Similarly, Kasab, the lone surviving terrorist of the Mumbai must be done away and for that cause, all the concerned countries must have cooperated. That day, it occurred in India, tomorrow, it can happen in Pakistan or some other country. Why this occurred and who were responsible, we need to investigate that too impartially.

For equitable distribution of resources, we must make out an assessment of the basic requirements of an individual and ensure that none of us should get lesser than that. The individual getting basic and essentials must be ready to contribute equally in reciprocation. If he does not do so, he can be penalized appropriately by the state. If someone earns more than he deserves, the surplus must be confiscated. Everything must be accountable. We can remove all the social problems when we are able to ensure that right is might.

The whole world must be treated as a single unit and all the inhabitants must be granted to equal rights to move everywhere and settle without any prohibition in name of the safeguards of the tradition of a specific culture or caste. After the World War II, there was a good start by organizing UNO but as soon it became the puppet in the hands of veto powered nations, it lost the importance. It must have become a supreme authority to ensure peaceful and happy life by granting uniform rights of life to all on this beautiful earth. If there is no uniformity of rights granted, we can not ensure peace.

Be Happy - Ensure Equitable Distribution of the Resources amongst All

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Be Happy – Give Up Your Selfishness

What do you wish for by working so hard? What is your fundamental and lasting interest in life? Isn’t it yourself? That is what most of us would say if we answered truthfully. We are interested in our progress, our job, our family, our estate, in getting a better position for ourselves, more prestige, more power and more domination over others, and so on. Some of us would say that it is wrong to be primarily interested in ourselves. But what is wrong about it except that we seldom decently, honestly, admit it? If we do, we are rather ashamed of it. So there it is – one is fundamentally interested in oneself, and for various ideological or traditional reasons one thinks it is wrong.

You may say that it is more satisfactory to help another than to think about yourself. What is the difference? It is still self-concern. If it gives you greater satisfaction to help others, you are concerned with what will give you greater satisfaction. Why bring any ideological concept into it? Why this double thinking? Why not say? ‘What I rally want is satisfaction, whether in sex, or in helping others, or in becoming a great saint, scientist, or politician?’

It is the same process, isn’t it? Satisfaction, in all sorts of ways, subtle and obvious, is what we want. When we say we want freedom, we want it because we want it because we think it may be wonderfully satisfying, and the ultimate satisfaction, of course, is this peculiar idea of self-realization. What we are really seeking is a satisfaction in which there is no dissatisfaction at all.

Most of us crave the satisfaction of having a position in society because we are afraid of being nobody. Society is so constructed that a citizen who has a position of respect is treated with great courtesy, whereas a man who has no position is kicked around… This craving for position, for prestige, for power, to be recognized by society as being outstanding in some way, is a wish to dominate others, and this wish to dominate is a form of aggression. The saint who seeks a position in regard to his saintliness is as aggressive as the chicken pecking in the farmyard. And what is the cause of this aggressiveness? It is fear, isn’t it?

Fear is one of the greatest problems in life. A mind that is caught in fear lives in confusion, in conflict, and therefore must be violent, distorted, and aggressive. Living in such a corrupt, stupid society as we do, with the competitive education we receive, which engenders fear, we all are burdened with fears of some kind, and fear is a dreadful thing that warps, twists, and dulls our days… We are all afraid of something; there is no fear in abstraction, it is always in relation to something. Do you know your own fears – fear of losing your job, of not having enough food or money, or what your neighbours or the public think about you, or of not being a success, of losing your position in society of being despised or ridiculed…? And what do you usually do about them? You run away from them don’t you, or invent ideas and images to cover them? But to run away from fear is only to increase it.

One of the major causes of fear is that we do not want to face ourselves as we are. So, as well as the fears themselves, we have to examine the network of escapes we have developed to rid ourselves of them. If the mind, in which is included the brain, tries to overcome fear, to suppress it, discipline it, control it, translate it into terms of something else, there is friction, there is conflict, and that conflict is a waste of energy.

We can be happy if we give up our selfishness. We must forget ourselves and contribute to humanity. If we start today doing so, the other day some other person may also do and one day, we will get every second and third person to be doing so. At that time, we may find the heaven here itself. Just, there is a need to take initiative of organizing essentials only for self and giving up our greed for gathering those which are not required immediately.

Be Happy – Give Up Your Selfishness.


Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Be Happy - Experience Your Self

You have the free will to feel anything that you can imagine or create. Your free will can be influenced by your aptitude or if you are not prejudiced. One day, I was sitting outside on the patio in the morning with a cup of tea watching the sun coming up, and feeling a cool breeze from the water below me. I was trying to Imagine being in a realm where you could not experience the five senses.

What would it be like to know everything that is to know all the secrets of the universe? What would it be like to know a fresh cup of tea in the morning but not be able to see, taste, or smell it? What would it be like to know a sunrise, but not be able to experience it? We may imagine ourselves all alone in a space where we could only experience nothing. Now from time to time, I long to be in that space. At this moment with my cup in hand and the warmth of the sun on my face, I can’t imagine being anywhere else. I can imagine being before God, being all there is, all knowing, and all-powerful experiencing just that. To know everything and not being able to experience that knowing - no sensations, no feelings and no emotion - what would it be like?

You can imagine yourself, but until you have experienced that awareness. It’s just a thought with no purpose. I can imagine myself studying for years to be a doctor or a lawyer and then not being able to be a lawyer or doctor. There would be no purpose in the absolute world. The purpose of life is simply to experience being alive. It is humanity that acknowledges his own existence and creates a purpose for his physical life. That purpose is experienced by the creator through you. You are in fact, the creator experiencing all the things that it knows, in three dimensional physical life.

Within you, you have all the attributes and characteristics of the creator. You have the power of the free will to experience anything that you can imagine or create. All your present belief systems and experiences are real only for the time that you are experiencing them. They are all illusions; they are your personal experiences. They are meant to be sensationalized and experienced. They are addictive. None other than you can experience or you can not be dictated upon to experience a particular imagination.
All aspects of the one mind, the one should, work together in a beautifully choreographed experience that is shared. There are no victims, only souls that are working together from free will to experience it. There are no accidents, no tragedies, no natural disasters, no births or deaths that do not have the complete consent of those involved, at some level of consciousness. The awareness of these things brings with it the ability to participate at a conscious level, and the ability to change at will your involvement in these things. You can go through life as a victim, or as a willing partner – either one is a personal choice. Life happens with or without your conscious awareness of what is going on. This awareness brings only the conscious free will to understand and appreciate what is going on.

From this area of enlightenment comes the understanding of how things work, and all experiences are welcomed and sought after. From this awareness comes the true meaning of absolute freedom and unconditional love - the love of self, and the life you are living because you are doing it willingly. From this perspective, tragedy is no longer experienced that way death is welcomed as a new beginning and struggle is appreciated for the experience. From this awareness one can see all the beginnings and the endings, and most choose to come back and experience the trip again and again under reincarnation.

Life is seen for what it is when you are no longer a prisoner, when you let go of old thoughts and beliefs. You cannot experience the full potential of which you are capable while you languish in restrictive imagination and limiting thoughts. You are beautiful, you are free, and you are God living in this body. Be Godlike in your thoughts and in what you want to experience. Set yourself free to imagine anything without being pre-biased. You can be friend to your enemy if you once put on his shoes, if you once think out why the enmity started and where you were responsible for the strained relationship. If you did some wrong, you should find out why it could not be avoided. You must find out how you can repair the damage – try it and you may get success to restore your mental peace.

Be Happy - Experience Your Self.



Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Be Happy - Materialism Never Provides Real Happiness

In our life, we intend to gather two types of possessions - the essential, and the luxurious possessions. The essentials are required for our survival but the luxurious possessions are gathered once we are able to have essentials sufficiently. God has given us this beautiful life with sufficient resources to enjoy and brain to exploit those resources. But in course of time, we have been so busy in collection of earthly possessions that we miss our mental peace in process of satisfying our greed and needs more and more. Earth provides enough to satisfy every man's need, but not every man's greed. Really, it is preoccupation with possessions, more than anything else that prevents men from living freely and peacefully.

