Bonds of Friendship

It’s a compilation of the messages I received from time to time from my friends in their messages, to reiterate their bonds:

"Friends are like Peanut Butter ... it sticks to the roof of your mouth, like a friend, stick to you.... and it feels as if they never go away.!"

"True friendship, unlike love, always lasts forever."

Sent by Chatterbox

"To the world you are someone, but to someone, you are the world."

Sent by Lisa

"A friend will be there for you when things are good...but a TRUE friend will be there for you when things are good and also when things are very bad...and just when it feels like you will never smile again...she can put a smile on your face with just with a hug!"

Sent by Kathrine

"A real friend is not one who only entertains you, but one who cares about you, one who will be there when you cry"

Sent by David

"Best friends are better than boyfriends."

- Sent by Mavis Jukes

"As I reach a time of complete uncertainty, friends are my most precious asset."

Sent by Joslyn

"There is no distance too great between friends, for love gives wings to the heart."

Sent by Elizabeth E. Koehler

"Where there is love there is life."

"A friend will strengthen you with her prayers, bless you with her love, and encourage you with her hope."

" I'd like to be the sort of friend that you have been to me. . . I'd like to be the help you've always been glad to be; I'd like to mean as much to you each minute of the day, as you have meant, an old friend of mine, to me along the way."

Sent by Jenny Mcgehee

"A friend is like a rainbow. They brighten your life when you've been through a storm."

Sent by Jenna Palmer

"A friend in kindergarten is the one who sat next to you and let you have the pretty red crayon when only the ugly black one was left."

Sent by Liz

"True friendship lasts even though one friend's sole has left this earth"

Sent by Jennifer

"A reassuring presence, A LIGHT when times are dark, A hand reaching out, Is what friendship is about."

Author Unknown - Sent by Laure Schnackenberg

"We always thought we'd look back on our tears and laugh, but we never thought we'd look back on our laughter and cry."

-Author Unkown, submitted by Amanda

When I'm asked what one happy thought is I always say knowing that no matter how big the fight is I will always have a best friend.

- Smitten_Kitten

"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow~ don't walk behind me I may not lead~ just walk beside me and be my friend."

"Love is blind, but friendship closes its eyes."

"I believe in Angels, the ones that heaven sends

I believe in Angels, but I call them my best friends"

-Sent in by Micaela K

"Friendship is like a popsicle on two sticks, when the friendship breaks, so do the popsicle, making everything a mess"

-Sent in by Paul

 

Be Happy – Socialize Yourself.

Human Beings are social animals. We mean that as per our nature developed from the primitive stage to day, we like to live in society. Civilization took further steps and our need towards materialism grew up. We know that when a lion gets hungry, he searches out some animal and when he gets his food, he goes to take rest. He does not care for the future that for tomorrow, he may hunt for some more animals and put them into his refrigerator for the use tomorrow. But as human beings, we try to arrange for our next generations. This gathering attitude makes us so mad and unethical that we are not able to think that what we are doing exceedingly, may eat up others’ genuine share. Our forefathers did not do so. They had Vasudaiva Kutumbakam’ as concept of their living.

Actually, Vasudaiva Kutumbakam  was ingrained in the way of  their method of living,  as an integral part of their culture. Their vision encompassed the whole humanity as one’s own part. There was no place for exploitation of natural resources, in fact animals and plants and even rivers and mountains were venerated. Their actions were seeped in a concern for ‘universal welfare’. Their interactions with alternate beliefs, faiths and even civilizations reflected tolerance and pluralism.

When sects like Buddhism, Jainism and Sikhism emerged as reformist movements, even though as rebellion to what their propagandists considered wrong in the society, they had the freedom and space to grow. They had the knowledge of the eternal truth, the truth of the wholeness of universe. They knew it was a oneness and a perceived separateness from this oneness as an individual identity was a matter of awareness. Thus any action at any point in this oneness would affect the whole. The whole is aware what happens at any point in the universe and a response is triggered to every action.

Scientific researches of modern day confirm their knowledge of oneness of universe. Non locality is if you take two quantum particles that were twins and separate them billions of miles apart, and then do something to one particle here, the other particle billions of light years away will “immediately” come to know about what you did to that one particle here!! This quantum property has been confirmed by experiments. In fact, “all” particles in this universe are twins, in the sense they all can be traced back to a common ancestral origin. In other words, what happens to every particle should become known to every other particle in this universe! So the whole universe is “interconnected”?!’

