Love can be
defined as an emotion of a strong affection and personal
attachment with someone. It is also a virtue representing all of human
kindness, compassion, and affection —“the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern
for the good of another”. Love may
describe actions towards others or oneself based on compassion or affection. If
it gets some consideration, that is only sacrifice without expecting any
return.
We refer love to a variety of different feelings,
states, and attitudes, ranging from pleasure (“I loved that meal") to
interpersonal attraction (“I love my partner”). "Love" may refer
specifically to the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love, to the
sexual love, to the emotional closeness of familial love, to the platonic love
that defines friendship, or to the profound oneness or devotion of religious
love, or to a concept of love that encompasses all of those feelings.
Love may be understood as part of the survival instinct, a function to keep
human beings together against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the
species.
You Can Continue Your Love Affairs while Working.
Love is an emotional offspring. You
can not dictate someone to love you or you can not be done with so. Sometime,
it happens that you see someone and find that he/she is so attractive that you
wish to talk, see closer and do not get bore if meeting time goes on
increasing. That person can be an outsider or one amongst your colleagues.
Luckily, if he/she is one amongst
your colleagues having working post just nearby to you, you may find that
understanding your mutual work lives can deepen your relationship. And instead
of rushing home each evening, you may be willing to work late, especially if
you can do it alongside your beloved. It can be beneficial even to your
employer if you devote your time more sincerely, side-by-side enjoying the company
of the person you love.
No doubt, having love affairs at
the work place do have merits and demerits as well. Be careful if your love
affairs go sour, there may no escape but a lot of disgust and loss of mental
peace affecting your productivity and perhaps, risk of shunting you off the job
as you may still have to see and interact with that person daily. A failed
workplace romance can also hurt your career and reputation.
If your love affairs remain sweet,
other people may view your well earned promotion or raise as favoritism. And
even if the relationship works out, it can be tough to work with your lover.
You may get sick of each other if due to work, your spouse is posted at some
more distance than earlier.
Whether you should or should not
invite someone at the office isn't always a clear-cut decision. It depends on
your situation and personality. But if you decide to make the leap, tread
carefully over these issues.
Before going ahead in love affairs within the
office, you must make sure that you can afford the brunt of failure also.
If you decide to go ahead in love
affairs by frequently meeting somebody in your office, you must not tell to any
other one or act in such a way that some other one is able to guess as he/she
would always be there to watch your proceeding ahead and make it news in the
office. From then on, the two of you will be under the microscope. It's even
dangerous if the two of you are peers. For example, if you're seen helping your
sweetie out with work, someone else who also needs your help may go to the boss
and complain you're playing favorites. Thereafter, the other people may start
to keep watch and apprise your Boss of the developments. Your boss will start
to see the productivity from your end and your beloved one’s end. If there is
some reduction, he can comment to make the relationship sour. At your end, if
it doesn't work out, you still have to face that person every day. You will
have to make sure that you can tolerate all the unsolicited comments from the
concerned and unconcerned persons.
You Need To Be Very Much Smart by not opening your
book in any stage before finally positive working out the relationship.
You should not expose your entire
life to become an open book. Before you ask the person you love for a drink,
you must ascertain that he/she isn't the type to share your innermost secrets
to any third person for any reason. Better, you should not disclose unless you
mature your relationship.
Love Affairs with a junior must not come to
limelight.
If due to some happening, you feel
love for a junior, try to ensure that your emotions do not come to limelight.
Your relationship can be misconstrued as a power play - "Attend me, or you
won't get that promotion." If you do not find yourself able to control
yourself, you must change the office/posting.
If some senior fellow is there, you
must handle the affairs very carefully. If things go beyond your control or
he/she misuses, you could get hit with a lawsuit for sexual harassment, even if
the relationship was mutual. Some companies require managers to report
workplace romances and both parties to sign an agreement stating they willingly
entered the relationship.
You must prefer for the work over the display of
your love within the corridors of office.
Good people keep workplace romances
a secret. But secrets can cause issues among coworkers. The key is to be
discreet. Don't hold closed-door meetings, don't make overt displays of
affection in the office and stay focused on work. You must prefer for the work
within the corridors of the office so that none can hit you for any fault.
It's important not to spend every
waking hour with your lover and your work. That's not good for any
relationship. You must make a separate line for both. Pursue other interests
together and individually. And make sure you have more in common than your
jobs.
