It is really important for you to develop your convincing power. Your progress very much depends upon your attempts to convince other people that you are going to do something right. If you are able to do so, you can achieve your targets easily. Sometime, it does not happen that in spite of your best efforts, you find yourself unable to convince the target people and you fail in your goals. You feel that someone has brainwashed him or her and that is the reason that in spite of your persuasion, you are not able to get what you wish to do.
Kindly do not get disappointed. If someone has already brainwashed your target people against you, you can overturn the tables by making more effective and anti-brainwashing efforts. You are to diagnose the weak nerves of your target people.
Actually, brainwashing is a term perceived in a negative way. That is why I used anti-brainwashing efforts. If we take this particular term into affirmative sense, we know that sometime brainwashing is required to remove the clutter gathered against someone due to some misunderstanding which can take shape either through the efforts of some vested interests or some confusion not cleared by the affected persons in time.
If we take it without any pre-determination, we find that everyone comes into this world with a clear mind, and a belief that everything is possible. All is positive and well. Remember as a child, you could do and become everything, without any boundaries! At that time, you did not know that a live electric wire can be harmful to you if you touched it knowingly or unknowingly. But once you face a shock, you will take all the precautions.
As we grow up however, we pick up beliefs, fears and limitations from our surroundings and peers that gradually form the personality we are today. Unfortunately the most of these beliefs are negative and as we build our lives they limit us in our actions and being. Very often they, therefore, contribute to unhappiness or feeling unfulfilled in our lives and business.
It can be the smallest -- seemingly harmless -- remark from a mother like "just let me handle that, you are no good at that" that can convince you that you are not good at a certain task. A teacher who calls a pupil "the clumsy one" can do more harm with this remark than he realizes when repeated often enough. With every remark the belief is harnessed further in the child that it indeed is clumsy. Even though a remark is said with a smile or with an intention to be funny, it still leaves a legacy in the belief system.
This programming of course doesn’t stop at adulthood, it keeps influencing people in all stages of life. We are being influenced by our parents, kids, partner, friends, colleagues, television, newspapers, magazines and so on. Sometimes positive, but very often in a negative way. No wonder we limit ourselves in so many ways! Belief is the key to your success. If you belief you can do something, you can. If you belief you can’t do something, you will be right too.
However, we can "reprogram" our mind and replace our negative, limiting beliefs for positive contributing ones. You can do positive brainwashing. This can be done by the use of so called "affirmations". An affirmation is a positive self talk statement, stated in the present tense that covers a goal you want to achieve and that ‘overrules’ negative beliefs towards that goal.
An example is "I easily do 10 sales calls a day". Or "I am an excellent negotiator". By stating this positive affirmation regularly during your day, you will achieve the goal you have set for yourself easier. This positive self talk helps your mind to overcome beliefs that you have about yourself, that limit your success and actions. My Guru says me to compare my mind with a computer: when I change the input, the output will change accordingly. This happens.
So if you have the limiting belief that you are not good in public speaking (probably because of negative experiences in the past) you can actually reprogram your mind by stating the following affirmation: " I am an excellent public speaker. I love to speak for huge audiences and people love to hear me talk". By affirming this belief over and over, you actually start to believe it and your mind will find a way to make this statement a reality. At some stage, you might decide to do a course in public speaking, or someone might ask you to speak at some kind of seminar, which forces you to work on your speaking skills. Somehow, this positive affirmation help you to reach the ‘goal’ you have set for yourself, and open doors for you that would normally would have been kept closed. And this works for virtually everything. Belief, and it will happen.
Imagine that you are standing at the bank of a big river. With a heavy stream. You have to cross it, but you don’t think you can actually do it. Your belief is keeping you from crossing, although you physically should be able to do it easily. It just looks too hard! Then someone else comes up from behind you, and without thinking starts crossing the river and gets to the other side. His belief was positive, and he knew he could do it. The interesting thing is that this will probably influence your belief: "if he can do it, I can do it too" and you will then cross the river without any problem at all if you know a little bit of swimming.
So think about your beliefs, and try to discover which one belief is actually holding you back from reaching your full potential in your life. Then, one by one, start eliminating these beliefs from your system. Formulate a positive affirmation that counters your negative belief, and re-affirm it daily. Write them in your diary, on your bathroom mirror, next to your computer; anywhere you see it often and say the affirmation out loud as often as possible. You will be happily surprised by the results!
Therefore, you need to convince yourself first that you can do something without any difficulty. After finishing your job, you can tell others to do the same thing. Since you might have got your experience before hand, you can convince others also.
Be Happy – Develop Your Convincing Power.