“Live Like
Kingsize”, it is just a proverb. It has nothing to do with “King” as in the
present era of democracy, Kings are generally not there. We call a person to be
king if he spends lavishly on his needs, whether they are his basic needs or
they are his social needs. Kingsize means like a king. In old times, when there
were kings of the different states, they were stated to be spending as they
wished. Like today, there were no rules and regulations, no audits, no controls
etc. – they could spend anything for any cause. At that time, the subjects were
there to bear the burnt if the treasury got empty. Against the king’s whims,
nothing was to stay important.
Today, time has
changed. The monarchic
era has come to an end and we are living in the time of
democracy (with few exceptions). The head of the State is elected by the people
for a limited period. He/she works according to the laws already laid down with
permission to bring about the additions/modification to implement the policies
upon which he or she is elected. There are various forms of economic systems
being followed. Some countries follow capitalism in which the governments have
minimum control over business activities whereas some countries follow mixed
economy by having some controls. Some other countries control the financial
activities fully.
Living like
kingsize has better chances in capitalism and good chances in mixed economy. It
has positive notion to the extent that the people try to give up the usual
tensions and enjoy the life whenever they get an opportunity or some spare
time. A step ahead, those people who believe in this concept, make efforts to
get off the tensions at the earliest so that they are able to enjoy afterwards.
In other words, they endeavor to have spontaneous dedication to the task they
take up so that as early they finish, they will like to enjoy afterwards. Some
people do the work joyfully. Such people really live like kingsize.
Sometime, we
may feel frustrated with what is happening around us. We may feel that
everything is going wrong or at least, not as we wished for. We may feel that
our efforts are going waste, our energy and our time with our investment too.
But it is not the ultimate. We must not get stuck in hoping things will change
- instead get on with the business of being the change we wish to see unfold in
our life. Friend, we have got what it takes, but make no mistake; it has to
start with our decision to take action.
Everything has
its wonders, even darkness and silence. After every night, there is a day. At
the end of a tunnel, we usually find a ray of light. If for some reason, we
find ourselves to be in mid of many troubles, that does not mean that those
troubles will remain always there. Sometime, troubles make us aware of the
circumstances why they have come about, if they are there in result of our
wrong decisions and/or we have mismatched our resources with our targets.
Similarly,
poverty is a choice that we make everyday without our active knowledge.
It's the choice to be uncreative, feel limited in resources, thinking inside
the box, smaller than life, deeply powerless, incapable of receiving love, and
not believing that anything is possible. Poverty thinking is a disease
and an unconscious choice that is based in the ignorance of our true
power. This unawareness is the one deciding factor as to whether someone
continues to remain broke and struggling for another year, or starts to shift
their energy into receiving a new source of income next week.
The moment we
choose to believe in any poverty based thought, we start thinking more small,
limited and negative thoughts about life. It has a snowball affect to it,
where we begin to attract more limiting thoughts based in that
misunderstanding. When negative thinking becomes our habit, we begin to
invent thoughts that support our old poverty minded thoughts. The
repetitive cycle of poverty thinking is a social disease that festers and feeds
upon itself.
Every time we
identify with the poverty mindset in other person who thinks there is "not
enough", we slowly inherit and mirror their disease. By accepting
the limiting beliefs of others, we forget our original abundant nature, and
stop realizing who we really are, are all-powerful beings. The moment we
can understand the foundational lie that poverty is based upon, and take full
responsibility for the suffering we are creating through our choices, then we
can begin choosing a new path and acting from a new mindset to create a new
world.
It's good to
know that poverty thinking is not our original nature. Our real inherent nature
has no boundaries or limitations on what is possible and what isn't. This
original abundant mind is something we were born with, and is rooted in knowing
that we are all absolutely loved, free and totally abundant. Poverty
consciousness is a limiting mindset that was inherited by our community in
order to be accepted, fit in, and welcomed into the social norm. We often would
rather be accepted by others than seen as an outcast who is believing they are
bigger, better and richer. If our friends, family and community never had
any poverty thoughts on any level, we wouldn't have it either. We would
only know how to be creative in ways where we think anything is possible, and
know deep down that abundance was our birthright.
