God has created us very meticulously. He never wished us to be alone. In fact, if we study deeply our surroundings when we were in womb or when we were brought into this beautiful world, we won’t find ourselves alone. When we were conceived to take birth, our respected parents were there to care for and nurture us. In childhood, they looked after us so carefully that today, we can stand on our feet. When we grow up, we get companions to lead our lives. When time of our stay expires on this earth, we get out of our body to get another. The true Self is boundary-less; it is all-pervasive. In terms of existence there isn’t any boundary, but during our life time, we divide the existence at mind, body and speech levels into me, you and them.
You have got a relationship with body, senses, mind, intellect; these are so close, yet so far from the real-self, intertwined with one another and still separate. You cannot draw a line as to where the body ends and where the mind begins or mind ends and the Self begins. Whenever you say that it is your body, where are you? It means that you are separate from your body. The mind is a subtle form of matter and the body is the gross form of mind. Mind and matter are not different from one another. A quantum physicist would say that matter and energy are not two different entities. The source of matter is energy alone and matter keeps moving between matter and energy.
The mind is invisible but the body is visible. Our mind speaks that we are here. Our body does not do anything unless our mind commands. But usually, our identification and association with the body is so deep what we tend to see ourselves as body alone. What is reality? Reality is that Self isn’t just the sum total of body, mind, feelings, thoughts and consciousness. The ‘I’ we are associated with, is the illusionary ‘I’, the ‘I’ we know, has more to do with mind or body but our real ‘I’ remains obscure. What an irony that the ‘I’ doesn’t know the ‘I’!
Knowing oneself is the first step towards making good rapport not only with one’s own mind and body but also with the other. This other can be husband, wife, mother, father, brother or anyone. Once we have understood how our mind functions, and as we witness the rise and fall of emotions in mind, we are better equipped not to get carried away with these waves of mind.
To start with, you have to acknowledge your fallacies and begin to work with wisdom and study on them. There is no much of turmoil, confrontations in family and society because of the excess emotional baggage we carry. You have to learn to let go of it.
This you know very well that life gives us situations, not solutions. Solutions are always created by our wisdom. In most of the relationships we see around, the basic problem remains the same. “I am a pauper; the other is a pauper”. When I say pauper then I mean a person who is devoid of the sense of true Self. But we wish to be rich by joining hands with other paupers. Be sure that zero plus zero will remain zero.
You have to know this truth; Nothing; neither people nor things can make you rich, nobody can give hankering for appreciation, sympathy or love from others. Explore your inner core, your untapped energy source and rejoice in it. Love and respect your Self and everything will become an echo of the same vibes. Thank this body, this breath and life. Give thanks for every little joy which life brings to you and smile. And smile like you have never smiled before and delve deep within.
Soak your Self in goodness of this moment and let every day begin with it and end with it. Soon you will love this new way of living. When you are strong, vibrant and energetic, you will begin to function as a magnet and you will attract all good people towards you. People enjoy the company of those who enjoy their own company. When you are rich with true “knowing”, you become the real monarch.
You must realize that if you are alive, you will say that it is you who accomplished this and that. But after your soul departs from your present body, nobody will care for you as much as your near relatives may do but that too, to the extent of your funeral ceremony. You must remain alert. Why? The modern generation does not have sufficient time to follow your rules – they frame up for themselves. Let them do as the changed circumstances and globalization dictates something else which you might have not foreseen during your youth.
If you wish to enjoy your life, you must permit your dependents to do hard work and prosper at their end. You can say your children to seek any help if they require at any point of time – they may not ask but they would like to feel safe. You can motivate other persons who have got retirement from your active life. You may guide your juniors and seek advise from your seniors from time to time as their experience of life may teach you very valuable.
Be Happy – We are not alone.