Thursday, December 31, 2009

Be Happy – Resolve With Determination.

It is December 31 – the last day of the passing year – we must take account of all the happenings during the year and make an analysis how something took shape, why so and why not? It is an end of a period of remembrance of a particular passing year. Radio, television, and newspapers often have year-end articles that review the changes during the previous year. Common topics include politics, natural disasters, music and the arts, and the listing of significant individuals who died during the past year. Often there are also articles on planned or expected changes in the coming year in laws, commerce and industrial developments.

Similarly, January 1 marks the start of a new year. This day is traditionally a religious feast, but since the 1900s has become an occasion for celebration the night of December 31, called New Year's Eve. There are often fireworks at midnight. Depending on the country, individuals are legally allowed to burn fireworks, even if it's usually outlawed the rest of the year.

It is also customary to make New Year's resolutions, which individuals hope to fulfill in the coming year. The most popular resolutions in the Western world include quitting tobacco smoking, stopping excessive drinking of alcohol, losing weight, and getting physically fit. You can opt for your own resolutions – some of the popular resolutions can be as follow:

1. That you may send flowers to near & dear ones very frequently, especially on the eve of their birthdays, anniversary or some other memorable days.

2. That you will never look back. You will try to hit upon every opportunity you get after due precautions.

3. That you will never brood, keeping the head high.

4. That you will prefer to watch news channels over soaps.

5. That you will buy and read books more.

6. That you will keep your heels cool.

7. That you will give a damn to foes.

8. That you will snore less (if you can help it).

9. That you will pay back your loans promptly, as per schedule and/or when required.

10. That you will spend sufficient time with the elders in your family and the pets.

11. That you will expand your friends network more and make additions with sincere friends.

12. That you will pray to the Almighty.

13. That you will express admiration for others.

14. That you will clean your bedroom yourself, at least weekly.

15. That you will write and continue writing diary.

16. That you will celebrate without reasons.

17. That you will admit your faults without grudge.

18. That you will reduce the use of credit card or use it very consciously.

19. That you will do your best to protect and enjoy the nature and rains.

20. That you will listen to music regularly.

21. That you will bake a cake or cook foods yourself, once in a month.

22. That you will make visit to your aged relatives regularly.

23. That you will not borrow and lend money unnecessarily.

24. That you will recognize yourself.

25. That you will cultivate a hobby to read and share good jokes with your nears and dears.

26. That you will take trips with your family as and when you get sufficient time and money to relax and enjoy but without borrowing.