With the advancement of civilization, we have forgotten the universal truth that a child comes to this world empty hand and goes back with empty hands after living the life. But when the child grows up, he gets inclined to materialism which coarsens and petrifies everything, making everything vulgar, and every truth false. It is true that materialism, at its simpler level, involves the focus on material "things" as opposed to that which is spiritual or intellectual in nature. We live in a world surrounded by and composed of matter. It is natural, therefore, that we may become distracted from spiritual or intellectual pursuits by material possessions, but this is frequently where problems occur. We can become obsessed by a desire to obtain them, or simply frustrated by the need to maintain them

When we try in good faith to believe in materialism, in the exclusive reality of the physical, we are asking our selves to step aside; we are disavowing the very realm where we exist and where all things precious are kept -- the realm of emotion and conscience, of memory and intention and sensation and why we frequently come and go through this world. Freedom comes only to those who no longer ask of life that it shall yield them any of those personal goods that are subject to the mutations of time. If we attach undue importance to them, exceeding our essential requirement, we become slave to them. Any so-called material thing that you want is merely a symbol: you want it not for itself, but because it will content your spirit for the moment. We feel momentary happiness after getting that material thing.

It is true that the most men love money and security more, and creation and construction less, as they get older. Increase of material comforts, it may be generally laid down, does not in any way whatsoever conduce to moral growth. Unfortunately, the people recognize themselves in their commodities; they find their soul in their automobile, hi-fi set, split-level home, kitchen equipment. He tries to gather more and more and gets himself busy all the time to maintain. But he forgets that there is one advantage to having nothing, it never needs repair.

Benefits make a man a slave. There must be more to life than having everything. Most people seek after what they do not possess and are thus enslaved by the very things they want to acquire. Much of our activity these days is nothing more than a cheap anesthetic to deaden the pain of an empty life. It is usually assumed that purposeless activity may be a phase of death. They think that there is something perverse about more than enough. When we have more, it is never enough. It is always somewhere out there, just out of reach. The more we acquire, the more elusive enough becomes. The saddest thing we can imagine is to get used to luxury. We cry over spilled champagne! Our complaints are not over the lack of necessities, but the abundance of benefits. You bellyache over the frills, not the basics, over benefits, not essentials. You forget your duties about those, your parents who gave you this beautiful life, you forget those friends and relatives who wished you best when you were in process of growing up and not able to stand on your own feet. In materialism, you care for your own interests only; you attach no value to emotional relationship and moral values. You compare your sense of humanity versus your gains.

Most of the luxuries and many of the so-called comforts of life are not only not indispensable, but positive hindrances to the elevation of mankind. It is not good to be too free. It is not good to have everything one wants. The man who pets a lion may tame it, but the man who coddles the body makes it ravenous. The most terrible thing about materialism even more terrible than its proneness to violence, is its boredom, from which sex, alcohol, drugs, all devices for putting out the accusing light of reason and suppressing the unrealizable aspirations of love, offers a prospect of deliverance. The love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. Nothing makes us more vulnerable than loneliness, except greed. Our lust is all GET—Love is all GIVE. All earthly joy begins pleasantly, but at the end it gnaws and kills.

Let us treasure up in our soul some of those things which are permanent..., not of those which will forsake us and be destroyed, and which only tickle our senses for a little while. Materialism is the only form of distraction from true bliss. You say, 'If I had a little more, I should be very satisfied.' You make a mistake. If you are not content with what you have, you would not be satisfied even if it were doubled.

You become attached to money but money is accidental. It has nothing to do with essential life. You become attached to your house or car, spouse, children and relationships. These all are accidental; it has nothing essential in it. It is not your real being.

You have become attached to ‘my’ and ‘mine’- to possessions. And you have completely lost track of your being. You have completely lost track of your being. You have completely lost track of ‘I’. ‘My’ has become more important. When ‘my’ becomes more important then you are getting attached to the accidental. When ’I’ remains a servant, you are a master. Then, you live in a totally different way. Using the word ‘I’, in an absolutely non-egoistic sense it means your being. The accidental man lives on the periphery. The essential man remains centered.

You create a world of illusions around you. You get attached to things which you die. You go on being identified with things which are going to be taken away from you. Become more and more essential and less and less accidental. Only that which is eternal is true; only that which is going to be for ever and ever is true. That which is momentary is untrue. The momentary has to be watched and not to be identified with.

This game of ‘my’ and ‘mine’ is an absurd game-but this is the whole game of life. This earth was there before you ever came here, and this will be here when you are gone. The diamonds that you possess were there before you ever came here, and when you are gone those diamonds will remain here-and they will not even remember you. This game of possessiveness is the most foolish game there is-but this is the whole game.

People who become certain about the accidental are going to be frustrated; their certainty is going to create much frustration for them. Their certainty will create expectations, and they cannot be fulfilled- because the universe is not there to fulfill your expectations. It has its own destiny. It is moving towards its own goal, it does not care about your private goals.

All private goals are against the goal of the universe itself. The essential man comes to know, to feel, that ‘I am not separate from the Whole and there is no need to seek and search for any destiny on my own. Things are happening, the world is moving. There is no need for me to make any struggle, any effort; there is no need for me to fight for anything. I can relax and be’.

When things are no longer important, only consciousness becomes important. When things are no longer significant, a new search, a new door opens. Then you are not rushing towards the without; you start slipping into the within. The kingdom of godliness is within.

The future of civilization depends on our overcoming the meaninglessness and hopelessness that characterizes the thoughts of men today. So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning. We should reduce the complexity of life by eliminating the needless wants of life, and the labors of life reduce themselves. Materialism never provides you real happiness.

Be Happy - Materialism Never Provides Real Happiness.



Monday, April 26, 2010

Be Happy – Diversity is Still Beautiful

God has very beautifully fabricated this Universe. Every day, we see a new happening. In spite of all the best efforts, man is not able to measure up the length and breadth of the universe. We could not ascertain how it came into the present form and what the ultimate is, since it is said to be expanding continuously. Very rarely, we find two persons having same features. Peoples, races, tribes and Communities have different and varied customs, habits, tastes, character, inclinations and ideas. Their opinions and thoughts are often contrary to one another. Yet it is possible for unity to be revealed and perfect accord among human souls to exist. Different notes in music blend to strike a perfect chord. Separately, each note is so different from the other. When strung together with care, they make beautiful music. The inherent diversity is beautiful.

In our daily life, we can witness differences of two kinds. One is the cause of annihilation and is like the antipathy existing among warring nations and conflicting tribes who seek each other’s destruction, uprooting one another’s families, depriving one another of rest and comfort and unleashing carnage. The other kind, so diverse, is the essence of perfection and the cause of the appearance of the bestowals by God for all the creatures alike.

If we consider the flowers of a garden: though different in kind, colour, form and shape, yet, in as much as they are refreshed by the waters of one spring, revived by the breath of one wind, invigorated by the rays of one sun, the diversity increases their charm, and adds to their beauty. Thus, when the unifying force, the penetrating influence of the Word of God, takes effect, the difference of customs, manners, habits, ideas, opinions and dispositions embellishes the world of humanity.

This diversity is like the naturally created dissimilarity and variety of the limbs and organs of the human body, for each one contributes to the beauty, efficiency and perfection of the whole. Under the influence of human’s sovereign soul, and its power, the limbs and members, veins and arteries of the body reinforce harmony. So diversity strengthens love, and multiplicity is the greatest factor for coordination.

How unpleasing it would be to the eye if all the flowers and plants, leaves and blossoms, fruits, branches and trees of a garden were all of the same shape and colour. Diversity of hues, forms and shapes enriches and adorns the garden, and heightens the effect thereof. In like manner, when diverse shades of thought, temperament, character are brought together under the power and influence of one central agency, the beauty and glory of human perfection will be revealed and made manifest. The celestial potency of the Word of God, which oversees and transcends the realities to all things, is capable of harmonising the divergent thoughts, sentiments, ideas and convictions of people. It is the penetrating power in all things, the mover in all things, the mover of souls and the binder and regulator of humanity.

The disease which afflicts the body politic is lack of love and absence of altruism. When there is no real love, and the condition is such that, unless their susceptibilities are quickened by some power so that unity, love and accord may develop within them, there can be no healing, no agreement. Without love and unity there can be no progress or prosperity. Therefore, adhere to the power which creates this love and unity in our hearts. Science cannot cure the illness of the body politic. Science cannot create amity and fellowship in the human heart, nor can patriotism and racial allegiance effect a remedy. It must be accomplished solely though the divine bounties and spiritual bestowals by God.