When I connect
with people who are struggling financially, I always find there is one thing
they have in common. They all continuously choose to support their old limiting
thoughts and negative beliefs around money. Rather than actually doing
something radically different and exciting to move through them, people live
and hide underneath their excuses. They become cowards to discovering
their real power, hiding behind their pride, rather than revealing and healing
their feelings of fear, self-judgment and financial intolerance. Each time
their mind unconsciously creates this pattern of choosing a desperate needy
response to life. The habit becomes so natural that they have to something very
radical to alleviate this perpetual addictive state of financial
frustration. They have to accept the fact that they are following their
old excuses, and now choosing to live a life that is continuously moving
through the fear.
The
impoverished mindset is one that continuously resists fear, controlling the
emotions and creating distractions so they do not have to feel their
fear. This type of controlling energy tends to say NO to life, denying
new ideas, opportunities and people. It abides in a feeling there is
never enough to go around, and we must compete, suck it up, and live a life of
compromise if we are to survive. It thinks we must stick to doing our
duty, live in obligations, always work hard, struggle to survive, and not think
too big just so we don't upset others. It's in this very uncreative
approach to life that people escape from their true power and get to be
irresponsible for their real life purpose which is to know themselves.
Poverty
thinking is the one disease that can completely destroy the great potential of
love and joy our life contains. People continue living in their comfort
zone or choosing to play small, helpless, lazy, abandoned, unloved and unwanted
because there's nothing they can do about it and it is their
"destiny". It's actually a very selfish self absorbed way to
live, never considering how to help out others, and thinking only of ourselves
and how our desires, wants and needs are not quite fully met. Poverty
consciousness is perhaps the most unconscious, self destructive and addictive
pattern that people have which will ruin their chances at enjoying their
life.
The poverty
mindset can be brilliant in the way that it will rationalize things, thinking
that by consuming fewer resources we are thus helping the world out and saving
our planet. By spending less money we become wealthier and less dependant
on money or the world for our survival. Of course, there is a grain of
truth in everything, and the best path is to create a world of total
sustainability within a conscious loving lifestyle.
Yet the intention
of holding back out of fear and not fully honoring our true power is the
greatest loss of all. If we are constantly holding tight onto money, we
are creating struggle and strive within ourselves and always feeling that we
don't have enough. This manifests in many forms, one will show up as our
inability to contribute our full unlimited unbounded joy into our community. We
cannot show up for a wild free abundant loving life purpose if we are holding
tight onto anything and living in fear on any level.
The feeling of
being poor is so terrifying for some people that every thought and action
becomes about avoiding that experience. Many people in this world choose to
become insanely rich based out of their deepest fear of being broke. This
avoidance however morphs into another type of poverty consciousness, as it
never allows the mind to relax and rest into its divine original nature.
Any type of non-relaxed fear based thinking is going to have a feeling of
poverty connected to it on some level. Be aware that poverty
consciousness is a very sneaky beast and it can show up in our life in a large
variety of forms. It may be as obvious as feeling we don't have enough
money to pay our rent each month, the paranoia that someone may rip we off, the
idea that there is only one soul mate in the world for us, or the idea that we
have to eat everything on our dinner plate, even if we are not hungry.
Just know that if any thought is formed out of fear, it is based in some level
of poverty thinking.
The first step
to giving up poverty consciousness is to find out exactly where it is showing
up in our life and in our thinking. It is only through the awareness of
these negative thoughts that we can liberate our mind from repeating
them. The moment a limiting thought flows through the brain we must step
back from it, see it from a distance, and don't emotionally buy into the story
that accompanies it. When we are able to identify exactly where, when and
how we emotionally fall into our poverty stricken belief system, then we have a
chance at moving beyond it. Yet, we must keep a very close watchful
eye on poverty thinking if we are ever going to get beyond it. When we
can see how we justify being stuck, poor, or happily struggling then we shall
be able to find a way to invent a new story about how good it feels to no
longer live in a world filled with excuses.
People often
tell themselves that its easier to remain stuck in just having enough to
survive, than to own up to the fact that they are a super powerful manifesting
being who can have anything they desire. If they owned that empowering
thought, it would either mean their whole life was some sort of failure or they
were a completely stupid and ignorant person. So people make up all sorts
of wonderful "feel good" stories about their poverty, saying that it
is more holy to be poor, or it’s not ok to take "too much" and this
takes up their energy for remembering we have an infinite supply of creativity,
love, energy and consciousness available. These are the ingredients which
actually create money!
