Be happy – Accomplish Your Dreams (Part 102)

Whenever we conceive a dream and take action to accomplish that, we feel certain that after accomplishing that dream, we would become a different person, different in the sense that we have achieved something which was earlier in the conception stage. Now, we can take action on something else. Most of the time, this all happens externally only. We do not make up ourselves internally for that advancement and accordingly find ourselves unable to enjoy our achievements fully and share our pleasure with others. We must prepare ourselves internally also.

Do the Inner Work First

We typically think of goal-achievement as an external process only. We are here at Point A, and we want to move to Point B. While we do indeed make external changes, we also need to remember that we would become a different person after the achievement of our goals. Therefore, we will undergo an internal adjustment even as we’re making external transitions.

You can’t achieve anything outwardly until you get aligned with it within – which means steadily becoming the person who will have the outer circumstances you want. How can this happen?

If you don’t prepare yourself for the new circumstances you’re trying to create, you won’t be mentally and emotionally ready to handle them. Let’s use an example to expand on this idea.

Imagine that your goal is to lose 50 pounds of your weight. If you simply focus on “losing weight,” you’ll overlook the fact that you gained weight in the first place because of specific reasons – and you’ll struggle not to gain it all back unless you make some inner changes.

Doing some inner work might reveal that you gained weight because of low self-esteem, believing that you don’t deserve time for self-care, or emotional vulnerability. You can bet that these kinds of beliefs need to be resolved – or they will keep limiting your ability to lose weight, keep it off and live a happier life.

The same thing happens with other types of goals. You can set a goal to be more successful in business, but if you don’t first understand what has limited your success thus far, you might simply repeat the cycle at a later time. Do you have trouble believing in your own abilities? Are you afraid of taking risks? Do you have a fear of selling that limits how much you promote your products and services? Addressing these underlying issues may make the difference between failure and success.

Why do you require inner support?

Inner support is required for getting rid of the thinking that you are doing something as per the dictations being given by someone else – you are being commanded by some external factors or you are doing something for which you are not mentally prepared. If you feel that you do not have any compulsion to do some job in terms of financial crunch, short time or some pressure, you can concentrate fully on the job and give better results.

The Remedy:

One of the most effective strategies for overcoming this problem is to consider the qualities you’d need to handle the achievement of your goal, and begin building them now.

For example, if your goal is greater business success or better income, better job, better finance, better house etc., ask yourself what qualities a successful person would have – such as confidence, courage, creativity, flexibility, and so on. Once you’ve got a list of these qualities, begin developing them within yourself. Practice being more confident and courageous, express your creative side more often, work on being flexible as often as possible, etc.

If your goal is to live a healthier lifestyle, consider why you haven’t been living such a lifestyle until now. Do you have trouble believing that you deserve to be healthy and happy? Does much of your diet consist of “comfort food” that covers emotional issues you could be resolving in a healthier way?

If you work on these inner issues while you’re also doing the outer work, your chances of lasting success will double. As you may have guessed, this is also one of the secrets of successful manifesting – being able to “be” that which you want to attract. If you want to attract a lot of money, you need to be a person who has plenty of money. If you want to attract your soul mate, you have to be a person who already has their soul mate. If you want to expand your social network, you will have to be a person who likes wider social network. You will have to change yourself internally to suit your dreams. Outwardly, you may pretend only – you would not be able to enjoy the fruits of your accomplishment if they have been achieved without your inner support for them.

Be Happy – Do The Inner Work First To Accomplish Your Dreams.