27. That you will gift yourself very frequently.

28. That you will help your mom/wife in household choir.

29. That you will listen to Dad's advice in investment.

30. That you will connect to old friends.

31. That you will beg pardon, if you feel that you harmed someone.

32. That you will save, save and save with a target.

33. That you will clean up your own mess.

34. That you will brush teeth twice a day, preferably after every meal.

35. That you will bathe daily.

36. That you will stop doubting the maid.

37. That you will eat healthy foods and say no to junk foods.

38. That you will cook a meal, as frequently as possible.

39. That you will drink more water every day.

40. That you will go for an eye check-up quarterly.

41. That you will not bring work to home. Your home is for your personal life, your family and your dears.

42. That you will listen to parents.

43. That you will say no to jealousy.

44. That you will discuss ideas and concepts, not people.

45. That you will enjoy picnics very frequently.

46. That you will not borrow clothes.

47. That you will express your love and show when you care.

48. That you will have a positive bent of mind.

49. That you will not pretend.

50. That you will think beyond the given conditions and the present.

51. That you will feel good if someone comes all of sudden to seek your help.

52. That you will smile more often.

53. That you will compliment liberally and truthfully.

54. That you will dutch... with friends.

55. That you will take morning walks, long walks.

56. That you will use the fork and spoon, while eating.

57. That you will ignore hygiene mania.

58. That you will respond to all emails.

59. That you will write snail mail.

60. That you will chat with common sense and honesty.

61. That you will count calorie intake.

62. That you will do something about being overweight.

63. That you will start the day with newspapers.

64. That you will respect secrets & keep them.

65. That you will trust fellow human beings.

66. That you will listen to your heart but work with brain, if exceptions are not there.

67. That you will believe in miracles but not blindly.

68. That you will want less, accept more.

69. That you will share your dreams with your nears and dears.

70. That you will thank your stars more often.

71. That you will make no self praise. Your work will speak itself.

72. That you will thank God more often.

73. That you will get dandruffs treated, get to a dermatologist.

74. That you will change socks daily.

75. That you will fold clothes before putting them in the cupboard.

76. That you will give space, mental and physical, to others.

77. That you will participate in home choirs.

78. That you will donate to charity organizations.

79. That you will give advice only when it is asked for, and when it is a life and death question.

80. That you will surf less, meet people more.

81. That you will use the dressing mirror less.

82. That you will accept your flaws.

83. That you will spend at least one Sunday every month purely at home.

84. That you will wear an attitude, not pride.

85. That you will prefer more truth..less lies.

86. That you will sleep with mouth closed.

87. That you will work hard.

88. That you will talk more..sms less.

89. That you will not curse the neighbor.

90. That you will find a new heartthrob.

91. That you will forget the ex flames.

92. That you will dare to dream.

93. That you will gift yourself at times.

94. That you will eat with mouth closed.

95. That you will always carry a clean hanky.

96. That you will not litter.

97. That you will not discuss with anyone about his/her spouse, religion and money.

98. That you will give any false witness in any case in any court.

99. That you will donate as much as possible for you easily.

100. That you will ensure that minimum energy, money and time are spent in achieving any goal. For that you can keep schedules ready after full discussions.

101. That you will not break any of the 100 resolutions taken above.

I hope that once you determined to adopt any new year resolution and pursue it with strong will, you will be happy and happier.

Be Happy – Resolve With Determination.

Happy New Year!

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Be Happy – Have Compassion & Forgiveness To Heal

Joanna Rogers Macy, Ph.D a scholar of Buddhism general systems theory and deep ecology writes, “ Compassion literally means to feel with, to suffer with. Everyone is capable of compassion, and yet everyone tends to avoid it because it's uncomfortable. And the avoidance produces psychic numbing -- resistance to experiencing our pain for the world and other beings.” Compassion is a human emotion prompted by the pain of others. More vigorous than empathy, the feeling commonly gives rise to an active desire to alleviate another's suffering. It is often, though not inevitably, the key component in what manifests in the social context as altruism. In ethical terms, the various expressions down the ages of the so-called Golden Rule embody by implication the principle of compassion: Do to others what you would have them do to you. It is a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.

Similarly, forgiveness is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offence, difference or mistake, and/or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. It is defined as 'to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offence or debt'. The concept and benefits of forgiveness have been explored in religious thought, the social sciences and medicine. Forgiveness may be considered simply in terms of the person who forgives including forgiving themselves, in terms of the person forgiven and/or in terms of the relationship between the forgiver and the person forgiven. In some contexts, forgiveness may be granted without any expectation of restorative justice, and without any response on the part of the offender (for example, one may forgive a person who is incommunicado or dead). In practical terms, it may be necessary for the offender to offer some form of acknowledgment, apology, and/or restitution, or even just ask for forgiveness, in order for the wronged person to believe himself able to forgive Forgiveness: to grant pardon to (a person). It is granted to

cease to feel resentment against someone. The great leader, Mohandas K. Gandhi defines, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Similarly, Reinhold Niebuhr, an American theologian says, “Nothing worth doing is completed in our lifetime, Therefore, we are saved by hope. Nothing true or beautiful or good makes complete sense in any immediate context of history; Therefore, we are saved by faith.
Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone. Therefore, we are saved by love. No virtuous act is quite a virtuous from the standpoint of our friend or foe as from our own; Therefore, we are saved by the final form of love which is forgiveness.”

Compassion and forgiveness have tremendous power to heal your grief. In this reference, we remember a short story reading as below. The story is about Smith’s mother. Smith has a friend, Bolt. One day, Bolt was being chased by Police. When Bolt reached at Smith’s house, he knocked at Door. “Please hide me”, he pleaded to Smith’s mother who let him in and gave refuge. When the police, following close on Bolt’s heels, arrived, Smith’s mother peeped out of the window and asked, “Sergeant, what’s the matter?” The policeman asked: “Did you see Bolt? He came this way”. “No, Sergeant, I haven’t seen Bolt”, she said. After the policeman left, Smith’s mother went to the backyard, and helped Bolt to escape. She did so, even after the police informed her that Bolt had a massive fight with Smith, in which Smith was killed. Bolt was her son’s killer. She felt that Smith died accidentally for which Bolt’s anger was responsible. Since he came to her refuge, she owed the duty to save him – it was of no use to hand over him to Police as that act was not going to give life to his own son. She forgave.

