Saturday, October 31, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 60)

To Accomplish Your Dreams, you must develop your talents by utilizing every opportunity available, by attending long term, short term or distant education courses, practical training, events of adventures, by visiting venues of knowledge like library, touring historical places and those of remarkable achievements, by keeping constant touch with those whom you understand can guide you in your quest for technical, professional expertise, by keeping yourself posted of latest developments in your surroundings and advancement taking place etc. All of us do not have equal talent, but all of us should have an equal opportunity to develop our talents. Sometime, the equal opportunity does not come handy to everyone, we need to explore out how it is possible that we must get the opportunity. Nothing is available unless we make efforts to get something. We must continue to analyze how much more work would it be to do a particular task as well as I can versus as quickly as I can? What value would it be to me to do it as well as I can?

In the back yard of my house, about 15 feet from the main building is a large, gorgeous maple tree. In the summer, it is home to a number of birds. Last year, at the end of a long branch, which extends to within 7 feet of our upstairs bathroom window, some robins built a nest where they lived all summer until the weather got too cold. Both our cats just lay in the windowsill for hours all summer watching the birds come and go less than 7 feet from their window perch. Now keep in mind that this winter was absolutely brutal. 14 feet of snow. The wind that blew like no winter that I can ever recall. Never as often and as hard as this year, it seemed. It was just miserable from mid October until April. Yet this bird's nest, sitting on a long branch wide open to the chilling, hammering winds and cold that snaps electrical wires like tooth picks, stayed right there. Every day, I'd look out at this nest and there it was, gripping that branch... And I've got to believe that the robins that built the nest were no smarter or more skilled in nest building than any of the robins in my neighbors' trees. They simply didn't want their home to fall apart no matter what. So they build it to withstand the worst possible conditions. No short cuts. No excuses.

Tell me, what if you were to take every little task you do today, and do your absolute best? What if you were to mow the lawn as well as you could today? What if you gave your all to every customer or prospective customer? How much more effort would it take to be the best husband, wife or significant other than you normally put in? What would it really take to avoid eating beyond being comfortably full? How much time does it take to finish your homework and then study for another 30 minutes for good measure? You know, the difference between failure, moderate success, a successful marriage, an undistinguished career and a raging success in any one of those areas is usually miniscule. It's not that much more work. Often it's hardly any real effort at all. Every day I get messages from people who have given up hope of ever being really happy and satisfied in life. "I'm beyond help." "I'm happy that you're doing this work for other people... Too bad it can't help me." “Your words can not help me much”.

They go through my replies. They may even buy the books, and motivating tapes either don't listen to them as prescribed, or when changes do begin either with positive progress or with negative tension created by the rapid changes happening, they quit because the change is uncomfortable at first. "Whoa! That's not me! Who am I kidding? Better slow down." The bottom line is, change is always wanted on some level but hardly ever completely enjoyable at first. If there is one thing that you MUST beat into your head every day like a mantra is that success at anything is simple. It is so simple! It is just a matter of repetition of little thoughts and little actions. For example, to allow yourself to do shoddy work once and then again is to create momentum. A third time is like an avalanche... Hard to stop it. The fourth time is virtually guaranteed. When the brownies or chips and soda make it into the shopping cart every week, that's it. Run past that aisle. Achieve a little success. Get a little momentum going the other way.

With just a little effort we can change those things by making only slight direction changes. The nest in my back yard is now housing a new family of robins who didn't have to do a thing. They just moved in. All the work was done already. They just hung a few pictures, threw out a "Welcome" mat and called it home. And once you change the momentum of any downward slide you may be in, it's deceptively simple to stop the slide, make a few right decisions and your entire destiny can change. Just, turning to the right instead of left at some cross roads in your journey can change your destinations. You see, most of the time the difference between horrible, devastating failure and massive, glorious success is only that far apart.

Keep reminding yourself of how important each hour and each decision is. Do that every hour today, and I guarantee that no matter what doesn't go right, you won't be too terribly bothered by it. Isn't THAT the direction you wanted to go in today? You must constantly watch over your own activities and ensure that you are keeping on right track, that leads to your targets fixed for the day before you went to bed yesterday night, that today is your day to succeed, that you are making all the right decisions now – they are right because you have already examined all the aspects before arriving at, that you will enjoy each of my victories no matter how small and that you will be doing things right the first time today by not repeating your past mistakes. If you do it, it is sure that You Can Accomplish Your Dreams.

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams with your strong conviction.

Friday, October 30, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 59)

Those people who know where to go, what to do and how to do, do Accomplish Their Dreams. If you have some dreams to accomplish, you must be ready to define them exactly, chalk out necessary strategy to implement and take action. You may listen to everything a man has to say about what he knows, but don't let him advise you about what he doesn't know. And usually he doesn't know too much about what's best for you. You must think as to whose advice you have been listening to. Has it helped you? Where can you get the most helpful information and feedback?

Doesn't it seem like everywhere you turn someone is willing to tell you how to get rid of your problems...whether they know what they're talking about or not? The danger is when you start to listen to it. You'll usually find that your advisor/critics rarely, if ever, follow their own advice. Here's an important question: Who are you listening to? Do you take advice and criticism from people who have no business giving it out? Is it usually helpful? Sometime, criticism delivered properly is healthy, course correcting feedback... if you seek to learn. Too often though, critics have other agendas. And they could not take their own advice if their lives depended on it.

The problem with hearing unwanted or unwarranted criticism is that it often isn't put in a constructive way, so instead of getting, "You know I read that walking just 20-30 minutes a day can help you lose x # of pounds. Have you tried that?" you usually hear, "You are fat. You better start exercising." This from a person who probably only puts on a pair of sweat pants to sleep in.

Here are a few bad examples of well meaning but potentially costly advice: -You should get into XYZ stock. It's been climbing for a year. - I take weight loss pills from Mr….xyz and I lost 13 pounds. You ought to try it, too. A doctor made it.- I quit smoking cold turkey. That's the only way that works. - Don't let it get to you. What you need is a drink. - Vegetarian? How do you get protein? You have to eat meat.

When I was not succeeding, everyone had advice. The trouble was, the people giving it were the furthest thing from professionals. I studied it and analyzed their advice. So in addition to reading books, listening to tapes and going to seminars, I set up an evaluation system that told me with absolute accuracy if I was doing a good job that day.