Be Happy – Diversity is Still Beautiful


Saturday, April 24, 2010

Be Happy – How To Be Happy

No therapy can diagnose how we feel. Only patients can tell how they feel and how they are recovering. No doctors would be telling us soon how happy we were. They can not decide how exactly we felt on a particular day. Our moods may fit into a formula devised by scientists, who would define what it meant to be happy, sad or otherwise. The scientists are doing astounding work by scanning electrodes to produce changing colours in various parts of our brains with the change in emotions. In some emotive moods, we radiate delightfully toothless grins, others pucker in distress. The happy babies show distinctly different, and apparently quantifiable, blobs of blue in the area of the brain where happy moods reside. You can thus see on a screen how happy you are; or, so the scientists claim, adding they are on the job of precisely measuring happiness.
You are not going to crowd my skull with electrodes any day soon to tell my mood. And you are not going to define for me what it means to be happy at particular point of time, on a particular day, in a particular situation and in a particular place. I will decide for myself, or maybe my temperament will. And, will, you measure me after stuffing me full of chocolates or will you deprive me of the one human invention that can make me hit an instant high? Besides, do you know we sometimes smile when we’re actually fuming inside? I do often. It’s stressful but controlling one’s temper with a smile is a wise forward deal on long-term happiness.

I am always happy at happy meetings, positively jolly, as such occasions demand. But, to raise another problem, the degree of happiness can vary from one meeting to another meeting. And, if you measure my mood in the middle of the festive hours, you might find the happiness area colorful, but with a marked decrease in intensity as the evening wears into the late night. The next morning could show a plenty of remorse at having indulged too much for too long. I crawl out of bed swearing, never again. Until the next party, that is. So, what do you measure, and exactly when and where, if you want to declare me happy or unhappy?

But common sense arguments never stopped scientists. Neurologists, psychiatrists and geneticists will carry on turning common sense on its head, as indeed they must if they are true scientists. And now, political scientists and social psychologists have joined the band. They have gone one beyond to classify whole nations in a global happiness index.

Researchers at Britain’s University of Leicester used a battery of statistical data and surveyed 80,000 people worldwide to chart the state of happiness in 178 countries. The happiest nation? Denmark and Switzerland, which tied for first place. The most unhappy? Zimbabwe and Burundi. The United States came in 23rd in the list, even though it was the first republican democracy in the world to incorporate the pursuit of happiness in its Constitution as a worthy national goal.

You might assume the people in India are a pretty happy bunch, going by the delirious, musical acrobatics that inundate our TV screens day in ad night out or by the sheer number of supposedly happy festivals they celebrate year in and year out. Well, India figures a lowly 125th on the index. If that makes anyone sad, you can feel happy by looking at Pakistan, which is 166th, just one step above Russia. But, then again, China is higher at 82nd.

Interestingly, the countries that fare well on the index are almost all well-off, Being healthy and wealthy boosts national moods. But does it make people wise? If being healthy and wealthy made nations wise, the Iraq war may not have happened. Capitalism, however, is a winner. All the nations listed high on the index are market economies.

Democracy, curiously, does not seem to feature in the global happiness equation, much to the chagrin of the liberals who value freedom – of expression, in particular as key ingredient of any national happiness formula, although most nations in the top 50 in the list are democracies. Countries like Saudi Arabia, Brunei and Kuwait are also up there, underscoring the wealth factor but raising doubts about popular yearning for freedom.
The one intriguing entry in the list, at number 8, is the happy state of Bhutan. It is neither wealthy nor is it a market economy. But it is only country which officially measures its well-being not by GDP alone but also by a national happiness index. Bhutan’s culture minister explained on the BBC show how people were kept happy by strict government supervision of what they could see on TV and what outside influences would be allowed into the landlocked kingdom. Clearly, if you don’t let people know what excitement lies out there in the wide world, ignorance can indeed be bliss.

You need to be happy – it is our birthright because we do not wish to live in misery or disappointment. How? It is very easy – just you are to keep control over your ever increasing needs by balancing it with your resources, keeping yourself emotionally high and taking the bad things as these too shall pass away. You need to rejoice with every moment giving up your unnecessary ego and value your time and keep care of your health. A single right decision of marriage with a right person can make up 90% of your happiness throughout your life. You must consider your matrimonial proposals very carefully. You must have proper management of your time and ensure how every unit of time available with you is productive and how its productivity can be enhanced further. You must find out the solutions of your problems rather than postponing them or accumulating for a future date. You may ignore the little follies and find out the reasons so that they are not repeated. There are many do’s and don’ts depending upon your individual circumstances – for being happy, you need to identify what can make you really happy.

Be Happy – Try to Learn How To be Happy.




Friday, April 23, 2010

Be Happy – Be Healthy

Regular vigorous exercise can provide the basis for good health and wellness. In the past health was determined by the absence of disease or illness. Today we define health in terms of physical, mental and emotional wellness. The health, fitness, and medical experts now regard physical activity, practiced on a regular basis, as essential for achieving and maintaining good health.

Studies confirm that exercise will not only help you to live longer but enable you to live life at your fullest potential. But, being physically strong and fit is more than striving to live longer, it is striving to live better. If a proper exercise program helps you maintain good physical appearance, have more energy, sleep better, distress ones self, improve performance at a favorite sport or pastime and not have to worry about weight gain isn't it worth it?

Ponder the fitness truths listed below as this is what physical strength and fitness is all about. Being fit is about living every day to your fullest capacity not just getting by. This goal is within the reach of anyone who educates themselves regarding strength and fitness.

Your body was made to be very active. Your body cannot handle the stress of sitting most of the day. Your body thrives on vigorous activity. You need to use energy to gain more energy. A physically fit body is better able to function at its full potential. Strong and fit people tend to feel really good about themselves.

Most people would like to be strong and fit maybe not for the sake of appearance, but surely so that they can feel better and live longer. Unfortunately, many fall prey to mental obstacles that can prevent and get in the way of getting the exercise we need. The first and most important obstacle to conquer if you want to improve your health and fitness is thinking of exercise as an option. Devoting a small portion of each day to physical fitness is a must, not an option or a luxury.

If you don't make time to maintain strength and fitness the consequences may not be obvious in the short term. It could be tempting to engage in wishful thinking: "If I don't work out, no one will know the difference." That may be true - for a while. It takes time, years, even decades for a lack of physical activity to take its toll on our bodies. But the consequences will surely come: weight gain, lack of energy, loss of strength, loss of self esteem, daily tasks will start to become harder. Your career will suffer, your bones will become weaker and more brittle, your posture will take on an aged look, your heart and lungs will grow weaker, and you will become more prone to nasty diseases that could well shorten your life.

All too often, we go through life, stumbling along down the road of good intentions. We intend to get in that gym workout today. Or, we may intend to begin an exercise program. But intentions, alone, are not enough we need to get started and continue to do it with consistency. Consistency with an exercise program helps it become a habit - a normal part of your everyday life. You will find yourself looking forward to having that time to yourself...time to think, time to center yourself after the busyness of the day, time to release stress and time to recharge the batteries. In the long run, it's all up to you and you have the power to make yourself look better, be healthier and live longer.

Be Happy – Be Healthy




Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Be Happy – How Can You Be Happy?

Do you know? Who is the happiest person? Are you the happiest person ? Perhaps you may find the luckiest, richest, or most successful person to be just the happiest. If not, why not? Most people, you may know personally may be reeling off their current worries – the job, the kids, the car, the price of fish and/or other essentials. I don’t mean to sweep these aside: problems need to be solved, if you can, or wait out until they disappear. But as far as living happily is concerned, you have to face a crucial time till all your problems are solved and until then, you are never going to live happily, because when today’s problems are gone and forgotten, others will take their place. So either living happily is just impossible, or you have to do it in spite of your problems.

Being happy depends not so much on external circumstances as on your inner life. This means all your thoughts, dreams – your entire mental and emotional scene. Happiness is about how you react inwardly to events, what you think and believe, how you feel, how problems affect you. It may sound obvious, but like many obvious things it’s something that is often forgotten when it matters most. We focus almost exclusively on our external lives, on getting and spending and having fun, and then wonder why we are not happy. But it’s when our inner lives are tranquil that we are happiest and we call this inner peace.