Initially, the story seems boring and meaningless. But a second thought over it strikes as inspirational and revealing. Look around, TV serials, movies, fictional thrillers are built around the theme of vengeance, revenge, hate, sex and blood, to some extent even glorifying abysmal characters. In such an ambience, where our cultural icons have fallen from grace, this childhood story, of Smith’s mother, taught as a character-building primer, brings fresh perspective. It upholds that rare spiritual quality, forgiveness.

It is not so easy to forgive. It requires great strength of character. What made Smith’s mother forgive Bolt? Inborn compassion? Perhaps compassion and forgiveness go together. One has to be compassionate enough to be able to forgive.

In our lives, we come across awkward and difficult people, who at some time or the other, wilfully cause time or the other, wilfully cause harm, hurt and emotional damage. Nursing the wound or waiting to ‘hit back’ can only generate negative energy; destroying peace of mind and obstructing clarity of thought and perception.

All those nice, good people who in their desire to be exemplary in the social eye, often claim with a certain degree of vanity, that they have forgiven so and so. The ‘so and so’ may be the boss, the bosom friend or a non-entity. But scratch a bit, and you get the universal statement ‘It is easy to forgive, but difficult to forget. If the memory lingers, it means forgiveness is not total. A bit of the hurt, of the wound still remains embedded in the subconscious mind. In letter, Ekundayo wrote: To err is human and to forgive is divine. Forgiveness is seldom practised. Some may say they have forgiven but they often talk to others with bitterness about the wrong done to them. This is not forgiveness, for true grievance is still present.

Bitterness leads to frustration and emotional imbalance. Gurus have been inducting the therapy of forgiveness. This therapy is a sure panacea for peace of mind. It leads to expansion and that awareness brings the joy of love. Forgiveness is a cleansing and a purifying process. It elevates. It is a peace pill. Forgiveness has the power to heal.

Forgiveness is not a one-time affair. It is a continuous process. It is a process which takes the beautiful form of an everyday prayer, where hands are folded, forgiveness sought and forgiveness given and where that all fulfilling connectivity with the universal soul is resumed. Forgiveness makes life beautiful.

Be Happy - Have Compassion & Forgiveness To Heal

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 111)

Two days after tomorrow, we will enter into New Year 2010. I wish the New Year may usher new hopes in our life; it may bring pleasures and prosperity to all. But it is not going to happen if you wish only. You may have to work for it, you may have to re-energize yourselves, and you may have to resolve for that success after reviewing your performance in the going year 2009. For accomplishing your Dreams, you may need to keep your selves motivated and enthusiastic fully. We understand that it’s probably the most common problem that people face when it comes to pursuing their goals. It’s difficult to keep pushing forward when you lose that inner fire, isn’t it? Yet it happens to all of us at one point or another.

Need for staying Motivated and Enthusiastic

Feeling motivated and enthusiastic is easy when you first set your resolutions, because you’re feeling inspired and excited about the positive changes you’re going to make in your life. Most often, you are optimistic about the ease of achieving your goals because you haven’t had to deal with obstacles, distractions, stress and frustration yet. Once you begin working toward your goals and the going gets tough, your motivation begins to wane.

Maybe you get frustrated because you’re not seeing results right away, or you wonder if you took on too big a goal with all of your other responsibilities. Even worse, you may start doubting your own capabilities. All of these things act like big splashes of water on your inner fire.

Before you know it, you’re running out of steam and don’t know what to do to get moving again.

The Remedy:

There are many ways to re-ignite your motivation, but some are more effective than others. Below are some of the best ones that work well in context with the Law of Attraction.