I graded my performance each day on about 30 different factors. Everything from number of calls, how I greeted someone, my facial expressions, question structure, listening with empathy, concern for their problems instead of mine, answering questions, building value, etc. It was an extremely thorough, honest assessment. After each appointment, I pulled out my sheet and filled in the grades for each factor. It took 1-2 minutes, and was brutally honest at telling me where I needed to improve. Many people who knew me asked me how I turned it all around so fast. I didn't offer it. They asked first. When I'd tell them what I did, they couldn't believe something so simple could work so well. And every single one of those people continued on their conventional ways. Many left the profession all together.

Imagine that. They had a world record holder willing to share a critical idea, yet they continued listening to their equally inept co-workers instead. Very few people want constructive criticism, even if it's just from themselves. So, may I make some suggestions...

One, Don't give advice. People don't want it. They don't use it. And they'll get sick of hearing it. If you must, be a sounding board instead. When people hear themselves out loud, they often get the answer they were looking for without outside advice. It's hard enough to change yourself. Changing others is fifty times more difficult.

Two, Don't let critics ruin your mood. Not even for a minute. If someone comes along and gives you their two cents and you find yourself feeling powerless, make a mental note, "This is what I get when I let just anyone mess with my esteem and confidence."

Listen to yourself and to people who have overcome the same challenges that you're working on. That's it. Talk to people about your challenges, but unless they've overcome the same thing, be careful about taking their suggestions. It could be very costly to your emotional, physical and financial health. To Accomplish Your Dreams, you need to seek out advice from the appropriate places, check out all options when you make important decisions, consider that you are good at evaluating the value of advice, that you would have solid control of your own self-esteem and you are honest with yourself in areas that need improvement.

Be Happy – You Can Accomplish Your Dreams.

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 58)

To Accomplish Your Dreams, you need to build up familiarity and trust with those you wish to work with. Who do you buy products and ideas from? Those you trust and love (or like), right? Most people are more likely to listen to their cousin about a stock tip over a 40-year stock-investing guru, if they don't know him or her. That's what familiarity and trust does. When you look at some one for the first time, do you look for things to judge, criticize or distrust; or do you see things you can admire, compliment and feel good about? No matter what, you'll find what you're looking for...If you habitually look for bad, you'll find it--even if you have to manufacture it. But when you train yourself to unconsciously look for good, you'll find that, too.

It is your attitude. Deep in your heart, you know I'm right. You know it. But in your daily actions, it's difficult to implement it. It is true that you are not wrong at your heart and you love everyone you come across. You do not want to hurt anyone unless you are hurt knowingly. The unseen power of love will escape you if you just say that you are going to change your attitude. To Accomplish Your Dreams, you will have to ensure that you are changing your attitude, you are making it positive. You will have to get it install this and other empowering beliefs in your mind daily if they're to make a dent in those habits of yours so they can start affecting your feelings and actions. Once you are able to get this in your head, you will be miles ahead of where you were this morning.

Believe me, if you condition your mind with positive empowering new beliefs and success producing attitudes, your destiny will change. For this, you may dissolve your criticizing habit, look for the good in others and they respond to you, love other people and they would love you back, greet your enemies with love in your heart, look for things to like in others and you would find them. You may believe that your love will create opportunities for me today. It is your strong belief that will help you to Accomplish Your Dreams.

What Are Your Aspirations? There is no shame in having fallen. Nor any shame in being born into a lowly estate. There is only shame in not struggling to rise. And also shame for not wishing to attain the better. Or not dreaming about it and praying for it. When you see some celebrities together sitting at some stage, have you ever thought how those people got there? How did they become that way? Was everything given to them, was it genetics, or a loving mother? Or was it planning and dedication that got them to where they are, to be who they are? The people who have a number of unearned possessions or status in inheritance are known as being born with a silver spoon in their mouth... or some lottery winners. Most follow-up research on Lottery winners shows the same thing. Within a short time, it's all gone. They didn't EARN it, never learned responsibility with money, so they're helpless against every expensive temptation there is. So even if you win, you lose. You know, the average rich person that does not have to work for what they get doesn't know how to keep it, or anything else in their lives - and becomes the type that just can't make anything work. They get trained to live their lives with their hands out to their parents. Whether you're wealthy or not, giving your kids everything creates social and financial cripples.

If you wish to Accomplish Your Dreams truly, you need to work. You will have to stop blowing your money on lottery tickets. Figure out how much you spend on them and that expensive daily gourmet cappuccino, and put exactly that much in a money market fund every week or two and become rich the proven way - slowly. Surely. But how do you start to get the discipline to be able to do something like that? To achieve any worthwhile objective? You must have goals. The average person has no long-term goals. And the word creates a lot of confusion. Most think a goal is a goal when it's something like: You want to be rich; want a screen star body; win a gold medal; get an advanced college degree; in short, to desire something really huge.

The trouble with big goals is not that you're dreaming out of your league--it's that very few set goals in such a way that they ever get accomplished. Like everything, there's right and wrong ways to do it. You can buy books, and go to seminars to learn how. I did. But honestly, it boils down to a few simple steps and some things you can do to ensure that you'll stick it out and be there at the end with your hands raised high. The first mistake everyone usually makes is getting excited about having something - prompted by an external source, a commercial maybe. Wrong way to start. I know I sound like a broken record, but setting and achieving goals is not REALLY about what you get as much as it is what you become during the process of attaining your goal. When you ARE more, you'll get more automatically now and in the future.

What you need to do first is look at an area of your life that's causing you some trouble. You are in pain about it - emotional, physical, whatever. Choose an area that gives you a big one of these pains. I mean, why go after something you really don't want badly, right? Getting rid of a gnawing pain that you've had for a while is a great way. Getting rid of the fabricated pain that a commercial stirred up and then proposed to cure is often the wrong way... Take your pain and look at it. What does it cost you to have the problem or lack? Write down the physical costs, emotional, mental, social, spiritual, financial. Spread it out for 1, 2, 5 and 20 years. Feel it. Get by yourself and do this, because you just might need a few tissues during this process. Take your time. It's been a long time that you haven't had this "goal" so a little time spent doing this is an investment. It would be beneficial. This will give you determination you didn't think you had. How? You have it... You just have to find this pain and then keep it handy. When you have that, you'll have a base for the setting of a goal - a goal that inspires you to keep going... to reach down deep.

Do this exercise and you'll begin to see the power of starting out intelligently instead of letting others control your goals for you. To Accomplish Your Dreams, you need to set goals based on your real needs and desires, by setting your sights on defining what you want, by deciding to put the effort in to achieve your goals. If you do it, you will enjoy the process of setting and reaching worthwhile goals and you would be ready to set goals the right way.

