Thursday, October 30, 2014

Be Happy – Live Like Kingsize.



“Live Like Kingsize”, it is just a proverb. It has nothing to do with “King” as in the present era of democracy, Kings are generally not there. We call a person to be king if he spends lavishly on his needs, whether they are his basic needs or they are his social needs. Kingsize means like a king. In old times, when there were kings of the different states, they were stated to be spending as they wished. Like today, there were no rules and regulations, no audits, no controls etc. – they could spend anything for any cause. At that time, the subjects were there to bear the burnt if the treasury got empty. Against the king’s whims, nothing was to stay important.
Today, time has changed. The monarchic
era has come to an end and we are living in the time of democracy (with few exceptions). The head of the State is elected by the people for a limited period. He/she works according to the laws already laid down with permission to bring about the additions/modification to implement the policies upon which he or she is elected. There are various forms of economic systems being followed. Some countries follow capitalism in which the governments have minimum control over business activities whereas some countries follow mixed economy by having some controls. Some other countries control the financial activities fully.
Living like kingsize has better chances in capitalism and good chances in mixed economy. It has positive notion to the extent that the people try to give up the usual tensions and enjoy the life whenever they get an opportunity or some spare time. A step ahead, those people who believe in this concept, make efforts to get off the tensions at the earliest so that they are able to enjoy afterwards. In other words, they endeavor to have spontaneous dedication to the task they take up so that as early they finish, they will like to enjoy afterwards. Some people do the work joyfully. Such people really live like kingsize.
Sometime, we may feel frustrated with what is happening around us. We may feel that everything is going wrong or at least, not as we wished for. We may feel that our efforts are going waste, our energy and our time with our investment too. But it is not the ultimate. We must not get stuck in hoping things will change - instead get on with the business of being the change we wish to see unfold in our life. Friend, we have got what it takes, but make no mistake; it has to start with our decision to take action.
Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence. After every night, there is a day. At the end of a tunnel, we usually find a ray of light. If for some reason, we find ourselves to be in mid of many troubles, that does not mean that those troubles will remain always there. Sometime, troubles make us aware of the circumstances why they have come about, if they are there in result of our wrong decisions and/or we have mismatched our resources with our targets.
Similarly, poverty is a choice that we make everyday without our active knowledge.  It's the choice to be uncreative, feel limited in resources, thinking inside the box, smaller than life, deeply powerless, incapable of receiving love, and not believing that anything is possible.  Poverty thinking is a disease and an unconscious choice that is based in the ignorance of our true power.  This unawareness is the one deciding factor as to whether someone continues to remain broke and struggling for another year, or starts to shift their energy into receiving a new source of income next week.
The moment we choose to believe in any poverty based thought, we start thinking more small, limited and negative thoughts about life.  It has a snowball affect to it, where we begin to attract more limiting thoughts based in that misunderstanding.  When negative thinking becomes our habit, we begin to invent thoughts that support our old poverty minded thoughts.  The repetitive cycle of poverty thinking is a social disease that festers and feeds upon itself. 
Every time we identify with the poverty mindset in other person who thinks there is "not enough", we slowly inherit and mirror their disease.  By accepting the limiting beliefs of others, we forget our original abundant nature, and stop realizing who we really are, are all-powerful beings.  The moment we can understand the foundational lie that poverty is based upon, and take full responsibility for the suffering we are creating through our choices, then we can begin choosing a new path and acting from a new mindset to create a new world.
It's good to know that poverty thinking is not our original nature. Our real inherent nature has no boundaries or limitations on what is possible and what isn't. This original abundant mind is something we were born with, and is rooted in knowing that we are all absolutely loved, free and totally abundant.  Poverty consciousness is a limiting mindset that was inherited by our community in order to be accepted, fit in, and welcomed into the social norm. We often would rather be accepted by others than seen as an outcast who is believing they are bigger, better and richer.  If our friends, family and community never had any poverty thoughts on any level, we wouldn't have it either.  We would only know how to be creative in ways where we think anything is possible, and know deep down that abundance was our birthright.