1. Take a break and let go. Believe it or not, stepping back from your goals for a day or two can do wonders for your state of mind. If you notice that you’re feeling irritable and frustrated a lot as you pursue your goals, you may be pushing too hard and burning yourself out. This is especially true when you’re trying to force results to happen. Step back and take some time off to recharge your batteries. Before long you’ll probably be itching to get back to it again.

2. Change your approach. You may be feeling bored or uninspired by the action steps you were once so certain would lead you to your goal – and now you’re wishing you’d never set the goal at all. But remember that you don’t have to stick with your original plan if it’s not working for you. Change it up! Go back over your plans and see if there is a better way to proceed. Engage your creative thinking and see if you can come up with alternate steps that you would enjoy more. The changes themselves don’t matter except for one thing: that they get you fired up and eager to proceed once again.

3. Build yourself up. It’s possible that your enthusiasm is dipping because self-doubts have begun popping up in your mind, even if you’re not consciously aware of them. A good way to move past these limiting thoughts is to stimulate your confidence, inner strength and power. Think about the things you’ve done in the past that you were proud of, and imagine all that you can still accomplish. Imagine feeling satisfied and fulfilled with your life circumstances, being proud of who you are and all you’ve done (and will do yet). Affirm that you are much stronger than you usually think you are, and inspire yourself to push right through these feelings of lethargy and boredom.

4. Rekindle your excitement. When you first set your goals, you were fired up just by the idea of achieving them, and you can easily get that fire back by mentally revisiting what you want to accomplish. If you can’t seem to get a clear mental image of your desired outcome, write it down. Put as much detail as you can into it, and be sure to infuse the description with feelings of excitement and happiness. Even better, write it in present tense – as if you’ve already achieved it! Express your feelings of joy and satisfaction for having this new experience in your life.

With a fitness goal, for example, you could write about how great you feel, how much more energy and focus you have, how your business is booming because you now have more energy and enthusiasm when you work, how you’re buying a brand new wardrobe to celebrate your achievement, and so on.

There are no right or wrong ways to do this exercise; simply write what you want to happen as a result of achieving your goal! Once you’ve got it all written down, be sure to keep it nearby and read it when you need a boost – several times a day, if necessary.

This exercise is powerful because you begin attuning your energetic signal to the outcome you want to achieve, rather than the obstacles that may be holding you back from it. And the more you focus on the thrilling outcome, the more you will be drawing forth the enthusiasm, the means, opportunities and resources to make it happen easily.

5. Taking New Year Resolutions to the Next Level

More than any specific problems you may encounter as you pursue your goals you must understand that success is a simple matter of making conscious decisions that align with your desired outcome.

Anyone can decide to achieve a goal once – it’s your commitment to the ongoing process of growth and self-mastery that will determine your eventual success, or failure. When you think about it that way, goal achievement is really more of a system of gradual shifting from one state to another.

To be successful in your objectives, you need to be willing to see New Year Resolutions as intentions to make the right decisions; decisions that will lead you to where you want to be, wherever you decide that is, now or in the future.

By doing so, you’ll quickly realize that there is no “success or failure.” There are only choices that support your goals or detract from them. This is very good news because it means that it’s never too late to get back on track! Even if you’ve spent years making “bad choices” (those that don’t support your ultimate goals), you can easily begin making “good choices” that DO support your goals – right now!

A big part of this process involves getting your thoughts in alignment with the outcome you desire. But it’s not just about “positive thinking”. Transforming your thoughts from negative to positive is certainly a great start, but it’s not going to be enough to transform your entire life. To do that you need to undergo an inner shift that will alter the whole strategy of your working, the whole life style and that your determination to take action… not merely determination but to act upon how to accomplish your dreams.

Be Happy – Continue to strive hard to Accomplish Your Dreams in the next year 2010.

Sunday, December 27, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 110)

To Accomplish Your Dreams, you need to have strong commitment and that commitment can be made only if you have willpower. In other words, willpower could accurately be described as the unyielding determination to follow through with an intention.

This is a little different than being committed to a goal. Willpower focuses more on the moment to moment decisions we make in relation to our intentions. Let’s face it; you can set all the intentions you want but if you don’t have the willpower to stick to them you won’t get far. You may have to devote your time and energy to develop your willpower.