So how is inner peace to be achieved? Is it a question of religion, perhaps, or yoga? These can certainly help but only if they have a positive effect on your inner life. The difficulty is that inner life is based on patterns and habits – some you were born or brought up with, or the most you have acquired. You don’t choose, occasion by occasion, how you respond inside when something happens. This happens and you feel angry; that happens you feel sad; you pass the patisserie and you feel hungry; you hear a tune or smell a certain scent and it reminds you off a particular time or person?

Things produce a response choosing how you feel, and they don’t necessarily leave you with inner peace. So the trick is to break the pattern. You can’t completely avoid problems, but you can change how you react to them by acquiring new habits that provoke peaceful inner responses. Training your inner life into different habits requires learning skills of thinking, feeling, and managing your beliefs and desires. These are very like the virtues many religions and philosophies advocate, but if you think of them as skills rather than virtues, you benefit from an important and liberating shift. Instead of “I must become a better person”. You can think “ I would live more happily if I worked on my skills”, so the change in attitude becomes a choice, not a duty.

This process is not something you can do overnight, it’s whole new way of life, but the reward is what we all want most – happiness. There are five main skills you need to cultivate.

Mindfulness:

This involves developing your ability to focus your thoughts in the present. The problem most of us have with thought is having too much of it – the worrying and non-stop mental chattering our minds are prone to. Mindfulness is a key inner skill because, as it gets stronger, it lets you focus on your own inner life and catch your habits in the act. Once you can see how you are ruled by them, the change you are ruled by them, the change you are seeking often happens of its own accord.

Compassion:

Most religions rightly stress compassion. As well as being a virtue in its own right it is a practical skill that counteracts negative emotions like anger and hatred, which are terrible wreckers of happiness. Try it next time someone annoys you: put yourself in their place and ask yourself what they might they be thinking or feeling to behave like that. Even bad people, let alone people who just mildly annoy you, often have a warped or mistaken view of the world which makes them do what they do. Wars are started and atrocities committed, for example, because someone decides that this is what their God wants. It doesn’t mean they should get away with their actions; in fact it may be necessary to take strong action to defend yourself.

Story skills:


These are very useful for problems with your inner belief system, as they let you stand back and explore alternative versions of reality. Beliefs have great power over your life because a belief is something you take as fact. To start is easier to accept that other things might be true as well, or even instead. Even true stories only select the little bit of reality we are focusing on at the moment: no one story is the whole truth about any situation. From a different point of view, we would see a different story, sometimes a whole different story, sometimes whole different world. This is not about make believe, it’s about reframing situations to look at them from a different perspective.

Letting-go techniques:

These are particularly helpful when we are unhappy not getting what we want. Generally, we are encouraged to keep wanting and to think that more will make us happier, whether it’s clothes or cars or even love. But wanting is a treadmill: as long as you have unsatisfied wants and desires you won’t be at peace, so to be happy you either have to satisfy all your desires, or let go of some of them. Letting-go skills also include forgiveness, which helps hugely if one of the things you think you want is revenge.

Enjoyment skills:

This group includes skills such as patience, humour and, especially, gratitude. You don’t have to be grateful to someone; it’s enough to cultivate gratitude for things. Our minds naturally scan the environment for dangers and resources, a useful mechanism when we were hunter-gatherers. But it can make us unnecessarily pessimistic – focusing on the 10% we lack rather than the 90% we have. Cultivating enjoyment skills will help redress the balance.

Acquiring all these skills and the like may take time and effort. The important thing is to practise them until they operate without you thinking about them. You practice routine will be very individual, because everyone needs to prioritise different skills depending on the specific issues that are holding them back from being happy, but keep the skills in mind and you will constantly find new ways to try them out and you can become happier.

Be Happy – You Can Be Happier.


Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Be Happy – Start It Today, It Is Never late

The following is a story forwarded to me by one of my friends. I stand indebted and owe a pious duty to share, as such, with all I love and regard faithfully. The sender says, “Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, “Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over”. I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive “I will come next Tuesday”, I promised a little reluctantly on her third call. Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and reluctantly I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn’s house, I was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.”

Putting the story ahead, she mentions, “Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see badly enough to drive another inch!... “But first we’re going to see the daffodils. It’s just a few blocks”, Carolyn said. “I’ll drive. I’m used to this”…

After about 20 minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand-lettered sign with an arrow that read, ‘Daffodil Garden’. We got out of the car, each took a child’s hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight.”

Going a few steps more what she found, she narrates, “It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak and its surrounding slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons ad swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron and butter yellow. Each different-coloured variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.” She states to have asked her daughter Carolyn, “Who did this?” “Just one Woman”, She answered. “She lives on the property. That’s her home, pointing to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory.” They walked up to the house.

On the patio, they saw a poster. ‘Answers to Questions I Know You Are Asking’, was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. ’50,000 bulbs’, it read. The second answer was, ‘One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one bran’. The third answer was, ‘Began in 1958’. For her, that moment was a life-changing experience. She thought of that woman whom she had never met, who, more than 40 years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, that unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. One step at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration. “It makes me sad in a way”, she admitted to Carolyn. “What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal 35 or 40 years ago and had worked away at it ‘one bulb at a time’ through all those years? Just think what I might have been able to achieve!”

Her daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. “Start tomorrow”, she said. She was right. It’s so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. Whatever we had thought yesterday and could not do, we can rethink and start today – it is never too late.

Be Happy – Start It Today, It Is Never late.





Friday, April 16, 2010

Be Happy – Harmony is Essential for a Happy Life

Whenever you go through different dictionaries, you may find the word “Harmony” to mean as an agreement in feeling or opinion, a pleasing combination of elements in a whole, in Music the study of the structure, progression, and relation of chords, simultaneous combination of notes in a chord, the structure of a work or passage as considered from the point of view of its chordal characteristics and relationships, a combination of sounds considered pleasing to the ear or a collation of parallel passages, especially from the Gospels, with a commentary demonstrating their consonance and explaining their discrepancies.

If you analyze harmonious relationships, you will find that these are the result of inner work, love and deep respect for yourselves and the other. The quality of your lives depends more on what you are inside than outside. But how many of you really look within? You need to think right. Hence it is essential to look within and create an order therein. You need to create harmonious relationship between your inner and outer behaviour. Since your childhood, you are programmed to believe that happiness is outside. You are products of such programming. It has been ingrained in you that joy and happiness are outside and the myth governs the whole of your lives compelling you to gather more and more materialistic possessions.

The harmonious relationship is not a materialistic possession. It is a result of your thinking in right direction. The process of thinking involves flow of thoughts. Thoughts move outward in search of happiness, name, fame, money or power. Happiness, however, does not result from material affluence. It is result of your attitude to life. Happiness is a result of your being totally in the present. Enlightenment happens in the present. But your lives are always focused either on the past or future. Life is the present. So be present in the present. Then a different ‘presence’ opens up. Whatever you are doing, be total in it. Bring in your totality of being in the ‘here and now’.

When you are looking at a flower, can you just look? If you look at it from thoughtfulness, you may treat it as good or bad flower. A thought compares it with something else. By this, you don’t look, you superimpose. The discipline to look at something without comparison or thoughts is important. When you require using your thoughts, only then should you bring in a thought. Try this out.

When unnecessary thoughts pile up, they become pockets of energy. When negative thoughts pile up they seed negative attitude, enforcing negative thoughts. These in turn superimpose energy on the objects of thought, making them appear negative. The influences that are created in life, be they in a form of war, politics, violence, are the result of the influence of negative energy that either becomes real or superimposed.

When your immune system is weak you are prone to disease. Similarly, when your psychological immune system is weak you are prone to negative influences. A negative thought requires no effort. It comes from the lower mind that is mechanical. Noble thoughts have to come from the higher mind that is more conscious and magnetic.

A faulty attitude injures and harms us. You end up making wrong connections. And when you are not proceeding in the right direction, you suffer the consequences. You know that there is male energy in the female and female energy in the male. Since you are progenies of both genders, you have both male and female energies. They have to be in harmony for you to be able to function in a way that gives you the right direction. When you create an external harmony, you create an internal harmony also. By loving a man outside, you love the male energy in you. When you hate a woman outside, a very important part of you, the internal female energy is also dwarfed and injured.