It was this knowledge thousands of years ago that made our forefathers proclaimed ‘Vasudaiva Kutumbakam’ – ‘the world is one family’. Present day drivers of globalization can take cue from this knowledge. Though we have divided ourselves into political units – it is India, that is Pakistan, that is China, that is US, UK and so on. But if we see deeply, we understand that the people living in the different parts of our great earth are linked to each other in some definite terms. But our vested interests make us divided. Some of our groups fight with others just to gain some superiority or snatch away some of the holdings the other groups have. Why? You too can have. God has gifted you the same physique what the others have. You need to sharpen yourself and have genuine claim. No, materialism has made us blind. We fight with each other, but we forget what will happen if in the process itself, we take our last breath and everything for which we are fighting for will be left here.

With our efforts to gather, we have been busy so much that sometime we forget our duties towards our nears. Even our neighbors are not able to recognize us if we meet somewhere else instead of our own doorsteps. At the time of emergency, we do not get cooperation because at their time of emergency, we were busy in meeting our own schedules. Mostly, now-a-days, the society tends to work on reciprocal terms. Some people still believe in donating some part of their income to the charity, whatever be the reason of doing so – whether that is under religious dictates or surplus illegal amount to be converted into legal amount, such charities help needy people. It does not bring about eternal peace of mind. We need to purify the process.

A little socialization process of ourselves can make wonders in our lives. How? Through our frequent meetings with other persons can make us acquainted with their nature, changing environment and reconciling with them identifying their needs and putting forth your helping hands if they ever need. None is independent in the society – for some of the needs, everyone has to look on the other. If you have a lot of money, your money alone can not gather everything if you do not have contact with the producers of the materials you need. What will happen if you slip somewhere and there is none known to you to lift you up? Your moneybag will not lift you up if there is no helping hand. Undoubtedly, you are able to have helping hands around you, with your money but for how long so purchased hands may help you if they are lured by your enemies with better price? You need to win their hearts too and that is possible if you socialize yourself.

Become a part of your society, interact with others very frequently, very politely and with wish to help them out if ever they need graciously. One day, you may get better results if any emergency you face in your life.

Be Happy – Socialize Yourself.

Be Happy – You Must Have Proper Body Language With Your Friend.

When interacting with somebody you are acquainted with, you must learn how to make a good impression. Your body language would speak much louder compared to the words you are saying. It is essential to be careful of one's actions towards another, since this may either strengthen the bond or ruin it due to offensive, rude manners and gestures.

Personal Space

Everyone of us has his own personal space. We must respect each one's personal space, otherwise it is an invasion of privacy. A person usually has a large personal space when around a person she does not know, but it will get smaller once he will get to know that person.

Greet With A Handshake

A handshake is always a nice way of greeting, whether in formal or casual circumstances. Show confidence and interest in the one you are greeting with a firm handshake. In shaking hands, it is important to make an eye contact and accompany it with a slight sincere smile. Make sure your hand is pointing downwards, since pointing the hand upward may indicate awkwardness and hesitation. See to it also that your palm will come in contact with the palm of the other person.

A handshake is also a safe method of greeting somebody. Some countries find other forms of greeting awkward and unacceptable, such as kissing and hugging.

Gestures To Avoid

You must avoid gestures that might offend the other party. Avoid rude hand and arms gestures such as placing your hands into the pocket or on the waist, crossing the arms across your chest, drumming your fingers, tapping your hand or foot, fidgeting with objects, inspecting your fingernails, and propping your chin onto your hands.

Also avoid turning or leaning your body away from the person. It shows that you are very eager to get out of the situation you are in. Watch your posture as well. Avoid slouching or a sluggish posture. It is interpreted as lack of interest or boredom.

As much as possible, you should not break the eye contact and look at other objects or people. This is a sign indicating that you are distracted or your attention is already somewhere else.

Show Interest

You should show the other person that you are interested in your interaction or conversation by showing signs that you are a good listener. Maintain eye contact to show that your focus of attention is on that person and in your conversation. Lean towards him and nod your head from time to time.

Be Sensitive To His Body Language Too

In interacting with another person, you should observe his or her actions as well. He may be oblivious to his body movements, but he may be telling you that it is time to end the conversation. These are the kinds of people who find it rude to be the first one to end the conversation. Thus be sensitive when you are with other people; they might already be bored or annoyed.

Culture: An Important Factor

You should consider also the culture of the person you are conversing with. There are countries with a very conservative culture, especially those in Asia. They may be very sensitive to the gestures you perform. Even if you do not intend showing rudeness to other people, you still have to be cautious of your actions.

Be Happy – You Must Have Proper Body Language With Your Friend.