Be Happy – Set Your Goals.

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 57)

After conceiving our targets, we must contemplate our strategies how to achieve them, how to accomplish our targets. We should build up our confidence that we can achieve anything that we imagine, that we have the ability to visualize every aspect of our success and that our ability is greater than any challenge we could face. We are not here merely to make a living. We are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. We are here to Accomplish Our Dreams. We are here to enrich the world, and we impoverish ourselves if we forget this responsibility towards ourselves and others as well.

You need to think over continuously what you can do to best help the largest number of people and why you should do. Practically all your daily decisions can have tremendous power to transform you and your life into something truly spectacular. There are millions of people alive who are living dream lives...You can be one of them, no matter how old or young you are. If you do some good or bad job that would certainly have effect on the others, your family members, your friends. If you do some good job, that can be enjoyed by them pleasingly. Maybe your good job, gifts and skills are modest, but to hide them, to not develop and share them, whatever they are would be a great tragedy. Until 1988, when I was fired suddenly, I was self-centric in the sense that I was going to office daily, doing whatever the work was assigned, coming back to home and pass my time with my family, none else had any concern. After firing, I did not have that regular schedule, every day was a new challenge – I started to meet new people and take new assignments. Today, I feel that this was a great deed by God to expose me to the better world to contribute. Take time to reflect today and every day on what your life could mean expanded out over the decades and centuries. No matter how much or how little time on earth you have left, you can be a great contributor and potentially a catalyst for positive change around you... and thus around the world, possibly for centuries to come.So when you are ever tempted to feel bored or uninspired, chew on that for a while. It should get your juices flowing.

We must consider that we are making the most of our time useful, now and every day. We must commit to living our life with passion. We must use our unique gifts to enrich ourselves and others. We must try to make ourselves worth more each and every day and bring out the best in others. We must use our mind to the best. Our mind is like the stomach. It is not how much you put into it that counts, but how much it digests. What can we do to ensure that this will stick in our mind? It has been observed that most of what is written in the world's greatest self-help and how-to books goes unread by the buyers. And the material that is read is typically not used. Most people just aren't self-disciplined enough to take a bit, study it, master it then move on to the next level. That's why universities are so valuable and so expensive. They do it right. They give you a little bit, test you and then give you some more - building on your knowledge after you've learned the easier stuff.

You may maintain a journal of your daily activities – make it a practice that before you go to bed, you will mention a brief of what you did in the day long – from brushing your mouth to the visit to your friend – you consumed so much time. It may seem to be funny but you see that in some days, you may start to manage your time to more useful tasks. If you go through one motivational story daily and the next day, you may recollect the contents, you will see that it may become a part of your changing attitude.

You need to Accomplish Your Dreams. Be sure, you want to succeed also. Success is not complicated, is it? The average person wants to believe, it is so that their failures can be explained away, their weaknesses can be hidden and their poor decisions justified. No, achieving success in any well conceived mission is not complicated and difficult. Practically anything you desire is within your grasp. Just look at the individual tasks and go to it, one tiny step at a time. Climb up to your target with each step properly directed and you may get destination. Think and decide that you will work on one area of your life at a time, that you will master easy jobs before you move on to harder things, that you are a fast learner and that Mastery and you are one.

When you are working and if you get praise from your senior, that is well. If you get compliment, that is also well, but if you get affectionate treatment, that is the last and most precious reward that you can win, whether by character or achievement. We must find out why do I love about _____(name of person)? Our first attempt should always start with love. During our whole life, we do make sales. As traders, you sell out your goods, as professional you sell out your services and as employees too, you sell your services or time. You can't sell effectively, whether it's a product or an idea, if you hold contempt and dislike for other people, or simply if your own best interests come first. In fact, it's difficult to get through each day without abundant feelings of love or just sincerely good opinions about other people flowing through your veins.

When I started in the sales world, I failed for a few YEARS. I just wanted to make money-it was all about myself. Well, that must've come through in my voice and actions, because I couldn't give my products away. But I read a book, "The Greatest Salesman in the World," and it helped to change my life. That was my introduction to affirmations. The first scroll, which was to be read three times/day for a month was about "greeting this day with love in my heart." My sales went crazy! I began looking at everyone as a friend, not as a paycheck. I changed every view I had about other people. And they responded...Not just in sales, but in all areas. Where I had enemies, they became friends. Where I was laughed at, I was admired.

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams with Love.

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Be Happy –Accomplish Your Dreams (56)

A human being with a settled purpose must accomplish it, and that nothing can resist a will which will stake even existence upon its fulfillment. What am I willing to give up for getting my objective? To gain something I must be ready to invest something out of me. It can be my time, my energy, my resources – anything, that can be material or intangible but certainly of use for some other purpose which may have to be diverted to the task in hand now.

It was the last week of April in the year 1988 when in a pretty morning; I was fired out of a job, considered to be good one during those times. I and my family knew that I was not at fault but none other thought so in wake of the propaganda which had been made before that firing was to take place. It became clear in course of time that dismissal orders were pre-planned and some vested interests were searching out the base to get out them. A happy family was derailed all of sudden and I had to rethink and ask my God for an answer to the question of why I couldn't get myself to do what I needed to do to get my simple goals met. Why had I been victimized for no fault? I just tried to fight against corruption and dishonesty. Thereafter, I made several attempts to put myself on track to support my family but got fired from countless jobs. Finally, after reading some very popular books on selling and motivation over and over... I continued to fail, not making one single solitary thin dime in my commissioned sales job for close to TWO more years. If it weren't for friends and then my trusty van, I literally would've been living on the street.

One day, during this period, while sitting in my van, a man walked up and started talking to me. He was brilliant. He went on to tell the story of when he, as an announcer, covered the World Series back in the late 60's. He had all the names; he knew stats like it was yesterday. His voice was clearly that of a broadcaster. But the thing that was most incredible was...He was pushing a shopping cart, which carried all his earthly possessions. He was homeless, too. He was living on the street. I couldn't believe it. He told me that he just got sick of the daily challenges. He was facing one problem after another. He literally became unable to function in any capacity. Very quickly he had lost everything. At the end, it was by choice. Sadly, I could identify with THIS guy more than anyone I had met in a while. I was very low, but fortunately, I hadn't quite reached that level......Yet. I did want to get off the street and stop being a bum. So I found a great bookstore around place which had comfy chairs, and I started spending a lot of time there. Ultimately, I had gotten very familiar with a number of self-help change methods, including self-talk and motivating techniques. Like I said, I had a lot of time on my hands.