In every one of us there is both a teacher and a student. Our centre is a teacher teaching us in the language of silence, in the language of purity. The student in us should learn to listen to the teaching. When you do injustice to an external teacher, you are doing injustice to a part of yourselves. By respecting both a student and a teacher outside, you respect something in you.

Harmonious relationships are opportunities for evolution into love and freedom from the ego and to merge your will with the other thus creating a greater reality. They are a means towards our life purpose. Our self-worth and security are within us and do not depend on being in a relationship. It is natural that you support, inspire and affirm each other. You can be yourselves when you are free from fear. Mutual love and respect are the basis of all conscious love relationships.

For harmonious relationship, you must confirm to yourself that you all deserve lasting love and respect. You are safe and secure even when you are alone. You need not prove that you are right - love (rather than being “right”) attracts love. You allow each other the freedom to be yourselves. You are worthy of love and respect exactly as you are. The more you know each other, the more you want to be together. You love each other even when you cannot fulfill each other's needs. You each create your own reality. You are equal and your close relationships are beautiful. You must understand that you are never hurt by the other, but only by your own fears, attachments, needs and expectations. You sacrifice your needs out of love for each other - not out of fear or duty.

How can you develop harmonious relationship? It is simple. You may take the following steps:

1. You may take full responsibility for your reality. You are the sole creators of your thoughts and feelings. No one can create your happiness, security or self-worth.
2. You may free the other from any responsibility for your reality. You need to consciously forgive the other and free all others for any responsibility for the reality, which you have created.
3. You may perceive the other as your teacher and learn through both his and her positive and negative attributes. You learn to emulate the positive and understand, accept and deal with the negative.
4. You may understand what lessons you need to learn through the other's behaviors, which annoy you.
5. You may learn to communicate more effectively with other with messages where you express our needs clearly and assertively without accusing, criticizing, complaining or threatening.
6. You may understand and accept the other's:
a. Needs (such as: affection, love, approval, freedom, respect, unity)
b. Beliefs (such as: I am in danger, I am not worthy, My freedom is in danger)
c. Reactions
7. You may not speak to third persons about your loved one, but only directly to him or her. (Except of course to a counselor)
8. You may participate in groups for the purpose of self-knowledge and creating interpersonal harmony.
9. You may see a professional counselor alone or together.
10. You may participate in each other's activities.
11. You may express love and admiration such as:
a. Gratitude for help and service.
b. Acknowledgment of what the other does.
c. Recognition of the other's abilities, qualities and virtues.
d. Love and appreciation.
12. You may meet regularly for communication on all levels. This is best done on a weekly basis.
13. Daily, you may visualize the other in light and send love. Bring to mind five of the other's positive qualities or abilities. Visualize a harmonious loving relationship. You cannot create what you cannot first imagine.

Be Happy – Harmony is Essential for a Happy Life


Thursday, April 15, 2010

Be Happy – You Can Gain Something If You Undertake Some Pain.

Sometime, you feel that you do not need extra exercise after you walk to the nearby railway station, march up the escalators, and thereafter you come back to home, to take your pet for the morning calls and this exercise is sufficient to remain fit. No, you still need extra exercise. Light exercises do not provide the required cardiovascular reserve. One has to indulge in a variety of fitness programs – treadmill, swimming, light running and jogging. These exercises decrease fat, enhance and improve circulation, increase muscle mass, regulate body metabolism and keep a person fit, physically and psychologically. Pottering about the house does not make up what your body usually requires.

Physical exercise is important for maintaining physical fitness and can contribute positively to maintaining a healthy weight, building and maintaining healthy bone density, muscle strength, and joint mobility, promoting physiological well-being, reducing surgical risks, and strengthening the immune system. Physical exercise is any bodily activity that enhances or maintains physical fitness and overall health or wellness. It must be performed for various reasons. These include strengthening muscles and the cardiovascular system, honing athletic skills, weight loss or maintenance and for enjoyment. Frequent and regular physical exercise boosts the immune system, and helps prevent the "diseases of affluence" such as heart disease, cardiovascular disease, Type 2 diabetes and obesity. It also improves mental health, helps prevent depression, helps to promote or maintain positive self-esteem, and can even augment an individual's sex appeal or body image Childhood obesity is a growing global concern and physical exercise may help decrease the effects of childhood obesity in developed countries.

Exercise also reduces levels of cortisol. Cortisol is a stress hormone that builds fat in the abdominal region, making weight loss difficult.] Cortisol causes many health problems, both physical and mental.

Regular exercise is a critical part of staying healthy. People who are active live longer and feel better. Exercise can help you maintain a healthy weight. It can delay or prevent diabetes, some cancers and heart problems.

There are 1,440 minutes in every day. Schedule 30 of them for physical activity! Most adults need at least 30 minutes of moderate physical activity at least five days per week. Examples include walking briskly, mowing the lawn, dancing, swimming for recreation or bicycling. Stretching and weight training can also strengthen your body and improve your fitness level.

The key is to find the right exercise for you. If it is fun, you are more likely to stay motivated. You may want to walk with a friend, join a class or plan a group bike ride. If you've been inactive for awhile, use a sensible approach and start out slowly.

Keeping fit generally means having a good exercise tolerance so that one does not tire easily. The main systems in the human body involved in day today functioning and directly affected by exercise are the cardiovascular system (heart for pumping blood) and pulmonary system (lungs for supplying adequate oxygen for energy). A healthy cardio-respiratory system leads to a well-functioning gastrointestinal system (stomach, bowels, etc), which is then able to absorb the required nutrients and supply the body with proper nourishment. This leads to a healthy mind and body.

To improve efficiency of the cardio-respiratory system, one needs aerobic exercise, ie, a workout which increases exercise tolerance. However, to be effective, it should be done at a pace that will surprise the body and force it to keep up with the higher level of activity. It is ideal to push hear rate up to 80 per cent of the maximum advisable limit for you age and health, after seeking medical advice. This will increase the overall Basal Metabolic Rate (BMR), and make the body more efficient.

To remain fit, one has to keep all the joints moving and keep muscles toned to support skeletal system. This improves posture, controls muscular and joint aches, improves skin circulation. A research, published in the Journal of Epidemiology ad Community Health, found that women who did more than eight hours a week of heavy housework were actually slightly more likely to be overweight than those who did none – and no amount of vacuuming, scrubbing and cleaning lowered resting heart rate, which is an indicator of enhanced aerobic fitness.

Since we all have different levels of fitness, it’s impossible to prescribe any single activity or target heart rate as suitable for all. There is evidence that brisk walking protects women from diabetes and heart disease, but for most middle-aged men, walking simply isn’t challenging enough. Men who want to reduce their risk of diabetes and heart disease should consider jogging, circuit training, running or competitive sports.

A healthy body built up with regular exercise can bring in a lot of energy to let you use up the most of your working hours and you can accomplish your dreams by increase of your productivity. Once your actual productivity increases, your income and job security with mental peace also increase to make you happier. For being happy, you need to undertake extra pains and extra pains will ensure extra gains.

Be Happy – You Can Gain Something If You Undertake Some Pain.

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Be Happy – Solve Your Problem by Selecting Only Positives.

Marx and Engels started with the observation that everything in existence is a combination or unity of opposites. For example, electricity is characterized by a positive and negative charge and atoms consist of protons and electrons which are unified but are ultimately contradictory forces. Even humans through introspection find that they are a unity of opposite qualities like masculinity and femininity, selfishness and altruism, humbleness and pride, etc. The Marxist conclusion being that everything "contains two mutually incompatible and exclusive but nevertheless equally essential and indispensable parts or aspects." The basic concept being that this unity of opposites in nature is the thing that makes each entity auto-dynamic and provides this constant motivation for movement and change. This idea was borrowed from Georg Wilhelm Hegel who said: "Contradiction in nature is the root of all motion and of all life.

This applies to our normal life too. Just, take a minute and think about the world you live in. Have you ever noticed how everything you’re involved in, is comprised of opposites? Opposites abound everywhere and in every situation. Opposites as we mean are elements that are so far apart as to be totally irreconcilable. For example, we have such irreconcilable opposites as up and down, left and right, short and tall, light and dark assets and liabilities, success and failure, freedom and bondage and on and on and on. The opposites make us feel the importance of the original word like without passing through night, you can not enjoy the day. Without being exposed to grief, you may never feel how beautiful is the happiness. I doubt that you think of anything that does not have an implied opposite.