When I connect with people who are struggling financially, I always find there is one thing they have in common. They all continuously choose to support their old limiting thoughts and negative beliefs around money.  Rather than actually doing something radically different and exciting to move through them, people live and hide underneath their excuses.  They become cowards to discovering their real power, hiding behind their pride, rather than revealing and healing their feelings of fear, self-judgment and financial intolerance. Each time their mind unconsciously creates this pattern of choosing a desperate needy response to life. The habit becomes so natural that they have to something very radical to alleviate this perpetual addictive state of financial frustration.  They have to accept the fact that they are following their old excuses, and now choosing to live a life that is continuously moving through the fear.
The impoverished mindset is one that continuously resists fear, controlling the emotions and creating distractions so they do not have to feel their fear.  This type of controlling energy tends to say NO to life, denying new ideas, opportunities and people.  It abides in a feeling there is never enough to go around, and we must compete, suck it up, and live a life of compromise if we are to survive.  It thinks we must stick to doing our duty, live in obligations, always work hard, struggle to survive, and not think too big just so we don't upset others.  It's in this very uncreative approach to life that people escape from their true power and get to be irresponsible for their real life purpose which is to know themselves. 
Poverty thinking is the one disease that can completely destroy the great potential of love and joy our life contains.  People continue living in their comfort zone or choosing to play small, helpless, lazy, abandoned, unloved and unwanted because there's nothing they can do about it and it is their "destiny".  It's actually a very selfish self absorbed way to live, never considering how to help out others, and thinking only of ourselves and how our desires, wants and needs are not quite fully met.  Poverty consciousness is perhaps the most unconscious, self destructive and addictive pattern that people have which will ruin their chances at enjoying their life. 
The poverty mindset can be brilliant in the way that it will rationalize things, thinking that by consuming fewer resources we are thus helping the world out and saving our planet.  By spending less money we become wealthier and less dependant on money or the world for our survival.  Of course, there is a grain of truth in everything, and the best path is to create a world of total sustainability within a conscious loving lifestyle. 
Yet the intention of holding back out of fear and not fully honoring our true power is the greatest loss of all.  If we are constantly holding tight onto money, we are creating struggle and strive within ourselves and always feeling that we don't have enough. This manifests in many forms, one will show up as our inability to contribute our full unlimited unbounded joy into our community. We cannot show up for a wild free abundant loving life purpose if we are holding tight onto anything and living in fear on any level. 
The feeling of being poor is so terrifying for some people that every thought and action becomes about avoiding that experience. Many people in this world choose to become insanely rich based out of their deepest fear of being broke.  This avoidance however morphs into another type of poverty consciousness, as it never allows the mind to relax and rest into its divine original nature.  Any type of non-relaxed fear based thinking is going to have a feeling of poverty connected to it on some level.  Be aware that poverty consciousness is a very sneaky beast and it can show up in our life in a large variety of forms.  It may be as obvious as feeling we don't have enough money to pay our rent each month, the paranoia that someone may rip we off, the idea that there is only one soul mate in the world for us, or the idea that we have to eat everything on our dinner plate, even if we are not hungry.  Just know that if any thought is formed out of fear, it is based in some level of poverty thinking.
The first step to giving up poverty consciousness is to find out exactly where it is showing up in our life and in our thinking.  It is only through the awareness of these negative thoughts that we can liberate our mind from repeating them.  The moment a limiting thought flows through the brain we must step back from it, see it from a distance, and don't emotionally buy into the story that accompanies it.  When we are able to identify exactly where, when and how we emotionally fall into our poverty stricken belief system, then we have a chance at moving beyond it.   Yet, we must keep a very close watchful eye on poverty thinking if we are ever going to get beyond it.  When we can see how we justify being stuck, poor, or happily struggling then we shall be able to find a way to invent a new story about how good it feels to no longer live in a world filled with excuses. 
People often tell themselves that its easier to remain stuck in just having enough to survive, than to own up to the fact that they are a super powerful manifesting being who can have anything they desire.  If they owned that empowering thought, it would either mean their whole life was some sort of failure or they were a completely stupid and ignorant person.  So people make up all sorts of wonderful "feel good" stories about their poverty, saying that it is more holy to be poor, or it’s not ok to take "too much" and this takes up their energy for remembering we have an infinite supply of creativity, love, energy and consciousness available.  These are the ingredients which actually create money! 