I soon came back to Industrial Estate where I got a menial job and started to create a new life with a changed attitude. Now, I was not repeatedly looking into the back history and narrating the incidents to everyone coming closer to me. Instead, I started to talk about the benefits which I could manage for them and prepared notes over that theme with my past experience accompanied with motivating guidelines. Initially, it was my free consultancy. But in due course of time, the people who got benefited tried to reward in cash or kinds whatever they thought appropriate. After some time, one of my friends asked me to give him advice in a professional way… that is per assignment basis or hourly basis. It was something upgrading of my worth in my own eyes making me understand that I was doing something worthwhile. I started to sell out my advices for which I got much help from the book store by going through the biographies, motivational literature, and Don't Worry, Be Happy Book I could find, I pulled out all the lessons, the beliefs and the attitudes of life's top performers. I turned them into self-instructions, and stated to record them onto tapes with very specific baroque music passages playing in the background. It was quite a setup. I was desperate and willing to do anything. I knew once I was recognized to be a successful management consultant, I won’t be fired again on a simpler excuse.

In what seemed like just a few days, I began to feel differences. In my new job, I started working lots of hours in my original menial job as well as trouble shooting programs for those persons who felt some difficulty in managing their units. Soon, I was making telephone calls to prospective clients and I got success. The more I listened to the problems of different kinds, the more I got deep knowledge and experience of human psychology at different levels – those who are employers have different equations of output and rewards in their minds whereas the employees had got different priorities. I have to convince both of them to make out reconciliation so that the production is not affected ultimately. Virtually, I became a salesman of my own concepts and I was happy that I was able to lead my family with more happiness and left my menial job to become a full time management consultant working seven days a week. Missing any contact is just not an option, expanding my social network. I do not advertise myself, I never give reference of my past assignments. My old clients do this job themselves – I just get enquiries and reply them as soon as possible. Wherever necessary, I do take time to have further discussions with the person who needs solution of his problems. Similarly, the endeavor to put on the posts over this blog is an expansion of my working in this direction. It may be of any use to anyone!

During all these days, if I count in terms of time-scale – 21 years, I got identification of my friends and enemies. I got identification of my potentialities and methods how to get my enemies converted into my friends. I feel that ‘impossible’ can also be done if we have determination to do so, if we continue to explore the avenues how to convert the impossibilities into the possibilities. Amidst many alarming problems which may cover us from all corners, we may find some blocks if we study our own working. Such blocks can be imaginary or real ones but for their creation, we might have been responsible to certain extent. We must think afresh and find out the reasons why they came about. In case we are not mentally ready to undertake this exercise, we may forget to do. But we can think how we can do something new. To activate ourselves, we may have to be active – it might be some difficult in beginning but once started, there would be no such problem afterwards. Whenever I wanted to eliminate a block, get good at something, or feel better about myself, I looked for the top professionals, researched their findings, uncovered lots of conflicting data, found what made sense and made a note and proceeded on. I have found there wasn't anything that I couldn't literally install into or rip out of my mind. And with the right thoughts and instructions, you could create an endless loop of success, each good outcome fueling in you the desire to keep the positive change and to improve even more. All you have to do is release your blocks and embrace your unlimited potential. There's enormous power within you. It might be buried, but it's there. You need a little study of yourself. You can Accomplish Your Dreams in spite of there being sheer poverty or isolation of the resources for the time being. After every night, there is a day – a ray of light, Let us move on.

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams with a ray of light, a ray of hope.

Monday, October 26, 2009

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 55)

Sometimes I am simply amazed at what the human spirit is capable of. It helps us to Accomplish Our Dreams. Only human beings see dreams and make efforts to accomplish. God gave us birth and enormous resources to enjoy. It was the imagination and efforts of the human beings that created such a beautiful world and still, we are exploring what else is there in the Universe to the welfare of all the beings we come across.

Human Spirit! It is an emergent property of intelligence that drives it to adapt the environment to the organism. This drive is relatively unique to humans and is progressive in that the drive allows intelligence to grow. This emergent property reveals itself in the reiteration of factors presented as obstacles to an organism, group, or society. As the complexity of these factors grows, the Human Spirit responds accordingly by creating solutions that best adapt the environment to the individual, group, or social organism. I may challenge you to find any other thing that is responsible for as many positive things that happen as that of the human spirit. What else in history has created new governments, conversion of the resources to their best utility and efforts to make them better and better continuously? Taken someone from a simple idea to a global corporation? Raised, clothed, and fed hungry children? Given ever freely of its time so that others with lesser resources could have a better life? The human spirit is a mighty powerful thing. If we use it properly, it would be the source which might have asked to do it.

You may go more deeply and it is certain that you will find that human spirit lies within each and everyone one of us enabling us to Accomplish Our Dreams! We need to recognize it. What tends to happen however is that over time we can lose contact with our own human spirit. That is that over time we lose our ability to let our spirit actually drive us like it should. It is important to note that any number of things can play a part in this process. The result often leaves us with a feeling of hopelessness. I would like to say one thing before getting any deeper into this discussion. That is that these feelings are very common! I think many of us would be hard pressed to find that we can not identify at least one area where this has happened in our own lives. The important thing is that we take the time to carefully identify with these feelings. Even more importantly that we combat these feelings of hopelessness with positive ones! While I will be the first to agree that we can not erase life’s negative events, luckily at the same time we do not have to sit idly by and let these feelings consume us. By now I am sure your asking if that is so then what do you suggest? To that I say the answer lies in your making a list of your past personal successes. Study this list regularly. You see in doing this you can actually program your subconscious mind. This in turn will create a snowballing effect in you. Let us explore it further.

Look at your bad days. In most cases you will notice that there was one single event that happened to cause you to focus on a negative. As a direct result the next thing while not necessarily so bad was noticed more simply because of the first bad thing that happened to you. Do you see the pattern here? I am talking about the same snowballing effect. What I propose is to use the same technique by first introducing the positives into your life. Here’s a handy quote that I try to remind myself to use the previous technique…Success Begets success.

Sometimes an individual overcomes adversity through will power. Through sheer volition to overcome obstacles, the individual may succeed and learn more about oneself. We admire heroes that show us what can be done that as not been done before. Human will stems from the observation of the human spirit in action. You too can do it to Accomplish Your Dreams.

