Saturday, June 30, 2012

Be Happy – Love Yourself.

Love can be defined as an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment with someone. It is also a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —“the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. Love may describe actions towards others or oneself based on compassion or affection. If it gets some consideration, that is only sacrifice without expecting any return. 
We refer love to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from pleasure (“I loved that meal") to interpersonal attraction (“I love my partner”). "Love" may refer specifically to the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love, to the sexual love, to the emotional closeness of familial love, to the platonic love that defines friendship, or to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love, or to a concept of love that encompasses all of those feelings. Love may be understood as part of the survival instinct, a function to keep human beings together against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the species.

You Can Continue Your Love Affairs while Working.

Love is an emotional offspring. You can not dictate someone to love you or you can not be done with so. Sometime, it happens that you see someone and find that he/she is so attractive that you wish to talk, see closer and do not get bore if meeting time goes on increasing. That person can be an outsider or one amongst your colleagues.
Luckily, if he/she is one amongst your colleagues having working post just nearby to you, you may find that understanding your mutual work lives can deepen your relationship. And instead of rushing home each evening, you may be willing to work late, especially if you can do it alongside your beloved. It can be beneficial even to your employer if you devote your time more sincerely, side-by-side enjoying the company of the person you love.
No doubt, having love affairs at the work place do have merits and demerits as well. Be careful if your love affairs go sour, there may no escape but a lot of disgust and loss of mental peace affecting your productivity and perhaps, risk of shunting you off the job as you may still have to see and interact with that person daily. A failed workplace romance can also hurt your career and reputation.
If your love affairs remain sweet, other people may view your well earned promotion or raise as favoritism. And even if the relationship works out, it can be tough to work with your lover. You may get sick of each other if due to work, your spouse is posted at some more distance than earlier.
Whether you should or should not invite someone at the office isn't always a clear-cut decision. It depends on your situation and personality. But if you decide to make the leap, tread carefully over these issues.
Before going ahead in love affairs within the office, you must make sure that you can afford the brunt of failure also.
If you decide to go ahead in love affairs by frequently meeting somebody in your office, you must not tell to any other one or act in such a way that some other one is able to guess as he/she would always be there to watch your proceeding ahead and make it news in the office. From then on, the two of you will be under the microscope. It's even dangerous if the two of you are peers. For example, if you're seen helping your sweetie out with work, someone else who also needs your help may go to the boss and complain you're playing favorites. Thereafter, the other people may start to keep watch and apprise your Boss of the developments. Your boss will start to see the productivity from your end and your beloved one’s end. If there is some reduction, he can comment to make the relationship sour. At your end, if it doesn't work out, you still have to face that person every day. You will have to make sure that you can tolerate all the unsolicited comments from the concerned and unconcerned persons.
You Need To Be Very Much Smart by not opening your book in any stage before finally positive working out the relationship.
You should not expose your entire life to become an open book. Before you ask the person you love for a drink, you must ascertain that he/she isn't the type to share your innermost secrets to any third person for any reason. Better, you should not disclose unless you mature your relationship.
Love Affairs with a junior must not come to limelight.
If due to some happening, you feel love for a junior, try to ensure that your emotions do not come to limelight. Your relationship can be misconstrued as a power play - "Attend me, or you won't get that promotion." If you do not find yourself able to control yourself, you must change the office/posting.
If some senior fellow is there, you must handle the affairs very carefully. If things go beyond your control or he/she misuses, you could get hit with a lawsuit for sexual harassment, even if the relationship was mutual. Some companies require managers to report workplace romances and both parties to sign an agreement stating they willingly entered the relationship.
You must prefer for the work over the display of your love within the corridors of office.
Good people keep workplace romances a secret. But secrets can cause issues among coworkers. The key is to be discreet. Don't hold closed-door meetings, don't make overt displays of affection in the office and stay focused on work. You must prefer for the work within the corridors of the office so that none can hit you for any fault.
It's important not to spend every waking hour with your lover and your work. That's not good for any relationship. You must make a separate line for both. Pursue other interests together and individually. And make sure you have more in common than your jobs.
You Must Be Honest with Your Prospective Partner.
Honesty is the best policy and even in your love affairs, you must be honest with your prospective partner. It is more important if your partner is working within your office. If you're only looking for a quick fling, you shouldn't make long-term-relationship noises in your efforts to seduce. That candor is always important, but especially so in the workplace.
You Must Think Twice Before Starting a Relationship with Your Boss.