You Must Be Honest with Your Prospective Partner.
Honesty is the best policy and even
in your love affairs, you must be honest with your prospective partner. It is
more important if your partner is working within your office. If you're only
looking for a quick fling, you shouldn't make long-term-relationship noises in
your efforts to seduce. That candor is always important, but especially so in
the workplace.
You Must Think Twice Before Starting a Relationship
with Your Boss.
In some workplaces, this is
strictly forbidden, but even if it is permissible, you must be alert. If later
on, you dump your boss, he/she may retaliate through every opportunity for
torturing you.
In fairness, sometimes a
relationship with a boss can yield special privileges, like a corner office.
Even if the boss decides to end the relationship, he may give you a promotion
or another perk to reduce the risk that you'll file a grievance. One study
found that 64 percent of women who had a romantic relationship with their boss
reported that, as a result, their work situation improved.
Love affairs with your senior are
also risky even if the relationship is working well. For example, your honey
begs you for a plum assignment that, from a business perspective, you believe
should go to someone else. But you feel forced to say yes to your special
friend. And if you break off the relationship, you're really in danger: Your
former beloved could claim you abused your power. You could end up losing your
job.
If You Decide to Go for It, Be Professional.
If you do decide to pursue a
work-related relationship, inform management, because chances are they already
know. If you keep it a secret and they find out, it can lead to distrust.
But keep work on priority. Don't
come in and set up camp at a table for six hours while your boyfriend is
working his shift. We can't mirror two schedules all the time because you would
like to work as a couple. Business needs must come first.
Love is as essential to the life as
the bread is. If you are not able to serve your emotions well, what are you
working for?
Prefer Love over Hatred.
God gave us two ears to hear, two
eyes to see and two hands to hold. But why did God give us only one heart?
Because he wants us to find the other one. You love someone not because you
need that person, you need that person because you love that person. In love,
the past is not important, but the present. Experience is more relevant than
the pain you went through. The only thing that will make it stronger is
forgiveness and not the retorting of sin. God is so good. He knows where a
person will be happy, where they can love and be loved, where heaven on earth
is.
No matter what words were used or
what meaning about love was delivered, love quotes were said and written out of
inspiration and to emphasize each person’s purpose for living…and that is to
give love. There are times when one must love even to the detriment of one's
"state" (so it would seem, anyway). There are times when one must
work oneself to the point of exhaustion for the sake of love. And there are times
when one must get involved in things that seem less than clean, less than
spiritual, in order to help the humanity. One must jump into the mud in order
to rescue those who are drowning in it. One must jump into the ocean of
ignorance, attachment, strange ideas and views, spiritual falsities, in order
to save people from these things.
Out of love God becomes man, and
takes on the incredible burden of ego, of illusion, of ignorance, in order to
save man from these. In the same way, it is important for man to hold the
well-being of all ABOVE "spiritual elevation." The kind of spiritual
elevation that seems to be in competition with true love and service and help
is not true spiritual elevation. Love is the truest spiritual state of man. It
is the closest to God, and the closest to Truth. This is not to say that one
should not take the time necessary to be with Him, to rejuvenate in prayer and
communion, this is essential -- just as food and friendship and air are essential
-- to the human soul.
One must have a balanced and wide
view of these things. Sometimes, when one is performing a task for the sake of
love and one begins to feel weary, tired, one's mind may even feel less
spiritualized and illuminated due to the tiredness that one feels. In that
case, there are two ways that people might tend to choose. One person may
heroically work on until falling over in need of rest. Another person may stop
immediately in order to rejuvenate, reconnect to God, etc. Either of these
choices may be appropriate, but most likely something more balanced is
appropriate. People should not feel as if their spirituality is so frail that
they are not able to persist in a task, or in the great task of world
salvation, to the extent that is truly needed. And also, one must maintain
one's connection to God, one's spiritual/emotional health. Therefore, it is
wise to take a moment, an hour, a day, or even more, to rejuvenate in His arms
when necessary.
There are times when it would be
wise to work until you fall over, for if you fall He will catch you. And, truth
be told, He is with you always. When you see the truth, you will know that He
is always with you, even AS you are working yourself to the bone. So, He does
not want to take away from the value of being willing to fall over in your efforts
to serve, to save, etc.