Think abut it. We live in a world of division. We live in a world of duality where every position, situation and condition is challenged by some alternative where one side is always pulling against another or pushing up against a wall that may not yield. This is living in a world that is perfectly designed to promote struggle, turmoil, conflict, confusion, disputes and disagreements. This law of opposites is the cause of all problems. Without knowing how to control or overcome this law of opposites, people try to adapt to it without realizing that by so doing they only succeed in increasing their frustrations and prolonging any solution. It is any wonder that so many people are suffering such pressures, stresses and anxieties! Once you make up your mind that you may come across the opposite situation to face in the process of working towards any target, you will face that situation more energetically.

If some people may somehow prevent this law from operating in their individual experiences they would enjoy living in a world where oneness prevailed and those things we call problems would have no influence over them. This might be best illustrated by using such familiar opposites as positive and negative. Positives and negatives are opposites and have nothing in common. They cannot mix or commingle. Neither can one be described in term of the other. Try as you might, you cannot successfully justify one to the other. They are opposites. It is the law!

Usually a problem is defined as an intricate, unsettled question, a source of perplexity and vexation. By their very nature, problems are negative. Negative means as something which is the opposite, or negation, of something. That “something” is the positiveness of the problem’s solution. Positive is that which is real, not speculative, not fictitious and logically affirmative.. Just as a negative has absolutely no positive characteristics, so a positive has absolutely no negative characteristics. They are opposites. It is the law! And because it is an absolute, universal law it is not subject to chance, change, modification, circumvention or debate. It maintains it own integrity, is self- enforcing and works simply because it exists…forever! When properly applied it is your absolute assurance of successful conclusions.

The problem is negative and unreal. The objective is positive and real. Logic, then, demands that in order to experience your goal or objective or receive the answer to your question, you must discipline yourself to maintain mind-set that is responsive to the positive ideas that will dissolve your negative problems. This is probably the most demanding discipline you will ever be faced with because we’re been trained to accepted both positives and negatives as real. From this premise, we attempt to solve a problem by confronting it as an adversary with which we are compelled to do battle. We try to understand it and deal with it as though t were a reality instead of simply being a negation of that which we are seeking.

Does all this sound too abstract to be practical in what we call the “real” world of nuts and bolts”? While individual circumstances will vary, the procedural application of this law is always the same. Consider this law is always the same. Consider this case study: Static sale plagued a company and great effort and money was invested to find some means by which they could increase the sales volume of their product. Their best efforts failed and they resigned themselves to the conviction that the market was flooded to the point of saturation and nothing further could be done. They were prepared to “eat their losses” and move on.

Then the principles embodied in this discovery were initiated by one individual who, in the secrecy of his own thought, maintained the integrity of this positive, constructive, solution oriented approach. He mentally rejected all discussions that focused on the “problem” even though circumstances required that he be involved in them. Soon he developed a plan. Every detail of a brand new merchandising procedure unfolded that was a radical departure from all traditional methods. The plan was implemented and sales increased immediately to a level that far exceeded the company’s most optimistic projections. As an added bonus, the implementation of this plan did not require any additional capital expenditures.

There is nothing more powerful than the right idea on appropriate time. The sales “problem” simply disappeared. Why? Because, being an unreal negation, it never did have the substance or reality of its positive opposite. Where did the problem go? It went to the same place the flat world went as soon as Columbus discovered that it was really round. It didn’t “go” anywhere because it wasn’t a real “something” to begin with!
When you are faced with a tough problem or challenge, the first thing you should do is to discipline yourself to look away from it and reject it as an “enemy” with whom you must do battle. See its nothingness. Focusing your attention on it will only secure its presence and perpetuate its supposed existence. Remember, you want to get rid of it, not perpetuate it!

All problems are negative. They cannot exist alone. Any negative is completely dependent upon there being a positive something to be negative about. You cannot have a counterfeit dollar bill unless there is a genuine dollar to be a counterfeit of. You cannot remind yourself of this fundamental fact too often! Your awareness of any problem is your assurance that its answer is already available. The problem really is that you are making a reality out of an unreal, false appearance. The problem is a void or your ignorance of the answer. The answer lies in your awakening to this truth. Your effort must be focused on the necessary positive mindset and let the answer appear. It’s really that simple.

This is a simple procedure but not always easy to implement. Too often there is too much built in habitual thinking and intellectual ballast that gets in the way. One of the best ways to become financially successful is to "find out what most people are doing and then do the exact opposite".

So when you are faced with a decision or a particular situation, think about what the average person would choice to do and then do the exact opposite. As comical as this may sound you will probably find that it will lead you to some amazing and unexpected accomplishments.

Most people's actions produce below their expectation. So if you want to produce similar results to these people then your task is very easy - Simply make the same or similar decisions that they are making and you will be just like them in no time at all. To be successful you need to do things differently than the general public. You need to start developing your mindset of a millionaire and stop making the same decisions as everyone else.

One of the best examples is how most people approach becoming wealthy or rich. Rather than trying to get a financial education and develop the mindset of a millionaire most peoples attempt at becoming wealthy is to buy a whole heap of lotto tickets. If these people would take the time to educate themselves in the world of finance they would be astounded at what they could achieve.

Forget any fancy strategies or borrowing to invest, if people could learn and master one simple concept like 'compounding interest' their lives would start to change forever. People are so often worried about not being able to pay for their child's education but did you know that if you were to invest $3.33 per day into a fund that was earning 15% that by the time your child turns 19 it would be worth $110,424. Then if you stopped contributing and let the money to continue to grow on its own it would be worth $9.6 million by the age of 50, $39.2 million by the age of 60 and $158.2 million by the age of 70.

Basically, that means that if you were to give up a choco bar a day or your weekly lotto ticket you would be able to leave your children a multi million dollar inheritance. When you start to create the mindset of a millionaire you will never cease to be amazed by the things you can create. The ironical thing about lotto is that within 3-7 years of winning, most people are in a worse position financially than they were to begin with. Why? Because they haven't developed the mindset of a millionaire, they have simply been gifted a whole lot of money and they don't have the correct skills to make their money work for them.

Imagine if someone was to offer you the choice of these two things. They will give you a million dollars in cash or they will teach you how to create the mindset of a millionaire. What would you choose? I know what most people would choose and to be honest a few years ago I would have taken the cash too but after developing my own mindset and learning to implement. I know that it would be the wrong choice. In order to succeed we need to branch, take some risks and develop the mindset of a millionaire. Funnily enough, sometimes the best way to do this is to see which way most people are going and head the other way. You can reach the destination more easily being above the traffic jams.

Be Happy - Solve Your Problem by Selecting Only Positives.




Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Be happy – you must be more rich.

God has gifted us a beautiful life, a beautiful earth, a beautiful universe with enormous resources and a sharp brain to exploit those resources to lead a comfortable life. With the civilization advancing every day, every moment, we have been inventing new methods to carry on our working more smoothly. Every day, we see new discoveries, new advancements, improvements of the old ones – necessity is the mother of inventions. In course of time, it has been ascertained that there is clearly enough money and wealth in the world for everybody to be rich. If this is the case, why is there still so much poverty? It is said that 15 percent of world population is enjoying the benefits of 85 percent of the resources and rest 85 percent, the majority of the world population is compelled to work hard to meet the basic requirements. Why? There is imbalance or mismanagement of the resources and their use.

I live in a beautiful country called India emerging a major economic power in the world but all of its inhabitants are not rich. . . Why? I believe that in order to become rich you need to stop ‘wishing’ that you would be rich and start taking ‘actions’ to actually achieve these goals.

1. People never define what being rich actually is. Being rich does not mean that you should have a beautiful bungalow, a car, some electronic gadgets, fat bank balance etc. When we gather our materialistic possessions, we forget that love and emotions do have some place to justify our riches. If we do not have plenty of them, there is no use of our materialistic riches and without them, the presence of love and emotions does not give us comfort. It means that both have significant role to complement each other.

2. People’s definition of being rich normally focuses on long term goals therefore making it feel impossible to achieve.

3. Most people over-estimate what they can achieve in 1 year and under-estimate what they can achieve in 10 years. They do not draw out a rational method to achieve their short term and long term dreams.