When a group of individuals overcomes adversity by avoiding or surviving calamities through planning and preparation, it gains a deeper commitment to avoiding future calamities. We admire leaders that pull us through hard times. Civilization develops when groups of individuals observe the human spirit in action. We can join hands to promote such groups who may work together to Accomplish Our Dreams.

As a society, human organization serves to create complex obstacles. Great social catastrophes occur that occasionally stagnate or destroy civilizations. We admire social and political constructs that allows technology and quality of life to improve. Through development of social sciences, we collectively observe the human spirit in action and towards collective welfare of one and all.

Positive results of our individual and collective endeavors lead to progress. The reward for such adventures yields a deeper understanding of the natural world and better ways to adapt it to our needs. Thus, the sum knowledge of mankind aggregates exponentially. Unfortunately, human intelligence often fails to anticipate contingencies when some groups become self centric..

Since the human spirit drives us to choose risk based on probable rewards, self-centric individuals, groups, and even societies sometimes choose to ignore intelligent solutions in the face of future threats because they suggest unknown risk. Solutions to individual, group, or social problems may or may not seem rational. Scientists and philosophers have developed methodologies and protocols for discovery so that it can be followed by posterity. In some cases irrational engagements prove successful. If they are repeatable, they push back the boundaries of our knowledge. The Human Spirit must include both commitment to methodology and calculated risk in pursuit of greater understanding for betterment, not towards destruction. Since human intelligence has proven the success of its progressive nature, we must try to do something which may make environment happier.

Be happy – We may recognize the importance of Human Spirit and Accomplish Our Dreams for a better future.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 54)

If you wish to Accomplish Your Dreams, you need to take action, you need to take initiative yourself and you need to take charge of shaping your own destiny. Otherwise, others will apply their agenda to you. You must have courage to withstand the opposition. If you are able to face the initial opposition to your project, take it that your work is half done successfully. Your courage is the strength to face pain, act under pressure, and maintain your values in the face of opposition. For this purpose you must transmit your ideas and enthusiasm to all the concerned before embarking upon the action. You must listen to their observations and restyle your working accordingly if needed. You will get smooth understanding. The great accomplishments of man have resulted from the transmission of ideas and enthusiasm.

When we are motivated by goals that have deep meaning, by dreams that need completion, by pure love that needs expressing, we truly live life. A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and a deadline. You must aim above the mark to hit the mark. How many times have you found yourself in a situation where you were convinced you were right and no one could make you wrong? It definitely pays to hear both sides of the story before making final judgment! A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared, he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther. Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, but it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It was never able to fly. What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening, were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God allowed us to go through our life without obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been, and we could never fly.

To Accomplish Your Dreams, you need to draw a straight line between what you can do and what you can not do. Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do. If you do not do it, you may not be able to win the game. Most games are lost just because of bewilderness. Whenever you start to work, you must start with an intention of winning. The minute you start talking about what you’re going to do if you lose, you must assume that you have lost. People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom? Always think that your sun has set to rise again. Positive thinking is the key to success in business, education, pro football, anything that you can mention. I go out there thinking that I am going to pass through every hurdle.

Relish in the fact that you are an incredible person! You do not believe me? I challenge you to look around you today, look at the many positive things that have happened in your life! Look beyond your shortcomings, these are the easy things to notice! Instead focus on your family, friends, job, etc. Many of them are unique to you! That is that no one else is exactly as you are!

Explore this it's amazing! Upon looking at your life I hope you will further ponder the ideas you have or have had, the simple fact is that if you can dream them then it is equally likely to be within your power to achieve these things! I hope that you will do as I do and at least spend a portion of each day trying to be the change you want to see in your life! Look beyond your immediate failures, the lost opportunities and look at what you have accomplished! The good things that have happened in your life, the children you raised, the new job you once loved, the business that you chose to enter into - upon pondering these tings try and gain a true sense of what it was like to feel happiness about these things. You see, this feeling was there at one time. Now what is important is that you can regain this sense of fulfillment and apply it to another area of your life.

We have so many choices in our lives. I hear so often about the persons not happy in their jobs. They say they would like to quit and start a business of their own. However, they can not afford the loss of income that this would result in doing so. To this I say “congratulations”! Why congratulations? Because you are already a good way towards achieving your goal! You see you have had a vision that you want more from your life. The next step in your achievement is that you must now be willing to take that first step towards it! All too often this is the missed step in the process of success. You have the vision but you do not act on it. You see that first step does not have to be a hard one. For instance substitute the idea of quitting your job to start the business with the idea of instead continuing your job and working the business in your off time. The idea sounds so simple but you’d be surprised how many do not take this simple step towards achieving that which they want from their life. Some would say that taking this route would make the venture move slower, to this I would say you’re exactly right, but it certainly would not be any slower than the path that you’re on right now, would it? All too often, it is not some mystical word of wisdom that will give you the personal success that you want in your life. No, plain and simple it lies in your own ability to make your dreams meet your willingness to work towards them.

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams by studying yourself and take initiative.

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 53)

How you respond to the challenge in the first half will determine what you become after the game, whether you are a winner or a loser. To succeed...You need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you. If in the very beginning, you find something impossible to Accomplish Your Dreams, please note that the difference between the impossible and the possible lies in your determination only. Your limitations live only in your mind. But if you use your imaginations as originally conceived, be sure, your possibilities will become limitless.

Never seem wiser, nor more learnt, than the people you are with. Wear your learning, like your watch, in a private pocket: and do not merely pull it out and strike it; merely to show that you have one. You must continue to learn more and more and deposit the knowledge gained in the same pocket. You will use it when an opportunity arises and you determine to Accomplish Your Dreams. It seems that we learn lessons when we least expect them but always when we need them the most, and, the true gift in these lessons always lies in the learning process itself.