At the same time, there are times
when it is absolutely necessary and/or appropriate to take very regular breaks
to be with God. There are times when the super-abundance that this would create
is what is absolutely needed (for example, when a person needs a type of
healing from you, which would take a super-abundance of energy). And also,
there are times when a very HIGH refinement in one's way of thinking is also
absolutely needed for the task. People of the absolute HIGHEST enlightenment
may be able to maintain such a rarity and illumination of thought in any state,
but most of His followers cannot. Therefore, there are times when it is
appropriate to take regular breaks with God, long before you are anywhere near
the point of falling down.
You must evaluate these things with
this question: What does love require? What does this person, this world, this
group require? You must feel through things with this question in your hearts,
and turn to Him continually for guidance, for the answer to this question, and
you will find the right way to go in each specific case.
There is nothing so untrue TO YOU
as the lives that you are living. Your hearts are dissatisfied. You are so
dissatisfied with the values that you and others around you have. You
experience your relationships with others to be dis-satisfactory, because human
beings everywhere are choosing to follow the values that this world has to
offer, rather than loving wholeheartedly, passionately, with generosity and
integrity.
It is true that ordinary" in
the sense that you understand the word "ordinary." Love is greater
than anything that this world has to offer. What this world calls love, for the
most part, is not enough to keep any heart feeling alive and happy.
The point of your entire existence
is to love. Learn to love, transcend yourselves for the sake of love, for the
sake of others. That is the whole reason that you are here, to love. Many
people go through their whole lives pursuing other things. When they die they are
unfulfilled. No person can be fulfilled until they learn to truly love; to love
from the heart, without self-protection, without fear.
Love means that you are aware of
others around you, that you care about them from the depths of your heart, with
all the emotion and attention that you feel for yourself and your own life.
Love means that the spiritual and emotional well-being of others means
everything to you, and you will commit your being and your life to enriching
the lives of others; to uplifting their spirits; to reminding them of who they
are; to helping them let go of false ideas and fears, and to love.
This may seem out of reach, you may
be thinking, "That's far ahead of where I am. I'm just a beginner in the
spiritual path; I'm not a saint." You may then think that you are invalid.
You need to understand that you learn to love by loving. And since there is no
other purpose to being here, on this planet, you may as well start now.
It is true that love requires
learning to love. It is true, that you will have to go through many cycles of
learning what you are doing that is unloving, and adjusting to be more loving.
But you see, this is all part of the love itself: to learn; to adjust, to
transcend your limitations.
There may be many things that you do
now that you call love, but you will come to find out that they are not done
out of love, but out of fear, or self-protection, or self-interest. Love
requires that when you see that truth, you face it with courage, and adjust.
The ego requires that when you see that fact, you collapse, feel terribly
ashamed, and fail to make the adjustment; and fail to love, because you are too
busy feeling bad about yourself. Or else, ego will require you to deny the
errors you make, or become defensive. Either way, love will not be fulfilled.
Love will be fulfilled when you are
willing to be honest. Yes, this is one of the first requirements for love:
self-honesty. When you are self-honest it is because you hold something, or
someone, as being more important than defending your bad habits or negative
beliefs. When people are willing to look honestly at themselves it is almost
always for love's sake.
So, you must look around you, at
your beloved ones -- your friends, your family, whoever is most near to you --
and love them. Learn from them what you are doing that is unloving, either by
asking them, or by paying attention to their responses to what you are doing.
Learn to love them better. Commit yourselves to this task of loving, truly
loving.
And also, look at those whom you do
not consider your friends, and love them too, despite everything that causes
you to feel distant from them, or angry or unhappy with them. Love them despite
these things. See past their negative attributes and bad habits to the soul
that they are, and love that soul, and pray for their release from the bad
habits that have bothered you and hurt you for so long; for those bad habits
have hurt them, too. Your love must prevail upon your hate. Prefer love over
hatred.
Love is to see who people are, and
who God is -- who God REALLY is, and who people REALLY are -- and to love them.
Love is to see what everything really is, and to love everything, as it really
is. And also, love is to see what people are going through, and to care, and to
respond honestly, without letting self-protective or fearful feelings get in
the way.
This is love: to transcend oneself
for others. Love is to adjust for others. Love is to see others, and love them.