Living in
poverty consciousness is living a lie, based in deep denial to knowing the
magical manifesting potential energy inside us. The consequences for
continuing to believe in such a deep misunderstanding are the experiences of
struggle, pain, desperation, and lack. The more money we feel we don't
have the more busy we become to fulfill this need. Poverty thinking
creates an energetic distraction from knowing our intimate connection with the
source. The mind is obsessed with being right, and for it to admit how its
choosing each day to remain stuck manifesting more poverty stricken situations,
would completely destroy it.
No matter how
rich or poor we are the ego/mind will be addicted to wanting more. It
will always tell us that we need more and no matter how hard we try, we can
never completely satisfy the demanding desiring ego. Its purpose is wanting,
wanting, wanting and wanting more wanting! This incessant wanting creates
the feeling of poverty. So it is important to remember that our ego is
not designed to know what true satisfaction is, this is the purpose of the soul
and discovering our spiritual nature. The mind doesn't have the time to
be curious about this divinity inside us. It wants us to believe it is a
lie, and that we need more stuff if we ever want to be happy. This lie that
more things equals a better life is very deep, and if accepted over time it may
cause us to lose sight of our source of true happiness, which is in our life
purpose and spiritual nature.
To completely
break away from poverty consciousness, we simply have to commit our life to a
new way of being. We have to totally retrain our brain to believe that
anything is possible. Perhaps the
most hidden secret to living like kingsize is also the most powerful one which
is this. Ultimately, when we can truly relax into the core of our worst
feelings of poverty, the peace found in that relaxation contains an unstoppable
resource of abundance, love, healing and creativity inside it. It is only
through facing our fear that we can be released from it. What happens
this is we find a state of total emptiness inside that also contains our
greatest fullness. We do nothing and merge with everything.
It comes down
to dropping out of the head and into our heart, that we finally relax, and
discover the natural state of abundance inside. The heart contains the
greatest freedom that is truly freeing and life enriching. The feeling of
great abundance naturally comes when we live from the heart and abide in
feelings of gratitude that are already there. Check it out and see for ourselves!
Imagine what would our weakness be like if we lived from our heart, and only
practiced gratitude for the life we already have? It is first through
accepting the idea that we are enough that can later manifest into the
experience of having enough. If we are thinking for one minute about
what we don't have, it means we have missed 60 seconds of feeling loved, rich,
and abundant about what we do have.
Poverty thinking
is a cheap way of getting scraps of love, which ultimately end up costing
everyone in the end. It can be very enticing to stay in as other people around us
don't want to leave their habits, and thus will give us tons of extra sympathy
when we're broke and struggling in the dirt with them. It is all about
believing in the lie that we are not an all powerful manifesting being that
creates all suffering. This lie is the greatest sin one can ever
make. It is the original missed mark of mankind, and is causing us to
miss out on the deep source of joy that is at the core of our being. We need
to revamp our attitude and mould it towards becoming a rich person as to how we
would deal with ourselves, others and judicious treatment of our resources
without being jealous with other’s progress. We need to learn how the other one
got success while we had the same set of circumstances around us. If we lack
something, we must try to gain that and we will start living like kingsize
soon.
This way, living
like kingsize needs a change in attitude only. It does not need a person to
arrange living accommodation like palaces, highly priced vehicles and/or other
luxuries. We may start our brainstorming with problems that we are personally
invested in. Building a business is hard as hell and takes the kind of
relentless dedication that comes from personal passion. But we can do it. If we
work hard, make balance between our resources and the heads of our expenses
making priorities therein according to their utilities, we can live like
kingsize even in our meager income.
One of my
friends keeps 25% of his income reserved for savings and the rest 75% he uses
for living expenses for which he has already made out the list having provision
for the contingencies as well. The 25% savings are invested in fixed deposits.
When that fixed deposit matures, he gets that renewed to the extent of 75% for
another term of time and the surplus he spends lavishly to meet those needs he
keeps pending in awaiting for the maturity of his fixed deposits. This way, his savings are going up and with
the 25% surplus after renewals, he enjoys the life like kingsize without
borrowing from anyone. No tension, he lives like kingsize. We too can try this
example but according to our own circumstances.
Be Happy – Live Like Kingsize.