Devoting Time and Energy

Most of us have strong willpower until it’s tested by temptation or challenges. We’ll be sticking to a new healthy eating plan, feeling fine – until a coworker brings in a box of donuts, or until the scale stops being cooperative. We’re committed to working on our goals every day – until we decide we’re not seeing results as quickly as we’d like.

In order to achieve a goal and manifest the outcome you want, you need to work on it daily. Not just physically, although physical action is part of it. But I mean also mentally and energetically - building up the energy, intention, and inner vision in addition to taking action.

If you don’t do that, you won’t be putting forth enough focus to make the goal reality.

The Remedy:

How do you strengthen your willpower so that you will put forth the time and effort to keep working on your goals? The best way I’ve found is simply to create a daily practice. You may set an intention to work on it consistently and stick to that intention like glue. You could start with smaller intentions if you feel overwhelmed by bigger ones; for example, set an intention to avoid eating sugar for just one day, or an intention to work on your goals for just 10 minutes each day.

The most important thing is to not give up when you slip. If you give in to temptation once, simply strengthen your resolve and start again. The more you do that, the stronger your willpower is going to get. It is a process, however, so don’t expect yourself to display tremendous willpower right away. Just keep practicing setting intentions and following through with them and before long it will get easier to dismiss any temptations that come your way.

You can also use the power of visualization to strengthen your willpower. Visualize yourself easily being able to ignore temptations; or eagerly spending time working on your goals each day. The more you focus on being committed and empowered about your goals, the more you will find yourself displaying that strength and focus when you really need it.

Saturday, December 26, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 109)

Once you are able to fix up your priorities, you need to strengthen your commitment. If you are not truly committed to your goal, you simply won’t make it a priority in your life. When you first set a resolution for a new year, you are “resolving” to do something. That means pledging, or swearing to the fact that you will follow through. But how often do you really mean this when you set goals?

Strengthening Your Commitment

What many of us do instead is attaching little addendums to our pledge, like staying committed until we lose interest or obstacles threaten our confidence. That’s why getting crystal clear about what you really want is so important. You’re much more likely to go the distance for something you want badly rather than a vague desire.

Still, no matter your objective, you’ll need to make a firm commitment to achieving it and believe that you will achieve it, no matter what. That’s what commitment is; a pledge of constancy and loyalty. But how do you get and stay committed?

The Remedy:

The number one way to strengthen your commitment is to make your goal so vitally important that quitting is simply not an option. Imagine what it would be like to have a goal that you simply couldn’t give up on; a goal that you would work toward for years on end if you had to. Is your goal that important to you? If not, you’ve got two choices:

1. Make it that important. Take some time to think about the negative consequences of abandoning your goal. What would the likely outcome be? Poor health and reduced lifespan? Professional stagnation? Depression and emptiness? Are you willing to accept those outcomes? You’ve got to convince yourself that there is no other acceptable outcome for your goals but success.

2. Choose a better goal. If you can’t seem to summon the level of commitment needed to achieve your goal, it’s probably not as important as you’d like it to be. Take some time to think about what you really want, and set a goal that WILL be vitally important; important enough to inspire a rock-solid level of commitment.

You may have to keep affirming daily that your goals will be your reality and you will not accept anything less. Insist that they will be manifested in full physical form – and then only, you would be able to accomplish your dreams.

Be Happy – Strengthen Your Commitment to Accomplish Your Dreams.

Friday, December 25, 2009

Be Happy – Identify With The Life of Christ

Wishing you a very merry Christmas!

Jesus is one of the most important spiritual masters. If we go through his life and teachings, they are so instructive that if we follow sincerely, that may play miracles in our lives. New Testament mentions, “If your enemy strikes you on one cheek, offer him your other cheek.”

Who is this man who single-handedly came to have a big impact on our lives? We know almost nothing of him till he is baptized by John the Baptist in the River Jordan at the age of 30. That he grew up with good parents is evident in St Luke’s Bible Chapter that says, “And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, filled with wisdom and the Grace of God was upon him.” In St Mark, we are told, “And immediately the Spirit driveth him into the wilderness…And he was there in the wilderness 40 days, tempted by Satan; and was with the wild beasts; and the angels ministered unto him.”