And by means of true love, others feel less and less like others. You come to
feel that every man and woman, and God, and the whole earth, is your own --
your own child, brother, sister. And then, further, you come to feel that these
ARE you; part of your own body, your own soul. Your desires are not separate
from those of God, or from the true heart's desires of others. When this comes
to be, you will have found inner peace, and there will no longer be any need
for struggle.
Sincere Love Can Accomplish Your Dreams.
Love is that type of emotion which
is related to a sense of strong affection and attachment with someone or self.
The word love can refer to different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging
from generic pleasure, as getting attracted to some specific meal due to taste
or aroma, to intense interpersonal attraction as happens between wife and
husband. This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of
the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define,
even compared to other emotional states. Its definition changes from time to
time in the different contexts.
We usually refer love to a deep,
ineffable feeling of tenderly caring for another person. Even this limited
conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from
the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional
closeness of familial and platonic love to the profound oneness or devotion of
religious love. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of
interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance,
is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.
Love is an essential matter for the
success of your emotional life. If you develop and nurture it properly, be sure
you can add up more than 16 years to your life span. That is why it needs
special consideration and for that you need to create conducive atmosphere to
develop. How to build up and nurture love in your life, there is a simple story
for those who mostly work on computers and forget the importance of this factor
in their life which I am putting up as I read somewhere. One computer-savy
wishes to install love in his life and asks for the guidance from technical
support expert. What they discuss is for your information and kind
consideration.
Customer: Do you give
technical guidance?
Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?
Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?
Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?
Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready, as long as you walk me through the steps. Tell me now, what do I do first?
Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?
Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?
Tech Support: Er… what programs are running, can you list them for me?
Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.
Tech Support: No problem, you can go right ahead. Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-esteem with a module of its own called High Self-esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Tell me, can you turn those off?
Customer: Umm… let me see. Actually, I don’t know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how? Please help.
Tech Support: With pleasure. It’s really quite simple. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.
Customer: Okay, done! Wow, Love has started i9nstalling itself. Is that normal?
Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. It’s quite basic. You need to begin connecting to other Hears in order to get the upgrades.
Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, ‘Error – Program not run on external components.’ What should I do now?
Tech Support: Don’t worry, relax. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.
Customer: So, what should I do?
Tech Support: Pull down Self-acceptance; then click in the following files: Forgive Self; Realize Your Worth; and acknowledge Your Limitations.
Customer: Okay, done. That wasn’t too difficult.
Tech Support: Now, copy them to the ‘My Heart’ directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also you need to delete Verbose Self-criticism from all directories and empty you Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.
Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?
Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?
Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?
Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready, as long as you walk me through the steps. Tell me now, what do I do first?
Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?
Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?
Tech Support: Er… what programs are running, can you list them for me?
Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.
Tech Support: No problem, you can go right ahead. Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-esteem with a module of its own called High Self-esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Tell me, can you turn those off?
Customer: Umm… let me see. Actually, I don’t know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how? Please help.
Tech Support: With pleasure. It’s really quite simple. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.
Customer: Okay, done! Wow, Love has started i9nstalling itself. Is that normal?
Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. It’s quite basic. You need to begin connecting to other Hears in order to get the upgrades.
Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, ‘Error – Program not run on external components.’ What should I do now?
Tech Support: Don’t worry, relax. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.
Customer: So, what should I do?
Tech Support: Pull down Self-acceptance; then click in the following files: Forgive Self; Realize Your Worth; and acknowledge Your Limitations.
Customer: Okay, done. That wasn’t too difficult.
Tech Support: Now, copy them to the ‘My Heart’ directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also you need to delete Verbose Self-criticism from all directories and empty you Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.
This way, I would like to emphasize
over the need of making love with yourself. I use the word “making” because for
others, we forget ourselves. That is why we may have to make extra efforts to
love ourselves. Our true nature is love itself. This is the only kind of love
that is real and everlasting. This love cannot be damaged, altered, threatened
or changed in any way. It pours out of us naturally when our mind is calm and
at ease, and it opens our heart to the God, flooding our body with absolute
elation.
Every day that we choose to do
those gentle and kind things to ourself, those things that bring deep peace
into our heart (such as watching a beautiful sunset, walking slowly in nature,
or holding a sleeping baby) we can feel this sweet divine love so easily. This
love wants to move through us. It yearns to course through our veins like an
eternal fountain of life. Rejuvenating every cell and molecule throughout
our system, this love brings pure healing into us on the deepest levels.