In some workplaces, this is strictly forbidden, but even if it is permissible, you must be alert. If later on, you dump your boss, he/she may retaliate through every opportunity for torturing you.
In fairness, sometimes a relationship with a boss can yield special privileges, like a corner office. Even if the boss decides to end the relationship, he may give you a promotion or another perk to reduce the risk that you'll file a grievance. One study found that 64 percent of women who had a romantic relationship with their boss reported that, as a result, their work situation improved.
Love affairs with your senior are also risky even if the relationship is working well. For example, your honey begs you for a plum assignment that, from a business perspective, you believe should go to someone else. But you feel forced to say yes to your special friend. And if you break off the relationship, you're really in danger: Your former beloved could claim you abused your power. You could end up losing your job.
If You Decide to Go for It, Be Professional.
If you do decide to pursue a work-related relationship, inform management, because chances are they already know. If you keep it a secret and they find out, it can lead to distrust.
But keep work on priority. Don't come in and set up camp at a table for six hours while your boyfriend is working his shift. We can't mirror two schedules all the time because you would like to work as a couple. Business needs must come first.
Love is as essential to the life as the bread is. If you are not able to serve your emotions well, what are you working for?
Prefer Love over Hatred.
God gave us two ears to hear, two eyes to see and two hands to hold. But why did God give us only one heart? Because he wants us to find the other one. You love someone not because you need that person, you need that person because you love that person. In love, the past is not important, but the present. Experience is more relevant than the pain you went through. The only thing that will make it stronger is forgiveness and not the retorting of sin. God is so good. He knows where a person will be happy, where they can love and be loved, where heaven on earth is.
No matter what words were used or what meaning about love was delivered, love quotes were said and written out of inspiration and to emphasize each person’s purpose for living…and that is to give love. There are times when one must love even to the detriment of one's "state" (so it would seem, anyway). There are times when one must work oneself to the point of exhaustion for the sake of love. And there are times when one must get involved in things that seem less than clean, less than spiritual, in order to help the humanity. One must jump into the mud in order to rescue those who are drowning in it. One must jump into the ocean of ignorance, attachment, strange ideas and views, spiritual falsities, in order to save people from these things.
Out of love God becomes man, and takes on the incredible burden of ego, of illusion, of ignorance, in order to save man from these. In the same way, it is important for man to hold the well-being of all ABOVE "spiritual elevation." The kind of spiritual elevation that seems to be in competition with true love and service and help is not true spiritual elevation. Love is the truest spiritual state of man. It is the closest to God, and the closest to Truth. This is not to say that one should not take the time necessary to be with Him, to rejuvenate in prayer and communion, this is essential -- just as food and friendship and air are essential -- to the human soul.
One must have a balanced and wide view of these things. Sometimes, when one is performing a task for the sake of love and one begins to feel weary, tired, one's mind may even feel less spiritualized and illuminated due to the tiredness that one feels. In that case, there are two ways that people might tend to choose. One person may heroically work on until falling over in need of rest. Another person may stop immediately in order to rejuvenate, reconnect to God, etc. Either of these choices may be appropriate, but most likely something more balanced is appropriate. People should not feel as if their spirituality is so frail that they are not able to persist in a task, or in the great task of world salvation, to the extent that is truly needed. And also, one must maintain one's connection to God, one's spiritual/emotional health. Therefore, it is wise to take a moment, an hour, a day, or even more, to rejuvenate in His arms when necessary.
There are times when it would be wise to work until you fall over, for if you fall He will catch you. And, truth be told, He is with you always. When you see the truth, you will know that He is always with you, even AS you are working yourself to the bone. So, He does not want to take away from the value of being willing to fall over in your efforts to serve, to save, etc.
At the same time, there are times when it is absolutely necessary and/or appropriate to take very regular breaks to be with God. There are times when the super-abundance that this would create is what is absolutely needed (for example, when a person needs a type of healing from you, which would take a super-abundance of energy). And also, there are times when a very HIGH refinement in one's way of thinking is also absolutely needed for the task. People of the absolute HIGHEST enlightenment may be able to maintain such a rarity and illumination of thought in any state, but most of His followers cannot. Therefore, there are times when it is appropriate to take regular breaks with God, long before you are anywhere near the point of falling down.
You must evaluate these things with this question: What does love require? What does this person, this world, this group require? You must feel through things with this question in your hearts, and turn to Him continually for guidance, for the answer to this question, and you will find the right way to go in each specific case.