This happens after the baptism. So why was Jesus tempted by Satan for 40 days? Why was a man, that we believe to be the son of God on Earth in human form, struggling so hard to come to terms with the path he was destined to walk?

For 30 years he went through the same joys and sorrows, sickness and healing, doubts and worries that any average human goes through in a lifetime. God did not send him as a superhero, totally immune to the weaknesses that we are susceptible to. Jesus had to overcome these weaknesses as an ordinary person, to cross the line to become one of the greatest masters to have ever lived. And to make that decision it took him 40 days when he fasted, prayed and meditated. And Jesus took the decision even though he realized that it would bring unimaginable pain and sorrow to him personally.

If you go through the details further, you will find that till the end, there must have been many occasions when Jesus would have preferred to give up as an average person. Before he was arrested by the Romans, he had prayed three times, “Father, all things are possible unto Thee; take away this cup from me: nevertheless not what I will, but what Thou wilt.” Here was a man filled with the fear of what lay ahead. But once arrested, the fear vanishes to be replaced by a calm of immense proportions, despite which for one last time he falters, when he is on the cross and cries out: “My God, my God, why Hast Though forsaken me?”

None of his apostles had a clue as to what was happening, even though he had warned them of what lay ahead. Peter even tried to dissuade him from talking about his death. They all vanished when he was arrested, though Peter hung around vehemently denying that he knew Jesus when confronted by a temple maid. And the compassionate and enlightened Jesus forgave them because he understood their fears; he was able to relate to their fears.

Jesus healed, taught and fed thousands of people except that they follow the path of Truth. He was the Son of God, just as you and I are the children of God and we are all called upon to make the same decision he made, to follow and spread the message of Truth all around.

Be Happy - Identify With The Life of Christ and Lead Your Life Accordingly.

Thursday, December 24, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 108)

In our life, we come across a number of priorities; they get changed in course of time. Sometime, you had planned for something but when you were proceeding to accomplish, you find that another necessity is more important and you feel that you may have to give up your action on the existing plan and take up the pressing new need. You can get confused. You may have to eliminate the conflicting priorities – you may have to change the priorities.

Eliminating Conflicting Priorities

The conflicting priorities or intentions can derail your resolutions. You know what you want and you probably know what you need to do to get it, but following through can sometimes be difficult. You may have demands in other areas of your life, such as family or work that prevent you from sticking to your plans. Or you may have a lot of distractions that make it hard to stay focused.

Conflicting priorities can cause such a heavy sense of defeat that you may be tempted to give up on your goals altogether. Even more importantly, feeling conflicted within only communicates that conflict to the universe, which means you keep attracting more conflict and split intentions.

The Remedy:

There are several ways to handle inner conflict:

1. You may consider whether your outer distractions might actually be caused by you, and you are creating chaos without realizing it. For example, if you have a fear of success or failure related to your goals, you may find yourself agreeing to extra obligations so you can avoid working on your goals. The extra work provides a great excuse for why you failed to achieve your goals again. Or you may procrastinate to the point where everything converges at once and you need to scramble to meet deadlines at the last minute. Sometimes what seem to be outer distractions may actually be caused by inner conflict. That would be the first place to look, and resolve any fears, doubts, uncertainties or problematic issues you find.

2. If you discover that you’re not sabotaging your efforts but still have a lot of chaos and disorder in your life, do what you can to get balanced and organized again. You may need to cancel a few unnecessary obligations so you’ll have more time to work on your goals, or speak to your family members and ask for their support and cooperation. Remember also that the calmer and more centered you feel, the more your outer circumstances will reflect that essence. Take time each day to quiet your mind, relax your body and create harmony in body, mind and spirit.

3. If you can’t seem to find time to work on your goals, remember that “priority” means taking precedence in order of importance. That means you’ll probably have to decide what’s most important to you, moment to moment. Just how important is your goal? Is it more or less important than your other obligations and commitments? If your goal is truly important to you, you will do what it takes to make time for working on it – no matter how much juggling or eliminating unnecessary obligations you may have to do.

No matter the causes of your inner and outer conflicts, you will find that they can be easily resolved if you focus on the solutions rather than getting upset about the priorities.

Be Happy – Determine your Priorities strongly and Accomplish Your Dreams.