We can invoke this love right now by turning inside and
asking ourself, "where is the source of love"? Look with gentle
eyes, a childlike innocence and a permeating curiosity. Very soon we will
experience a warm feeling opening from inside. It is amazing how this
secret love is always permanently inside us, yet is often hidden behind the ego
walls and the busy ambitious mind. To break down these walls and reveal
the true source of love we must engage in a process of peeling back the layers
of limiting beliefs within us. It’s those beliefs that say this type of
crazy wild ecstatic love is impossible to have and is something we have to do
something to experience right now. The truth is we need to do nothing but
relax deeply inside and it will spring forth. This love is always here
now, forever inside us, and no matter what inhibitions and insecurities pass
through our mind. No matter how depressed, suicidal or down in the dumpsters we
feel, this sacred feeling is available and will bless us by instantly wiping
all our worried problems away.
Here's a simple exercise that will invoke this divine
love to come forth. We may gently bring our attention to the area of our
heart and imagine the most beautiful flower is there, and its opening its
petals to the warm sunshine above. The feeling we receive is what opens
the door to accessing the infinite source of love. Just how it sounds,
this eternal source of love is no small matter, it is the most amazing thing in
this Universe so we must respect it as that. It is what brings purpose to
our life and healing to all those wounds we carry inside. It’s like a
constantly pulsing Sun inside us, radiating warmth and gratitude in every
direction. It shines upon everything we see, touch and sense, and does
not discriminate at all what it shines upon. It radiates unconditional
acceptance, giving compassion and understanding to the darkest most demonic
energies we know of, which are in the deepest need of finding this infinite
source of light inside.
One of the most sacred secrets I've found to remaining
in the source of love is learning how to consistently reside in the soul of our
heart. What this means in living from a heart centered life that is
timeless, formless, always expansive, positive, and spacious. To find it
takes something very real and radical. We must continuously abandon all
concepts, judgments and ideas of ourself. We must drop who we are and who
we are not, and give all these ideas back to God. In the absence of these
ideas we are left with an emptiness that is so pure and fertile that only the
most sacred experience in the Universe can be born. Letting go of our
identity seems like a huge scary sacrifice at first, yet the reward we may
receive is so enormous that it will take our life far beyond anything we once
believed was possible. For it is at the very core of this empty vacuum of
identity that we will find the purest source of love, the eternal being who we
truly are.
No matter what is happening in our life we can detach,
retreat and discover this divine home inside us. This sacred spiritual nest is
more easily found when we commit yourself to places and people that make we
feel quiet, calm and peaceful inside. The people who hold this vibration will
take us there naturally, just by hanging out with them. Their commitment
to abiding in this healing vibration is contagious. As they talk, walk
and breathe in this healing source themselves, we can feel their connection and
naturally mimic this love alignment within ourselves. The more
surrendered, peaceful and still a person is, the more love they will be
naturally radiating. We are all here to help each other ascend to higher
levels of consciousness through love. In this process you'll find the depth
of your trust and surrender is equal to your level of devotion to
yourself.
In practical terms looking at our own life, how willing
are we to let go of our old patterns and excuses and give these up to
experience real love? How are we hiding our bright light from the
world? What excuses do we have for not fully living our life purpose and
doing what we really want to be doing with our time here? All this hiding
is a form of lying and is completely dis-empowering. Even the little white
lies that we may tell others and ourselves, these keep us small, stuck and
feeling stale. We have to acknowledge what lies we are telling (ask our
friends for feedback) and then summon the courage to let them go. We may replace
any lie we find with the truth, the real and most radical truth we can
find. From this place we become free and can truly ride with reckless
abandon on this wild eternal journey into the heart of love.
No matter what happens in our life, we may remember this
one thing. This sacred source of love is always here, inside us right
now and this will never ever change. This love inside us can never
die, and it won't even change with the different situations, careers, or
relationships that come and go through our life. If our heart still hurts
from losses in our past, we may bring these feelings and memories of loss into
the heart of love. This infinite source of love will readily accept them
and transform them with its bright unconditional light. Yes, the Sun is
always there shining its love on us even when it’s a dark cloudy day. We
may remember this, and look inside our very heart for the source of love.
It is always here now, ready for us to experience it all the time.
Be Happy – Love Yourself.