There is nothing so untrue TO YOU as the lives that you are living. Your hearts are dissatisfied. You are so dissatisfied with the values that you and others around you have. You experience your relationships with others to be dis-satisfactory, because human beings everywhere are choosing to follow the values that this world has to offer, rather than loving wholeheartedly, passionately, with generosity and integrity.
It is true that ordinary" in the sense that you understand the word "ordinary." Love is greater than anything that this world has to offer. What this world calls love, for the most part, is not enough to keep any heart feeling alive and happy.
The point of your entire existence is to love. Learn to love, transcend yourselves for the sake of love, for the sake of others. That is the whole reason that you are here, to love. Many people go through their whole lives pursuing other things. When they die they are unfulfilled. No person can be fulfilled until they learn to truly love; to love from the heart, without self-protection, without fear.
Love means that you are aware of others around you, that you care about them from the depths of your heart, with all the emotion and attention that you feel for yourself and your own life. Love means that the spiritual and emotional well-being of others means everything to you, and you will commit your being and your life to enriching the lives of others; to uplifting their spirits; to reminding them of who they are; to helping them let go of false ideas and fears, and to love.
This may seem out of reach, you may be thinking, "That's far ahead of where I am. I'm just a beginner in the spiritual path; I'm not a saint." You may then think that you are invalid. You need to understand that you learn to love by loving. And since there is no other purpose to being here, on this planet, you may as well start now.
It is true that love requires learning to love. It is true, that you will have to go through many cycles of learning what you are doing that is unloving, and adjusting to be more loving. But you see, this is all part of the love itself: to learn; to adjust, to transcend your limitations.
There may be many things that you do now that you call love, but you will come to find out that they are not done out of love, but out of fear, or self-protection, or self-interest. Love requires that when you see that truth, you face it with courage, and adjust. The ego requires that when you see that fact, you collapse, feel terribly ashamed, and fail to make the adjustment; and fail to love, because you are too busy feeling bad about yourself. Or else, ego will require you to deny the errors you make, or become defensive. Either way, love will not be fulfilled.
Love will be fulfilled when you are willing to be honest. Yes, this is one of the first requirements for love: self-honesty. When you are self-honest it is because you hold something, or someone, as being more important than defending your bad habits or negative beliefs. When people are willing to look honestly at themselves it is almost always for love's sake.
So, you must look around you, at your beloved ones -- your friends, your family, whoever is most near to you -- and love them. Learn from them what you are doing that is unloving, either by asking them, or by paying attention to their responses to what you are doing. Learn to love them better. Commit yourselves to this task of loving, truly loving.
And also, look at those whom you do not consider your friends, and love them too, despite everything that causes you to feel distant from them, or angry or unhappy with them. Love them despite these things. See past their negative attributes and bad habits to the soul that they are, and love that soul, and pray for their release from the bad habits that have bothered you and hurt you for so long; for those bad habits have hurt them, too. Your love must prevail upon your hate. Prefer love over hatred.
Love is to see who people are, and who God is -- who God REALLY is, and who people REALLY are -- and to love them. Love is to see what everything really is, and to love everything, as it really is. And also, love is to see what people are going through, and to care, and to respond honestly, without letting self-protective or fearful feelings get in the way.
This is love: to transcend oneself for others. Love is to adjust for others. Love is to see others, and love them. And by means of true love, others feel less and less like others. You come to feel that every man and woman, and God, and the whole earth, is your own -- your own child, brother, sister. And then, further, you come to feel that these ARE you; part of your own body, your own soul. Your desires are not separate from those of God, or from the true heart's desires of others. When this comes to be, you will have found inner peace, and there will no longer be any need for struggle.
Sincere Love Can Accomplish Your Dreams.
Love is that type of emotion which is related to a sense of strong affection and attachment with someone or self. The word love can refer to different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure, as getting attracted to some specific meal due to taste or aroma, to intense interpersonal attraction as happens between wife and husband. This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states. Its definition changes from time to time in the different contexts.
We usually refer love to a deep, ineffable feeling of tenderly caring for another person. Even this limited conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and platonic love to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.
Love is an essential matter for the success of your emotional life. If you develop and nurture it properly, be sure you can add up more than 16 years to your life span. That is why it needs special consideration and for that you need to create conducive atmosphere to develop. How to build up and nurture love in your life, there is a simple story for those who mostly work on computers and forget the importance of this factor in their life which I am putting up as I read somewhere. One computer-savy wishes to install love in his life and asks for the guidance from technical support expert. What they discuss is for your information and kind consideration.
Customer: Do you give technical guidance?
Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?

Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?
Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready, as long as you walk me through the steps. Tell me now, what do I do first?
Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?
Tech Support: Er… what programs are running, can you list them for me?

Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.
Tech Support: No problem, you can go right ahead. Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-esteem with a module of its own called High Self-esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Tell me, can you turn those off?

Customer: Umm… let me see. Actually, I don’t know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how? Please help.
Tech Support: With pleasure. It’s really quite simple. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, done! Wow, Love has started i9nstalling itself. Is that normal?
Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. It’s quite basic. You need to begin connecting to other Hears in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, ‘Error – Program not run on external components.’ What should I do now?
Tech Support: Don’t worry, relax. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer: So, what should I do?
Tech Support: Pull down Self-acceptance; then click in the following files: Forgive Self; Realize Your Worth; and acknowledge Your Limitations.

Customer: Okay, done. That wasn’t too difficult.
Tech Support: Now, copy them to the ‘My Heart’ directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also you need to delete Verbose Self-criticism from all directories and empty you Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.
This way, I would like to emphasize over the need of making love with yourself. I use the word “making” because for others, we forget ourselves. That is why we may have to make extra efforts to love ourselves. Our true nature is love itself. This is the only kind of love that is real and everlasting. This love cannot be damaged, altered, threatened or changed in any way. It pours out of us naturally when our mind is calm and at ease, and it opens our heart to the God, flooding our body with absolute elation. 
Every day that we choose to do those gentle and kind things to ourself, those things that bring deep peace into our heart (such as watching a beautiful sunset, walking slowly in nature, or holding a sleeping baby) we can feel this sweet divine love so easily. This love wants to move through us. It yearns to course through our veins like an eternal fountain of life.  Rejuvenating every cell and molecule throughout our system, this love brings pure healing into us on the deepest levels.
We can invoke this love right now by turning inside and asking ourself, "where is the source of love"?  Look with gentle eyes, a childlike innocence and a permeating curiosity.  Very soon we will experience a warm feeling opening from inside.  It is amazing how this secret love is always permanently inside us, yet is often hidden behind the ego walls and the busy ambitious mind.  To break down these walls and reveal the true source of love we must engage in a process of peeling back the layers of limiting beliefs within us.  It’s those beliefs that say this type of crazy wild ecstatic love is impossible to have and is something we have to do something to experience right now.  The truth is we need to do nothing but relax deeply inside and it will spring forth.  This love is always here now, forever inside us, and no matter what inhibitions and insecurities pass through our mind. No matter how depressed, suicidal or down in the dumpsters we feel, this sacred feeling is available and will bless us by instantly wiping all our worried problems away.