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 107)

If being human beings, we do not dream for our future, we should not be graded as human beings. God has gifted us this important feature in our character that every sensible human being imagines, dreams and plans his future accordingly. That is why most of us do it naturally. In doing so, we need to keep certain factors in mind. Some of them have already been discussed and some more are still required to be considered.

It happens to the best of us; when we’re moving steadily along toward our goals, feeling motivated and empowered, all of a sudden there’s an obstacle in our path and we freeze like a deer caught in the headlights of a car! What do we do? How do we get around this? We need to dissolve such obstacles. How?

Dissolving Obstacles

Unexpected obstacles are responsible for many unaccomplished dreams, simply for one reason: the dream maker didn’t have a plan in place to deal with it, so they gave up. Preparing for obstacles is one of the most important parts of accomplishing the dreams – but few people take the time to do it. When most of us set a goal, we’re optimistic and confident that we can succeed. We don’t like to think about possible obstacles that may threaten our dreams.

However, not planning ahead for obstacles practically guarantees that we won’t know how to handle them when they appear – and appear they usually will. This is true even when using the Law of Attraction – in fact, many of the obstacles you encounter will likely be the result of subconscious limiting beliefs that you may not even know you have.

The Remedy:

The solution to this is clear: make obstacles a non-issue and they will dissolve.

Believe it or not, your own reaction to the obstacles usually determines how tenacious they are. If you get flustered, upset, or intimidated by them, you will only make them seem stronger and more intimidating. If you react with calm and positive expectation, they will usually resolve themselves – or you will be shown solutions to move beyond them.

This nonchalant attitude does require a bit of faith and trust that the universe is working with you to manifest your dreams. Rather than seeing obstacles as roadblocks, you have to elevate your vision and choose to see them as nothing more than momentary stopping points.

If you keep focusing on the fact that there is a solution for every obstacle (even if you don’t yet know what the solution is) you will call forth that solution from the universe.

Most often it happens quickly as long as you don’t block it with negative thoughts and emotions!

Be Happy - Be Positive and Remove the Obstacles to Accomplish Your Dreams.

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 106)

Sometime, you do not get success in Accomplishing Your Dreams due to fear of failure. Similarly you may be taken over by fear of success. Actually, the fear of failure is closely related to the fear of success. It may seem that these two are complete opposites, but they are more similar than you may think. Both of them involve one common belief: that you won’t be able to handle the consequences of the outcome. You need to transform your Fear of Success.

How to Transform Fear of Success

A fear of failure raises worries about the consequences of not achieving your goal, while a fear of success raises worries about the consequences of succeeding at your goal. In both cases, you doubt your ability to handle the results.

Using the same weight loss example put up to yesterday, a fear of success may cause you to worry that your friends and family will treat you differently if you lose weight. Or you may wonder how you’ll ever be able to have a good time at parties if you can’t enjoy your favorite foods – after all, a “skinny” person doesn’t pig out on junk food.

You may worry about the expense of buying a new wardrobe to fit your smaller size – or any number of other fears related to the outcome of your goal.

Once again, you are operating under the assumption that you won’t be able to handle such a possibility, or that it would be somehow “bad” if it happened.

The Remedy:

Overcoming this fear is simple if you come up with some coping strategies ahead of time. Start by making a list of your specific fears, along with things you could do to cope with them if they happened.


I won’t know how to relate to men when I’m thin and attractive.


I would relate to them exactly as I do now, but I could also work more on building my self-confidence to deal with unwanted advances, etc.


I really can’t afford to buy a new wardrobe right now; maybe I should hold off on this goal until spring.


I won’t need smaller sizes immediately. Between now and then I can set aside the money I used to spend on junk food, cut back in other areas, and even check out some consignment or thrift shops – they always have great deals on clothing. The universe will provide everything I need; I do believe that.

Whatever your specific fears are, addressing them will convince you that you CAN handle the outcome, no matter what it may be.

Even better, be sure to keep visualizing the strategies being easy and fun. Visualize yourself feeling confident and strong. Visualize yourself having plenty of money to cover everything you need, and so on. Then you will be focusing on solutions, not potential problems. You can Accomplish Your Dreams smoothly. Just go ahead forgetting your fear of failure and fear of success.