One day I was lying on the bed, reading, when my mother came into the room. She held out a vase--a rather ugly vase. She asked, 'Would you like to have this vase?' "I replied quickly, 'No, I do not want it.' As she turned to walk away, I picked up something that said to me, 'Wait a minute, do not shut this off yet.' So I asked, 'Where did you get it?' She said, 'Oh, I got it when I filled an order.' Filled an order? I thought—no communication here. So, I asked, 'What do you mean, filled an order?' 'Well,' she said, 'when I was a little girl, the Smith Company mailed catalogs to people. I would take the catalog around the neighborhood, and I was to get people to order from it. When I filled an order and sent it in, they gave me a prize. One time, I got a porch swing for my family. "Now you have to understand," said Hensley, "that my mother is 81 years old. She is one of six children in a family that her father deserted when she was quite young. Money was real hard to come by. My grandmother managed to keep the family together through the years, although I do not know how. For my mother to win a luxury like a porch swing was a significant accomplishment. Although she no longer had the swing, she had the vase—a vase full of meaning--which she offered to me. Instantly I said, 'Mom, I want the vase.' Now it sits in a prominent place in my living room. It symbolizes a precious meaning which my mother and I share: Unless you and I are sensitive to the other person and hear meaning, we may well have a communication problem. Seek to be sensitive," said Hensley, "seek to get inside of the other person's frame of reference, seek to understand the meaning out of which that person receives and responds to your message, seek genuine interaction.

Live out of your imagination, not your history. Many of us grow up thinking of mistakes as bad, viewing errors as evidence of fundamental incapacity. This negative thinking pattern can create a self-fulfilling prophecy, which undermines the learning process. To maximize our learning it is essential to ask: "How can we get the most from every mistake we make? I have never been afraid to fail. Just note. I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention, especially if it's given from the heart. When people are talking, there's no need to do anything but receive them. Just take them in. Listen to what they're saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it. Most of us do not value ourselves or our love enough to know this. It has taken me along time to believe in the power of the simple saying, "I'm so sorry," when someone is in pain. I am meaning it. One of my friends told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happen to them. Subtly her pain became a story about themselves. Eventually she stopped talking to most people. It was just too lonely. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen, they know we care. Many people with cancer can talk about the relief of having someone just listen. I have even learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues, until I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them down, to take them out of their experience of sadness and grief. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there with them.

This simple thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very young. I thought people listened only because they were too timid to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well intentioned words.

Be Happy – Try to listen first then you say. You can make other understand your intention and you can Accomplish Your Dreams.

Friday, October 23, 2009

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 52)

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. When you work with excitement to Accomplish Your Dreams, you scarcely know when you pass the line between failure and your success because it is so fine that we are often on the line and do not know it. Many times, a man has thrown up his hands at a time when a little more effort, a little more patience, would have achieved success. As the tide goes out, so it comes clear in. In business, sometimes, prospects may seem darkest when really they are on the turn. A little more persistence, a little more effort, and what seemed hopeless failure may turn to glorious success. There is no failure except in no longer trying. There is no defeat except from within, no really insurmountable barrier save our own inherent weakness of purpose. Genius is only the power of making continuous efforts.

Today a thousand doors of enterprise are open to you, inviting you to useful work. To live at this time is an inestimable privilege, and a sacred obligation devolves upon you to make right use of your opportunities. Today is the day in which to attempt and achieve something worthwhile. With sincerity in your heart, you can Accomplish Your Dreams easily. At this very moment take the time to remind yourself that you are fabulous! That's right, take joy in knowing that there simply is not anyone else in the whole wide world that is exactly like you! Take pride in this and look for ways to let your talents shine.

The whole world steps aside for the man who knows where he is going to Accomplish His Dreams. Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world. You must gain knowledge every time but you must imagine also – ascertaining the viability of your imagination, you will naturally explore to gain the knowledge of the subject. Perhaps in the first instance you may not get success but your patience can achieve it. You know! When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.

Attitude Is Everything. John was the kind of guy you may hate out of your curiosity or jealousy with his success. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!" He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed John was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation. Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to John and asked him, "I do not get it! You can not be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?" He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, 'John, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."

"OK, right, it is not that easy," I protested. "Yes, it is," John said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life." I reflected on what John said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. Several years later, I heard that John did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, John was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, John was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. I could meet John about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. See my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," John replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live." "Were not you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. John continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man.' "I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?" I asked. "Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breathe and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them. 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead." John lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything to enable you to Accomplish Your Dreams.

Be Happy – You Have the Choice To Accomplish Your Dreams.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 51)

Success is not measured by what you Accomplish Your Dreams, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds. A winner is someone who recognizes his God-given talents, works his tail off to develop them into skills, and uses these skills to accomplish his dreams. It is not the will to win, but the will to prepare to win that makes the difference. Winners have simply formed the habit of doing things losers do not like to do. He is rich or poor according to what he is, not according to what he has. No vision and you perish; No Ideal, and you are lost; your heart must ever cherish some faith at any cost. Some hope, some dream to cling to, some rainbow in the sky, some melody to sing to, some service that is high. Look for the opportunities that are in line with your overall values. I truly believe we all have things that we feel more strongly about than others, and by focusing on these areas of our life we can more naturally move towards their achievement! Hold on to your dreams for if your dreams die life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly.

Life is about so much more than simply living. It is about taking chances, telling the people around you how you truly feel about them. It is about sharing what you have accomplished with those around you. Life is about going for the things that you want in your life and being able to enjoy them when you achieve them! Life is about living an example for those around you, and teaching others to lift themselves up in the process! Above all else life is a journey; it is not about being complacent and stagnant. We are never promised tomorrow, but luckily we have today to work – we should not waste the time in waiting for the right opportunity. You must try to hit as soon as you find the iron is red if you wish to Accomplish Your Dreams.

When you seek to discover the best in others, you somehow bring out the best in yourself. We do not attract what we want, but what we are. What lies behind us and what lies before us, are tiny matters, compared to what lies within us. Wishing is good for us. Daydreams, fantasies, castles in the air, and aspirations all drive us forward, impel us to make things happen. They also tell us a lot about ourselves. Our wishes come straight from our core, and they are loaded with vital information about who we are and who we can become. Keeping track of our wishes helps us tap into the energy that propels us to go after our happiness. The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him/her his/her own. I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars and inspire me to Accomplish My Dreams by continuing to work as after a few hours, it will be the next daylight.

Consider introducing a little exercise into your life like maintaining a journal to note down the incidents of the day, visiting your social network and so and so. The key is that you are able to introduce some type of exercise into your daily life. What can you expect in doing so? That is a question that only you will answer in time. As for myself, I have gained a better sense of relaxation in my day. That is that I actually feel a bit more in control of the events of the day. Sincere ambition is the germ from which all growth of nobleness proceeds. If you play safe only, you may stagnate somewhere. If you take a risk after taking into account all the pros and cons, you can hit it big. In today's economy there are no experts, no 'best and brightest' with all the answers. It is up to each one of us how we Accomplish Our Dreams by finding the best out of the available circumstances.