Here's a simple exercise that will invoke this divine love to come forth.  We may gently bring our attention to the area of our heart and imagine the most beautiful flower is there, and its opening its petals to the warm sunshine above.  The feeling we receive is what opens the door to accessing the infinite source of love.  Just how it sounds, this eternal source of love is no small matter, it is the most amazing thing in this Universe so we must respect it as that.  It is what brings purpose to our life and healing to all those wounds we carry inside.  It’s like a constantly pulsing Sun inside us, radiating warmth and gratitude in every direction.  It shines upon everything we see, touch and sense, and does not discriminate at all what it shines upon.  It radiates unconditional acceptance, giving compassion and understanding to the darkest most demonic energies we know of, which are in the deepest need of finding this infinite source of light inside.
One of the most sacred secrets I've found to remaining in the source of love is learning how to consistently reside in the soul of our heart.  What this means in living from a heart centered life that is timeless, formless, always expansive, positive, and spacious.  To find it takes something very real and radical.  We must continuously abandon all concepts, judgments and ideas of ourself.  We must drop who we are and who we are not, and give all these ideas back to God.  In the absence of these ideas we are left with an emptiness that is so pure and fertile that only the most sacred experience in the Universe can be born.  Letting go of our identity seems like a huge scary sacrifice at first, yet the reward we may receive is so enormous that it will take our life far beyond anything we once believed was possible. For it is at the very core of this empty vacuum of identity that we will find the purest source of love, the eternal being who we truly are. 
No matter what is happening in our life we can detach, retreat and discover this divine home inside us. This sacred spiritual nest is more easily found when we commit yourself to places and people that make we feel quiet, calm and peaceful inside. The people who hold this vibration will take us there naturally, just by hanging out with them.  Their commitment to abiding in this healing vibration is contagious.  As they talk, walk and breathe in this healing source themselves, we can feel their connection and naturally mimic this love alignment within ourselves.  The more surrendered, peaceful and still a person is, the more love they will be naturally radiating.  We are all here to help each other ascend to higher levels of consciousness through love.  In this process you'll find the depth of your trust and surrender is equal to your level of devotion to yourself. 
In practical terms looking at our own life, how willing are we to let go of our old patterns and excuses and give these up to experience real love?  How are we hiding our bright light from the world?  What excuses do we have for not fully living our life purpose and doing what we really want to be doing with our time here?  All this hiding is a form of lying and is completely dis-empowering.  Even the little white lies that we may tell others and ourselves, these keep us small, stuck and feeling stale.  We have to acknowledge what lies we are telling (ask our friends for feedback) and then summon the courage to let them go. We may replace any lie we find with the truth, the real and most radical truth we can find.  From this place we become free and can truly ride with reckless abandon on this wild eternal journey into the heart of love. 
No matter what happens in our life, we may remember this one thing.  This sacred source of love is always here, inside us right now and this will never ever change.  This love inside us can never die, and it won't even change with the different situations, careers, or relationships that come and go through our life.  If our heart still hurts from losses in our past, we may bring these feelings and memories of loss into the heart of love.  This infinite source of love will readily accept them and transform them with its bright unconditional light.  Yes, the Sun is always there shining its love on us even when it’s a dark cloudy day. We may remember this, and look inside our very heart for the source of love.  It is always here now, ready for us to experience it all the time.
Be Happy – Love Yourself.

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