4. People tell themselves that “they don’t really care about money” and then proceed to work 40plus hours a week in a job they hate.

5. People never decide why they must become rich and take genuine action towards achieving this goal.

6. People don’t have a realistic plan. Mostly, they work on hypothesis.

7. People follow the plan framed by others, and do not change if they are found not viable even in the initial stages.

8. Advice is freely available and most of the people listen to poor people, yet they are very skeptical about advice from rich people. Rich people never give advice, they work only.

9. People allow other people’s opinions to effect their action and goals.

10. People don’t take responsibility for their own results always blaming everyone else if they don’t succeed.

11. People give up when success is just around the corner.

12. People think that their car & house are assets.

13. People would prefer to live in ignorance rather than take care of their personal finances.

14. Generally, people don’t understand the concept of compound interest.

15. People don’t have access investment strategies & high quality coaching.

16. People make the same decisions and perform the same actions as everybody else yet they expect to create a different result.

17. People think that investing is risky and fail to realize that not investing is the biggest risk of all. If they invest judiciously, their investments can bring about a lot of employment to themselves and for those who need.

18. In order to become rich you must remember to actually ask for what you want.

19. People want to get rich quick rather than doing any work.

20. People don’t understand the fundamentals of a budget – spend less than you earn.

21. People don’t evaluate the value of their seconds – they waste their days in waiting for the things to change into their favour. They do not try to change the tide of the river.

22. People don’t like to take risk. High risk high gain is not preferred.

23. Most of the people are self-centric. They do not imagine that if they value other’s time, they can get reciprocal treatment.

24. People do not afford to have cost accounting of their efforts, resources and time they devote on some assignments. If they do, they can reap optimal results and none can restrain them to become rich.

25. People do not attend their civic duties properly but expect the country (In other words, Government and society) to do continuously something in their favor. They forget that the country is made up of them.

If we go through the above seriously and take action in right direction, there is no reason why all of us should become rich and richer.

Be happy – Become Rich and Richer.

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Be Happy – Do What You Wish To Do

It is very simple to say to you to do what you wish to do for being happy. Naturally, your happiness lies where your wishes are met with fully. A little deviation may ask you either to compromise or feel disappointed. But the difference between your requirement and satisfaction can be eliminated if you just try to wear the shoes of those who might be affected by your wishes to any extent. Perhaps you may feel the pinch and like to reduce your requirement so that apart from being happy, the others may not be badly affected. Some time it is paradoxical statement but other time, it may appear to be essential for social harmony which may need a little sacrifice too.

It is true that God is everywhere. Everything else in this world is an illusion or a delusion. Anyone can pursue happiness insofar as being completely in tune with oneself. Most often we do things that please others. We force ourselves to believe what pleases us and is therefore essential for our happiness. If you take full responsibility for your actions – good or bad, you will not be affected with the results as your personal truth would remain connected in the deepest manner with the Absolute Truths of life. This can help you to be deeply in touch with yourself and with God. When you talk to yourself, question yourself, you can find answers within yourself. If you develop this aptitude, it shall be your ability to be comfortable in whatever you do. It is about being complete, totally absorbed in the moment. From this perspective, it does not matter whether you are in a bar or a theater.

Being religious is different from being spiritual. It means subscribing to the tenets of one’s religion. It also means having fear of divine punishment, of reprisal from divine forces. This fear necessitates one to believe, to practise laid-out norms. Spirituality, on the other hand, is complete freedom, shackle-free. It is a state of happiness and of complete detachment too. For further freedom of your expression, you may choose the profession of your choice as that will help you to discover your abilities. Within that profession, you can touch your true self. You can set your programs accordingly and take action. This system can re-energize you to face life’s challenges.

If you feel that you are being dictated to do something, you may not be able to express yourself whether that dictation may be in terms of your religion, your circumstances or wishes of your elders in your family. You may have to be specific in your targets and command convincing power to bring about the conflicting views to your terms. If your body, mind and soul are in harmony and in complete unison, you can accomplish your target. That is ultimate freedom.

Just as you value your right to choose and live in the manner you want to, you must respect others’ right to choose and live the way they wish to. Freedom does not choose, it discovers. You need not be an ascetic, renounce life, be anti-life and go to the mountains. In the now and here and in the daily transaction life lie true spirituality and devotion – you may carry on with full sincerity to yourself as well as to others without affecting them injudiciously. You must enjoy all good things that life has so offer and believe that by enjoying life in that way, you are assisting others too to enjoy their life in the way they wish.

Be Happy – Do What You Wish To Do

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Be Happy - Be More Focused And Rational

God has gifted us this beautiful life with a lot of resources to enjoy and brain to make the enjoyment feasible. Every one of us has been given a limited span of life and after expiry of that time, we find ourselves dead. The people say that Mr.John has expired, or he is no more. His body is there yet to be cremated but he is declared to have expired, it means his period of life as designed by God has expired and he was not allowed a single second more whatever the status he might have gained during his life period. To achieve more and more during our life span, we need to be more focused and rational in our programs so that we are able to use our time, our resources more optimally. We should not try to grab other’s things – we must do something with our own resources and this action will bring to us peace of mind.

There is a reference in the Bible that once the Pharisees, with a motive of entangling Jesus in their machination, sent unto him their disciples with the Herodians. Reigned by their hypocrisy, they deliberately enquired of Jesus: Is it lawful to give tribute unto Caesar, or not? The question was put with a motive that if he said, “No”, then they would inform the Emperor, “Jesus Christ is a traitor and is misguiding and provoking people against you”. And if he responded affirmatively, then they would prove his statement, “I am the son of God”, to be false. However, Christ said: Show me the tribute money… Accordingly, a penny was brought. He then inquired, “Whose stamp is there on this penny?” “It is that of the Roman emperor, Caesar”, said the people. Hearing their response, Christ said: …Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are Ceasar’s and unto God the things that are God’s.

The import is that whichever entity was marked with the stamp of Caesar could be offered to him, and whichever was stamped with God had to be presented to Him. Similarly our body, mind and intellect have been granted to deal with the world, but our attention is meant to be directed towards God and His service.

The power of concentration, attention or remembrance is a divine treasure entrusted to us by God, and we are the trustees of this spiritual treasure whose real owner is the king of kings, God. Our redemption lies in offering the treasure back to its owner, God.

We must serve the world, deal with it, and enjoy it but with total it, and enjoy it but with total vigilance and caution. What is required is focus and here, a good memory is useful. An ability to ignore unnecessary information is the only way to remember vital detains. Until now, it was believed that those with good memories are able to process and store more information than others. But it is now proven that it is the ability to filter what we need and leave out the clutter. Vogel’s team noticed how well a group of students could memorize geometric patterns. Volunteers were shown images containing a selection of rectangles and asked to memorize their position and orientation. After a few seconds, they were shown a second pattern and asked to the first. In some cases, all the rectangles were red, while in others, half were red and half blue, and the students were asked to memorize only the red one.

The researchers, then, using a technique for measuring brain-waves, tracked how many shapes they were committing to memory. Thus, they found that those having the poorest recall were also the worst at keeping the extra or the blue shapes out of their minds.

A second experiment showed that the effect was not related to colors. In it, the students were asked to memories just one section of the pattern and ignore the rest. Again, those who fared worst were the ones who found it most difficult to filter out the irrelevant parts of the pattern.

Therefore, forgetting the frivolous events or thoughts yields good memory and hence success. However, this art does not require switching off brain circuits, but by deviating its current-flow towards the source of eternal peace i.e. God. So, what we need to do is not to give up our worldly duties, but be more focused and rational in our approach. Once we do it, there is no ground which may fail us in achieving our targets.

Be Happy - Be More Focused And Rational


Thursday, April 8, 2010

Be Happy – Your Patience will not go waste

Patience is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Learn the art of patience. Apply discipline to your thoughts when they become anxious over the outcome of a goal. Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational outlook, which eventually leads to success like Solomon did.

Solomon was, according to the Bible, a King of Israel. The biblical accounts identify Solomon as the son of David. He is also called Jedidiah and is described as the third king of the United Monarchy, and the final king before the northern Kingdom of Israel and the southern Kingdom of Judah split; following the split his patrilineal descendants ruled over Judah alone. During his life time, the king exercised wisdom and patience to win the hearts of his people.