Today as I ponder my life I can not help but notice the string of events that have built my life into what it is, and ultimately what it will become. While it is certainly true that some things definitely were not by design and it is likely that had I had an alternative I would not have chosen a few of them. The inevitable still exists. That is that each of the choices that I made along the way (albeit some a bit blindly) have all gone into shaping the very point that I am at in my life. The only factor which I used is that I never sat idle and continued to work in the different direction if in any one particular direction, I feel that I am not getting success in spite of my best efforts and there is no likelihood of getting. I know that I am never as good or bad as any single performance. I have never believed my critics or my worshippers but whenever I go to do something, I put in my best efforts without much care in mind for the results. I feel that I get better results. Whenever a certain result is the precondition of doing something, I could not get that. The principle is competing against yourself. It’s about self-improvement, about being better than you were the day before. Great works are performed not by strength but by perseverance. It is true that failure or at least less than spectacular performance are inevitable. Even more so it seems to me that failure (or lack of success) in something is as much a part of the natural growth process as the achievement itself is.

People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success. Sometimes the only thing we do to avoid success is refuse to be energetic on our own behalf. Success, in my view, is the willingness to strive for something you really want. The person not reaching the top is no less a success than the one who achieved it, if they both sweated blood, sweat and tears and overcame obstacles and fears. The failure to be perfect does not mean you are not a success.

Keep in mind that life is a series of ongoing events. It is not a home run every time you come to bat, nor a major success each day! Life is a series of events that happens to us each day, a compilation of some good, some bad and some just plain indifferent. The key then I believe lies in our ability to not allow the less than perfect days to over shadow the fact that there are some wonderful events that do occur in everyone of our lives! Focus on the positives in your daily life.

Be Happy - You can Accomplish Your Dreams by focusing on the positives and taking action accordingly.

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 50)

We all must be thankful to God for having granted us such a precious human life. How long it would last is not known to us but how it can become a happy experience for us and all those surrounding us very much depends upon our attitude to make it enjoyable and happy. I may submit, for your kind consideration, a simple and certain way to be happy all the time. Think about it for a moment and see if you can figure out what it would take for you to be happy?

Are you happy if you Accomplish Your Dream?

  • That you are in a good relationship or with the right boyfriend/girlfriend?
  • That you were married with the right boy friend/girl friend whom you had the dream see as your spouse?
  • That you have a million dollars with you or in your bank account?
  • That you are successful in your projects?
  • That you have better health?
  • That you get a new job, a better one?
  • That you have a great career?
  • That you have a good accommodation to live?
  • That your family co-operates you in your mission?
  • That you enjoy an admirable social status?

What would it take for you to be truly happy? Think on it more deeply. If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you'll never be happy! Why? Surprised? Do not be. The truth is that nothing can make you happy, and today.

Why Nothing Will Make You Happy

Being happy does not depend on a particular outcome or something happening to you. Happiness is not something you find or discover. You can not go into a store and buy a 10-pound bag of happiness. There is no place where you can go and find happiness sitting there waiting you. It is not available in any market or shopping place to be purchased with some notes of dollars, pound, rupees or any other currency. Unfortunately many of us have been brought up to believe that something external can make you happy or that you can find happiness somewhere.

Advertising of all sorts suggests that a new car, skin cream, a new outfit, new shoes a drink, or a new diet can make you happy but that is simply not true. Nothing can make you happy because happiness is really a feeling. Happiness is something you experience. These material things may make you happier for some moments. If you want truly to be happy, you may have to go deeper how you can be happy in real sense of happiness.

If you want to be happy, then, be happy.

But most people do not choose to be happy because they spend most of their time focusing on what is wrong with their life. You may do something you do not enjoy doing and never allow yourself to truly experience happiness.

Let us face it; you can not be happy doing something that you do not like. If you do not believe me, try it. Try doing something you despise and see if you can be happy at the same time. Trust me, you will not be happy doing something you do not enjoy! You also can not do something you really enjoy and be sad or angry. Do not believe me - try it. See what happens. Go ahead and try doing something you really enjoy and see if you are angry or miserable at the same time. That will not work either. So, if you think that getting a new job will make you happy you are wrong. Getting a new job will also not make you happy. If you think that having a boyfriend/girlfriend will make you happy – you are again wrong. If you think having a million dollars will make you happy, you are wrong, it will not. It is not the money, relationship or new job that will make you happy. Happiness is a feeling that you experience when you appreciate the positive things in your life. Unfortunately, people falsely believe they can be happy when they achieve a particular goal and make the mistake of chasing that goal in order to be happy.

It is really not achieving the goal that makes them happy. It is the feeling of achieving the goal that provides another feeling that is mistaken for happiness. For example: if you want a new job and think that by having a new job you will be happy – it is not the job that will make you happy. It more likely is the feeling of security, the ability to make your payments, or the sense of achievement that comes from getting the job, which in turn provides another feeling that is mistaken for happiness.

If its a million dollars that you think will make you happy then it is really the financial security, the freedom that comes from having a million dollars that you feel will allow you to be happy, because you feel you'll then be able to do what you enjoy. It is really not the million dollars that makes you happy. It is what that money can do for you and the feeling that is associated with having that money that you feel will lead to happiness. But the truth is you can be happy with or without that million dollars. This mistake is quite common, because it is not security or peace of mind that makes you happy. Instead you experience happiness when you do what you enjoy and when you focus on the positive things taking place in your life. If you are not doing that then you can never be happy. Do not think that you can be happy by having something.

Discover how you can experience happiness by achieving your particular goal by doing what you enjoy, have fun while achieving your goals and choose the right goals, the kind that allow you to be happy all the time. Focus on what you want. Start doing things that you enjoy. Look at the positive things that are going on in your life. Direct your mind and subconscious mind to help you experience happiness everyday. This will start once you begin to appreciate the good things in your life.

How You Can Be Happy

Okay so how can you begin to be happy? It is really quite simple, all you have to do is shift your focus. Instead of looking at all that is wrong with your life, instead of looking at what you do not like about yourself or your life; change your focus. Start appreciating all that is good in your life. Make a list if you want and write out all of the positive things in your life. Usually, some of you may say that you can not think of anything positive or good in your life. You just want to be happy. That is only because you are not seeing all that the positive things in your life. And so you will never be happy.

Everyday there are wonderful things taking place in your life, yet you fail to observe and recognize these events or people. This can be anything from a warm meal to a wonderful spouse, family, etc. If you have a roof over your head, that is a positive aspect of your life. If you had a warm meal, that is a positive event. If you had a pleasant conversation with someone, that is a positive aspect.

