Saturday, December 12, 2009

Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 99)

We are near the close of the year 2009. That time of the year has come when you may like to evaluate your progress and gear up to start fresh on your goals in the next year. During your process of taking account what you have so far achieved against the goals set by you for the current year, it might be possible that many of you may not be satisfied with the achievements. Some of you might have made no more progress than you had in previous years, simply because you did not change your self-destructive thought patterns. Those who have achieved and exceeded their targets may also be feeling some disappointment, after reviewing, to ascertain if they could have done better and why they did not care for sufficiently.

If you are doing such assessment sincerely, it is an appreciable attempt. It gives you an opportunity to take stock of your caliber and improve it further. You can set resolutions for the New Year – some can be renewal of those which had been within your focus during the current year and some of them can be your steps ahead of what you achieved so far.

You can adopt some simple strategies to align energetically with your New Year resolutions and achieve them easily. Just it is very much depending upon your determination.

Every year at its close, you start to think about the changes you want to make, conceive a genius plan that will change your life forever, and wait eagerly for January 1st to arrive. When the clock strikes midnight on December 31st, it’s full steam ahead! You’re off to a great start and confidently begin taking the steps you know will lead directly to Accomplish Your Dreams!

You will start your working too accordingly. Sometime later, maybe even a month later, you may begin losing steam. In the beginning, it may be small things, like encountering a few minor obstacles or struggling to stay motivated about working on your goals; but before you know it, you find yourself feeling stuck, tired, angry, frustrated and wondering what you were thinking why you set these stupid goals anyway. Eventually, you will give up and vow to do better next year – but the following year, you would just repeat the same cycle all over again – it happens with many of us.

Generally, you may face one or more amongst common problems while pursuing your goals. One amongst these common problems can be as follows, with helpful remedy for working through them effectively.

But you should attempt upon by getting yourself energetically aligned with it first! Action alone is not enough – you’ve probably learned that from your previous unrealized resolutions. Get ready to see your New Year Resolutions in a whole new way – and achieve more than you ever believed possible before.

Identify What Exactly You Wish

One of the biggest mistakes people make when setting New Year Resolutions is that they don’t first get clear idea about what they REALLY want, and more importantly, WHY they want it.

Do you know what you want - really? Don’t be tempted to skip over this section because you think you already know what you want. Think about this for a moment:

How many times have you achieved a goal and then quickly realized that you weren’t satisfied with it? Such an experience can be confusing, to say the least! You wonder how you could have chosen a goal that now seems not to matter at all to you. Or you point to one tiny negative aspect of the outcome and say, “Well, if it wasn’t for that, I’d be satisfied. It just didn’t turn out like I hoped, that’s all.”

But that’s not usually what’s happening in this type of situation. Rather, you may have set a goal based on the surface circumstances that you believed would make you feel happy, rather than focusing on the underlying ESSENCE of what you really wanted.

For example, let’s say that one of your goals was to work less so you have more time to enjoy life. You manage to rearrange your schedule so you have more time to yourself, but within a few weeks you start feeling bored and restless. You decide that freedom is overrated and eagerly bury yourself in work again – but you still feel dissatisfied and yearn for something more.

What happened with this goal? There are numerous possibilities, but most likely you were craving something else, not just “freedom” – but you never connected with exactly what you wanted.

Perhaps you were actually craving creative expression, which you could have satisfied by setting aside a few hours a week to explore your artistic side. Maybe you actually desired a deeper spiritual connection, which you could have achieved through daily meditation or journaling.

Every goal you set will have a deeper desire stemming from it. But that deeper desire can not be achieved smoothly unless you know what it is.

The Remedy:

Rather than focusing on the external situation or circumstances you are trying to create with your New Year Resolution, focus on the underlying FEELING you want to experience.

Whenever you set a goal, your immediate question should be, “Why do I want this?” Don’t allow yourself to give a pat answer like, “It will make me happy.” WHY will it make you happy? What feelings will these new circumstances or experiences provide for you? Why are these feelings important to you? What deeper needs will they satisfy?

You may be surprised by what comes up when you start asking questions like this. You’ll become aware of needs you didn’t even know you had. But that’s a good thing, because only by knowing what you truly want can you tune into it and attract it.

Another side benefit is that by being clear on what you want, you may discover much easier and quicker ways to get it, maybe by making some small changes instead of tackling huge goals that will take years to achieve. Sometimes we can’t see the forest for the trees and end up making things much harder than they need to be.

When you tune into the essence of what you want and stay focused on it, you will be able to lead yourself to the easiest, fastest, simplest methods and opportunities to help you achieve it. That beats long, complex, difficult plans that you would have created yourself.

Be Happy – Accomplish Your Dreams by identifying what exactly you dream for.

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