 Living in poverty consciousness is living a lie, based in deep denial to knowing the magical manifesting potential energy inside us.  The consequences for continuing to believe in such a deep misunderstanding are the experiences of struggle, pain, desperation, and lack.  The more money we feel we don't have the more busy we become to fulfill this need.  Poverty thinking creates an energetic distraction from knowing our intimate connection with the source. The mind is obsessed with being right, and for it to admit how its choosing each day to remain stuck manifesting more poverty stricken situations, would completely destroy it.
No matter how rich or poor we are the ego/mind will be addicted to wanting more.  It will always tell us that we need more and no matter how hard we try, we can never completely satisfy the demanding desiring ego. Its purpose is wanting, wanting, wanting and wanting more wanting!  This incessant wanting creates the feeling of poverty.  So it is important to remember that our ego is not designed to know what true satisfaction is, this is the purpose of the soul and discovering our spiritual nature.  The mind doesn't have the time to be curious about this divinity inside us.  It wants us to believe it is a lie, and that we need more stuff if we ever want to be happy. This lie that more things equals a better life is very deep, and if accepted over time it may cause us to lose sight of our source of true happiness, which is in our life purpose and spiritual nature.
To completely break away from poverty consciousness, we simply have to commit our life to a new way of being.  We have to totally retrain our brain to believe that anything is possible.   Perhaps the most hidden secret to living like kingsize is also the most powerful one which is this.  Ultimately, when we can truly relax into the core of our worst feelings of poverty, the peace found in that relaxation contains an unstoppable resource of abundance, love, healing and creativity inside it.  It is only through facing our fear that we can be released from it.  What happens this is we find a state of total emptiness inside that also contains our greatest fullness.  We do nothing and merge with everything. 
It comes down to dropping out of the head and into our heart, that we finally relax, and discover the natural state of abundance inside.  The heart contains the greatest freedom that is truly freeing and life enriching.  The feeling of great abundance naturally comes when we live from the heart and abide in feelings of gratitude that are already there. Check it out and see for ourselves!  Imagine what would our weakness be like if we lived from our heart, and only practiced gratitude for the life we already have?  It is first through accepting the idea that we are enough that can later manifest into the experience of having enough.  If we are thinking for one minute about what we don't have, it means we have missed 60 seconds of feeling loved, rich, and abundant about what we do have.
Poverty thinking is a cheap way of getting scraps of love, which ultimately end up costing everyone in the end. It can be very enticing to stay in as other people around us don't want to leave their habits, and thus will give us tons of extra sympathy when we're broke and struggling in the dirt with them. It is all about believing in the lie that we are not an all powerful manifesting being that creates all suffering.  This lie is the greatest sin one can ever make.  It is the original missed mark of mankind, and is causing us to miss out on the deep source of joy that is at the core of our being. We need to revamp our attitude and mould it towards becoming a rich person as to how we would deal with ourselves, others and judicious treatment of our resources without being jealous with other’s progress. We need to learn how the other one got success while we had the same set of circumstances around us. If we lack something, we must try to gain that and we will start living like kingsize soon.
This way, living like kingsize needs a change in attitude only. It does not need a person to arrange living accommodation like palaces, highly priced vehicles and/or other luxuries. We may start our brainstorming with problems that we are personally invested in. Building a business is hard as hell and takes the kind of relentless dedication that comes from personal passion. But we can do it. If we work hard, make balance between our resources and the heads of our expenses making priorities therein according to their utilities, we can live like kingsize even in our meager income.
One of my friends keeps 25% of his income reserved for savings and the rest 75% he uses for living expenses for which he has already made out the list having provision for the contingencies as well. The 25% savings are invested in fixed deposits. When that fixed deposit matures, he gets that renewed to the extent of 75% for another term of time and the surplus he spends lavishly to meet those needs he keeps pending in awaiting for the maturity of his fixed deposits.  This way, his savings are going up and with the 25% surplus after renewals, he enjoys the life like kingsize without borrowing from anyone. No tension, he lives like kingsize. We too can try this example but according to our own circumstances.

Be Happy – Live Like Kingsize.