Start looking at all of the great and terrific things that are going on in your life and you shall begin to experience happiness on a deeper level. You can begin to improve or change the areas that you are not happy with but at the same time you should acknowledge the good things that are going on in your life.

Your mind is used to only paying attention to what is going wrong and in the process it directs the subconscious mind to continue creating more of those things that are going wrong. You actually create more of what makes you unhappy.


Because your subconscious creates what you regularly think about. So, if you do not regularly focus on the positive things you will not create positive situations in your life. And here is where it gets worse. When you constantly focus on what is wrong with your life, when you only think about and see what is wrong in your life your subconscious begins to create more of what is wrong or more of what you do not want because it thinks that you want more. Now you know why it can be so difficult for some people to truly experience happiness, it is because they're used to focusing on the negative aspects of life and in the end continue to create more of what they do not want. In order to change all of this you have to begin training the mind and re-directing the subconscious mind to begin creating what you want in life and to focus on the good things that are taking place in your life.

Begin experiencing happiness by changing your focus. Everyday think of the positive things that are going on in your life. Make a list of all the wonderful things that are taking place in your life. Think of at least 3 great things that happened to you they can be small or large - but just appreciate 3 good things that happened during the day. Focus on the positive. Direct your mind and subconscious mind by changing your perspective so you experience happiness everyday.

Have Some Fun

Now that you know that your happiness does not depend on some other event taking place you can now follow another simple step to experience happiness and that is to simply have fun. Too often I hear from people who simply want to be happy but when I ask them what they do for fun they say: "Nothing." No wonder you are not happy. How can you be happy if you're never having fun in life? If you want to experience happiness then you have to start doing things that you can enjoy. I love to play soccer and race my car. I also have a lot of fun when I'm playing with my children, nephews or nieces. I also have a lot of fun when I act like a 6 year old with my wife who responds by acting like she is 4. This is how I enjoy life and it allows me to experience a great deal of happiness. I try not to grow up too quickly – what is the point of being an adult all of the time? To me it is simply not fun and I choose to enjoy my life. You should try it. If you want to experience happiness then start doing things that you enjoy. You may like gardening; you may like hang gliding, you may like riding your bike, you may enjoy going for long walks, you may enjoy acting like a 5-year old - whatever it is start doing it and see how great you feel. But there is one catch when you're doing what you enjoy, you can only focus on that and not think about anything else that may be bothering you. That is the only way you'll truly enjoy the activity and begin to experience happiness. As adults we get bogged down with the everyday tasks that force us to be serious. We have jobs where we are serious, bills to pay, food to prepare, kids to look after, it is all too serious and it is necessary. I am not suggesting you ignore your responsibilities - but take some time just to have some fun.

Now you can not just have fun once a week or once a month. You have to do this everyday. That means everyday you have to find something fun to do then only will you get comfortable and used to the process to the point where you regularly experience happiness. Once you start doing this you'll enjoy it so much you shall wonder why you never did this to begin with.

I know somebody out there is going to say: "I shall enjoy life when I get a new job." Or something like that. I shall probably also hear from someone who says: "I do not have time to have fun or enjoy my life. That is why I am not happy." My answer to that is that if you see things in such a way then being happy simply, is not important enough to you. If you really believe that you can only be happy when you get a job or when something else happens you are denying yourself the opportunity to be happy right now. If you do not feel you have the time to have fun and enjoy your life then you are really saying that your happiness is not important enough. Only when you decide to be happy will you truly begin to experience happiness. You can work with the submissions I have made above - they will help you get started. But you will need to train your mind and subconscious mind to begin seeing and living in a different way.

Be Happy - Analyze Your Happiness and Accomplish Your Dreams.

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 49)

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. Remember tonight, for it is the beginning always. One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation. You have got to get to the stage in life where going for it is more important than winning or losing. Consider keeping a daily journal. In it, keep up with the positive things that happen in your day. I have found that we all need a constant reminder that we are on course and gaining towards our goals, towards accomplishing our dreams. By having a way to see first hand that positive things are happening in our everyday life we can better stay focused on things that we want to accomplish.

The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing. Actually, there are no mistakes, no coincidences. All events are blessings given to us to learn from. Take the time to let your hair down a bit. Do not be afraid to try new things in your life. New experiences are at the root of our ability to expand our horizons. Continue to meet your old friends and try to expand your network. Around the corner I have a friend in this great city that has no end, yet the days go by and weeks rush on, and before I know it, a year is gone and I never see my old friend's face, for life is a swift and terrible race, he knows I like him just as well, as in the days when I rang his bell, and he rang mine. If, we were younger then, and now we are busy, tired men. Tired of playing a foolish game, tired of trying to make a name. "Tomorrow" I say "I will call on Jim" "Just to show that I'm thinking of him." But tomorrow comes and tomorrow goes, and distance between us grows and grows. Around the corner! - yet miles away, "Here's a telegram sir-" "Jim died. today." And that's what we get and deserve in the end. Around the corner, a vanished friend. If you love someone, tell them. Remember always to say what you mean. Never be afraid to express yourself. Take this opportunity to tell someone what they mean to you. Seize the day and have no regrets. Most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they have helped make you the person that you are today and are what it's all about anyway.

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. And every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his room-mate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Flowers of every color of the rainbow would flicker in the wind. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene. One warm afternoon the man by the window described a circus passing by. Although the other man couldn't hear the animals - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Then unexpectedly, a sinister thought entered his mind. Why should the other man alone experience all the pleasures of seeing everything while he himself never got to see anything? It didn't seem fair. At first thought the man felt ashamed. But as the days passed and he missed seeing more sights, his envy eroded into resentment and soon turned him sour. He began to brood and he found himself unable to sleep. He should be by that window - that thought, and only that thought now controlled his life. Late one night as he lay staring at the ceiling, the man by the window began to cough. He was choking on the fluid in his lungs. The other man watched in the dimly lit room as the struggling man by the window groped for the button to call for help. Listening from across the room he never moved, never pushed his own button which would have brought the nurse running in. In less than five minutes the coughing and choking stopped, along with that the sound of breathing. Now there was only silence—deathly silence.

The following morning the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths. When she found the lifeless body of the man by the window, she was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take it away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window.

The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the world outside. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it all himself. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."

You can interpret the story in any way you like. But one moral stands out: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all of the things you have that money can't buy.

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams by sharing your pleasures.