King Solomon was known for his wisdom. One day, two women came to the king with a child. Each claiming the child was hers and not the other’s. Calmly, the king asked for a sword and said “Cut the living child in two, and give half to one. “Half to the other.” The woman who was the mother of the child pleaded: “I beg you, give her the live child; on no account kill him!” But the other said, “He shall belong to neither of us. Cut him in half!” The king gave his decision: “Give the live child to the first woman,” he said. “She is his mother”.

This wisdom Solomon received from Yahweh, God. For Solomon loved Yahweh and followed the precepts of his father David. Yahweh appeared to Solomon in a dream. God said, “Ask what you would like me to give you.”

Solomon replied, “You showed most faithful love to your servant David, my father, when he lived his life before you in faithfulness and uprightness and integrity of heart; you have continued loving him by allowing a son of his on this throne today. You have made your servant as king in succession to David my father. But I am young, unskilled in leadership. And here is your servant, surrounded with your people whom you have chosen, people so numerous that they cannot be counted or reckoned. So give your servant a heart to understand how to govern your people, how to discern between good and evil, for how could one otherwise govern such a great people as yours?”

It pleased Yahweh that Solomon should have asked for this. “Since you have asked for this,” God said, “and not for long life or riches for yourself or the lives of your enemies but have asked for a discerning judgment for yourself, here and now I give you a heart wise and shrewd as no one had and no one will have after you. What you have not asked I shall give you too; such riches and glory as no other king can match. And I shall give you a long life, if you follow my ways, keeping my laws and commandments, as your father David followed them.”

Though he was king, Solomon was humble and admitted his inadequacies. In all humility, he requested for an understanding heart, not to show his prowess and supremacy over his people but to be able to lead and guide those placed in his care.

We, too, in our humble circumstances have people in our care. We may be parents, teachers, mentors, leading people in attaining goals. In the process, we may have to exercise controls, are forced to make choices in the face of uncertainties.

The Lord says, “Any of you who lacks wisdom must ask God, who gives to all generously and without scolding; it will be given. But the prayer must be made with faith and no trace of doubt.”
Love of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, to love God with one’s heart and soul and also to love one another. To attain wisdom, we have to aspire to serve the Lord.

To seek counsel on our knees, through sincerity of heart and steadfastness and not being alarmed when disaster comes, but clinging to Him so that we may be honored with His Grace.
Whatever happens, accept it and in the uncertainties of our humble state, be patient since gold is tested in fire and the chosen in the furnace of humiliation. Trust Him and He will uphold you. Patience is the greatest of all virtues. A handful of patience is worth more than a bushel of brains. Our patience will achieve more than our force. Isaac Newton says, “If I have ever made any valuable discoveries, it has been owing more to patient attention, than to any other talent.”

Be Happy – Your Patience will not go waste



Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Be Happy - Meditation Has Simpler Forms

Meditation means the practice of thinking deeply in silence, especially for religious reasons or in order to make your mind calm. Meditation is the natural process of withdrawing attention from environmental, physical and mental processes and consciously directing it inward to a chosen focus. But not many people know how to practise meditation for personal benefit and spiritual growth.

It needs neither focus nor concentration to a number of points together. There are different schools of meditation, different methods and systems. There are systems which say: “Watch the movement of your big toe, watch it, watch it, watch it”. There are others which advocate sitting in a certain posture, breathing regularly or practicing awareness. All this is utterly mechanical.

Another method gives you a certain word and tells you will have some extraordinary transcendental experience. It is a form of self-hypnosis. By repeating ‘Amen’, ‘Om’ or some other religious word indefinitely, you will obviously have a certain experience because by repetition, the mind becomes quiet. It is a well-known phenomenon which has been practiced for thousands of years under mantra yoga.

Practically, meditation is not following any system; it is not constant, repetition and imitation. Meditation is not concentration. It is one of the favourite gambits of some teachers of meditation to insist on their pupils learning concentration – that is, fixing the mind on one thought and driving out all other thoughts, which any schoolboy can do because he is forced to. It means that all the time you are having a battle between the insistence that you must concentrate on the one hand and your mind on the other which wanders away to all sorts of other things; whereas you should be attentive to every movement of the mind wherever it wanders. When your mind wanders off, it means you are interested in something else.

Meditation demands an astonishingly alert mind; it is the understanding of the totality of life in which every form of fragmentation has ceased. Meditation is not control of thought, for when thought is controlled, it breeds conflict in the mind; but when you understand the structure and origination of thought, and then thought will not interfere. That very understanding of the structure of thinking is its own discipline, which is meditation. Cultivation of inner contentment prevents us from getting swept away by circumstances. Engaging in self-examination and self-discipline is important in order to clear away any of the psychological conflicts that might pose a problem. Study of ‘lower’ or secular knowledge helps us function effectively in the world. Many get educated so that they can live more effectively. But also important is the acquisition of higher knowledge or metaphysics to inquire about God, cosmic mind, manifestation of universe, our relationship with God: Why are we here, and for what purpose?

Then the formal practice of meditation begins. First, decide to practise meditation for at least 30 minutes a day. Sit upright in a comfortable chair or assume a cross-legged posture on the floor. Hold your head erect, with attention flowing into the area situated in the front region of the brain which is related to creativity, will power and discernment. Next, inhale and exhale deeply once or twice to elicit physical relaxation. Remain still for a few minutes until you feel calmly poised. If you have a devotional temperament, invoke the presence and blessings of God or your favorite deity or object of worship. If you have a guru, reverentially acknowledge him.

Make a conscious effort to be aware of your natural breathing rhythm. When inhalation occurs, mentally recite a chosen word or mantra such as God, peace, joy, or any other pleasant word that is agreeable to you. When you exhale, feel happy and peaceful. Feel the sound of the mantra spontaneously emerging into your mind and awareness. Continue this procedure without any anxiety about the results of practice. When a state of mental calmness is experienced, disregard your breathing, listening only to the mantra. Eventually, allow even the mantra to fade away and rest in a state of mental peace and clarity of awareness for a while, until you feel inclined to conclude the session.

For optimum results, meditate once or twice a day do this for at least 30 days before trying to evaluate the results. When you are proficient in the practice of meditation, you could extend the session by calmly contemplating the essence of your being – your true Self – and your relationship with the Infinite. Or you may just sit longer in that calm state until you feel fulfilled.
When engaged in daily activities and relationships, endeavor to maintain a state of mental calmness and Self-awareness. Cultivate cheerfulness and optimism. Maintain your emotional balance. Adhere to wholesome routines of activity and rest. Maintain a healthy lifestyle: choose a nutritious diet and exercise regularly.

Meditation is to be aware of every thought and of every feeling, never to say it is right or wrong, but just to watch it and move with it. In that watching you begin to understand the whole movement of thought and feeling. And out of this awareness comes silence. Silence put together by thought is stagnation, is dead, but the silence that comes when thought has understood its own beginning the nature of itself, understood how all thought is never free but always old – this silence is meditation.

Meditation is a state of mind which looks at everything with complete attention, totally, not just parts of it. And no one can teach you how to be attentive. If any system teaches you how to be attentive, then you are attentive to the system and that is not attention. Meditation is one of the greatest arts in life – perhaps the greatest arts in life – and one cannot possibly learn it from anybody. That is the beauty of it. It has no technique and therefore, no authority. When you learn about yourself, watch yourself, watch the way you walk, how you eat, what you say, the gossip, the hate, the jealousy – if you are aware of all that in yourself, without any choice, that is part of meditation. That will give you an opportunity to improve further if you find something wrong. So, meditation can take place when you are sitting in a bus, or walking in the woods full of light and shadows, or listening to the singing of birds, or looking at the face of your spouse or child. It does not wish to bind you within some schedule or posture to attain. It gives you liberty to explore yourself more and more but with some regularity.

The beneficial effects of regular meditation include stress reduction, strengthening of the immune system, more orderly thinking, improvement in powers of concentration, and a slowing of the aging process. Meditation practice is recommended by doctors as a harmless way for patient-clients to be more responsible for their own total well-being. The primary purpose of meditation practice, however, is to bring forth clear states of awareness that will make authentic spiritual growth easier to experience.

Let all of your thoughts, feelings and actions be wholesome and constructive. You will, then, be empowered to live enjoyably, effectively and successfully.

Be Happy - Meditation Has Simpler Forms.